CHAPTER 3: RECLAIMING KIBOSH KILL AMBITION
CHAPTER 4: LEAD YOURSELF
CHAPTER 5: CHOOSE POSITIVITY UP YOUR VIEW TRUST in God HOPE in the Future OUT ENERGY in Your Attitude CHOOSE POSITIVITY HUMILITY Toward Your Authority UNITY with Your Associates HEAD HEART HANDS
NOTES Chapter 1: The Oddity of Leadership 1. Sinek, Simon. Why Good Leaders Make You Feel Safe. https://www.ted.com/talks/simon_sinek_why_good_leaders _make_you_feel_safe. 2. Collins, Jim. Good to Great. FastCompany.com, https://www.fastcompany.com/43811/good-great. 3. Tabrizi, Benham. The Key to Change is Middle Management. Harvard Business Review. https://hbr.org/2014/10/ the-key-to-change-is-middle-management. Chapter 2: Identity Crisis 1. Zucker, Jerry. First Knight. DVD. Los Angeles: Columbia Pictures, 1995. 2. Morel, Pierre. Taken. DVD. Los Angeles: 20th Century Fox, 2008. Chapter 3: Reclaim Kibosh 1. Seinfeld. The Opera. Episode 49. Directed by Tom Cherones. Written by Larry Charles. NBC, November 4, 1992. 2. In Jewish hermeneutics, there are four basic interpretive categories: literal (peshat), philosophical (remez), inferred (derash), and mystical (sod). The first letter of each one of those Hebrew words is used to create the acronym PRDS, more commonly referred to and pronounced by my Rabbi friends as pardes. This is still used as the framework for Jewish exegesis and interpretative study of the Torah. A Jewish Rabbi would consider this connection between kabash and kibosh to be a remez, not a peshat. It s philosophical, not literal. Even though we cannot find
a literal connection between kabash and kibosh, it s accurate to say that these two words make the exact sound, yet have two distinct and contrary definitions. To use the wordplay to make a point is a normal and acceptable form of Jewish hermeneutics. To the Hebrew people, the word, kabash, must have meant something beautiful. Today, when someone uses that same sound, kibosh, they mean something completely different. No one knows how we got here, but no one can deny the distortion of where we are. Chapter 4: Lead Yourself 1. Ballard, Glenn and Siedah Garrett. Man in the Mirror. Los Angeles: Epic Records, 1988. 2. Maxwell, John. Leadership Handbook: 26 Critical Lessons Every Leader Needs (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2015), 17. 3. Watkins, Michael D. The First 90 Days: Proven Strategies for Getting Up to Speed Faster and Smarter (Boston: Harvard Business Review Press, 2013), 20. 4. Collins, Jim. How the Mighty Fall: And Why Some Companies Never Give In (New York: HarperCollins, 2011), 4. 5. Patterson, Kerry, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillian, and Al Switzler. Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When the Stakes are High (New York: McGraw-Hill, 2002). 6. Stone, Douglas, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most (London: Penguin Books, 2010). Chapter 5: Choose Positivity 1. Covey, Stephen, R. Seven Habits of Highly Successful People (Free Press: New York, 1989), 28. 2. Ibid, 17. 3. Dale Carnegie Training. What Drives Employee Engagement and Why It Matters, p. 6. https://www.dalecarnegie.com/ assets/1/7/driveengagement_101612_wp.pdf. 4. Ibid.
5. Lencioni, Patrick. The Advantage: Why Organizational Health Trumps Everything Else in Business (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2012), 47. 6. Camalier, Greg. Muscle Shoals. Netflix. Dallas: Magnolia Films, 2013. Chapter 6: Think Critically 1. Cowherd, Colin, You Herd Me: I ll Say It If Nobody Else Will (London: Penguin Press, 2013), 28. 2. http://www.usatoday.com/story/gameon/2012/10/24/ rodgers-professor-never-succeed/1654723/. 3. McChesney, Chris, Sean Covey, and Jim Huling. The 4 Disciplines of Execution: Achieving Your Wildly Important Goals (New York: Free Press, 2012), 30. 4. http://www1.hansgrohe.com/assets/at de/1404_hansgrohe _Select_ConsumerSurvey_EN.pdf. 5. Walvoord, John F. and Roy B. Zuck. The Bible Knowledge Commentary. Logos Bible Software (Colorado Springs: David C. Cook, 2002). Chapter 7: Reject Passivity 1. Hylton, Jeremy. The Merry Wives of Windsor. Tech.MIT.edu. http://shakespeare.mit.edu/merry_wives/merry_wives.2.2.html. 2. Turner, Bonnie, Terry Turner, and Fred Wolf. Tommy Boy. DVD. Directed by Peter Segal. Los Angeles: Paramount Pictures, 1995. Chapter 8: Challenging Up 1. Kouzes, James M. and Barry Z. Posner. The Leadership Challenge, 3rd ed. (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2003), 180. 2. Associated Press. Brewers Jonathan Lucroy Rejects Trade to the Indians. New York Times. July 31, 2016. https://mobile.nytimes.com/2016/08/01/sports/baseball/milwaukee-brewers-jonathan -lucroy-cleveland-indians.html.
3. Seinfeld. The Strongbox. Episode 170. Directed by Andy Ackerman. Written by Dan O Keefe and Billy Kimball. NBC, February 5, 1998. 4. Barra, Alan. How Curt Flood Changed Baseball and Killed His Career in the Process. The Atlantic. July 12, 2011. https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2011/07/how-curt-flood -changed-baseball-and-killed-his-career-in-the-process/241783/. 5. Kouzes, James M. and Barry Z. Posner. The Leadership Challenge, 4th ed (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2008), 48. 6. Widener, Chris. Leadership Rules: How to Become the Leader You Want to Be (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2010), 156. Chapter 9: Breaking Down Challenging Up 1. Cuddy, Amy. Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are. YouTube, October 1, 2012. https://www.youtube.com/ watch?v=ks-_mh1qhmc. 2. Buckingham, Marcus. The One Thing You Need to Know. (New York: Free Press, 2005), 22. 3. Quote of the Day. http://www.qotd.org/search/single.html?qid=2016. 4. AZ Quotes. http://www.azquotes.com/quote/223506. 5. Adams, Scott. How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life (New York: Portfolio Publishing, 2013), 230. 6. Kouzes, James M. and Barry Z. Posner. The Leadership Challenge, 3rd ed (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2003), 184. 7. Sinek, Simon. Start with Why. YouTube, September 29, 2013. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=siozd3axmne. Chapter 10: Your Next Chapter Starts Today 1. Ramsey, Dave. EntreLeadership: 20 Years of Practical Business Wisdom from the Trenches (New York: Howard Books, 2011), 15. 2. Snyder, Benjamin. Half of us Quit our Job Because of a Bad Boss. Fortune. http://fortune.com/2015/04/02/quit-reasons/.