Sonia Sherefay سونيا شرفاي

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1 Sonia Sherefay سونيا شرفاي I was born and grown up in Cairo, Egypt Eritrea Ethiopia Italy Oman Sweden

2 I m an adult teacher Integration consultant A writer And my own parental educations program called The children of our hurt Barnen I VÅRA hjärtan!

3 Books I wrote The books will serve as a basis for discussion in the workshops Swedish language for immigrants And parental education program Or at parent meetings in schools Etc..

4 I am the co-author of following books Jag ska gifta mig med den jag vill! (sid 55) Du älskar ju din dotter! (sid 85)

5 Other about my work

6 The parental education program include: A short introduction of the Swedish history Democracy Equality Religion in a secular society Fundamental values How to raise children in Sweden, the A children society Children rights Women rights Law against children abuse The Swedish school system And so on

7 Sweden as a multicultural country Since more than three decades a large number of immigrants/refugees have emigrated to Sweden. We are approximately more than one million migrants/refugees A lot of them are Muslims, not only from the MEA but also even from several parts of the world The Arabic language is the third large language in Sweden now In Malmö, Rosengård live many Arab people, and Mohammed is the most common name of neonates boys here The most famous Swedish football player Zlatan Ibrahimovic is from Rosengård as well.

8 Some of the problem and opportunity how immigrant families have to handle with in exile: Unknown number of illiterate people Segregations issues A large number of unemployed beyond the migrant/refugees Students who finish secondary school without success A large number of divorce between immigrants families A large number of divorced mothers to a large number of children Att DUA Cultural crash Etc.

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10 Values, culture, religion and tradition! "Culture is the lens through which we view the world! Ruth Benedict 8/23/2013

11 Law against children abuse AGA LAGEN 1 JULI 1979 قانون عدم استعمال العنف Fysisk misshandel Psykisk misshandel Bristande omsorg

12 Collective in focus! الجماعية 8/23/2013

13 INDIVIDUAL SOCIETY

14 1 + 1= 3 ازدواجية الثقافات! Att pendla mellan två kulturer!

15 The Swedish society and the Swedish people Secular society Avoid conflict Like Nature Environmental friendly sort like all kinds of garbage separately

16 "We live and work in a women's land!" Women EQUALITY? Children pets Men

17 The Law of Jante Are ten rules state usually referred to as a homogeneous unit: 1. You're not to think you are anything special. 2. You're not to think you are as good as us. 3. You're not to think you are smarter than us. 4. You're not to convince yourself that you are better than us. 5. You're not to think you know more than us. 6. You're not to think you are more important than us. 7. You're not to think you are good at anything. 8. You're not to laugh at us. 9. You're not to think anyone cares about you. 10. You're not to think you can teach us anything.

18 The people's home Folkhemmet is a political concept that played an important role in the history of the Swedish Social Democratic Party As well as FOR the Swedish welfare state. A midway between capitalism and socialism. The base of the Folkhem : The whole society as a small and national family Everybody must contributes

19 Is not so easy to be immigrant in Sweden without understanding WHAT IS DIFFERENT!

20 EMPATHY

21 ACCEPT Disagree

22 Relations in Islam

23 August 21th 2013 Gregorian calendar ١٥ شوال ١٤٣٤ Hijri calendar

24 The Islamic calendar Hijri calendar The Islamic calendar is a lunar calendar of 12 months and days a year.

25 vid nymåne A month in the lunar calendar is days: the time it takes for the moon to rotate once around the earth!dagar 1. MUHARRAM 2. SAFAR 3. RABI AL-AWWAL 4. RABI AL-THANI 5. JUMADA AL-ULA 6. JUMADA AL THANI 7. RAJAB 8. SHAABAN 9. RAMADAN 10. SHAWWAL 11. DHU AL-QEEDA 12. DHU AL-HIJJAH

26 Islam اإلسالم Islam is a monotheistic and Abrahamic religion since 1,434 years ago. The 1th year of the Muslim calendar counts from the year Prophet Muhammad migrated from Mecca to Medina (in 622 e K.) More than one and a half billion people around the world are Muslims. Most of them live in the Middle East, India, Indonesia, Pakistan, Bangladesh, many countries in Africa, China and Eastern Europe. Approximately million Muslims live in Europe.

27 Children of Abraham Islam is a religion that follows the Prophet Abraham s learning, and is related to Judaism and Christianity. For Muslims people prophet Muhammad is the last in a long line of prophets and the Quran is the Muslim holy book. One who profess Islam are called Muslims, which means one who submits to God. Islam is now the second largest religion in the world.

28 القرآن Quran The Quran is Islam's holy book and God's own words verbally revealed through angel Gabriel (Jibril) to Muhammad, gradually over a period of approximately 23 years. Prophet Muhammad was 40 years old. The Quran was concluding on the year of prophet Muhammad s death. The Quran contains 114 chapters and 6,226 verses and includes 99,464 words. Besides the Qur'an there is guidance and rules in the ahadith, tradition collections.

29 Profhet Muhammad Was born in Mecca, Saudi Arabia, on 570 e Kr. He was illiterate and orphaned, and lived in a culture where there was an oral tradition. At the age of 40 years old he was chosen by God as a prophet and God revelation, the Quran. The Quran is considered to be the word of God. Angel Gabriel, learned Prophet reciting Qurans' verses. These revelations came in short sequences over a long period. Quran came in book form after Muhammad's death,. According to Islam, it is forbidden to depict all prophets including Muhammad.

30 Who is a Muslim Muslim is the one who confesses that there is one God, Allah, and that Muhammad is his messenger. A Muslim believes in life after death, the day of judgment, the paradise and the hell. A Muslim believes in all the prophets of God: Adam, Abraham, Moses, Jesus and others. Jesus / Isa is an important prophet in Islam and is mentioned in several places in the Quran. Even Mary/ Mariam is mentioned in the Quran

31 اهل الكتاب People of the Holy Books A Muslim believes in the three holy books: The Old Testament The New Testament and The Quran

32 Sunni and shia muslims 80% of Muslims are sunni muslims. Abu Bakr was a friend of the Prophet and father of his wife Aisha. Ali was the prophet s cousin and son-in-law. Abu Bakr succeeded prophet Muhammad as a caliph after his death. Ali did as the fourth caliph. Islam splits to shia because Ali supposed to be the first caliph and not the fourth.

33 The five pillars of islam (basic concepts and obligatory acts of worship) Al shahada (belief or confession of faith) Al salat (worship in the form of prayer) Al sawm (fasting during the month of Ramadan) Al zakat (alms or charitable giving) Al hajj (the pilgrimage to Mecca at least once in a lifetime)

34 Family relationships in Islam Islam considers the family as the corner stone of Islamic society. It bases the atmosphere in the family on sacrifice, love, loyalty, and obedience. The traditional definition of a Muslim "family means husband, wife and children. Even grandparents are part of the extended Muslim family.

35 Husband-wife relationship The following Quran s verse portrays the right Islamic atmosphere for husband- wife relationship: "And among his signs is this: He created for you spouses from yourselves that you might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy." (30-21).

36 Prophet Muhammad said: The best among you are those who are best to their families and I am the best of you to my family.

37 Parent-children relationship Once a man came to the Prophet Muhammad and asked: who is the person who is most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet answered: your mother, your mother, your mother then your father.

38 The Quran refers to parents-children relationships in four main places Before it asks children to be good and loyal to their parents it requires parents to be extremely careful in upbringing their children. In other words it asks parents to do their duty before asking for their rights.

39 Parents who do their duty deserve a honorable treatment of their children. When a parent came to the Prophet Muhammad and complained to him about the ingratitude of his son, the son said: He was ungrateful to me O Messenger of Allah, before I showed ingratitude to him. So the Prophet did not blame the son but disliked the attitude of his parent. This is a message to all parents.

40 Islam and Marriage Islam permits Muslims to satisfy their sexual needs only through lawful marriage. The man and the woman who are to establish a marriage contract and relationship must perform a "Request" and an "Acceptance". Both spouses must have witnesses to testify that marriage contract. the woman in Islam is also protected by such contract against unlawful and harmful relationships. Islam established the basis of a nucleus family that is nourished by the mother, and supported by the father.

41 A bridegroom and his bride must enter into this relationship with full conviction, mutual acceptance, and preliminary satisfaction of the essential marriage requirements. A Muslim woman retains her surname at marriage

42 Divorce in Islam Islam regards marriage bond as sacred and blessed. The most hatred lawful item in the Sight of Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) is divorce. Divorce: when marriage reaches a dead end between the two spouses and there is no other solution. 1. Divorce may be compulsory when the two assigned referees decide it in the case of the disputed spouses. 2. Divorce is unlawful, if there is no sound and visible reason or ground for it. 3. Divorce is permissible, if the wife is vicious in terms of character and attitudes. 4. Divorce is required, if the wife is not committed to the Islamic teachings, or if she is indecent or vulgar.

43 Divorce normally is a right to the husband! The woman has the right to divorce if: she was beaten by her husband the man is impotent the man does not fulfill his dependents

44 Death When a Muslim dies, he or she is washed respectfully and wrapped in a clean, white cloth (kafan) and buried after a special prayer, preferably the same day. The dead is then transported to the site of the funeral prayers (salat-ljanazah). The funeral prayer is similar in structure to the five daily prayers, with a few variations

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46 You can not teach a man anything; all you can do is to help him find it himself! Galileo Galilei 8/23/2013

47 www. sherefay.se & Centrum för arabiska familjer i exil, CAFI