Welcome to the DAT Minyan! Shabbat Vayeishev December 1, Kislev, 5779 Joseph Friedman, Rabbi Mark Raphaely, President

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1 Welcome to the DAT Minyan! Shabbat Vayeishev December 1, Kislev, 5779 Joseph Friedman, Rabbi Mark Raphaely, President Candle Lighting Havdalah 4:19 pm 5:20 pm Shabbat Schedule (All services take place in the BMH-BJ Fisher Hall, 560 S. Monaco Pkwy) Please help make our prayer service more meaningful by refraining from talking during the service. FRIDAY 4:20 pm: Mincha (Shema should be recited after 5:19 pm) SHABBAT Parasha: Page 198 / Haftarah: Page :50 am: Hashkama Minyan 8:25 am: Daf Yomi Tefillah Warm-up with Ellyn Hutt is on break for the next two weeks and will return 12/15 9:00 am: Shacharit, with Derasha by Rabbi Sandy Cohen on the topic of mental health in the Jewish community (Shema should be recited before 9:25 am) Kiddush is sponsored by David and Shira Fishman, David and Wendy Slamowitz and David and Jessica Zalkin in honor of the congregation 2:50 pm: HS Boy s Gemara w/ Nathan Rabinovitch at the Rabinovitch home 4:05 pm: Mincha followed by Seudah Shlisheet Seudah Shlisheet is sponsored by Doron Katriel, Mark Levy, Bob Marks and Nathan Rabinovitch in honor of their completion of Masechta Menachot for Daf Yomi 5:20 pm: Maariv / Havdalah 6:00 pm: Mish Mosh Weekday Schedule (Weekday services Sunday through Friday morning take place at DAT School, 6825 E. Alameda Ave.) SHACHARIT Sunday: 8:00 am Monday through Friday: 6:30 am (Chanukah) MINCHA/MAARIV Sunday - Thursday: 4:20 pm Friday: 4:15 pm D var Torah with Rabbi Jonathan Sacks The deception has taken place. Joseph has been sold into slavery. His brothers dipped his coat in blood. They bring it back to their father, saying: Look what we have found. Do you recognise it? Is this your son s robe or not? Jacob recognises it and replies, It is my son s robe. A wild beast has devoured him. Joseph has been torn to pieces. We then read: Jacob rent his clothes, put on sackcloth, and mourned his son for a long time. His sons and daughters tried to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. He said, I will go down to the grave mourning for my son. (Gen. 37:34 35) There are laws in Judaism about the limits of grief shiva, sheloshim, a year. There is no such thing as a bereavement for which grief is endless. The Talmud says that God admonishes one who weeps beyond the appointed time, You are not more compassionate than I. And yet Jacob refuses to be comforted. A Midrash gives a remarkable explanation. One can be comforted for one who is dead, but not for one who is still living, it says. In other words, Jacob refused to be comforted because he had not yet given up hope that Joseph was still alive. That, tragically, is the fate of those who have lost members of their family (the parents of soldiers missing in action, for example), but have as yet no proof that they are dead. They cannot go through the normal stages of mourning because they cannot abandon the possibility that the missing person is still capable of being rescued. Their continuing anguish is a form of loyalty; to give up, to mourn, to be reconciled to loss is a kind of betrayal. In such cases, grief lacks closure. To refuse to be comforted is to refuse to give up hope. Yet on what basis did Jacob continue to hope? Surely he had recognised Joseph s blood-stained coat he said explicitly, A wild beast has devoured him. Joseph has been torn to pieces. Do these words not mean that he had accepted that Joseph was dead? The late David Daube made a suggestion that I find convincing. The words the sons say to Jacob haker na, literally identify please have a quasi-legal connotation. Daube relates this passage to another, with which it has close linguistic parallels: If a man gives a donkey, an ox, a sheep or any other animal to his neighbour for safekeeping and it dies or is injured or is taken away while no one is looking, the issue between them will be settled by the taking of an oath before the Lord that the neighbour did not lay hands on the other person s property If it [the animal] was torn to pieces by a wild animal, he shall bring the remains as evidence and he will not be required to pay for the torn animal. (Exodus 22:10 13) The issue at stake is the extent of responsibility borne by a guardian (shomer). If the animal is lost through negligence, the guardian is at fault and must make good the loss. If there is no negligence, merely force majeure, an unavoidable, unforeseeable accident, the guardian is exempt from blame. One such case is where the loss has been caused by a wild animal. The wording in the law tarof yitaref, torn to pieces exactly parallels Jacob s judgment in the case of Joseph: tarof toraf Yosef, Joseph has been torn to pieces. We know that some such law existed prior to the giving of the Torah. Jacob himself says to Laban, whose flocks and herds had been placed in his charge, I did not bring you animals torn by wild beasts; I bore the loss myself (Gen. 31:39). This implies that guardians even then were exempt from responsibility for the damage caused by wild animals. We also know that an elder brother carried a similar responsibility for the fate of a younger brother placed in his charge, as, for example, when the two were alone together. That is the significance of Cain s denial when confronted by God as to the fate of Abel: Am I my brother s guardian [shomer]? (Gen. 4:9). We now understand a series of nuances in the encounter between Jacob and his sons upon (Continued on Page 3) Learning the DAT Minyan Kitzur Shulchan Aruch: Daily, after Shacharit Daf Yomi Shiur (30 min): after Shacharit on Sun through Fri, and 8:25 am on Shabbat Mishnayot: Daily, between Mincha and Maariv Halacha Chaburah: Sun, 10:00 am 11:00 am Short & Sweet Talmud Class (30 min-never longer): Wed, 9:20 am, DAT Minyan offices at BMH-BJ (men only), on break until 12/12/18 Rabbi Friedman Wed. Night Class: 7:30 pm, on break until 12/12/18 DAT Minyan is a dynamic and friendly Modern Orthodox synagogue for all ages and dedicated to meaningful personal spiritual development, community growth, youth involvement, Torah education, and Religious Zionism. DAT Minyan S. Monaco Pkwy., Denver, CO

2 DAT MINYAN NEWS AND EVENTS Our condolences to Sharon Kaplan and the entire Kaplan family on the passing of her husband, Burton, yesterday afternoon. Baruch Dayan ha Emet. May his memory always be for a blessing. At the time of publication of the Newsletter, services are planned for Sunday, December 2nd, at EDOS, with interment at Rose Hill. We will notify the congregation by once we have exact details. The DAT Minyan invites the women in our community to our first Women s Rosh Chodesh Program next Shabbat, Rosh Chodesh Tevet, December 8th, at 10:00 am at BMH-BJ. We welcome Jodi Basch to lead the program, focusing on honoring women s intuition. Rabbi Friedman is currently on vacation and will be out of the office until the week of December 9th. Please note the time change for the Hashkama Minyan to a 7:50 am start. This change is on a trial basis so please note that there may be additional changes. We are hoping to strengthen our Hashkama Minyan attendance by both men and women, so if you are able participate with us, you would be most welcome! Just in time for Chanukah, you can shop and support the DAT Minyan! Use the link or visit the DAT Minyan website to connect with a variety of online retailers who will offer a discount to you and a payback to our congregation. COMMUNITY ANNOUNCEMENTS Jewish Outreach Initiative invites the community to participate with them in an evening of fun and philanthropy at their Casino Night event, Saturday, December 1st, 7:30 pm at Aish Denver, 9550 E. Belleview Ave. in Greenwood Village Register for this event at Merkaz invites the community to a Chanukah-Get-Together Monday night, December 3rd, at the home of Graeme & Irit Bean, 184 S. Pontiac St., from 8 9PM. Come enjoy Divrei Torah, Singing, Latkes, and Chanukah Spirits! Bais Menachem invites the community to Chanukah Night at the Children's Museum, Motzai Shabbos, December 8, from 6:45-9:00 pm, featuring dinner, latkes, sufganiot, Chanukah crafts, raffles, Museum activities, the Great Big Dreidel Hunt, with the Grand Menorah Lighting at 7:00 pm. Admission is $15 per person/$72 family rate: After Dec. 5, $20 per person. Please visit or call The Denver Academy of Torah presents Off the Derech, a conversation with noted sociologist and researcher Rabbi Mark Trencher, Director of Nishma Research, discussing Understanding the OTD Risk Among Our Youth, Saturday evening, December 15th, 8:00 pm at DAT. Please see the attached flyer on Page 6 of this Newsletter. Sandy s Closet would like to thank the community for their donations and support. We are seeking new or nearly new men's women's and children's clothes. We especially would like to get some designer dresses, handbags and vintage clothing. Most importantly Sandy's Closet could use some volunteers to do pick ups and sort merchandise. For further information, please contact Lola at SAVE-THE-DATE of Wednesday, January 30th, for Jewish Colorado s Jewish Women s Philanthropy Committee s annual CHOICES event at the Denver Marriott Tech Center, 4900 S. Syracuse St. More details coming soon. THANK YOU FOR INSPIRING FUTURE GENERATIONS WITH YOUR GENEROSITY We would like to thank our Legacy Society donors for investing in our future by naming the DAT Minyan with a gift in their will, trust, retirement account or life insurance policy. Our Legacy Society includes: Graeme Bean Myndie Brown Steve and Ellyn Hutt Nathan and Rachel Rabinovitch Harley and Sara Rotbart You can add your name to this list with a legacy gift to the DAT Minyan. To arrange for your gift or for more information about our Legacy Society program, please contact any of the following Committee Members: Rob Allen, Myndie Brown, Sarah Raphaely or Steve Weiser. Please help make our prayer service more meaningful by refraining from talking during the service.

3 DAT MINYAN MEMBER MILESTONES The DAT Minyan wishes to acknowledge the following milestones* of our members in the coming week: Eliana Fishman, Jacob Friedman, Andrea Goldstein, Vivienne Kramer, Bara Loewenthal, Mimi Pomeranz, Roselle Rascoff, Jonathan Rones, Elizabeth Segall, Issy toys Jordon Perlmutter - Sun., 12/2/18 (24 Kislev) Joyce Lightstone - Tue., 12/4/18 (26 Kislev) Aliza Tzipora Fuksbrumer - Tue., 12/4/18 (26 Kislev) *These details were obtained from the DAT Minyan database, which contains information provided by the members when they joined. We apologize for any omissions or errors. For changes, please log on to your account and update the information as needed, or contact the synagogue office at Rabbi Jonathan Sacks (Continued from Page 1) their return without Joseph. Normally they would be held responsible for their younger brother s disappearance. To avoid this, as in the case of later biblical law, they bring the remains as evidence. If those remains show signs of an attack by a wild animal, they must by virtue of the law then operative be held innocent. Their request to Jacob, haker na, must be construed as a legal request, meaning, Examine the evidence. Jacob has no alternative but to do so, and by virtue of what he has seen, to acquit them. A judge, however, may be forced to acquit someone accused of a crime because the evidence is insufficient to justify a conviction, while still retaining lingering private doubts. So Jacob was forced to find his sons innocent, without necessarily trusting what they said. In fact Jacob did not believe it, and his refusal to be comforted shows that he was unconvinced. He continued to hope that Joseph was still alive. That hope was eventually justified: Joseph was still alive, and father and son were ultimately reunited. The refusal to be comforted sounded more than once in Jewish history. The prophet Jeremiah heard it in a later age: This is what the Lord says: A voice is heard in Ramah, Mourning and great weeping, Rachel weeping for her children Refusing to be comforted, Because her children are no more. This is what the Lord says: Restrain your voice from weeping, And your eyes from tears, For your work will be rewarded, says the Lord. They will return from the land of the enemy. So there is hope for your future, declares the Lord, Your children will return to their own land. (Jeremiah 31:15 17) Why was Jeremiah sure that Jews would return? Because they refused to be comforted meaning, they refused to give up hope. So it was during the Babylonian exile, as articulated in one of the most paradigmatic expressions of the refusal to be comforted: By the rivers of Babylon we sat and wept, As we remembered Zion How can we sing the songs of the Lord in a strange land? If I forget you, O Jerusalem, May my right hand forget [its skill], May my tongue cling to the roof of my mouth If I do not remember you, If I do not consider Jerusalem above my highest joy. (Psalms 137:1 6) It is said that Napoleon, passing a synagogue on the fast day of Tisha B Av, heard the sounds of lamentation. What are the Jews crying for? he asked one of his officers. For Jerusalem, the soldier replied. How long ago did they lose it? More than 1,700 hundred years. A people who can mourn for Jerusalem so long, will one day have it restored to them, the Emperor is reputed to have replied. Jews are the people who refused to be comforted because they never gave up hope. Jacob did eventually see Joseph again. Rachel s children did return to the land. Jerusalem is once again the Jewish home. All the evidence may suggest otherwise: it may seem to signify irretrievable loss, a decree of history that cannot be overturned, a fate that must be accepted. Jews never believed the evidence because they had something else to set against it a faith, a trust, an unbreakable hope that proved stronger than historical inevitability. It is not too much to say that Jewish survival was sustained in that hope. And that hope came from a simple or perhaps not so simple phrase in the life of Jacob. He refused to be comforted. And so while we live in a world still scarred by violence, poverty and injustice must we. Shabbat shalom. Please help make our prayer service more meaningful by refraining from talking during the service.

4 YOUTH ANNOUNCEMENTS All teens are invited to join us for our new weekly program, Morning Motivation, 10:30 am in the Library, each Shabbat other than Shabbat Mevarchim, when we will have our monthly Teen Minyan We welcome all children through 6th grade to join our Junior Congregation Program. ALL youth groups meet at 9:00 am. If you or someone you know (college age and above) is interested in working in the Youth Groups Program, please contact Mor at Refuah Shelayma Please include the following names in your prayers. May each be granted a Refuah Shelayma. Names are kept on the list until the next Rosh Chodesh. Help us keep the list accurate by verifying the necessary details each month on the Cholim Document at Avram ben Golda Simma Bella bat Malka Carmel ben Tirtza Chaim Shmuel ben Miriam Chaim Tuvia ben Dina Chana Yetta bat Bryna Channa bat Henny Rus Chaya Chanah Elisheva Rivka bat Sarah Chaya Elana bat Elisheva Chaya Miriam bat Shoshana Chaya Orah bat Sarah Devorah Leah bat Chanah Doniel ben Chana Eliezer ben Sarah Eliezer Shmuel ben Chana Yetta Elisheva bat Sarah Eliyahu Chaim ha Cohen ben Sara Rifka Eliyahu Dovid ben Ita Sheiva Ephraim ben Henna Esti bat Sara Faige bat Sarah Gavriel Yehoram ben Leah Cecil Geula bat Chana Guy Chaim ben Rita Hadassah bat Fruma Rahel Ilana Dintza bat Ita Mirrel Ita Sheiva bas Udyah Itzchak ben Tova Leah Kalia bat Miriam Leah Devora Kivitiya bat Chaya Levick Yitzchak ben Bracha Leya bat Sara Liora Shifra bas Bina Malka bat Sarah Mascha bat Rus Mayer Benya ben Nechama Mendel Ila ben Frida Miriam Michel ben Leah Michoel Zisel ben Barbara Mikimia bat Pesha Baila Miriam Tova Chaya bat Chanah Nachson Meir ben Temina Chaya Sarah Shlomit Nataniel ben Elisheva Pinchas ben Beula Batya Rivka bat Penina Roshka bat Bryna Ruth bat Yisraela Sara Chana bat Shaina Sarah Shoshanna bat Sarah Shabtai ben Sarah Shashi bat Batya Baila Shemuel ben Miriam Shifra Hadassah bat Chaya Leah Shoshanna Miriam bat Chanah Tirtza bat Sarah Tomas ben Galit Tova bat Nechama Yasmine bat Miriam Yehuda Mordechai Shrage ben Roiza Feige Yisroel Yaakov Moshe ben Sarah Yochanan ben Sarah Yona Malka bat Pola Yonatan Zeev ben Netaa Yosef ben Bruria Katrina Yosef ben Malka Machla Yosef Elimelech ben Yehudit Yosef Shabtai ben Amalia Please help make our prayer service more meaningful by refraining from talking during the service.

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