The journey back to love

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1 The journey back to love How to empty out your pain and live from a higher dimension of love Julie Rennie 2015 Julie Rennie

2 2 Thoughts bring you an experience food is what your body becomes, but love is what makes the soul complete.

3 TABLE OF CONTENTS A message from the author 1 Emotional weight 11 Emotional weight is any painful thought or feeling that weighs you down. Drop the emotional weight and watch your life transform. 2 Emotional polarities 19 Discover how to balance your emotions and live with more love. 3 Empty out the unloving patterns 29 Set your heart and soul free by emptying out unloving patterns. 4 The spiritual body 41 Learn how to change your perspective and perfect the state of love. 5 The mental body 69 Discover simple ways to transform disempowering thoughts into empowering thoughts. 3

4 6 The emotional body 105 Acknowledge your emotions and use these simple tools to unpack painful feelings before they truly weigh you down. 7 The physical body 125 Emptying out emotional, mental or physical clutter makes it easier to make healthy choices and live with more balance. 8 Let love in 145 Discover how to use loving, etheric energy to improve your wellbeing. 9 Radiate 167 Cultivate love and share your loving presence with the world. In closing Epilogue A personal experience of higher love 4

5 1 Emotional weight The greatest potential a human can reach is to live in a state of love. When you feel loving, it s easy to make healthy choices. And when you create a loving self-awareness, you will bring healing to your mind, body and soul. Consider: Are your negative thoughts coloring the way you live? Do you feel the weight of painful emotions? Do you feel trapped by your life circumstances? No matter what you try, do you find it difficult to make healthy choices? Being healthy is natural. If you are finding it difficult to make healthy choices, perhaps there is something unloving in you that needs healing. It could be an old hurt, an unhealthy perception or a thinking pattern that is unloving. It could even be an inherited pattern that is holding you back from living your full potential. I call this heaviness emotional weight. What is emotional weight? Do you say any of the following statements? I will never get over that. That will always hurt me. I will never forgive or forget that incident. It s hereditary, so I am stuck with it. Some things are too big ever to let go. 5

6 THE JOURNEY BACK TO LOVE If so, chances are that you are carrying emotional weight. Emotional weight is any painful thought or feeling inside of you. For some people, this translates into body weight. They may be carrying extra weight for protection, or to hide painful emotions that lie deep inside. I am not just talking about body fat alone, though. Instead, it could be your unloving thoughts or reactions that are weighing you down. Some illnesses can be the result of emotional weight. A broken heart can trigger a heart attack. Depression feels heavy and creates overwhelming tiredness. Some emotional weight is not even yours you might have inherited it from your ancestors. Food as a means of coping Eating is an essential survival process, but the pain of emotional weight can sometimes trigger binge eating. After all, we feel happy when we eat, which is not surprising given that ninety-five percent of the body s happy hormone, serotonin, is in the gut. The gut itself is like a chemical lab, housing most of the body s neurotransmitters that carry chemical messages to the cells. Indeed, a third of nerve impulses are from the head to the gut, while twothirds send messages from the gut to the head. Perhaps there really is more intelligence behind our gut feelings than we realize. It also explains why we want to eat when we feel emotional. Just try not eating it makes you feel miserable because it goes against your survival instinct. When people want to lose weight, what they really want to feel is balanced and healthy. So instead of judging yourself for emotional eating, heal the pain or the dysfunctional pattern and bring a happy balance back. 6

7 EMOTIONAL WEIGHT Our avoidance choices What do you do when an emotional pain is triggered? I used to think that talking about things to my friends was the way to deal with my painful emotions. I would try to figure out why something had happened, talk it around in my mind and then to friends, but never manage work it out or resolve it. This pattern seemed to keep the pain in my body. Have you noticed that you want to run from a painful emotion? Do you often talk about it? Or over eat? Or smoke a lot when you are hurting? Maybe you drink alcohol, or take drugs, or get busy. Do you sleep a lot or exercise to excess? Do you do anything but feel it? Do you notice that you create a whole array of opinions to justify what you are feeling? Then perhaps you dredge up a whole host of memories that stack on top of the pain, making it bigger and bigger. You may blame and judge yourself and others, creating reasons to support that you are right and they are wrong. I call this stacking. One painful emotion gets a whole lot of stacking and becomes almost unbearable. Did you inherit the pain? What if much of the pain you are experiencing isn t actually yours? You enter this world with a loving spirit and at first you can t do anything for yourself. Over time, you learn how to do things from the people around you. Then you inherit your family s beliefs, hereditary illnesses and unloving personality traits. You enter a world that has opinions about everything. And you might inherit the human characteristics of blame, judgment, control and being right at all costs. Where is the love in that? It is deep within you, buried underneath your emotional inheritance, but you are going to have to choose it. To be in the fullness of love is to have compassion for all human experiences. 7

8 THE JOURNEY BACK TO LOVE The alchemy of love Are you willing to become an alchemist and heal your emotional weight with love? Maybe your life s purpose is to bring the world back to love? In a small village in Mexico, two warring families were under the spotlight of the law. There had been another family feud and a cousin had murdered his uncle. When the police interviewed the perpetrator, they asked him why he killed his uncle. His answer was that he was upholding his family s honor. After hours of peeling away all the grievances, the police officer asked a simple question. When did this feud begin? Six generations ago, in a time of famine, one family stole a chicken from another family. And the persecution and judgment that festered for these families led to six generations of violence. Yet a little compassion for the human condition could have saved many lives. Have you been carrying something for a long time? Is it causing you suffering? Consider how it might feel if you put it down, set it free or emptied it out. Inherited behaviors Family Systems Therapy is a model from psychology. It helps a person identify inherited behaviors from previous generations, and starts with a simple question, How did your mother and father deal with stressful situations? In my coaching work, a client, Karen, came to see me because her cholesterol reading was high. Due to the risk of stroke, she took cholesterol-lowering drugs, but after three months her cholesterol levels had still gone up. At this point, I asked Karen if she had a family history of high cholesterol. Her reply was, Yes, it s hereditary. I am stuck with it. I then asked Karen how her parents and grandparents handled stressful situations. She laughed and said they were all stressheads. I consider it possible that that Karen had inherited not just her 8

9 EMOTIONAL WEIGHT ancestor s high cholesterol, but also the personality trait of reacting to stress in a short-tempered way. An angry outburst is stressful to the cells. During an angry rant, the stress hormone, cortisol, is made in toxic amounts. The body responds to this state quickly and makes cholesterol to protect the cells. If angry outbursts are common for you, cholesterol will also be produced in high amounts as the body tries to protect itself with extra fat. With this knowledge, over the next few months Karen started to change the stress triggers in her life. She created more balance in her working life and allocated time to herself each day. At the first sign of a painful feeling, she acknowledged it and using the techniques in this book she healed it. Interestingly, the more she did this, the easier it was to make healthy choices. Her cholesterol also dropped to safer levels and her doctor reduced the amount of drugs she was taking. Unresolved feelings stay in the body. They are painful and hurt the tissues. If you are suffering from a hereditary illness, then you have also inherited the emotions that come with it. Be willing to change these emotions. Practice being loving. Cultivate a loving awareness in your life because love lightens our load. Try it for yourself If you are holding onto a grudge or resentment, it will be difficult to love fully. Instead, try creating a loving frequency in thought, word, feeling, and deed. You can do this by choosing to sit in a quiet place for 20 to 30 minutes a day. Observe yourself. Notice your thoughts and feelings. 9

10 THE JOURNEY BACK TO LOVE It doesn t matter if you inherited these emotions or created them. If you are experiencing them, take responsibility for them. You have a mind, a body and a soul, so pour love into each. Love is abundant, not something you need to use in moderation. Healing happens from the inside out What if all you had to do was love yourself? Loving yourself is the most dependable love story you will ever experience. If you were in love, wouldn t you want to hear, I love you. Wouldn t you want to receive gifts and be pampered and cherished? Go ahead. Give these things to yourself. Give up arguing in your head and talk to yourself in a loving way. Start with the mantra, I am beautiful, I am smart, and I am adorable. Spend quality time with yourself. Clean up your life. Throw away and empty out what is not useful metaphorically and literally. Clean out your cupboards and look after the planet. Pay attention to your inner energy, too. Release any resistance to being loving so that the cells of your body can return to their natural state of wellbeing. At the core of your health condition is the vibrational pattern of your emotions. Be loving, and this healing energy sends ripples out to your cells. Hugs and kisses increase oxytocin, the hormone that makes you feel connected and lowers blood pressure. Endorphins are a natural painkiller and make you feel happy. When we fall in love or exercise, we create endorphins. There is so much research to verify that our thoughts and emotions create chemicals in our body that are either harmful or helpful to all the cells. When you are angry for five minutes, it suppresses your immune system for six hours. But when you are happy for five minutes, your immune system gets a boost for six hours. With all this research, how can we say that illness is random? Even anecdotally we know this to be true. Consider my friend who often had angry rants. One day, while sitting under a tree, he made an 10

11 EMOTIONAL WEIGHT interesting discovery. He was listening to the birds and thought, Have you ever seen an unhappy bird? So he decided to whistle along with them and after a few minutes, he noticed how happy he felt. Just empty it out What if your life was a process of emptying out the unloving parts of the world that you have inherited? There is no point asking, Why me? It is simply not helpful. Your only choice is to hold on to it, or empty it out. It is up to you to break the cycle, but know that the more you empty out the emotional weight, the greater the love you will feel. And there is only one thing can make a soul feel complete, and that is love. If you are carrying emotional weight, you may find it difficult to maintain motivation or you may self-sabotage. I am going to show you how to deal with these uncomfortable feelings and turn your defeating thoughts into empowering thoughts. You will also learn to love yourself so that making healthy choices is easier. Read on! 11

12 3 Empty out the unloving patterns When you live from love, there is nothing to control, nothing to get past, and nothing to conquer. How would you like to not worry anymore? What would you do if you were no longer afraid? How would you feel if you stopped arguing with yourself? How much cleaner would you feel if you emptied out your emotional and physical clutter? How would your life change if you were willing to reach a higher perspective? The emptying-out process If you are often searching for new ways to lose weight, I suggest you take a new approach: enlighten your emotional weight, create a loving self-awareness, and ascend to the energy of love. That is what the spiritual journey of ascension is. It s the emptying out of all human pain and suffering the conscious choice to empty out painful thoughts, feelings and reactions and perfect the state of love. You might have already started your ascension journey. Perhaps you ve had a tragedy in your life that has triggered your dissension into the murky depths of human emotions. Perhaps you lost someone you love or maybe you lost your business, your job or your home. You may think that the world is judging you as a failure. Nothing could be further from the truth you re on your way to emptying out your emotional weight. 12

13 THE JOURNEY BACK TO LOVE The first step to ascension is down you have to descend first. Everything that conflicts with love will surface, but you will use your awareness to transform it. Accept your emotional weight and start emptying it out. Cleanse it with the love that is inside you. Layers of emptying out We all have a mental body, an emotional body, and a physical body that are all cloaked in our spiritual perceptions. There is also the etheric body, or the subtle field of energy around our body, which consists of a field of energy we put out with our thoughts and feelings. It is also how the universal life force energy interacts with us. Consider the following. The spiritual body houses our perceptions about love and the meaning of life. The mental body houses opinions, beliefs and thoughts, which are our creating tools. The emotional body holds ancestral pain and our feelings, governing how we will react to anything; where most decisions are made. The physical body covers the conditions of our cells and is also about our environment. The etheric body is made up of the aura and chakra system, where you can be open to receiving the life-giving astral energy. Even if you have a healthy diet, if you don t pay attention to these other bodies then you may not experience exceptional wellbeing. Just like a food that is toxic to the physical body, a defeating thought or hurtful emotion is also damaging to the cells. The goal is to harmonize your perceptions, your mental body, your emotional body, and your physical body with love. When harmonized with love, you will be connected to the stream of universal life force 13

14 EMPTY OUT THE UNLOVING PATTERNS energy, sometimes called chi or prana, and this will pour into you via the etheric body. You may think that you have cleared an old hurt and dealt with it. And then years later you find yourself dealing with it again. This is because you only cleared it from one of the bodies and further cleaning and emptying out is required. Try it for yourself What is one thing that you could give up or empty out right now that would make your life happier? When you empty out something that you have held on to so tightly, you will feel lighter. Clearing out is a natural part of human existence. From the moment you are born you have experiences that encourage you to let go, to empty out. A baby has to let go of the fear of falling to learn to walk. We let go of our children as they grow up. We have to give up our youthful looks as we age. When a loved one dies we have to let them go, or we wither with grief. We know we will outlive our beloved pets, but we still love them, knowing that one day we will have to let them go, too. Different ways to empty out When challenged to empty something out, sometimes the answer is to see a higher perspective. It could be to find a more creative way to move forward. Sometimes it s to feel the pain and empty it out. Often it s dropping the thought that is hurting us. Or it could be to set a goal to get out of a rut and move forward. Sometimes it s finding the inspiration to try something new. 14

15 THE SPIRITUAL BODY Are you wondering why you are here? Are you wondering what you are here to do? Are you wondering why life can be so painful? Are you wondering how you can have peace right now? The day I sat on the beach considering ending my life, I asked myself these same questions. There are many ways to answer them, but what I am about to explain put everything into perspective for me. Perhaps it will do the same for you. In the beginning, there was love. Consider that before you were born into your body on this earth that you were a loving being residing in a field of unconditional love. Some call this time and space dimension the unified field where we create with loving thoughts, words, and actions. Whatever you call it, it s a higher field of love than what we experience on earth in our three-dimensional space and time. On earth, there is a field of duality, and everything has an opposite polarity. Up has down, and hot has cold. There is summer and winter and we experience emotions at both ends of the scale like happy and sad. In the unified field, beings create with unity consciousness or unconditional love. It s free from the opposites of duality and emotional polarities. Consider for a moment that we are all from this unified field. Feeling great compassion for the suffering on earth, what if we made it our individual purpose to bring love to earth? Each of us made a choice to descend into the third dimension on earth what if your life purpose is to unify dualistic energies and raise the planet to the field of unconditional love? 15

16 LET LOVE IN So why would you want to go through this deep emptying out process. This is what awaits you. Expanded awareness. Inner peace. Radiant health. Comforting knowingness. Feel centered and calm. Live with more balance. Feel more loving. Be in control of your reactions. Feel free and become more creative. Experience heartfelt joy helping others. Enjoy simple pleasures. Make your life more purposeful. Experience joyful relationships. 16

17 ABOUT THE AUTHOR Julie Rennie is a wellbeing speaker and spiritual life coach. In her bestselling books Julie has inspired thousands of people to live a loving and healthy life. Through her inspiring workshops and courses, she shows just how easy it is to change lifelong patterns and live a loving and healthy life. Julie lives her life passionately according to her own personal philosophy: No matter what is happening in your life, it s important to be kind to yourself. When you are being loving, it s so much easier to make a healthy decision. Julie can be contacted via her website Julie Rennie 17