Synagogue Emanu-El Bar/Bat Mitzvah Guide RABBI ADAM J. ROSENBAUM DAPHNE HUBARA, RELIGIOUS SCHOOL PRINCIPAL RUTHIE SIMMONS, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR

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1 Synagogue Emanu-El Bar/Bat Mitzvah Guide RABBI ADAM J. ROSENBAUM DAPHNE HUBARA, RELIGIOUS SCHOOL PRINCIPAL RUTHIE SIMMONS, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR

2 Shalom, What is a Bar/Bat Mitzvah? It is defined as a son/daughter of a commandment. At age 13, your child will be called to the Torah in public and are thereby recognized as being able to carry out the responsibilities of an adult in the Jewish community. Through classes and formalized curriculum, your child is learning about Judaism and obtaining some skills to be prepared for the Bar/Bat Mitzvah. However, what they are really learning through these experiences is what it means to be Jewish. This lesson comes from some formal school experiences, but mostly from informal learning experiences at home, which you provide. When we combine school, youth group, Jewish camping, a love for Israel and, most importantly, what happens in our homes as a Jewish family, our children gain a strong sense of pride in their Judaism. Your child is beginning the Bar/Bat Mitzvah stage and your participation as parents is of the outmost importance. Remember that school attendance is just as critical as Friday night family time in your home. Remember that attending Shabbat services as a family is just as important as participating in Shabbat services. Remember that the experiences your child has in youth group or camping is just as important as the one they have in school. Finally, remember that Bar/Bat Mitzvah is not the apex of your child s Jewish education, but a wonderful life-cycle event in a string of many. Bat/Bat Mitzvah simply prepares your child to be even more aware of their Judaism and to take on adult Jewish responsibilities. We wish to re-emphasize that Bat/Bat Mitzvah is a very important event in the life of your child, your family, your synagogue, and your community. Synagogue Emanu-El is proud to be a part of your Jewish family. We are here to support you for all life-cycle events the Bar/Bat Mitzvah is no different. Have fun; enjoy learning and celebrating being Jewish with your child and family! This booklet should answer most of your questions about Bar/Bat Mitzvah preparations and requirements. Please feel free to contact Rabbi Rosenbaum, Daphne Hubara or Ruthie Simmons as your date nears. Mazal Tov!

3 Administration All arrangements for the facilities for the Bar or Bat Mitzvah should be made well in advance with our Executive Director. The Executive Director should be notified of all details concerning the Bar/Bat Mitzvah weekend in order to be able to compose a contract between you and the Synagogue that will ensure all your needs and requests will be met. This contract has to be signed at least 6 weeks prior to the Bar/Bat Mitzvah day. Logistical arrangements must be made directly with the Executive Director and not with other Synagogue staff. In general, we make every effort to consult with the families of B nai Mitzvah before scheduling events in the synagogue that might conflict. Nonetheless, we need to know your plans as soon as possible to minimize conflicts. Included in this manual is a copy of the Rules, Regulations and Fees for the Social Hall and other Facilities along with a copy of the Kashruth (dietary laws) Policy. Please review this carefully prior to making your arrangements. Names of approved caterers and regulations for kitchen use are available. Candy Some families follow the tradition of showering Bar/Bat Mitzvah celebrants with candy following the completion of the Haftarah, as a symbol of our wishes for sweetness and blessing. The candy must be placed in a basket by the Sanctuary entrance or in baskets on the Sanctuary pews; it should not be distributed during services. This custom is optional and need not be followed. The candy must be (a) Kosher (to be pre-approved by the Rabbi) (b) not chocolate (c) not hard candy (as we value the safety of our B nai Mitzvah) and (d) pre-packed. Decorum & Dress Code Dress for the Bar/Bat Mitzvah should be modest and reflect the mood of the day. It is especially important for the Bar/Bat Mitzvah him/herself be attired accordingly. All males, whether or not they are Jewish, must wear kipot (skull-caps) in the synagogue. Also, Jewish men wear a tallit (prayer-shawl) on Saturday morning. The synagogue provides both these garments. Women too may wear these ritual garments if they choose to do so. Men ascending the bimah (pulpit) or Torah-reading table for honors must wear a tallit. Talitot may be found in the hallway adjacent to the sanctuary. Women are required to cover their heads when they are called to the bimah or Torah-reading table. Please make arrangements for those women who are leading readings, called for aliyot or performing other honors to have appropriate head coverings (chapel caps, hats, or kipot). Children of all ages are welcome in our synagogue. Please inform your guests of this. Family Learning Project: At least three months prior to the Bar/Bat Mitzvah, your child will receive a questionnaire known as the Family Learning Project, designed to enhance your family and your child s connection to the occasion and to learn some of the basic content of his/her Torah portion. Your child must fill it out and return it to the Rabbi at least two months prior to his/her celebration. The questions on the questionnaire ask about your child s interests; your family; your child s feelings about celebrating a Bar/Bat Mitzvah; your child s Mitzvah Project; and a few aspects of your child s Torah portion. It is called Family Learning Project because parents and other family members are welcome to help your child, although it must be filled out by him/herself.

4 Fees and Financial Obligations: In order to hold a Bar/Bat Mitzvah at Synagogue Emanu-El, the parents must be members in good standing. ALL synagogue financial obligations must be current, including membership and Religious School tuition, at the beginning of the fiscal year (July 1 st ), unless other arrangements are made in advance. Other charges associated with Bar/Bat Mitzvah may include social-hall rental, kitchen rental, maintenance, security and child-care. A rental agreement must be signed and fees paid at least 6 weeks before the Bar/Bat Mitzvah. The family is expected to make their own catering arrangements; the caterer must be approved by the Rabbi. The Kiddush must be open to the entire congregation; the Executive Director will inform you of the number of congregants to expect during your meeting to discuss the Bar/Bat Mitzvah contract. All fees are payable 30 days prior to use. Flowers & Decorations The Bar/Bat Mitzvah parents traditionally have arranged to order flowers for the pulpit to be used Friday night and Saturday morning, this is optional. The flowers and decorations that you use in the social hall and sanctuary for a special simchah are a reflection of your personal taste. Friday/Saturday Affairs All arrangements and decorations must be in place and complete by 2:00 p.m. on Friday afternoon. Access to the Building We will make every attempt to accommodate your florist/decorator s needs. The Executive Director must be notified, in advance, of the times that access to the building will be needed. If the access time requested is extraordinary, an additional fee may be charged to offset any additional staff time involved in opening and closing the building. On-Site Design & Assembly If floral arrangements and decorations are to be assembled on-site, we encourage you to use a classroom for that purpose. This will allow those working in other capacities in the Social Hall or Sanctuary to complete their tasks without interrupting the floral designer. Clean-up You, the lessee, or your representative, florist or decorator, are responsible for removing the decorations and arrangements. If your affair is on a Friday, Saturday, or Sunday, clean-up must be completed by noon on Monday. Anything left beyond that time becomes the property of the Synagogue. If the Synagogue is not properly cleaned by your vendors, you will be assessed a fee by the Synagogue. Clean-up arrangements must be made with the Executive Director. Food Any arrangements requiring the serving of food must be arranged well in advance by contacting the Synagogue Executive Director. All food served in our kitchen must conform to the Kashruth guidelines set up by the Rabbi. No food may be brought into the building on the Sabbath. All food prepared in the kitchen must be done with the approval/supervision of the Rabbi. All food must be cooked prior to Shabbat. Warming of previously cooked food is permitted, however. No foods cooked at home are permitted in the synagogue.

5 Honors (Aliyot) On Shabbat morning it is the custom to divide the reading of the Torah into seven parts. The family may use up to six of these honors, know as speaking aliyot. Besides speaking Aliyot, the following honors are given: Hagbah (lifting the Torah) Gelilah (rolling and dressing the Torah) Petichah (opening and closing the Ark.) Carrying the Torah Leading Communal Readings All arrangements for aliyot and other honors should be made with the Rabbi no later than one week before the Bar/Bat Mitzvah. Parents should have the names of honorees and for those who are being called to the Torah, including the Hebrew names of both honorees and their parents, and whether or not they are Kohanim, Leviyim, or Israelites. Though it is customary to call a Kohen for the first Aliyah and Levi for the second, it is permissible to call others to these aliyot when necessary. In general, only Jewish guests may participate in the rituals of the service. There are two English prayers that can be read by non-jewish friends or family members. All honors must be approved by the rabbi. In the two months prior to the Bar/Bat Mitzvah, a member of the ritual committee will guide you through the process of choosing family and friends to participate in the service. The list of Shabbat Honors provided in this booklet will help you organize these honors and should be given to the Rabbi no later than one week before the ceremony. Please notify your guests beforehand of their honors. Copies of the Torah blessings are enclosed in this booklet. In order to avoid embarrassment, only individuals who know how to recite the two blessings (in Hebrew or Transliteration) should be given Aliyah honors. The Rabbi will be glad to provide recordings or instructions for those who need help. Please see Appendix A for a complete list of available honors. Lessons: A. Individual instruction for all Bar/Bat Mitzvah candidates will be under the direction of the Rabbi. Frequency of instruction will be determined by each individual s needs and will begin approximately one year before the Bar/Bat Mitzvah. Generally, students receive one 30-minute lesson per week; as the date gets closer, more frequent lessons are often scheduled. Cooperation with the educational staff for a Bar/Bat Mitzvah student with special needs is essential. Please notify the rabbi if your child may need a longer preparation period because of learning difficulties. B. All Bar/Bat Mitzvah students are expected to learn a Haftarah (prophetic readings) along with the preceding and following blessings. They also are expected to chant the blessings at the Torah; recite Kiddush; say the blessing for the Tallit; and read the Maftir portion from the Torah. Virtually all students also chant some or all of the Friday evening services as well as the prayers for taking out and returning the Torah. Many also learn the Musaf service. Those students who can are encouraged to learn the Shacharit service and to prepare more of the Torah reading in addition to the Maftir. In general, we encourage students to learn as much as they can do comfortably. C. All students are expected to write (with the Rabbi s assistance) a speech demonstrating their Jewish learning. The rabbi will help the student plan this speech and review it.

6 D. Cantillation modes (tropes) will be taught every Bar or Bat Mitzvah candidate before the beginning of study of their individual Haftarah. Memorization of the melody of the haftarah should not be necessary. E. Your child will have ample opportunity to practice on the bimah (pulpit) in the Sanctuary prior to his/her celebration. Luncheon Receptions and Evening Parties We encourage parents to hold luncheon receptions and evening parties in our social hall when possible. If not, we urge parents to bear in mind the nature of the occasion and make the reception appropriate for the celebration of the child s assumption of the mitzvot (commandments of Judaism). We urge that receptions outside the synagogue be kosher or at least serve foods that are not intrinsically nonkosher. Pork products, shellfish, and other non-kosher meat and poultry are inappropriate for such an occasion. At your request, the Rabbi will work with hotels or restaurants to arrange kosher catering in their facilities where possible. Functions to be held on Saturday night at the synagogue must be scheduled after the conclusion of Shabbat. Please confirm the time with the Rabbi or the Executive Director before sending out invitations. Shabbat ends after nightfall (approximately 32 minutes after sunset). Mitzvah Project It is customary for the Bar/Bat Mitzvah celebrant to perform a mitzvah project a social-action/charitable endeavor. We believe this is essential; since your son/daughter is becoming an adult in the Jewish community, we want him/her to experience what it means to give back to the community. Projects vary in size and scope. We urge celebrants to choose a cause that he/she is passionate about. It need not be a complex endeavor; many students have collected money or goods for their chosen cause, or volunteered at a charitable agency. But the project should result in a greater appreciation of the Jewish value of tzedakah (charity/ righteousness). Photographs, audiotaping and videotaping As photography is not allowed at the Synagogue on Shabbat, many families wish to schedule a photographic session in our Sanctuary on a weekday. These sessions often take place on the Thursday morning (after minyan and breakfast) or the Friday afternoon (prior to the beginning of Shabbat and Friday night services) before the Bar/Bat Mitzvah, although other days/times may be available. Common photographs consist of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah celebrant holding a Torah scroll and reading from a Torah scroll, both alone and with family. Please be aware that the Rabbi or qualified member of the Ritual Committee must be present to handle the Torah scroll, so please schedule your session with that person in mind, and be sure that the pictures are taken in a reasonable amount of time. In addition, no videotaping or audiotaping is permitted on synagogue premises on the Sabbath. No instrumental music, CDs, Mp3s, etc., are permitted in the synagogue on the Sabbath. Presentations Presentations will be made to the Bar/Bat Mitzvah celebrant at Saturday morning services as follows: A Synagogue officer or former Synagogue president will present a Chumash and Bar/Bat Mitzvah certificate; A member of the Sisterhood Executive Board or a former Sisterhood president will present a Kiddush cup; A member of Men s Club will present a copy of The Jewish Book of Why. If you would like to know the specific name of the person who will present to your child, please contact the respective organization. These presentations should be geared toward the importance of this rite of passage and the role that the organization plays in the life of a Jewish adult. Each presentation must be no more than three minutes in length.

7 Program Leaflet At the service a booklet containing information about Shabbat services and the Synagogue will be available. If you choose, you are permitted to create an additional leaflet providing information about the Bar/Bat Mitzvah child and a list of those receiving Shabbat honors. This leaflet must be pre-approved by the Rabbi to ensure accuracy and appropriateness. Please make copies available for the congregants. Reserving a Date: Dates for life-cycle events are reserved through the Synagogue Office and are approved by the Rabbi. The dates for Bar/Bat Mitzvah ceremonies must be cleared both on the Rabbi s calendar as well as the Synagogue s. The Bar/Bat Mitzvah is usually held on the Shabbat following the 13 th birthday according to the Hebrew calendar. It is suggested that a date be chosen no less than 18 months before the 13 th birthday. Religious and Educational Requirements All students are required to complete the educational requirements set by the Board of Education. Each student is expected to have a basic knowledge of Judaism and the ability to read Hebrew prior to the beginning of Bar/Bat Mitzvah preparations. An examination, either oral or written, may be used to evaluate a child s preparation during the initial stages of planning the Bar or Bat Mitzvah. Children who do not seem to be adequately prepared may be required to obtain additional private instruction or to postpone the Bar/Bat Mitzvah until they are ready. Students who wish to celebrate a Bar/Bat Mitzvah on Shabbat morning must have a minimum of five years of Jewish education; this includes attendance at Addlestone Hebrew Academy or Wednesday afternoon Religious School and Sunday morning Religious School. These five years must be immediately prior to, and include, the year of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah. This congregation does not follow patrilineal descent. All children becoming Bar/Bat Mitzvah must be either the offspring of Jewish mothers or undergo the appropriate conversion rites. This requirement applies especially to children of intermarriage in which the mother is not Jewish or converted to Judaism after the child s birth and to adopted children whose birth mothers were not Jewish. If the mother converted without going to the mikvah, her children (and, preferably, she too) need to be immersed in a mikvah to complete the conversion process according to Conservative standards. All questions about such matters should be discussed with the Rabbi. All Bar/Bat Mitzvah certificates will be held by the Synagogue until the required hours to complete the course of study set down by the United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism is met. Scroll and Website Announcement Notice of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah ceremonies will be placed in the synagogue s bulletin ( Scroll ) and website prior to the simchah. As is customary, all of the congregation will be invited to attend the kiddush. The office will need a tasteful digital photograph of the celebrant. Seating Capacity The number of guests you may invite is limited simply by the size of the building. The following are the capacities with the moveable wall in various positions: Sanctuary, moveable wall forward: Permanent Seating 260 (Facing Bimah Only) (110) Additional Temporary Seating 30 Sanctuary, moveable wall removed: 800 Temporary walls can be used to divide the Social Hall and Sanctuary, allowing for additional rows of temporary seating. This procedure must be planned in advance as it calls for additional custodial help. Please notify the Executive Director if this plan is to be used.

8 Service Attendance Requirements: Bar/Bat Mitzvah students and their families are expected to attend services as frequently as possible in the months prior to the ceremony. This serves several purposes. It familiarizes the student with the services; it helps the f amily feel more at home in the Synagogue; and it helps the congregation get to know the family better and truly share in their joy when the big event occurs. Students are requires to attend a minimum of 20 services per year, of which at least ten must be on Shabbat. This is in accordance with United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism guidelines. We urge students to attend more frequently than these minimum requirements. They are also expected to participate in a limited way in several Friday night and Saturday morning services as the Bar/Bat Mitzvah approaches. They are expected, as well, to attend four Sunday morning services to familiarize themselves with the weekday service. During the four months prior to their ceremony, parents should plan to attend each Shabbat service with the Bar/ Bat Mitzvah student. Please remember that your Bar/Bat Mitzvah ceremony, as special as it is to you, is only part of our regular year-round worship. The more you feel a part of the congregation, the more comfortable and joyous the ceremony will be for you. Services during the Bar/Bat Mitzvah weekend Thursday Morning Services On the Thursday morning prior to the Bar/Bat Mitzvah, students are expected to attend morning services with their parents and other relatives. These services typically begin at 7:15AM; the Bar/Bat Mitzvah and immediate family should plan to arrive at the Synagogue 15 minutes prior to the beginning of services. If possible, the student will participate in portions of the service and read Torah. All students will be called to the Torah on this occasion. Friday Night Services Bar/Bat Mitzvah celebrants and their parents are expected to attend Friday night services at the Synagogue the night before their Saturday morning celebration. The family must arrive at least 15 minutes prior to the start of the service. If possible, the student will participate in portions of this service. Saturday Morning Services Since you have been preparing for at least the past year, there should be no reason for last-minute panic. Your child is well prepared, and will make you proud. Sit back and enjoy. A Bar/Bat Mitzvah is a family event. Siblings are welcome to participate in the service, as are friends from Religious School. Some parents have also read parts of the day s Torah reading. We encourage you to add some personal touch to make this occasion uniquely yours. Any involvement by family members and friends should be discussed beforehand with the Rabbi. Our Rabbi will officiate at all Bar and Bat Mitzvah ceremonies. Guest Rabbis and Cantors may only participate by invitation of the rabbi. Shabbat Regulations Guests should be advised by the family not to bring gifts to the synagogue on Shabbat. Smoking is prohibited in the building and on the grounds on Shabbat. Please refrain from using mobile phones, cameras and other electronic devices while on synagogue grounds. The use of writing implements is also prohibited on Shabbat. Tablecloths All tablecloths must be rented from an outside rental company.

9 Thursday Morning Breakfast Parents traditionally provide a light breakfast for the attendees at the Thursday morning service. We advise that you buy for 12 regulars plus your family and guests. Here are some suggested items: Bagels Cream Cheese Butter Lox Jelly Dessert coffee cake, donuts, sticky buns, etc. 1 lb. of coffee Milk or cream Orange juice or juice of your choice Please contact the Executive Director the week before to make arrangements for the breakfast to be set out. All items must be brought to the Synagogue by the Wednesday before. All items must be checked for kashurt purposes by the Rabbi. On Thursday morning before services begin, plug in your coffee and put out your cold items from the refrigerator. Ushering qualification and instructions The family must provide adequate ushers for Friday night and Saturday morning. Ushers must be Synagogue Emanu-El members. Some families have chosen to make a donation to the Men s Club to provide ushers. The ushers should be familiar with the logistics of Shabbat services. Generally, one usher for Friday evening and two ushers for Saturday morning services are sufficient. Parents should be in touch with the Synagogue Executive Director while selecting ushers. 1. Ushers should report promptly to the sanctuary doors about 10 minutes before the start of scheduled sevices. 2. There will be weekly Synagogue announcements on the table near the sanctuary doors. Ushers should pass these out as they greet congregants and guests. 3. Ushers should be sure all males wear kippot and adult Jewish men wear a tallit at morning services 4. Ushers should direct and assist, if necessary, people to unoccupied seats. Usually, the near side of the sanctuary fills up first, so there will be empty seats on the far side. 5. There may be non-jewish guests who may not have previously attended Jewish services. Ushers should greet them warmly to make them feel welcome and allay any anxiety they may have from not knowing what is appropriate. They should explain that they may sit anywhere and that they will find prayer books at their seats. They should tell them about transliteration booklets on the bookshelf. 6. Ushers should maintain decorum in the lobby both adults and children. Conversations should be kept to a minimum and held outdoors if possible. 7. Ushers should discourage movement about the sanctuary and greeting of friends during services. 8. Restrooms are in the left hallway as one enters the synagogue. 9. A telephone for emergency use is located in the library and in the kitchen. 10. To avoid disruption, people should be asked to wait and not allowed to take seats in the sanctuary during the service when: the ark is open; the congregation is standing, especially during chanting of the Kedushah; the Rabbi or someone else is addressing the congregation; a processional with the Torah is in progress Note: When any of the above is an extended period, such as the Rabbi s sermon, ushers can stand inside the sanctuary doors. If decorum can be maintained, latecomers may wait inside also, until they are able to take their seats. *In these and all other situations, use discretion and good judgment.

10 Appendix A: List of Available Honors We are pleased to offer your family and friends a chance to participate in your celebration. You do not need to fill every slot; unfilled slots will go to other congregants. Please fill out this form and return to Daphne Hubara at the synagogue office at least one week prior to your celebration. Please contact Daphne or the Rabbi with any questions. Please note: Unless otherwise specified, each honor is for one Jewish adult each. FRIDAY EVENING SHABBAT SERVICE HONORS Parent s Prayer (to be pre-approved by the Rabbi): Candle lighting (ONLY APPLICABLE DURING DAYLIGHT SAVING S TIME): SATURDAY MORNING SHABBAT SERVICE HONORS P sukei D zimrah: Shacharit Service: Torah Service: Open Ark [CAN BE DONE BY JEWISH CHILD]: Close Ark [CAN BE DONE BY JEWISH CHILD]: Carry the Torah: First Aliyah: (Left unfilled for Congregant) Torah Reader: Second Aliyah [One or two people; HEBREW AND ENGLISH NAMES NEEDED]: Torah Reader: Third Aliyah [One or two people; HEBREW AND ENGLISH NAMES NEEDED]: Torah Reader: Fourth Aliyah [One or two people; HEBREW AND ENGLISH NAMES NEEDED]: Torah Reader: Fifth Aliyah [One or two people; HEBREW AND ENGLISH NAMES NEEDED]: Torah Reader: Sixth Aliyah [One or two people; HEBREW AND ENGLISH NAMES NEEDED]: Torah Reader:

11 Seventh Aliyah [Parents of Bar/Bat Mitzvah; HEBREW AND ENGLISH NAMES NEEDED]: Torah Reader: Maftir and Haftorah [Bar/Bat Mitzvah; HEBREW AND ENGLISH NAMES NEEDED]: Hagbah (Raising Torah): Gelila (Wrapping Torah) [CAN BE DONE BY JEWISH CHILD]: Prayer for the Congregation: Prayer for the Community: Prayer for our Country [LED FROM SEAT; CAN BE LED BY NON-JEW]: Prayer for Israel [LED FROM SEAT]: Prayer for Peace [LED FROM SEAT; CAN BE LED BY NON-JEW]: Ashrei/Return of Torah scroll: Carry Torah: Open Ark [CAN BE DONE BY JEWISH CHILD]: Close Ark [CAN BE DONE BY JEWISH CHILD]: Musaf: Congregation Presentation: Sisterhood Presentation: Men s Club Presentation: Ein Keloheinu [OFTEN LED BY BAR/BAT MITZVAH AND SIMILAR-AGED COUSINS AND FRIENDS]: Aleinu [OFTEN LED BY BAR/BAT MITZVAH AND SIMILAR-AGED COUSINS AND FRIENDS]: Adon Olam [OFTEN LED BY BAR/BAT MITZVAH AND SIMILAR-AGED COUSINS AND FRIENDS]:

12 Appendix B: Suggested Checklist for Bar/Bat Mitzvah Two Years Ahead Set date-approximately two years before 13 th birthday Twelve Months Ahead Initial meeting with the Rabbi Begin weekly lessons with tutor Six To Twelve Months Ahead Make arrangements for caterer for kiddush Make arrangements for florist Check on hotel arrangements for out-of-town guests Make arrangements for party Place, Caterer, Kashruth supervision, Music, Flowers, Photographs, Etc. Begin instruction-approximately one year before date Make guest list Three To Six Months Ahead Schedule preliminary meeting with Executive Director to discuss space requirements, anticipated facilities needs, food arrangements, etc. Purchase tallit and tefillin (required for boys, encouraged for girls) Ten To Twelve Weeks Ahead Plan participation of other family members in service Order invitations Eight Weeks Ahead Order kippot Child begins to work with Rabbi on speech Six Weeks Ahead Send out invitations Three Weeks Ahead Arrange for ushers Determine who will make the various presentations (Board, Sisterhood, Men s Club) Two Weeks Ahead Meet with Executive Director to finalize table arrangements, and make contractual arrangements One Week Ahead Turn in aliyah list Rehearsal-week of Bar/Bat Mitzvah Minyan breakfast arrangements Thursday Before Minyan Service & Breakfast Friday-Saturday Bar/Bat Mitzvah. Mazel tov!

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14 STATE OF SOUTH CAROLINA COUNTY OF CHARLESTON RENTAL AGREEMENT THIS AGREEMENT entered into this day of between Synagogue Emanu-El, hereinafter called the Owner, and, hereinafter called the Lessee. Type of function : Bat Mitzvah. Anticipated attendance: Date(s) of Function : Time The Owner hereby agrees to rent the following facilities of the Owner: Social Hall $ ($250.00) Kitchen $ ($ a day) Classrooms $ ($50.00) Babysitting $ ($50.00 a day) Security $ ($ a day) Other $ Total Due $ The Owner hereby agrees to provide the following additional services: Custodial Time $ ($15.00 per hr) Chuppah Set-Up $ ($ Set- up & Take-Down) Wall opening $ ($ 50.00) Table cloths placed on tables $ ($25.00) Launder of table cloths $ ($6.00 per table cloth) Total Due $ Name of Caterer: Florist: The Lessee agrees to: Pay all fees and charges at least two weeks in advance. Abide by all rules and regulations as established by the Owner for the use of its facilities. Leave the premises in the same condition it was found. Pay for any breakage, damage, or unusual expenses related to the use of the facilities.

15 The Lessee further agrees that they are jointly and severally liable to the Owner for any damage caused to the property of the Owner, real property or personal property, by the Lessee, their employees, agents or guests, excepting such damage which might be caused by ordinary wear and tear. The Owner agrees that they are to notify the Lessee within five (5) days of the termination of the rental period of any damage which the Lessee is responsible for, and the Owner further agrees to advice the Lessee of the amount of such damage within a reasonable period of time thereafter. The Lessee agrees to repair any damage it might be responsible for or pay the Owner for such damage within ten (10) days of being notified of their responsibility and the amount thereof. The Lessee agrees that they shall be obligated to pay the Owners for any additional costs incurred by the Owner as a result of the rental. The Lessee agrees to save and hold harmless the Owner as a result of claims for damage or injury, which may result from the use of the rented premises by the Lessee, their employees, agents or guests. It is agreed that the caterer will deposit with the Owner the sum of $ dollars as a rental and damage deposit. This deposit covers damage to the kitchen, kitchen equipment, small wares, plates, cups, glasses, service pieces, etc. All caterers will submit a copy of their insurance to the synagogue. The Lessee agrees to be responsible for any costs of enforcing this agreement including but not limited to any court costs and reasonable attorney s fees. This writing constitutes the entire agreement between the parties and may not be altered, changed, or amended except by writing and signed by all parties. Witness: By: Title: Lessee:

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