What Stops You? Tap-along Emotional Freedom Technique programs to help you get back on the road to success. By Sonal Pandey 2012 tap-easy.

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1 What Stops You? Tap-along Emotional Freedom Technique programs to help you get back on the road to success By Sonal Pandey 2012 tap-easy.com

2 2 How to use this book First of all, I thank you for taking the time to read this book. I sincerely hope you will benefit greatly from tapping through these programs. This book targets 5 major blocks that stand in the way of success with anything that you may be trying to achieve. You can tap on each of these programs in the order they are listed. Or, from the table of contents, see which program stands out to you. Start from there, and then go one by one. Skip any program that does not resonate with you. If you feel the need to tap through any program more than once, by all means do so. The message of a program gets strengthened by multiple tapping rounds. Tapping through these programs will neutralize the base fears and blocks. It will also bring to your attention the specific beliefs or fears that stop you. Once you are done tapping through these base programs, it should become easier to focus on the problemspecific issues. Say for example, you are aiming to lose some weight but are stuck at a certain weight. Tapping through the program How to Use Emotional Freedom Technique to Get Unstuck could get things moving. With that change, it may come to your attention that you were stuck because of hidden resistance to taking the next step. You can take up that issue next and tap it away. You can also print out the programs and tap through them at your leisure. If at any time you need help or clarifications, please feel free to write to me at sonal@tap-easy.com. I will be happy to help you.

3 3 Contents How to Use Emotional Freedom Technique to Get Unstuck... 4 Tapping Yourself Out of the Success Eludes Me Funk... 7 EFT Tapping when Sincere Efforts Bring Dismal Results How to Use EFT when Past Failures Hamper Future Success EFT Script to Clear Worry over How Something will Turn out... 16

4 4 How to Use Emotional Freedom Technique to Get Unstuck Do you often find yourself wishing how it would be if your life got better? If you earned more money, if you had more time to yourself, more fulfilling relationships, more fun Then what s stopping you from getting there? Maybe you learned early on that when things change, even for the better, they often come with side effects that may not be so palatable. Such incidents or conditioning can instill fear of change in our minds. So even if we apparently want to change things for the better, part of us is not really looking forward to the actual change. And it keeps us where we are. How about we try Emotional Freedom Technique to tap on this internal resistance that s working overtime to keep us stuck? EFT tapping set up Karate chop Even though I m stuck and it feels frustrating and disempowering, I wish I could develop the courage and insight to drive my bus into a happy, thriving future without the debilitating fear of running into insurmountable challenges. Even though I desperately need for things to move in a positive direction, but they seem stuck, even so I m open to learning what else or how differently I can do things in order to unstuck myself. Even though part of me is aching for things to change and for my life to become better, another part of me is uncomfortable about the idea of shaking things up. I wish all parts of me would team up for my highest good and happiness instead of fighting among themselves. EFT Tapping Round #1 I m stuck! Like a tire stuck in the mud. I m feeling so frustrated right now! I m angry things are not improving! I m just spinning my wheels.

5 5 I feel like a hamster going round and round but getting nowhere. This is what they must call a rut. EFT Tapping Round #2 The days of my life are just passing by. What if I could unstuck myself by the flip of a switch? And that flip was my intention to change things up? But part of me will be uncomfortable if things change. So it is keeping me where I am EFT Tapping Round #3 in order to keep me safe. This part of me feels okay dealing with the known problems. This part of me is afraid of what it cannot see yet. Who knows what hidden dangers might pop up if things change? What if things change EFT Tapping Round #4 and I don t like the look of them? At least I m okay where I am. But part of me wants a better life. Or what looks better from where I am. What if I cannot come back to this state? What if I m stuck in the new state? What if things change for the worse? What if change brings with it

6 6 EFT Tapping Round #5 hidden downsides that I later discover to my shock and horror? They say there s always a price to pay. What if the price of change is too high? I m not willing to risk that much. What I wish for so much right now, what if it became a pain in the neck later? Then I ll blame myself for wanting this change. EFT Tapping Round #6 But what if change came nicely? What if life just flowed into new states of joy and contentment? What if I thank myself later for that change? What if any new challenges felt like nothing I can t overcome? What if I felt comfortable with the new? Maybe it IS time to shift gears. EFT Tapping Round #7 Maybe it IS time I allowed myself new experiences, new chances of growth. I m starting to feel good about things changing. I m welcoming good, positive change into my life, wholeheartedly. Slowly and steadily, or maybe quickly. But I m ready for change, now! I m raring to go! Bring it on! This program is also available at

7 7 Tapping Yourself Out of the Success Eludes Me Funk Maybe you are working to lose weight, searching for your soul mate, managing a difficult job, trying to get a book published, practicing to learn a new skill, trying to carve a niche for yourself, or trying to stick to a resolution. When you started out, you were all worked up and raring to go. But there are often moments when our spirits fall and it feels like we are getting nowhere with all the work we re putting in. These are dangerous times, since they can influence us to call it quits, even if success is just round the bend. The same things that got us all excited and frothing at the leash can start to seem like a burden if we don t meet success somewhere soon-ish along the way. How about we try EFT tapping to see if we can pull ourselves out of such despair? EFT tapping set up Karate Chop Even though I m feeling stunted and held back, I wish I could blow away all the obstacles and rise out of this quagmire. I m disappointed enough to shake up things a bit. Even though I m trying to do my best, but obviously my best is not good enough, even so I m open to learning newer ways of doing things that will attract success. Even though I should have tasted more success by now, what if I could use this disappointment to whet my appetite for greater success? Even though a part of me is not comfortable with the idea of success, I wish I could release this hesitation and forge ahead with confidence and enthusiasm. EFT Tapping Round #1 I m feeling so stunted. I try so hard only to get dismal results! It s like all my efforts

8 8 are sinking into a bottomless pit! Success has become this elusive thing. Even if it comes easily to others. I m doing everything I can. EFT Tapping Round #2 Then what s missing? Maybe I don t want to know. Because if I knew what s missing, I d have to come out of my comfort zone and do things differently. That might create more work to do. If I knew what I could do to succeed it would invalidate EFT Tapping Round #3 what I ve been doing already. I ll feel like I wasted time and that I wasn t good enough all this while. I want to succeed with what I m doing. What if inspiration came to me in a way that actually complemented my approach instead of being at tangents to it? I m open to that kind of inspiration, yes. EFT Tapping Round #4 Maybe a part of me wants to keep me here and not let me rise. This part of me is afraid that I ll have to exert myself more, I ll have no excuses to sit and sulk if I achieve success. What if I could take success in my stride? Part of me thinks it is very tough

9 9 EFT Tapping Round #5 to succeed in this cold, hard world. What if it didn t have to be this hard? What if I could make it easier for myself? But I m not as good as others. Even if I m not the best what if I m good enough? What if I can see the good in myself easily, and let others see it too? EFT Tapping Round #6 What if I became too successful for my own good? What if success corrupts me and I become a bad person? This belief was acquired long ago, but I m now smart enough not to misuse success. I d rather think of the joy, and pride that comes with it. EFT Tapping Round #7 My fearing success is a poor excuse to keep me in my tracks. What about the crime I m committing against myself by keeping me where I am, spinning my wheels? Maybe I can free myself bit by bit. Success can and is coming to me, safely and easily. I m feeling confident, and ready for success! This program is also available at

10 10 EFT Tapping when Sincere Efforts Bring Dismal Results Are you trying hard to lose weight, make a difficult relationship work, striving for a hard to come by promotion at work, making ends meet? Or anything else you re putting tons of effort in, but ending up with unsatisfactory returns? We often feel the urge to associate ourselves with a goal that shows promise of benefit to us or others. But as days go by, as we put in more and more effort, our expectations rise too. Sometimes those expectations aren t met at the rate we expect. At such times we start to question the worthiness of the cause and whether we are simply wasting our time. This tug-of-war can prevent us from moving forward or backward. How about we try tapping to see if we can clear the fog surrounding this issue? Focus on any such matter in your life and tap along! EFT tapping set up Karate chop Even though I ve been working my butt off on this goal, and not a speck of hope in sight, I wish I knew how I could improve my chances of measurable success. Even though it sucks that all my efforts are just meeting a dead end, I wish things would take a turn for the better. I wish I knew how to drive my bus to success. Even though it all seems like a thankless job that no one cares about, and I m myself exhausted, I wish I could strike a balance between my life and my goal. Things have got to become simpler! EFT Tapping Round #1 Why am I even bothering to do anything? It looks like a hopeless case anyway. It s a lost cause. I m trying so hard to make things work. I m reaching nowhere with this. I ll only regret the time and energy

11 11 I m investing into this matter. It sure looks like a thankless job. EFT Tapping Round #2 Why does this happen to me? I could be enjoying myself instead of wasting my time with this. Nobody gives a damn anyway. It looks like there s a ceiling to how much success I can get with this. Doesn t matter how much ground I cover it s all going to come to a naught anyway. EFT Tapping Round #3 I m already setting myself up for disappointment, ain t I? This disappointment is eating into my joy and expectations from this goal. I feel overworked and overwhelmed! What if I didn t have to kill myself over it? What if I could have a life outside of this cause? What if things got simpler? EFT Tapping Round #4 And easier? I d like that. What if I could ask for help? What if I could decide better about my priorities? I choose to detach myself enough to get a clearer view of the situation. So I can do what needs doing. And release what is simply overkill. I choose to be fair, to myself and my goal.

12 12 EFT Tapping Round #5 I choose to strive for a balance such that I neither feel guilty for ignoring things nor victimized for spreading myself too thin. I choose to be happy about whatever I do. I choose to give myself an honest chance of doing justice to this cause. Choosing to ask myself about my true intentions, EFT Tapping Round #6 my purpose with this cause. Knowing my purpose will help me keep my eyes on the prize. Even if there isn t one in sight, yet. I m acknowledging the fact that there will be ups and downs. Releasing this overwhelm. I can do my best without it. EFT Tapping Round #7 Releasing this need to feel like a victim. Opening myself up to all the ways success can come to me, simply and easily. Choosing to remember to keep it simple and easy. Allowing myself to go with the flow. Asking my good sense to keep me in balance. Knowing this, I m feeling calm and confident. This program is also available at

13 13 How to Use EFT when Past Failures Hamper Future Success Remember a time when you tried your hand at something, and failed, miserably? Are you letting the shadow of your past failures sabotage your present chances of success, even if unknowingly? Failures, and the feelings of sadness and inadequacy, can linger quietly under the surface for years. It could be failure as a child to succeed in school work, or at sports, or as an adult trying to make their way through the world. How about we try EFT tapping to see if we can erase these dark writings from our walls, so we can then autograph them with shining success? During the tapping, think about one or more failures in your life that you often get reminded of. Repeat tapping with different failure situations to cover as much ground as possible. EFT tapping set up Karate chop Even though it hurts to even think about my past failures, it is indeed worse to know that my past failures are preventing me from being successful now, and in the future. I wish I could reclaim my power and start all over again. Even though my past failures haunt me, and prevent me from being the best I can be, I wish I could start over somehow, without the burden of these past failures. Even though it feels counter intuitive that my future success is not really affected by my past failed efforts, even so I m opening up to the idea that it might be true after all. That gives me a fresh start and feels liberating! EFT Tapping Round #1 I ve not succeeded in the past. I ve been a loser at most of what I ve done. These past failures are proof enough. They obviously show a trend. Whatever I do, these past failures keep sabotaging my efforts.

14 14 It is true that I could have given some things better attention, EFT Tapping Round #2 I could have worked harder. But all I m left with is regret. These past failures reside in every part of me. They keep reminding me not to push myself too hard since I m doomed for failure anyway. My past failures teach me to rejoice in others failed efforts too. EFT Tapping Round #3 It is as if I m looking for validation of failed efforts everywhere around me. And within me. They preemptively sabotage my efforts to become better, to contribute better. What if I could get out from under the shadow of my past failures? What if I could wipe the slate clean EFT Tapping Round #4 that has my past failures written all over? What if I could learn all I need from my past failures, and start afresh? What if I don t need to keep beating myself up? What if I don t need to hold myself back from being the best I can be? These past failures are like a big rock tied to my feet that keep me where I am.

15 15 EFT Tapping Round #5 What if I could instead use them as stepping stones to future success? Maybe I don t need to feel like a failure in order to learn from my failures. I choose to acknowledge the lessons from my past failures and be thankful. I choose to trust that I am after all, good enough. I choose to open my mind to the possibility EFT Tapping Round #6 that past failures are NOT indicative of my future success. I am opening up to a whole new outlook, and ideas that will steer me in newer, better directions I never knew! I m opening up to being pleasantly surprised by how wonderful I truly am! I m welcoming success into my life, with open arms. This program is also available at

16 16 EFT Script to Clear Worry over How Something will Turn out If we got a penny every time we had a worrisome thought, we d all be billionaires, or richer. Especially when we re waiting to see how something will turn out, worry can scoop over our thoughts like it s no one s business. Worry is a disease, slowly eating away at our happiness and taking the joy out of our lives. Worrying over interview results, meeting deadlines, someone s health, financial situation and what not! It seems like the mind needs a reason to worry, to keep us occupied. How about we try EFT tapping to see if we can empower ourselves enough to resist this deadly temptation with which worry seduces us? EFT tapping set up Karate Chop Even though this nagging worry has taken over my mind, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself for not being able to fight it off. Even though all avenues look grim and the future uncertain, I wish I could think and see myself clearly out of this fog. I m open to clarity right here, right now! Even though I hate this uncertainty looming over me, I want to release this need to control every single moment of my life, and be confident about my ability to handle surprises. Even though my mind is getting bombarded with all kinds of things that could go wrong, what if things don t turn out so bad in reality? I wish I could be more positive and hopeful. EFT Tapping Round #1 I m so worried. I should be. I d be stupid if I were pretending it was all cool. This worry is making my brain fuzzy. It keeps conjuring scenarios in my mind about how things can go wrong. I feel no control over how things will turn out.

17 17 What if something bad happens and it turns out to be my fault? EFT Tapping Round #2 Even to think positive seems crazy right now. I don t want to be one of those faux positive people pretending everything s cool when it s not. I d rather be my worrier self and be safe, at least. What if I didn t have to worry myself sick? What if I could ask for help? What if some help could come from quarters I didn t think existed? EFT Tapping Round #3 And even if things did get worse, what if I were able to manage wonderfully and come out on top, stronger and more confident? Whatever doesn t kill you only makes your stronger. All this fear along with the worry. This fear which rises from my stomach up to my throat. All this uncertainty is killing me. EFT Tapping Round #4 But worry isn t solving any problems. What if it really doesn t turn out to be so bad? I have worried about things in the past that eventually turned out quite okay. What if there were positive steps I could take? A part of me feels like I m better prepared to deal with things if they were already considered as a possibility in my mind.

18 18 EFT Tapping Round #5 This part of me thinks it is keeping me safe by imagining all the things that can go wrong. What if I didn t have to know everything in advance to be able to deal with it? The truth is, I can take surprises well. Even if I don t like to be surprised, I can handle them alright. I choose to do what I can best manage. EFT Tapping Round #6 I am releasing this habitual need to project grim scenarios of the future. Releasing this need to scare myself silly by letting my mind imagine all the horrible things that can happen. I m quietening my mind enough so that I can hear the voice of my own good sense. I m feeling like I do have some control EFT Tapping Round #7 no matter how it turns out. I m feeling empowered enough to go along with the present and flow easily into the future. I m allowing the good to come out of unexpected corners and alleys. I m allowing myself to be pleasantly surprised. I m feeling calm and confident. What a relief! This program is also available at