Page 1 #62 November 18, 2018 Thirty Third Sunday In Ordinary Time This Week At Holy Cross: Weekend: Stars For Jesus Gift Drive and Hospitality Sunday Thursday: Thanksgiving Day Mass Next Weekend: Stars For Jesus Gift Drive continues Inside this Issue Stars For Jesus 2 Hospitality Sunday 2 Thanksgiving Day Mass 2 Christmas Flower Donations 2 Exposition of The Blessed Sacrament Advent Wreath Making Messiah Part One Charismatic Healing Mass Youth Ministry Christmas Wreath Sale Memorial Votive Candles 4 Thank You From St. Anthony s 4 Thursday Evening Adoration 4 Mass Intentions 4 Please Pray for the Sick of the Parish Calendar at a Glace 5 Around The Cohort and The Diocese 4 5 The Son of man will come with great power and glory Stewardship November 11, 2018 Offertory $12,400.00 Electronic Giving $854.00 Alms $46.00 Candles $188.00 Thank You Thirty Third Sunday In Ordinary Time The fig tree was a common and important source of food for the Jews. It bore fruit twice a year, in the autumn and in the early spring. This parable foretells the joy of God's kingdom - the joy of new life and the promise of a new age of peace and blessing. The signs of spring are evident for all who can see. Just so are the signs of God's kingdom. The "budding" of God's kingdom begins first in the hearts of those who are receptive to God's word. Those who trust in God's word will bear the fruits of his kingdom. And what are the fruits of that kingdom? "The kingdom of God..is righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit (Romans 14:17). Lord Jesus, fill me with your Holy Spirit that I may radiate the joy of your kingdom and the fire of your love to all I meet and serve. Direct my life to the glory of your name and to the coming of your kingdom Church Security In order to make our church environment more secure, access to the church during the week will be limited to the handicapped entrance door adjacent to the rectory and the South West Double Stairway entrance (by the Jesus Statue). This will enable us to monitor the church more easily, especially when the school children are present for mass. As always, we must balance the need for security with ease of access. Thanksgiving Food Drive Ends This Weekend! Please bring your donation of food to the St. Joseph Room no later than 4:00 PM this Sunday, November 18th.
November 18, 2018 Page 2 #62 Stars For Jesus The Stars for Jesus Boards are available this weekend, November 17/18. You can either sign up online or take a star from the boards at church. The online link is https://www.signupgenius.com/go/60b0a4faaa82fa75-holy1 When using the online link, requests are listed as Male or Female, Star Number, and then Item requested. If you choose to take a star from church, sign the clipboard with the star number, as well as your name and phone number. All gifts are to be returned wrapped, with the card or star attached! Donations should be brought to the St. Joseph Room, using the outside lower level stairwell, between the hours of 8 AM to 4 PM, from Friday, November 0th thru Sunday, December 9th. Your kindness and generosity will help a child or a disabled adult have a Blessed Christmas. Hospitality Sunday We will have Hospitality this Sunday, November 18th, following the 10:0 Mass in the St. Joseph Room. Please join us for refreshments and spend time with other parishioners. Thanksgiving Day Mass Join the Holy Cross Parish family in giving thanks to God for all of our blessings. Thanksgiving Day Mass will be celebrated at 9:00 AM in the Church. O Lord, we thank you for all of our blessings, our hearts overflow in praise and worship! Book of Remembrance For the entire month of November, a remembrance book will be placed by the St. Joseph statue in the Church in which anyone may write the name of a deceased family member or friend. We will pray for them at each mass during November, the month of All Souls. Christmas Flower Donations Included in your packet of offertory envelopes is the Christmas Flower Donation envelope. We appreciate your donations that helps us manage the cost of decorating our church for Christmas. Please consider helping us prepare a fitting place to welcome the Lord. AA Meetings We are happy to announce that there is an AA Open Discussion Meeting every Wednesday evening at 8 PM, in the St. Joseph Room of the Church.
November 18, 2018 Page #62 Exposition of The Blessed Sacrament Why not give the Lord the gift of yourself during this Advent and Christmas? Make a commitment to visit the Blessed Sacrament for one hour on Wednesdays between 10 AM and 4 PM and let your presence be your offering to Jesus. Use the time to pray, read Scripture or meditate in the silence of the beautiful church and soak up God s grace and peace. We especially need Adorers from 11 AM to PM. Please consider making this gift in the weeks ahead; the gifts you receive from the Lord will overflow without measure. Please call the Parish Office to sign up. Advent Wreath Making Join us on Sunday, December 2nd, in the St. Joseph Room for Advent Wreath Making. In less than half an hour, your family will assemble an Advent Wreath with fresh greens, candles, ribbons and pine cones. The cost for the materials is $25 per family. Everyone who sends in a registration form by November 29th will be guaranteed a wreath. The registration form is available on the Holy Cross website. Count Your Blessings As we approach Thanksgiving, let us take a moment to consider all the blessings we receive from God, and how we in turn, thank God for those blessings. Charismatic Healing Mass The Healing Shepherd Prayer Group invites all to attend a Charismatic Healing Mass on Monday, November 26th at 8:00 PM in Holy Cross Church. Our next Healing Mass will be on Tuesday, December 18th. Messiah Part One George Frideric Handel Sunday, December 9th PM, :00 PM Holy Cross Church Holy Cross Choir, Choral Artists, Chamber Orchestra, Don Carolina, Conductor. You will be entertained and filled with the spirit of Christmas. Suggested Offering $20. Youth Ministry Christmas Wreath Sale Our Youth Ministry will be selling beautifully decorated Christmas wreaths, roping and grave blankets for the upcoming holiday season. The Christmas Wreath sale will take place on the weekends of December 1st & 2nd, as well as December 8th & 9th. Please show your support and purchase a Christmas wreath.
November 18, 2018 Page 4 #62 Memorial Votive Candles Holy Cross Memorial Candles burn from Friday to Friday in our Prayer Garden, in front of the Blessed Mother Statue. Your intention is announced at the Saturday 9:00 AM Mass. Candles and Cards are available at the Parish Office and on our Parish Website. A Memorial Candle donation is $20. Thank You From St. Anthony s Parish Dear Holy Cross Church, On behalf of Fr. Al Tomayo, our Pastor, and the St. Crispin Food Pantry, at St. Anthony s Parish, we wish to thank you for your recent generous contribution. Your kindness is greatly appreciated. Thank you and God Bless! Thursday Evening Adoration Join us for evening devotions every Thursday evening, from 6:00-7:00 PM. There are no group prayers, official hymns or ceremony. Come for all or any part of the hour and watch with Him. This is a perfect opportunity to offer prayers for the healing of the church and reparation of sin. Support Our Sponsors Please support the sponsors of our Bulletin and patronize their establishments. Let them know you heard about them in the Holy Cross Church bulletin! Mass Intentions Saturday, November 17 9:00 AM Alvina McDermott Johnston (M/M Joseph Kenney) 5:00 PM John Geiger (M/M Robert Finan) Sunday, November 18 8:00 AM Maureen Sofield (Tony Gardella) 10:0 AM Robert Mattone (Pegeen Screen) 12:00 PM Russell Davenport (Clancy Family) 5:00 PM For the Intention of Michael Doyle (M/M Robert Gray) Monday, November 19 9:00 AM Grace Murphy (Gary Sammon) Tuesday, November 20 9:00 AM Kyle Pascoe (Heine Family) Wednesday, November 21 9:00 AM Peter Shippee (M/M Harvey Stewart) Thursday, November 22 9:00 AM Patricia Sharkey (Morris Family) And Dawn Garavente (Samol Family) Friday, November 2 9:00 AM Margaret Elizabeth Clark (Anne Kenney) Saturday, November 24 9:00 AM Thomas E. Lynch, Jr. (Gary Sammon) 5:00 PM Frances T. Legge (Joanna Roberts) Sunday, November 25 8:00 AM John DeVincenzo (M/M Michael McGough) 10:0 AM Lorraine Finan (Family) 12:00 PM Winifred and Thomas O'Leary (Ann O Leary) And Michael Durcan (Ann O Leary) 5:00 PM Antonio Dorgerville (Heine Family) Please Pray for the Sick of the Parish Out of respect for the privacy of the person who is ill and keeping in mind the HIPPA Laws, we can only publish prayer requests from the ill person or their guardian, with the permission of the ill person. We review the list every three months. Call with concerns! Catherine O Malley, Ann Connor, Eleanor Blass, Sophia Gonzales, Joey Weikel, John Wizeman, Marisa Murphy, Daniel Bonifacio, Jennifer Denis, Dawn Lloyd, Sandra Foster, Alessandra Giunta, Maria Incremona, Frank Reedy and Grace Fasullo
November 18, 2018 Page 5 #62 Monday, November 19 RCIC Session, 4:00 PM (PO) RCIA Session, 6:0 PM (PO) SOR 7th Grade Session, 6:0 PM Tuesday, November 20 Tuesday, Prayer Group, 1:00 PM (St. Joseph Room) Wednesday, November 21 HCS Thanksgiving Prayer Service, 10:0 AM AA Meeting, 8:00 PM (St. Joseph Room) Thursday, November 22 Happy Thanksgiving Day! Thanksgiving Day Mass, 9:00 AM Friday, November 2 Parish Office Closed Saturday, November 24 Mass 9:00 AM, Confession and Novena after Mass Stars For Jesus Tags Available Online and In Church Sunday, November 25 Stars For Jesus Tags Available Online and In Church Choir Call, 9:45 AM Monday, November 26 RCIC Session, 4:00 PM (PO) RCIA Session, 6:0 PM (PO) Charismatic Healing Mass, 8:00 PM Calendar at a Glance Tuesday, November 27 Elizabeth Ministry Faith sharing 10 AM (St. Joseph Room) Tuesday, Prayer Group, 1:00 PM (St. Joseph Room) First Reconciliation Practice, 4:00 PM Wednesday, November 28 Exposition of the Blessed Sacrament, 9:45 AM - 4:00 PM Youth Ministry, 6:0 PM AA Meeting, 8:00 PM (St. Joseph Room) Thursday, November 29 Bible Study, 9:45 AM (St. Joseph Room) Youth Choir practice :0 PM (Choir loft) Exposition and Holy Hour, 6:00 7:00 PM Adult Choir Rehearsal 7:00 PM Sacrament of First Reconciliation, 7:0 PM Holy Cross Men s Group, 7:0 PM (St. Joseph Room) Saturday, December 1 Mass 9:00 AM, Confession and Novena after Mass Bring Stars For Jesus Gift donations to St. Joseph Room Youth Ministry Christmas Wreath Sale Sunday, December 2 Bring Stars For Jesus Gift donations to St. Joseph Room Youth Ministry Christmas Wreath Sale Youth Choir Singing at 10:0 Mass Hospitality and Wreath Making, following 10:0 Mass (SJR) SOR Classes 9:00 AM SOR 8th Grade Session, 4:15 PM Around The Cohort And The Diocese St. Joseph By the Sea, South Mantoloking Nov., 0 - Dec., 2, Advent Silent Weekend, time for reflection, Exposition of the Blessed Sacrament and Mass. Arrive between 6:0 7 PM, Cost: $220 Busy Persons Advent Retreat, join us on December 4th, reflect, pray and nourish your Spirit. Cost: $50 includes Lunch. Day begins at 9 AM and includes Mass. Call 72-892-8494 to register or for additional information. Love INC Accepting Appliance Donations Toasters, coffee pots, blenders, microwaves, popcorn makers, etc. Small appliances can be dropped of at The Furnished With Love Store, 58 Broadway Long Branch (parking/entrance on Russell Ct.) 72-272-1212, Large appliances; Refrigerators, washer, dryers call 72-222-192, for pickup schedule and tax receipt. Be a blessing to someone in need! Holy Cross Christmas Mass Schedule Christmas Eve, Monday, December 24th :00 PM, 4:0 PM, 6:00 PM and 11:00PM Christmas Carols begin at 10:0 PM Christmas Day, Tuesday, December 25th 10:0 AM and 12:00 Noon
KILLING THE PAIN, NOT THE PATIENT: PALLIATIVE CARE VS. ASSISTED SUICIDE Assisted suicide is radically different from end-of-life care and the practice of palliative care. Assisted suicide is in the news and on lawmakers agendas. Supporters call it aid in dying and claim it is just another option for ending intolerable pain as part of end-of-life care. But assisted suicide is radically different from end-of-life care and the practice of palliative care, the healing art of relieving pain and other distressing symptoms for patients who are seriously ill. In fact, these two agendas are at war with each other. Different Drugs, Different Results When properly prescribed for the pain of serious illness, powerful pain medications like morphine and other opioids are safe and effective. Patients can have their pain well-controlled without risk to life, and generally stay alert as well. Assisted suicide is very different. Where it has been legalized, doctors can prescribe a lethal overdose of pills to patients whom they think will die within six months, so they can kill themselves. The patient then intentionally swallows a massive overdose of barbiturates to cause unconsciousness and death. The Importance of Intent Besides having opposite results, these two approaches express different intentions. While pain medication is generally safe under medical supervision, it may have side-effects. For example, barbiturates may be used in rare instances to sedate an agitated patient in the final stage of dying if other pain control methods are inadequate, though this poses some risk of shortening life. @usccbprolife @ProjectRachel fb.com/peopleoflife UNITED STATES CONFERENCE OF CATHOLIC BISHOPS Secretariat of Pro-Life Activities View, download, or order the U.S. bishops pro-life materials! www.usccb.org/respectlife In such cases, the doctor and patient must assess the good they intend and proceed only if this good outweighs the unintended adverse effects. As risk cannot always be eliminated, modern medicine would be impossible without this principle of double effect. The key is that no one involved intends the bad effects, especially the bad effect of killing the patient. Assisted suicide, by contrast, directly intends the patient s death, which is never morally permissible. The doctor prescribes an intentionally lethal overdose, with instructions on how to use the pills to cause death. (Interestingly, there is no record that any patient accidentally surviving the overdose has ever tried it again. 1 ) Medical organizations like the American Medical Association and the American College of Physicians oppose doctor-assisted suicide, in part because it destroys this essential distinction between intended and unintended effects of treatment. Patients need to be able to trust their doctors to always care for their lives and never deliberately cause death.
Eliminate the Problem, Not the Patient Palliative care also addresses symptoms beyond physical pain, in ways that go beyond medication. Patients facing serious illness may feel hopeless and depressed, as though their lives have lost meaning. Addressing psychological, emotional, and spiritual problems is essential to palliative care. Assisted suicide alleviates none of these problems, but gives in to them. Consider that about half of patients who had requested assisted suicide under the Oregon law in its first three years changed their minds when the doctor provided palliative care. 2 Yet in Oregon, almost none of the patients receiving lethal drugs are evaluated to assess whether their wish for death arises from treatable depression and over half say they requested the drugs partly because they feel they are becoming a burden on others. Offering assisted suicide can only confirm and strengthen that feeling. It ignores the underlying problems, instead abandoning and eliminating the patient who has the problems. Assisted Suicide Undermines Palliative Care Assisted suicide is detrimental not only for individual patients, but also for patient care on a large scale. In countries like the Netherlands, where assisted suicide has been accepted for many years, progress in palliative care has stagnated. 4 In Oregon, legalization was followed by an increase in severe untreated pain among terminally ill patients. During a period when 1,82 hospices opened in other states, only five opened in Oregon. In other states legalizing assisted suicide, use of hospice care has fallen below the national average. 5 By contrast, when states pass new laws forbidding assisted suicide, while affirming that doctors may use drugs like morphine for effective pain control, use of these medications has increased indicating progress in pain management practices. 6 The reason is obvious. Optimum palliative care requires years of training and experience, as well as a commitment to the patient as someone with inherent dignity who deserves excellent care. Assisted suicide avoids the need for this hard work and erodes this commitment. It provides a quick and easy, as well as cheap, answer to terminal illness. Once death is accepted as a solution, why bother to devote resources to more expensive medical progress? Assisted suicide does not enhance medicine. As noted by a doctor specializing in palliative and hospice care in the Netherlands, killing becomes a substitute for learning how to relieve the suffering of dying patients. 7 True Love and Mercy Do we see people as the problem, such that our responsibility begins and ends with helping patients kill themselves? Or, do we see seriously ill patients as fellow human beings who deserve our love and solutions for their problems? Will we succumb to the false mercy of assisted suicide, or will we endorse what Pope St. John Paul II called the way of love and true mercy? 8 Will we dedicate ourselves to providing genuinely compassionate care, as a society and for our own loved ones? Our answer today determines the care available now and for years to come. 1 Doerflinger, Richard M., M.A. Oregon s Assisted Suicides: The Up-to-Date Reality in 2017. On Point, no. 21 (March 2018): 5. https://lozierinstitute.org/wp-content/ uploads/2018/0/oregon-assisted-suicide-the-up-to-date-reality-2017.pdf. 2 Ganzini, Linda, M.D., Heidi D. Nelson, M.D., M.P.H., Terri A. Schmidt, M.D., Dale F. Kraemer, Ph.D., Molly A. Delorit, B.A., and Melinda A. Lee, M.D. Physicians Experiences with the Oregon Death with Dignity Act. The New England Journal of Medicine, no. 42 (February 24, 2000): 557-6. doi:10.1056/nejm20000224420806. Assisted Suicide Laws in Oregon and Washington: What Safeguards? PDF. Washington, D.C.: United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, February 22, 2018: 2,5. http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/human-life-and-dignity/assistedsuicide/to-live-each-day/upload/suicideoregonfeb2018.pdf 4 Physician-Assisted Suicide: Threat to Improved Palliative Care. PDF. Washington, D.C.: United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, March 4, 2017: 2-. http://www. usccb.org/issues-and-action/human-life-and-dignity/assisted-suicide/to-liveeach-day/upload/suicide_palliative_care-2.pdf 5 Doerflinger, Richard M., M.A. The Effect of Legalizing Assisted Suicide on Palliative Care and Suicide Rates: A Response to Compassion and Choices. On Point, no. 1 (March 2017):. https://lozierinstitute.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/0/the-effectof-legalization-of-assisted-suicide.pdf. 6 Brief Amici Curiae for the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, California Catholic Conference, Oregon Catholic Conference, Washington State Catholic Conference; Catholic Health Association of the United States, and Lutheran Church- Missouri Synod as Amici Curiae in Support of Petitioners, Alberto R. Gonzales, U.S. Attorney General, et al. v. Oregon, et al., No 04-62, *18-22 (filed May 9, 2005). http://www.usccb.org/about/general-counsel/amicus-briefs/upload/amicus-sctgonzales-v-oregon-2005-05.pdf 7 Zylicz, Zbigniew, M.D. Palliative Care and Euthanasia in the Netherlands. In The Case Against Assisted Suicide, 142. Baltimore and London: Johns Hopkins University Press. 8 John Paul II, Evangelium vitae (Gospel of Life) (Vatican City: Libreria Editrice Vaticana, 1995), no. 66-67. This article was updated and shortened from a 1998 Respect Life Program article by the same name. Excerpts from Evangelium vitae, 1995 Libreria Editrice Vaticana, Vatican City. Used with permission. All rights reserved. Photo via Twenty20/@ nodar77. Used with permission. All rights reserved. Copyright 2018, United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, Washington, D.C. All rights reserved. Item #1846