Leadership + PMA = Success

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1 Leadership + PMA = Success Joshua Szarek July 23, 2016 Some people walk in the rain, while others just get wet Roger Miller

2 Who is Joshua? 2

3 Why are we here? Leadership + PMA = Success? - What is Leadership? - What is PMA? Why can PMA separate good leaders from GREAT leaders? What can you do TODAY to be different and increase success? - Yourself - Teams - Projects 3

4 What is Leadership? Process of influencing others to accomplish a mission or task by providing purpose, motivation and direction U.S. Army Process of social influence in which one person can enlist the aid and support of others in the accomplishment of a common task Wikipedia Who are Leaders? What are their Traits? 4

5 Golden Rule vs Platinum Rule Golden Rule Do unto others as they would do unto you Treat others as you would like to be treated Platinum Rule Do unto others as they would do unto themselves Treat others as they would like to be treated 5

6 Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Not a test - No right or wrong answers 16 possible types/combos Each has strengths/weakness - No type is better than others Benefits of knowing your/others type - Understand others - Recognize behaviors - Better communicate - Manage people - Appreciate individuals 6

7 Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Exercise 7

8 Myers-Briggs Score Sheet 8

9 Tuckman's Group Development Model Forming Storming Norming Performing Adjourning 9

10 3 Pillars Leadership Education Communication 10

11 What is PMA? Positive Mental Attitude One s ability to maintain belief that he/she can transform or change tough situation into something better Why can PMA separate good leaders from GREAT leaders? 11

12 Group Exercise Stand-up and stretch J Revisit exercise later in presentation 12

13 Where was it Derived? As old as Free Will Introduced in 1937 by Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich - Book never uses term, but develops importance of positive thinking as principle to success The right mental attitude...comprised of the 'plus' characteristics symbolized by such words as - faith - integrity - hope - optimism - courage - initiative - generosity - tolerance - happiness - kindliness - common sense 13

14 What does it Mean? 1. Philosophy of optimistic disposition in every situation in one's life attracts positive changes and increases achievement 2. Employs state of mind that continues to seek, find and execute ways to win, or find a desirable outcome, regardless of the circumstances 3. It opposes negativity, defeatism and hopelessness 4. Developed by constant reinforcement of one s goals, positive values and beliefs 5. Optimism and hope are vital to the development of PMA 14

15 Who Relevant and When Used? EVERYONE ALWAYS Stand-Up Exercise Story about Mom What is your story? 15

16 What are the Myths about PMA? - Myth #1: Negative thinking is more realistic Heard negative person say not negative, just realistic? Thoughts (positive/negative) effect our environment - Negative thinking o Mind automatically seek out confirmation the world is terrible place o Seeing is believing and mind reinforces belief that reality is negative o Downward spiral o Expect negative results, less likely to take risks and try new things o Negative thinking masks impressions in fear - Positive thinking works the same way o Seek out positive choices and expect positive results o Move past fear and try things that others may believe can t be done o Typically end in positive results Person s thinking helps determine their reality - Negative thinking is realistic for negative thinker - Positive thinking also sees reality, just in different light - Both see own reality 16

17 What are the Myths about PMA? - Myth #2: Positive thinkers expect money bags to fall from sky Negative thinkers imagine positive thinkers expect desire will manifest itself if simply think positively about it - This couldn t be further from the truth Everyone who accomplishes anything does it the same way - Can-Do mindset - Believe attainable - Take action 17

18 What are the Myths about PMA? - Myth #3: Positive thinking doesn t change reality Believe positive thinking only ignores the reality/problem - Helps you see the problem in a new light - Don t even see problems as problems PMA changes reality by allowing person act differently - Harvesting different results PMA creates mindset of abundance, enthusiasm and solutions - Free to think of new ways to solve problems b/c not limited by fear of failure - Realize this principle and shift thinking habits, miracles start popping up in life Successful men become successful only because they acquire the habit of thinking in terms of success. - Napoleon Hill 18

19 What are the Myths about PMA? - Myth #4: Positive thinkers have no clue about the real world Positive people have perfect lives with no real world hardships - Not so positive if endured difficult times Don t know positive person who hasn t had real/serious trials - Faced disappointment, death of loved ones, physical handicap, and etc - Difference is didn t let experiences change outlook - PMA means control of own thoughts/feelings Responsibilities = our abilities to control our responses. - Steven Covey 19

20 What are the Myths about PMA? - Myth #5: Positive thinkers are annoying/cheesy Positive people are annoying/cheesy - Spout platitudes and expect perfection - Not Tony Robbins infomercials - Healthy thinking - Smart living Don t expect perfection, expect event best thing could have happened - Only event that happened - Moment has past - Cannot change the moment, so accept - Move to next moment External circumstances seem out of control, can always control our internal response 20

21 PMA Game Successes/Failures - Can you name 1. Person who was defeated seven times while running for political office? 2. Cartoonist who was told by the editor of the Kansas City newspaper, It s easy to see from these sketches that you have no talent. 3. Author whose first children s book was rejected by 23 different publishers? 4. Singer who was fired after his first performance at the Grand Ole Opry? 5. Actress who dropped out of high school and held a variety of odd jobs, including doing the hair and make-up for corpses, before finally succeeding in show business? 6. Author who lived on welfare for years in an apartment infested with mice? 7. Athlete who was cut from the varsity basketball team his sophomore year in high school? 8. Inventor who was thrown out of school in the early grades because his teachers thought he couldn t learn? 9. Local Harvard University drop out? 10. Inventor of a fried chicken recipe that was rejected by more than 1000 restaurant owners? 21

22 PMA Game Successes/Failures - Can you name (Answers) 1. Abraham Lincoln was defeated in eight different elections. Yet he persisted and succeeded in becoming the 16th, and one of the most respected, presidents of the United States. 2. Walt Disney was told he had no talent and fired from a newspaper job. He wound up doing volunteer work for a church in an old run down garage. One day he decided to sketch one of the many mice that were running through the garage. This mouse became the famous Mickey Mouse. 3. Twenty-three different publishers rejected Dr. Seuss s first book, while the 24th accepted and sold 6 million copies of it. 4. Elvis Presley was fired after his first performance at the Grand Ole Opry. The manager told him, You ain t going nowhere, son. You ought to go back to driving a truck. He went on to become one of the most famous American singers of the 20th century. 5. Whoopi Goldberg dropped out of high school, was on welfare and worked as a bricklayer, bank teller, and licensed cosmetician. After graduating from Beauty College, she took a job at a mortuary fixing the hair of and applying make-up to the corpses. 22

23 PMA Game Successes/Failures - Can you name (Answers) 6. J.K. Rowling, author of the Harry Potter series, lived on welfare for years, in an apartment infested with mice, and was rejected by 12 publishers before going on to fame and fortune. 7. Michael Jordan was the athlete who was cut from the varsity basketball team in his sophomore year. Angry and embarrassed, he began to get up early each morning to practice with the junior varsity coach. Michael Jordan is quoted as saying, I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. 8. Thomas Edison was the inventor who was kicked out of school. It took him over 700 tries before he got the filament right for the light bulb. Edison is quoted as saying: I have not failed seven hundred times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those seven hundred ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work. 9. Mark Zuckerberg dropped out of Harvard University. He went onto become the youngest millionaire (at the age of 26) and is the CEO of Facebook. 10.Harland David Sanders (better known as Colonel Sanders) had his fried chicken recipe rejected by more than 1,000 restaurant owners before it was accepted by one. Today, people still eat it at KFCs across the world. 23

24 PMA Games Life Equations - Can you guess What makes your life 100% - Joshua - Skills - Knowledge - Hard Work - Attitude Each letter of the alphabet is given a numerical value 24

25 PMA Games Life Equations - Can you guess (Answers) 25

26 What do TODAY to be different and increase success? (You/Team/Project) 1. Live for yourself qwhen you constantly try to be the person others want you to be, you cheat yourself out of individuality and your own dreams qtake a long hard look at what you want out of life and plan your daily routine to include at least one or two elements that bring your goals closer 2. Understand can't control outside circumstances; can control your reaction to them qbuild the habit of using positive language q Avoid words like 'always', 'never', 'can t', 'won t' and even 'why' q Say 'I choose' or 'I want', instead of 'I need' or 'I should' and notice the difference qsurround yourself with positive people q People who have a positive influence in your life q People who speak the truth and support you q Disassociate with negative people who impede your progress 26

27 What do TODAY to be different and increase success? (You/Team/Project) 3. Leave your work at the office (mentally J) qstep outside after trying day's work, tell yourself that have all day tomorrow to deal with the problems and mentally switch gears by thinking something positive 4. Slow down qwhen constantly pressed to finish tasks, you can develop a negative attitude towards life qif time is a commodity, figure out how you can schedule your chores more efficiently qjust by rising 15 minutes earlier each day q Go for a walk q Stop for coffee q Meditate 27

28 What do TODAY to be different and increase success? (You/Team/Project) 5. Learn something new every day qencourage positive attitude by something new in your life qas a child, your curiosity led you to explore and learn qrecapture that feeling q Starting yoga practice q Taking a night class q Studying a new language q Or anything else that interests you 6. Make list of positive aspects in life and include achievements qmake detailed list of everything that do well or at least that is not negative qread the list when you need a mental boost 28

29 What do TODAY to be different and increase success? (You/Team/Project)) 7. Help others qextend helping hand to those in need makes you feel needed/worthwhile qmake it a habit to volunteer for charitable organizations 8. It all starts with attitude 29

30 Questions? Contact Info Cell LinkedIn joshuaszarek FB Joshua Szarek Website: joshuaszarek.com Podcast is coming! 30

31 References 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership John C. Maxwell Good to Great Jim Collins How to Win Friends and Influence People Dale Carnegie 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Stephen Covey Band of Brothers Stephen Ambrose FM 7-8 Army Field Manual Little Engine that Could Watty Piper Life J 31

32 Handouts Leadership + PMA = Success PPT Deck Myers-Briggs Material - Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Questionnaire - Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Score Sheet - Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Workbook 32