THE UPBRINGING OF A CHILD

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1 VOLUME. 3 ISSUE. 4 JULY/AUGUST 2017 INSIDE THIS ISSUE Pg 1 The upbringing of a child Pg 2 Ḥajj A Guide for Intending Pilgrims Pg 4 Lesson from Hadīth Pg 5 Kids Page Pg 8 Dear sister Pg 9 One minute Lesson Pg 10 Words of Wisdom THE UPBRINGING OF A CHILD As firm believers in the Islām ic faith we all hope and wish that when we leave this world and return to the Almighty, we will be presented in front of Him in the best possible way so that He may grant us entry into the everlasting happiness of Jannah. Likewise, we wish the same for our near and dear ones, and rightly so. Amongst them are our beloved children; the Muslims and the followers of Islām ; the next generation of believers. However, it is important for us to understand that nurturing children and to give them the mind-set to know right from wrong, is the responsibility of the parent or guardian. Love, Honour and Respect. For a child to accept whatever the parent is saying, first we must create love in the child s heart for the parent. If we succeed in this then a slight gesture will be enough for the child to understand. This love within the child will thereafter automatically bring about honour and respect. When the child is in its infancy, we must show as much love to the child as possible, so much so that the child does not want to leave your side even when he/she grows up. To pamper them would not be wrong to say, however, with this we must keep a watchful eye on their behaviour and any wrong doings we must reprimand them immediately, and not brush it to a side saying, The child is still young. Reprimanding does not mean to do so with a harsh tone or any other forms of harshness; rather with pure love and concern for the child s future, he/she has the correct morals within them that they know how to interact and behave with others. For example, your child has a bag of sweets, and you notice that your child is not sharing the sweets with others, then as a parent we should pick up on this straight away and work on them until they share by their own doing not because you have told them to do so. This love which we show them in their infancy should not decrease as time goes on; rather it should increase. In the child s infancy we must earn trust and become the best friend of the child, then and only then can you become a parent, as it is only when you become the best friend of the child will the child obey you. The hard work in the initial stages of a child s life will Insha Allah pay-off when the child is in its teenage years, when to nurture and mould the child becomes really difficult This is not a one-sided effort, that only the mother has to carry out; rather it is a joint effort of both the mother and the father. (Continued on page 3) This journal contains teachings from the Glorious Qur ān and the Ahādīth of the Prophet s. Please ensure its sanctity. EDITOR: (Mawlānā) Shabir Mohamed Ravat PUBLISHED AND DISTRIBUTED ON A BIMONTHLY BASIS BY: AL HIDAYAH FOUNDATION WALSTEAD ROAD WALSALL WS5 4LY TEL info@alhidayahfoundation.co.uk 1

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3 (Continued from page 2) Islãmic Da wah Academy (continued in next issue) (Continued from page 1) If we do not show, earn the love or give any attention to our child, then as the child grows he/she will look for love and attention elsewhere, and in most cases this will have dangerous outcomes not only to the child s worldly life but the more importantly, the hereafter also. They will seek this love in different avenues; some will find it in their games, movies, etc.; some will find it in adopting impermissible relationships; some will find it in mixing with the wrong crowds which might lead them to the gang culture, drugs, alcohol, clubs, etc. When it gets to the stage of the latter and the honour and respect of our family name is at stake, do we then decide to try and start taking the child to the Masajid and introduce them to the Ulama, and complain to them that my child does not listen to me and he/she has no concern for the hereafter. But now it is too late, your child in his/her heart has no love for you and has the feeling that when I was young you were not there for me so why should I listen to you. Being a parent is not just paying the bills and putting a roof over their heads, this is only one small part of it. The main and most important part is to guide the child to the true teachings of Islām so that he/she may be successful not only in this world but the hereafter also, so that we can say to Allah when we are asked what we have done in the world, we can present our pious children. (continued in next issue) 3

4 LESSONS FROM HADITH ع ن أ ي ب ه ر ي ر ة ع ن ر س وي ل ا ي ه لل هللاىلص ق ا ل " ال م س ل ي م م ن س ل ي م النهاس ي من ل ي س ان ييه و ي ي ده ي و ال م ؤ ي من م ن أ ي من ه النهاس ع ل ى ي دم ائييهم و أ م و ا ي ل ي م " The Messenger of Allāh s said: "A true Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the people are safe; and a true Mu min is the one from whom the people's lives and wealth are safe." (An-Nasa i) (PART 2) The evils of the tongue need no explanation. One of the main evils which is prominent in society is the evil of backbiting. As was stated under the last hadith of volume 3 issue 2, my respected mentor and teacher Hadhrat Mawlana Muhammad Saleem Dhorat hafizahullah mentions how a person should use his tongue, he says first weigh your words then speak them. He explains, when a person desires to speak first he should think to himself: is what I am about to say going to benefit me in the hereafter, if the answer is yes then you should say it. If the answer to the above is no, rather it will bring harm to his hereafter then he must refrain from it. If their is no harm or benefit, it is best to stay away from. If it is regards to benefit from the worldly aspect, if it is permissible in the eyes of Shari ah then there is no harm in speaking. If it is impermissible then we must stay away from it, rather not even go close to it, for example lying for some financial gain. And if there is no harm or benefit, then again it is best to stay away from it. It is very common in the time and age we live in as our youth are very unaware of how they should talk to their parents, elder and younger siblings, relatives, teachers beit in school or madrasah and elders, those who are present as well as those who have left this world (pious predecessors, the sahaba, the Prophets ). To instil respect in them, to monitor their behaviour, reprimand them and explain to them what they are doing is wrong is the duty of the parent(s). 4

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8 Dear Sister Hadhrat Khadijah Bint Khuwalid t ( Ustadhji Muhammed Surti) Through the advice of my respected Ustaad and Headteacher at Madrasah Al Hidayah, Mawlana Adam Sahib, I have started up a women s section of the magazine. In this section we take a look at the lives of the most famous women in Islām. Where better to start then the first woman to accept Islām and the first Wife of our Prophet Muhammad a, Hadhrat Khadija Bint Khuwalid t. Hadhrat Khadijah t was born in Makkah in the year 556 CE. Her mother's name was Fatimah bint Zayd, and her father's name was Khuwaylid bin Asad. He was a very popular leader among the tribe of Quraysh, and a very prosperous businessman who died while fighting in the famous battle of Fujjar. Khadijah thus grew up in the lap of luxury. She married Abu Halah Malak bin Nabash bin Zarrarah bin At-Tamimi and bore him two children, Halah and Hind. She wanted to see her husband prosper and financed him in setting up a big business. But unfortunately he passed away. Sometime later the young widow married 'Atique bin 'Aith bin 'Abdullah Al-Makhzumi, and she had a daughter by him as well named Hindah, but the marriage soon broke up on grounds of incompatibility. After this all her attention was devoted to the upbringing of her children, and building up the business she inherited from her father. Her policy was to employ hard working, honest and distinguished managers to deal on her behalf. She exported her goods to far away markets like Syria, and her managers bought goods from those markets to be sold at home. Hadhrat Khadijah t had heard of the integrity, honesty and principled behaviour of the Prophet s and sent a job offer to him to head her trading caravans. He gladly accepted the offer and started working for her. Khadijah t sent him on a business trip; her old and trusted slave Maysarah being delegated to accompany and serve him. On the way back from Syria, the Prophet s lay down under a tree to rest for a while. Nestora, a Jewish monk, noted for his knowledge of religion and for his insight saw him and asked Maysarah who he was. Maysarah told him all about Muhammad s and his reputation for honesty and intelligence. Nestora then told him that this man would be elevated to Prophethood in the future, as no man had ever rested under that particular tree but Prophets. When he returned home Maysarah reported to Khadijah t all that had taken place on the trip to Syria. She was deeply moved and impressed, and started thinking of proposing marriage to Muhammad. But how could she express her thoughts to him? She already rejected several proposals of marriage from men belonging to some of the noblest families of the Quraysh. How would her tribe react? What would her family say? And what was more, would her proposal be acceptable to this young, yet unmarried man of the tribe of Quraysh? As she pondered over these questions and debated within herself, one night she dreamt that the shining sun had descended from the heavens into her courtyard, radiating her home. When she woke up she went for the interpretation of this wonderful dream to her cousin, Waraqah bin Nawfal, a blind man noted for his skill in interpreting dreams, and for his depth of knowledge, particularly of the Torah and the Injil. When he heard her dream, he gave a serene smile, and told her not to worry, as this was a very promising dream. The glorious sun she saw descending into her courtyard indicated that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) whose arrival had been predicted in the Torah and the Injil was to grace her home and she would gain from his presence in her life. (continued in next issue) 8

9 Few Sunan for Īd ul Adha One Minute Lesson By Mawlānā Adam Loonat (Al-Hidayah Foundation) 1. To awake early than usual 2. To brush the teeth (miswak) 3. To have a bath 4. To be well dressed in an Islām ic manner 5. To dress in ones best clothes (according to ones ability financially) 6. To use itr 7. To perform Īd salaah in the Īd gaaah (an open ground) 8. To Avoid eating before Īd namaz on Īd ul adha and to eat an odd number of dates or anything sweet on Īd ul fitr 9. To go to the place for Īd salaah early 10. To walk to the place for Īd salaah early 11. To say aloud takbeerat (Allahu Akbar) on the way for Īd ul adha salaah silently and aloud for Īd ul fitr 12. To use different routes to and from the place of Īd namaaz Above is a few sunan for the day of Īd ul Adha. Majority of these are those which we will do. All we have to do is keep in mind that this action is a sunnah and we will be rewarded. e.g. we will all take a bath on Īd day, and wear our best clothes. If we do with the intention of it been a sunnah we will be rewarded. Also, we should keep in mind that our appearance (clothes, hair etc..) is according to the commands of Allah Ta la. We don t want to disobey Allah ta la on a day He has blessed us with. A day of happiness, joy and enjoyment. Keep in mind that Allah Ta la has blessed with uncountable blessings. We don t have to look far. Look at our body. Eyes, nose, tongue, feet, hands etc.. the list can go on and on. Ponder for a moment. What would I do if i could not see? How would i live my life if i became blind? Work, family, eating, going places etc.. how would i be able to do it? Allah Tala has blessed us with this eye without any charge or bill, which we use everyday and all day long and then we become ungrateful by going against His commands 9

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