Master Plan Ministries Leadership Development Workbook A resource for preparing others to reach and influence the world for Christ!

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1 Master Plan Ministries Leadership Development Workbook A resource for preparing others to reach and influence the world for Christ! Leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality. - Warren Bennis Mt.28: Then Jesus came to them and said, "All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age."

2 A Call to Leadership So you want to be a leader? Great! You have chosen something great and begun a journey that few ever will. Our hope is that this packet will help you grow into the leader God has called you to be, someone who follows Him, influencing many others to follow Him as well, bearing eternal fruit to the glory of God. The Apostle Paul writes, in 1 Tim. 3:1, If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer, he desires a noble task. J. Oswald Saunders writes in Spiritual Leadership that when Paul said this, his own life was in danger and he, along with most Christian leaders of the time went on to face violent persecution and martyrʼs deaths. The call to leadership is not a call to position, authority or respect; it is a call to sacrifice. It is a call to serving Christ and others first and foremost (Mt.20:25-28). A decision to lead in Godʼs kingdom is not one to be noticed or revered, it is one to lay down everything, willing to go un-noticed for His sake. If youʼre willing for that level of sacrifice, you have chosen a noble task. In addition to serving and sacrifice, leadership is a commitment to setting the pace, living as an example, doing the hard things no one else wants to do, starting sooner, going stronger and staying longer than the rest. You might easily be tempted to give up thinking you donʼt have what it takes. 2 Cor.3:4-6 reminds us that we are not competent for ministry on our own, but promises that we can be confident knowing that God makes us competent for ministry. He will grow you into the leader He has already foreseen! With that in mind, please evaluate your motives. Col.3:23 tells us Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men. As a leader, all you do should be done for God first, regardless of the consequences, even when that will result in being disliked, gossiped about and maligned by others. Leadership is all about serving and sacrifice but it is also full of reward. Jesus promises in Lk.18:29-30, that any sacrifice you make will be rewarded many times over. You must count the cost. If you are interested in leading because of how it will make you look or the opportunities you think it will open up, donʼt go any further. If you desire to live a life of sacrifice as an act of worship to God (Rom.12:1), youʼre off to a good start. Our hope is that this is the beginning of a long and blessed life of serving Christ, fulfilling His Great Commission and multiplying spiritual multipliers till the day you die. We hope you never stop making a difference for Him. Jesus tells us, in Lk.9:62 - "No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God." Never look back! We encourage you to bloom where youʼre planted. Commitment over time is the soil for good growth. Bouncing around, church hopping and searching for greener pastures will prevent you from growing into the leader God made you to be. We hope this packet gives you a strong foundation and rails to run on as you begin this adventure. Many sources have contributed to this resource. We have referenced some of those throughout the packet and there are many more as well. We want to encourage you to apply what you learn and prepare to go through this with someone else when youʼre done with it. Congratulations on choosing to go where few will. We pray this will be a solid foundation for a life that will continue impacting eternity till Christ returns!!! 2

3 A Great Daily Calibration Statement Stating this on a daily basis keeps my perspective and vision in life, ministry and leadership on track. I hope it encourages you! Jesus, revive me with your truth, repair me with Your love, refresh me with Yourself, remind me of Your goodness, replenish me with Your provision and ready me to do Your will. I love you more today than ever before. I need you now more than ever and I will joyfully lose and find myself in You today, enjoying You and Your peace, putting everything on the line, storing up treasure in heaven, not here and taking risks for you, sharing the Good News and making disciples. I will live today for You, Your glory and Your kingdom alone and I will do whatever it takes, trusting you to make today significant for eternity. I will take a stand of integrity for you today, clothed in your armor, running to the fight and fighting this fight to win it, by faith and in your Holy Spiritʼs power. I love you Jesus! 3

4 What Youʼll Cover in the MPM Leadership Discipleship Packet We encourage you to read The Master Plan of Evangelism by Robert E. Coleman along with this packet! 1. Your 1st Leadership Priority - Page 5. Book: My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers 2. Character, Integrity and Leadership - Page 11. Book: The Leadership Secrets of Billy Graham by Harold Myra and Marshall Shelley 3. A Leadership Overview - Page 16. Book: 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John Maxwell 4. The Measure of a Leader - Page 22. Book: Foxeʼs Book of Martyrs by John Foxe 5. Breaking Through Personal & Leadership Lids - Page 27. Book: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey 6. The Leadersʼ Balanced Life - Page 33. Book: Ordering Your Private World by Gordon MacDonald 7. Boundaries in Life and Leadership - Page 41. Book: Changes that Heal by Cloud and Townsend 8. Leading with Courage and Confidence Instead of Fear and Insecurity - Page 48. Book: Spiritual Leadership by J. Oswald Sanders 9. Leading According to Godʼs Will & Your Life Purpose - Page 54. Book: The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren 10.Leading with Your Spiritual Gifts - Page 61. Book: What you do best in the Body of Christ by Bruce Bugbee. 11.Effective Leadership Communication - Page 69. Book: Getting to Yes by Fisher & Ury 12.Leading Individuals, Teams and Events - Page 77. Book: The 17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork by John Maxwell 13.Leaders Stand Strong on Truth - Page 84. Book: The Invisible War by Chip Ingram 14.Leaders Multiply Forward with Vision - Page 94. Book: The Fuel and the Flame by Steve Shadrach Appendix of resources - page 111. The MPM discipleship packet is a prerequisite to this one, please begin this based on that foundation. This is designed to be gone through first, little by little each day, one chapter each week, on your own and then talked through afterwards with whoever is discipling you. Do all the activities and write out any additional notes that come to mind in the notes sections. Prioritize memorizing each weekʼs memory verse. If you have time, try reading through that weekʼs suggested book (most of the books we suggest are available on Audible so you can listen to them instead if that is easier or quicker). Get ready for an amazing time of growth! You will soon learn more about leadership than many will in a lifetime! Ask God to guide you as you begin this incredible time of growth. 4

5 Week 1: Your First Leadership Priority. Book suggestion: My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers Leadership Profile - Mary: Read Lk.10: Mary and Martha were friends of Jesusʼ. Martha was distracted by all that needed to be done. Mary was committed to the one thing that was needed. Read more about Maryʼs extravagant love for Jesus in Jn. 12:1-8. Are you more of a Mary or a Martha in ministry? Do you let ministry, or anything else for that matter, distract you from the one thing that is needed? What is the one thing that is needed? Is that the case even in ministry? This weekʼs memory verse (get each weekʼs verse on a notecard in the back of the packet): Jn.15:5 - I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. The greatest ministry activity you can do is to connect with Jesus. 19th century missionary Henry Martyn said, The Spirit of Christ is the Spirit of missions. The nearer we get to Christ, the more missionary we become. Remember Mk.1:35. How can you follow Jesusʼ challenge to His disciples as they served (Mk.6:30-31)? What else compares with that (Phil.3:7-9)? As you serve God, He will be your inheritance and reward, just like He was for the Levites, his servants in the Old Testament (Dt.10:9). How can you keep that perspective as you lead? How can you let Him build rather than working in vain (Ps.127:1); what does Jesus mean by, only one thing is needed? Leadership is a blessing, be thankful youʼre called! God does not need you! It is imperative that you understand that and serve from a perspective of gratitude. What can you learn from John the Baptist s attitude about serving Jesus in Mt.3:11, Mk.1:7, Lk.3:16, Jn.1:27, Acts 13:25? What can you learn from Peter and the apostles attitudes about serving Jesus in Acts 5:41? What can you learn from Paul s attitude about serving Jesus in Eph.3:7-8 and what attitude should you have about being Christʼs co-laborer (1 Cor.3:9)? 5

6 In My Utmost for His Highest, Oswald Chambers writes this about 1 Cor. 3:9: Beware of any work for God which enables you to evade concentration on Him. A great many Christian workers worship their work. The one concern of a worker should be concentration on God, and this will mean that all other margins of life, mental, moral and spiritual, are free with the freedom of a child, a worshipping child, not a wayward child. A worker without this solemn, dominant note of concentration on God is apt to get his work on his neck; there is no margin of body, mind or spirit free, consequently he becomes spent out and crushed. There is no freedom, no delight in life; nerves, mind and heart are so crushingly burdened that God s blessing cannot rest. But the other side is just as true - when once the concentration is on God, all the margins of life are free and under the dominance of God alone. There is no responsibility on you for the work; the only responsibility you have is to keep in living constant touch with God, and to see that you allow nothing to hinder your cooperation with Him. The freedom after sanctification is the freedom of a child, the things that used to keep life pinned down are gone. But, be careful to remember that you are freed for one thing only - to be absolutely devoted to your co-worker. We have no right to judge where we should be put, or to have preconceived notions as to what God is fitting us for. God engineers everything; wherever He puts us, our one great aim, is to pour out a whole hearted devotion to Him in that particular work. Remember Col.3:23. Practical ways to make God your priority in ministry: Serve in the power of His Holy Spirit. Never do ministry in your own strength! Make sure Christ is on the throne. Follow the ABCDʼS of being filled with the Spirit (Eph.5:18): Ask Him to fill you with His Holy Spirit (Read Luke 11:13 and 1 John 5:14-15). Believe He fills you and claim it by faith alone (Read James 1:6-7). Confess all known sin (Remember 1 John 1:9). Desire to have Christʼs control in your life (Read Matthew 5:6 and Ps.37:4). Surrender control to Christ (Read Romans 12:1-2). Serve according to the truth of His Word. Itʼs been said that you only respect God as much as you respect His Word. Godly leaders serve with an authority that only comes from time spent in the Word. Read Godʼs Word (Mt.4:4). Study Godʼs Word (Ps.119:130). Memorize Godʼs Word (Ps.119:11). 6

7 Meditate on Godʼs Word (Ps.1:2-3). Apply Godʼs Word (James 1:22). Serve from a foundation of fervent prayer. Itʼs been said that prayer is not a part of ministry, it is the foundation for it. A godly leader leads out of an active prayer life! In Bill Hybleʼs words, youʼre too busy not to pray. Donʼt sin against God by failing to pray for those you lead (1 Sam 12:23)! Commit to personal and corporate prayer. Follow Jesusʼ example (Lk.5:16, 6:12). Follow Jesusʼ format (Mt.6:5-13). Remember the ACTS acronym: Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, Supplication. Pray directed by the Holy Spirit (Eph.6:18). Be faithful in prayer (Rom.12:12). Earnestly seek Him in prayer continually (1 Thes. 5:17). Pray and fast as well (Is. 58). Challenge: Pick a day next week to fast. Serve in a context of committed fellowship. No leader can accomplish anything significant alone. As you fellowship with other believers, the Body of Christ, youʼre fellowshipping with Him as well. Be committed to fellowship (Heb.10:24-25) & submitted to godly authority (Heb.13:17). As you serve God, He will sustain you and keep you from burnout. Just like God refreshed a ministry weary Elijah with heavenly bread and water, empowering him for continued work (1 Kings 19:1-8), so too, He will refresh you with Himself, living bread and water empowering you for ministry as you spend intimate time with Him (Jn.6:35, 7:37-39). Remember Jer.30:21, Ps.119:10 and Is.40:31. Your first ministry priority is your fellowship with Jesus. Donʼt ever try to lead in your own strength, talent or abilities. You must lead out of a close walk with God. You canʼt give others what you donʼt have yourself. If you want to lead for God, you must first be close to Him. Until you love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength (Mk. 12:30) you wonʼt be able to love others as yourself (Mk.12:31), leading them as God has called you to. How will loving God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength effect your ministry? Leading with the Fruit of the Spirit: Leaders must lead with a positive attitude. No one wants to follow a grump! Fortunately, you have the solution to this leadership fundamental. As you walk intimately with Jesus, filled with His Spirit by faith, youʼll be 7

8 overflowing with the fruit of the Spirit (Jn.7:37-39 and Gal.5:22-23). As you walk by faith, He will live His life through you (Gal.2:20) and that is a life anyone would want to follow. The growth of this fruit comes from your intimacy with Him (Jn.15:1-17). Evaluate the fruit of the Spirit in your life right now. How can you better lead with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control? Closing example: Moses left 2 million Israelites who he was leading to spend 40 days alone with God (Ex.19:3). God dictates the next 13 chapters of Exodus to Him. Upon returning he finds them worshipping a golden calf and they were so out of control even their enemies were laughing at them. Moses punishes them and then does what seems to be the opposite of what any rational leader would do: he leaves them again, returning to seek God for another 40 days (Ex. 32:31, 34:28-30)! Moses knew his first leadership priority was His fellowship with God and he relied on Godʼs power to lead. No godly leader will do differently. Augustine summarized this weekʼs notes well saying, Almighty God, you have made us for yourself, and our hearts are restless till they find their rest in you; so lead us by your Spirit that in this life we may live to your glory and in the life to come enjoy you for ever. As the Westminster Catechism states, Man's chief end is to glorify God, and to enjoy him forever. Most leaders will tell you leading can and will be lonely (youʼll often feel your standing and fighting alone). You must cling to Jesus and be satisfied by Him alone if youʼre ever going to experience joy and fruitfulness in ministry. His joy is your strength (Neh.8:10). In closing, spend some quality time with Him, meditating on Ps. 23:1-6, 27:8, 46:10, 63:1-8 and 84:10. 8

9 Application Make sure Christ is on the throne and be filled with the Spirit before you go any further! If you havenʼt yet, schedule a daily time with God (preferably in the morning). If you donʼt already have a journal, buy one today and begin writing in it as you read, study, meditate on, memorize and apply Godʼs Word. Also keep a list of prayer needs and answers in your journal. Finally, make a prayer list so youʼll be able to remember those God has entrusted to you to pray for (2 Tim.1:3). Adoration: Begin your prayer list with descriptions of Godʼs character. Confession: Make time to confess any known sin (1Jn.1:9). Thanksgiving: List what you thank God for. Supplication: Write out prayer requests and needs. Personal needs: Friends, family and people youʼre serving with: Your top 10 list of friends youʼre trusting God to save: Close with any other prayer needs or issues: Remember, a prayer list is just a tool to help you not forget! Seek God relationally and fervently in prayer as you use this tool. 9

10 Notes on Your First Leadership Priority: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for this week concerning this weekʼs notes (note: weʼre not sure who came up with this acronym but it is great) How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? List any last thoughts and then put everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 10

11 Week 2: Character, Integrity and Leadership Book suggestion: The Leadership Secrets of Billy Graham by Harold Myra and Marshall Shelley Leadership Profile - David: David had been anointed to become king of Israel (1 Sam. 16:13) but was placed in the kingʼs city, palace & service (which eventually led to him becoming king) because of a seemingly irrelevant talent, playing the harp (1 Sam. 16:21). God used Davidʼs harp playing to open doors for him. He had been faithful with the little things of music and shepherding before God made him faithful with the bigger thing of leading His people. You donʼt need to open your own doors but rather be faithful with what God has given you allowing Him to open doors for you. A leader must prove faithful before being placed in a position of leadership. Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: 1 Cor.4:2 - Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful. Leaders must first pass the test, and then go on to lead! Leaders who arenʼt ready to lead will hurt themselves and others. What do 1 Tim.3:6, 1 Tim.3:10 & 1 Cor.4:2 mean as far as leadership is concerned? Below are character and integrity issues that scripture says are foundational for leadership. Check each box you feel comfortable with and begin praying for God to develop each other area in your life, enabling you to be the leader He called you to be. I have correct motives (1 Peter 5:1-4, 1 Thes. 2:2-12). I am sincere (1 Tim.3:1-13). I humbly work for the Lord and His approval only (Col.3:23, 1 Thes. 2:2-12). I love what is good & have godly desires (Titus 1:8). I lead by example, watching my conduct closely (1 Tim.4:12-16, 1 Peter 5:1-4). I am faithful with whatever is entrusted to me (1 Cor.4:2). I encourage those around me (1 Thes. 2:2-12, Titus 1:9). I comfort those who need it (1 Thes. 2:2-12). I challenge those I lead to live lives worthy of God (1 Thes. 2:2-12). I serve and put others first (Mt.20:25-28, 1 Peter 5:1-4) I live above reproach (1 Tim.3:1-13). I walk in integrity, purity, holiness, righteousness and blamelessness (1 Thes. 2:2-12, 1 Tim.4:12-16, Titus 1:6). I am temperate and balanced (1 Tim.3:1-13). I am self controlled (1 Tim.3:1-13, Titus 1:8). I am respectable and respected (1 Tim.3:1-13). I am hospitable (1 Tim.3:1-13, Titus 1:8). I am able to teach and train (1 Tim.3:1-13, 4:12-16, 2 Tim.3:16-17, Titus 1:9). 11

12 I am able to rebuke, correct and refute those who oppose truth (2 Tim.3:16-17, Titus 1:9). I manage my private life and family well (1 Tim.3:1-13, Titus 1:6). I am doctrinally sound, correctly handle Godʼs Word & hold firmly to it (1 Tim. 3:1-13, 4:12-16, 2 Tim.2:15, Titus 1:9). I have a clear conscience (1 Tim.3:1-13). I guard my tongue (1 Tim.4:12-16). I am gentle (1 Tim.3:1-13, 1 Thes. 2:2-12). I love unconditionally (1 Tim.4:12-16, 1 Thes. 2:2-12). I invest everything I have & my very life in those I lead (1 Thes. 2:2-12). I walk by faith (1 Tim.4:12-16). I preach the Good News & share my faith (1 Tim.4:12-16). I disciple younger believers (2 Tim. 2:2, Col.1:28-29). I am diligent & wholly devoted to my call (1 Tim.4:12-16, 2 Tim. 2:3-6). I am disciplined (Titus 1:8) I persevere (1 Tim.4:12-16). I endure hardship (2 Tim. 2:3). I obey the Lord (2 Tim. 2:4). I donʼt abuse alcohol (1 Tim.3:1-13, Titus 1:7). I am not violent (1 Tim.3:1-13, Titus 1:7). Iʼm not greedy or materialistic (1 Tim.3:1-13, 1 Pet. 5:1-4, 1 Thes. 2:2-12, Titus 1:7). I am not sexually immoral (1 Tim.3:1-13). I am not ashamed (2 Tim.2:15). I am not manipulative or overbearing (Mt.20:25-28, Titus 1:7, 1 Peter 5:1-4). I am not a burden to those I lead (1 Thes. 2:2-12). I do not have a quick fuse or temper (Titus 1:7). I work knowing Iʼll give an account to God for how I lead (Heb.13:17). Summary question: Would you follow you? Why or why not? Leaders must be faithful with little before they can be faithful with much! That is the truth expressed in Lk.16:10. Leaders must be faithful with little for the sake of the little, not just doing what they need to do to get to the next level. Be focused on faithfulness. Russ Akins says, Everything in your personal life must revolve around Jesus and everything in your ministry life must revolve around Jesus and the Great Commission. What has God called you to be faithful with in your personal life? What has God called you to be faithful with in your ministry life? 12

13 A personal life that revolves around Jesus! A leader must develop a commitment to Jesus, a godly character and a life of integrity before leading others. Trust Him to build these characteristics into your life over time (2 Cor.3:18). How can you apply Php.1:27, Eph.4:1, Col.1:10 & 1 Thes.2:12? Character development is a process going from thoughts to choices to actions to habits and leading to character. Longevity and effective ministry require godliness in every thought, choice and action. How can you be more committed, disciplined, diligent and responsible in the area of character development? You canʼt give what you donʼt have (Lk.6:40). Grow a Christlike character over time so youʼll be able to lead others by example! Check out Paulʼs example of leading by example in 1 Cor. 11:1, 1 Cor. 4:16, Gal. 4:12, Php. 3:17, Php. 4:9, 1 Thes. 1:6 & 2 Thes. 3:7. How can you better follow Christʼs example so others can follow yours? Note: Integrity is a non-negotiable! Leaders must live lives of integrity, avoiding both sins of commission and sins of omission. Leaders must lead with accountability (James 5:16). Do the application section after this weekʼs notes before next week!!! A ministry that revolves around Jesus & the Great Commission. Jesus tells you, in Mt.28: "All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age." Describe what Jesus means here and how that applies to your ministry; what does it mean to go and make disciples? A fruitful Great Commission ministry will naturally flow from a personal life that revolves around Jesus (Jn. 15:1-8, 16). Describe how you have seen fruitful ministry naturally flow from a personal life revolving around Jesus? These foundational leadership character and integrity issues may seem impossible but remember, 2 Cor. 3:4-6 promises that He will work these into your life, making you competent for ministry. You should also remember Phil.1:6 and Heb.12:1-2. It is our hope that He will use this packet to help you towards that goal! Remember, 1 Tim.3:13, Those who have served well gain an excellent standing and great assurance in their faith in Christ Jesus. Remember, He will complete the good work He began in you (Phil.1:6) and youʼre just where you need to be in His competent hands (Jn.10:28). 13

14 Application Integrity issues are the main reason Christian leaders fall out of ministry! Please go through the following integrity worksheet (dealing with sins of commission and sins of omission) with the person discipling you and come up with an accountability plan. Finally, please be honest!!! What struggles have you had with incorrect motives? What struggles have you had with porn, lust and masturbation? What struggles have you had with competition and pride? What struggles have you had with insecurities? What struggles have you had with speech and gossip? What struggles have you had with relationship issues with other members of your sex and with members of the opposite sex? Couples: Married couples: What struggles do you have in marriage? Dating couples: What struggles do you have in your relationship? What struggles have you had with drinking, drugs or the party scene? What struggles have you had in your walk with God, in the Word and prayer? What struggles have you had with evangelism? What struggles have you had with being a good steward of all God has given you? What struggles have you had with giving? What struggles have you had in other issues not listed here? Victory over the sin cycle. James 1:14-15 defines this cycle saying desire leads to temptation which leads to sin which leads to death. When you sin the Holy Spirit will convict you of that sin (Jn.16:8). Then you can run from Him hiding in darkness, rationalizing your sin, believing a lie and experiencing bondage and isolation from God and others. Or, you can run to God, walking in the light confessing the sin and believing the truth, experiencing freedom and fellowship with God and others. Decide today to grow closer to Jesus allowing Him to change your desires immunizing you from temptation and also decide to run to Him when you fall allowing Him to cleanse you. Remember, God is developing you more and more into His likeness (2 Cor. 3:18). Be accountable and trust Him to grow the issue of integrity in your life. 14

15 Notes on Character, Integrity and Leadership: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for this week concerning this weekʼs notes How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? List any last thoughts and then put everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 15

16 Week 3: A Leadership Overview Book suggestion: 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John Maxwell Leadership Profile - Jesus: As we discussed last week, a godly leader follows Christʼs example so others can follow theirs. Jesus is the ultimate example of a leader so itʼs important to know how Jesus led. Weʼll go through an extensive description of leadership characteristics today and each will give a reference to where Christ exhibited it. There are undoubtedly more. Go over these references during your times with Jesus this week and get familiar with His leadership example. Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: 2 Cor.3:18 - And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit. So what is a leader and how does a leader lead? If you want to follow THE Leader you must first know what that leader looks like. Today weʼll discuss the characteristics that all great leaders demonstrate. This leadership model is based on Christʼs example. Weʼll categorize the various leadership characteristics into 10 key areas described by the LEADERSHIP acronym. The letters of the acronym describe the following fundamentals: Lifestyle, Example, Action, Direction, Expertise, Relationships, Serving, Habits, Initiative and Propagating. Anyone who demonstrates the leadership characteristics described in todayʼs notes will be an effective leader. Below is the LEADERSHIP acronym and leadership issues associated with each area described by the acronym. Check each area you feel weak in so you can begin trusting God to develop those in your life (Note: many of these come from The book on Leadership by MacArthur and the 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by Maxwell). Lifestyle: Leaders lead in how they live. Leaders live in intimacy with God (Jn.10:30). Leaders know, share and apply Godʼs Word (Mt.4:4). Leaders pray (Mk.1:35). Leaders have convictions based on scripture; a Biblical worldview (Jn. 8:28-29). Leaders have Godly character; Christlikeness is key (Jn.14:9)! Leaders love (Jn.15:9). Leaders are trustworthy (Heb.13:8). Leaders have integrity: a clear conscience yields boldness & confidence (Heb.4:15). Leaders are confident, because of Christ, 2 Cor.3:4-6 (Mt.21:12-17). Leaders are sincere (Mt.6:5). Leaders are optimistic (Mt.8:23-27). Leaders are enthusiastic (Mt.9:37). Leaders are humble (Php.2:6-11). 16

17 Leaders allow others to serve in their strengths (Jn.12:6, 13:29). Leaders apologize when wrong (Note: Jesus wasnʼt ever wrong). Leaders are honest (Is.53:9). Leaders are passionate (Mt.21:12-17). Leaders exhibit the Fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness & self control (Gal.5: Cor.3:18). Leaders have godly Character which yields respect which yields loyalty which yields influence (Heb.4:15)! Principle: People follow the leader 1st, then the vision. Leaders are Strong: people follow leaders stronger than themselves (Lk.2:52). Leaders are influencers (Lk.12:1). Leaders are disciplined (Mk.1:35, while it was still dark...). Leaders are committed to the process of continued growth (Lk.2:52). Leaders overcome obstacles (Mt.14:15-21). Leaders overcome personal barriers (Is.53:2-3). Leaders overcome negative circumstances (Jn.1:46, 7:52). Leaders lead in the power of the Holy Spirit (Lk.4:1)! Example: Leaders lead by example. Leaders lead by example by showing others the way (Jn.13:14-15). Action: Leaders take action. Leaders do whatever is needed (Jn.2:1-11)! Leaders have a can do attitude (Mt.9:37). Leaders are fearless (Mt.8:23-27, Lk.12:4-12). Leaders are energetic (Mt.21:12-17). Leaders do the right things at the right time (Jn.7:1-10). Leaders take action in what they say! Leaders speak truth (Jn.8:32, 45). Leaders know, practice and can teach the Word (Mt.4:4, 7,10, 7:29). Note: Refer back to the Action section - Leaders do what they say, they walk what they talk! Leaders lovingly & truthfully rebuke & confront (Mt.23, 2 Tim.3:16). Leaders communicate vision and direction (Mt.28:18-20). Leaders avoid pointless, condescending, rude and profane speech (Is.53:9, Eph.4: James 3:2 + Heb.4:15). Leaders communicate confidently and boldly (Mt.7:29, Lk.4:32). Direction: Leaders set the direction. Leaders are visionary (Acts 1:8)! Leaders know the best way to get the team to the goal (Mt.28:18-20)! Leaders are confident, sure of calling, purpose and role (Lk.19:10). Leaders are decisive (Mk.11:13-14, 20-25). Leaders know when to say no (Mt.16:21-23). Leaders take charge when needed or called upon (Mt.8:23-27). 17

18 Leaders lead with good intuition, discernment, judgement and wisdom (Mt. 21:23-27). Leaders know when to change their mind & admit theyʼre wrong (Once again, this goes for the rest of us, Jesus wasnʼt ever wrong). Leaders are committed to the vision / wonʼt compromise absolutes (Lk.22:42). Leaders focus on objectives, not obstacles (Mt.14:13-21). Leaders build momentum (Mt.9:1-8). Leaders follow their purpose and work towards their purpose and the big picture (Lk.10:19). Leaders have an eternal perspective (Mt.4:23). Leaders are creative and can think outside of the box (Jesusʼ miracles!!!) Expertise: Leaders lead with expertise. Leaders lead with authority (Mt.28:18). Leaders are submitted to authority (Jn.14:28, note: Jesus was submitted to the Fatherʼs authority while on earth, Phil.2:6-11, before returning to heaven and being glorified with the glory He gave up when He came to earth, Jn.17:5). Leaders exercise Godly authority (Mt.16:24-27). Leaders are authorities; know their stuff, have answers (Mt.22:15-22). Leaders donʼt give up when opposition arises (Mt.26:47-56). Leaders know their own limitations (Jn.4:6). Relationships: Leaders lead relationally. Leaders never go-it-alone - they are part of a team (Mt.4:18-22, Jn.6:70)! Leaders have good boundaries (Mt.12:46-50, 16:23, Jn.13:10). Leaders love genuinely (Jn.15:13). Leaders empathize (Jn.11:35). Leaders develop relationships and personal connections (Lk.19:1-10). Leaders listen (Jn.4:1-26). Leaders attract others; they are interesting, friendly, etc (Lk.4:42). Leaders are committed to those they lead (Jn.18:15-18 & 22:15-17). Serving: Leaders lead by serving. Leaders lead by serving (Mk.10:45). Leaders strengthen, support, encourage and build up those they lead (Again, Jn.13:14-15). Leaders donʼt abuse authority (Mt.20:25-28). Habits: Leaders cultivate the right habits. Leaders are disciplined and diligent (Again, Lk.2:52). Leaders are faithful (Jn.17:6-19). Leaders are hard working (Mt.4:23). Leaders manage time and lives well; they are balanced in physical, relational, spiritual and mental aspects of life (Again, Lk.2:52). 18

19 Leaders do whatever it takes to accomplish the vision and help the team win (Jn.15:13). Leaders lead with a good attitude (Lk.10:21). Leaders prioritize; low input, high impact, 80/20 rule (Mk.1:36-38). Leaders sacrifice (Lk.9:58, Jn.15:13). Initiative: Leaders take the initiative. Leaders are resilient and bounce back after failure. Jesus never failed but was quick to bounce back after lack of results (Mk.6:1-7). Leaders are self starters (Mt.4:23). Leaders are internally motivated (Jn.5:19). Leaders lead with correct motives (Jn.14:31). Propagate: Leaders propagate the vision. Leaders multiply; real growth (Again, Mt.28:18-20, Acts 1:8). Leaders invest in a few key people; remember the FAITH acronym (Mk. 3:14). Leaders delegate & empower others, then cut them loose (Mt.10:5-8, Lk. 10:1-20)! Leaders share their faith (Mk.1:14-15). Leaders disciple others (Mt.11:1). Leaders are team players (Jn.6:70). Jesus will develop these in you as you draw near to Him. Remember, the more time you spend with someone, the more like them you will become. The Holy Spirit is transforming you this very moment to be more like Christ (2 Cor.3:18). With that in mind, answer the following questions to get a better perspective of how to allow Him to grow you in different areas. Which main categories from the LEADERSHIP acronym do you feel weakest in? Which sub-categories from the LEADERSHIP acronym do you feel weakest in? We canʼt stress this enough. As you grow closer to Jesus on a daily basis, taking steps of faith following Him, He will develop you into a strong leader. Keep your eyes on Him (Heb. 12:1-2). This is just the beginning of a life-long journey! 19

20 Application Russʼ discipleship development chart (characteristics mature believers should exhibit): Teaching (imparted knowledge): Quiet Time Prayer Bible Study Studies well Current events Reading Teaching videos Exercise Sleeping habits Appearance Eating habits Christian fellowship Non-Christian friends Dating relationships Vulnerability Confronting situations Spirit filled life Walks by faith Victory over sin Lordship Assurance of salvation Spiritual growth issues Obedience Godʼs will Counting the cost Eternal perspective Purpose statement Vision Holiness Purity Has read New Testament Has read Old Testament Has memorized 10 verses Has memorized 30 verses Has memorized 100 verses Has memorized 300 verses Has memorized Biblical book Focuses on Godʼs goodness Knows Biblical Interpretation Study basic apologetics Training (imparted skills): Meets people well Builds relationships Ministry motivation Great Commission focused Reconciliation Can introduce survey Can transition to gospel Can witness conversationally Clearly shares gospel Can do evangelism training Can clarify issues in gospel Can bring someone to point of decision Way of life witnessing Can set up follow up appt Has seen follow up done Has done basic follow up Can take someone witnessing Can share 3 circles Can explain train diagram 3 min. testimony written Has shared testimony Has led intro Bible study Has led growth group Has led action group Comes to Cross Training Comes to retreats Knows multiplicational philosophy Been to Christmas conference Been on Mission trips Invites new people to events Uses personal interests in ministry Has done a talk at a meeting Has done a talk at a retreat Has MCʼd a meeting Has organized a large meeting or special event Conducted training meetings Put signs up on campus Worked an info table Worked on website Manages money wisely Follows budget Gives grace to others Deals w/ questionable areas Has 10 most wanted list Has personal strategy Asks good questions to draw others out Studies Bible effectively Can answer top 10 apologetical questions Building (Godly character): Faithfulness Consistency Stability of mind Dependability Self-discipline Teachability Adaptability / flexibility Punctuality Perseverance Humility Submissive attitude Conscientious Emotional stability Walks in integrity Friendly Tactful Witty Good communicator Takes initiative Has drive Doesnʼt give up easily Can stand alone Positive, joyful attitude Shows fruit of the Spirit Good sense of identity / self image Time management Good at life and ministry Balance Boundaries Gives of time, resources and money Has short term goals Has long term goals Lives above reproach morally Honest Loyal Trustworthy Easily approachable Sensitive to others 20

21 Notes on A Leadership Overview: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for this week, concerning the leadership areas you listed that you want to grow in How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? List any last thoughts and then put everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 21

22 Week 4 - The Measure of a Leader Book suggestion: Foxeʼs Book of Martyrs by John Foxe Leadership Profile - Paul: A leader starts sooner, goes harder and lasts longer than anyone else. They have to if theyʼre going to lead by example. Paul is the prime Biblical example of this, describing his own life saying, in 2 Cor.11:23-28, I have worked much harder, been in prison more frequently, been flogged more severely, and been exposed to death again and again. Five times I received from the Jews the forty lashes minus one. Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was stoned, three times I was shipwrecked, I spent a night and a day in the open sea, I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my own countrymen, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false brothers. I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food; I have been cold and naked. Besides everything else, I face daily the pressure of my concern for all the churches. Paul summarized his perspective in 1 Cor. 15:10, saying, But by the grace of God I am what I am... I worked harder than all of them - yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me. Godly leaders must follow Paulʼs example becoming people of initiative, drive, perseverance and commitment, stopping at nothing! Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: 2 Tim.2:15 - Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth. Howard Hendricks says the measure of a person is determined by what it takes to get them going and what it takes to stop them. If it takes a whole lot to get you going and very little to stop you, you are not cut out for leadership. If it takes very little to get you going and a whole lot to stop you, you might be ready for leadership! A leader does everything from a firm perspective of their identity in Christ. When a leader takes a stand on who they are in Christ and for all that God has called them to, they will find a resolute passion for serving Him regardless of opposition or obstacles. How does your concept of your identity in Christ motivate you? A leader takes the initiative. Growing closer to God, knowing His will, deciding what needs to be done, taking the initiative in the power of the Holy Spirit and being accountable to keep going will set you up for a lifestyle of being intrinsically motivated. What does it take to get you going and how can you better follow Paulʼs attitude in 1 Cor.9:24-27? 22

23 A leader keeps on going no matter what. Are you internally motivated by love or externally motivated by rewards and consequences? Learning to be motivated correctly is vitally important for effective leadership. What does it take to keep you going? God is constantly motivating you. When you donʼt feel motivated it is not His problem. Stay motivated by eliminating motivation barriers and cultivating motivation builders. Check any motivation barriers you want God to remove from your life: Spiritual apathy. Temptation and Sin. Loneliness. Incorrect expectations. Fear. Burn out. Unbelief. Lack of knowledge & wisdom. Controlled by feelings. Comfort zones. Controlled by circumstances. Rationalization. Procrastination. Time wasting habits. Lack of discipline. Check any motivation builders you want God to grow in your life: Identity in Christ. Confidence about your life purpose. Daily fellowship with God. Frequent fellowship with other believers. Accountability. An active prayer life. Growing in Godʼs Word. Filled with and empowered by the Holy Spirit. Eternal perspective. Walking by faith, not by sight. Hoping in God alone. Motivated by loving God and others. Receiving and giving grace. Balance (more on this in week 6). 23

24 A leader stops for ONLY 2 reasons. The only times a leader stops are when they realize theyʼve missed Godʼs will or when Godʼs will has been accomplished. A leader must refuse to stop when circumstances sour, when adversity and opposition increase, when expectations arenʼt met or when something better comes along. A leader must be resolutely focused on the vision, not hindered or distracted by other issues. What does it take to stop you? Expanding the boundaries between getting started and stopping! If you want to become the leader God made you to be it is imperative that you expand your comfort zones, the area between what it takes to get you going and what it takes to stop you. Comfort zones are comfort zones because they are safe places without risk of loss. The best way to crush comfort zones is to take risks in line with Godʼs will. Have past failures kept you from taking risks? Why? Leadership is risky business! Choose the right risk. Evaluate the risk. Will this help you become the person God made you to be? Will this help you become obedient to something God has specifically commanded you to do in scripture? Will this help you fulfill your life purpose and calling? Will it glorify God? If so, this is probably a risk worth taking. Do any come to mind? Analyze the risk. Note - if the risk is specifically outlined in scripture, you need not do a cost benefit analysis. When you consider a risk ask these questions. What is the highest potential good? What can be gained? What is the biggest potential loss? Whatʼs at stake? Does the benefit outweigh the cost? If so, take the risk! Take the risk. Php.4:13 reminds you that you, can do everything through Him who gives me strength. As you grow in your walk with God, becoming the leader He has made you to be you will have to cultivate a risk taking perspective on life. As Bill Bright said about evangelism, Take the initiative in the power of the Holy Spirit and then trust the results to God. Get yourself into a situation where if God doesnʼt show up, your dead. Then watch Him show up, growing you into who He made you to be. What makes risk-taking hard for you? Crushing comfort zones and fears, will expand the boundaries between what it takes to get you going and what it takes to stop you and in turn youʼll grow into the measure of the leader God made you to be. Never miss an opportunity to take a step of faith (2 Cor. 5:7). If incorrect motivators, like anger and greed, can get you going, how much more will correct motivation, in the power of His Spirit, motivate you? Be motivated correctly to accomplish your purpose. As you grow youʼll notice yourself transitioning from inward focused (meeting your own needs) to outward focused (meeting othersʼ needs) to upward focused (serving God however and whenever He directs), living with eternal perspective (2 Cor.4:18) rather than selfish ambition (Phil.2:21). Live every day focused on Jesus (Heb.3:1 and 12:1-2). 24

25 Application A risk taking challenge! Write out a personal goal, something about who you want to become: List a risk you can take towards that goal: Evaluate the risk. Will this help you become the person God made you to be? Yes No Will this help you become obedient to something God has specifically commanded you to do in scripture? Yes No Will this help you fulfill your life purpose and calling? Yes No Will it glorify God? Yes No What are the potential gains: What are the potential dangers and losses: Should you take this risk? Yes No If so, write out a SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action oriented, Realistic and within a Time frame) goal that will help you take this step: Repeat this process for a ministry goal as well. Take risks for Godʼs glory, going big for Jesus! 25

26 Notes on The Measure of a Leader: What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow in? List 3 more risks you think God wants you to take along with SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for this week How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? Review the Leadership Characteristics from week 3. How is God growing you? Put that and everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 26

27 Week 5 - Breaking Through Personal and Leadership Lids Book suggestion: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey Leadership Profile - Peter: Peter was naturally cowardly, fearful, immature, ignorant and emotionally fickle (just a few examples: Jn.18:17, 25-27) but God brought him to a place of being fearless, bold, confident and effective in ministry (Acts 2 and especially v. 41). Many Christians live similarly futile and carnal lives but can experience the same transformation Peter did. It is important to notice that Peterʼs transformation was the direct result of the Holy Spirit working in Him and every believer can experience the same type of growth as they yield to the Holy Spirit! God obliterated Peterʼs personal and leadership lids and He desires to do the same with yours. Are you willing? Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: Heb.12: Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. 2 Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Growing into the leader God made you to be requires that you deal with barriers and lids. We find the key to this in Heb.12:1-2. Boldness, confidence, courage and effective ministry can replace insecurities, weakness, cowardice and passivity in your life. That begins when we allow God to destroy lids that stop personal growth and continues as we allow God to deal with lids that prevent ministry growth (these 2 often go hand in hand). Remember the principle eluded to in Is.35:3. Dealing with personal Lids. Last week we discussed the measure of a leader. We asked, what does it take to get you going and what does it take to stop you? We encouraged you to begin taking risks, allowing God to expand you. You could think of that as getting growth started. This week weʼll discuss keeping growth going by removing lids. Personal lids keep you from that and prevent you from growing personally. You should strive to fill in the full potential God created you for. Imagine your personal God given abilities on a horizontal axis. Weʼll call this horizontal growth because your growth here effects mostly yourself and a much smaller sphere of influence. Ex. Itʼs imperative to remove anything keeping you from moving from 7 to 8. # # 27

28 Dealing with leadership Lids. Leadership growth allows you to grow into the leader God made you to be so you can accomplish all God has called you to do. Leadership lids keep you from that and prevent you from growing as a leader. Imagine your natural God given leadership abilities on a vertical axis. Weʼll call this vertical growth because your growth here effects many others along with your effectiveness and contributions. # # # Maxwellʼs diagram: Personal ability and leadership ability are both 1 dimensional but together they are 2 dimensional and synergistic. Maxwell illustrates the effect of removing personal and leadership lids with a powerful diagram. Notice that ability - leadership = ineffectiveness. Ex. 8 out of 10 natural ability with just a 1 in leadership ability = 8% effectiveness. Ability + leadership = effectiveness! Ex. 8 out of 10 natural ability with an 8 in leadership ability = 64% effectiveness. 28

29 Effectively accomplishing your life purpose & the Great Commission requires breaking through lids in both personal and leadership areas. How to diagnose your lids (humility is required!!!). This is sometimes difficult because you don't know what you don't know. Often, though, we known all too well. It is usually easy to spot a relationship keeping you from personal growth or a habit preventing leadership growth. Ask God to reveal your lids to you (James 1:5). Does anything come to mind? Evaluate yourself in humility (Rom. 12:3); Spend some time in introspection, asking the hard questions. Ask others what lids they see in your life. What have people told you in the past? Listen to and learn from criticism. What criticisms have you heard about yourself? Learn from failures and successes. What lids have these exposed in the past? See if any of these common lids apply (check any that apply): Not being fully surrendered to Christ / Compartmentalized obedience. Insufficient fellowship with Christ; poor knowledge of Word, mediocre prayer life. Lack of eternal perspective. Character deficiencies (remember LEADERSHIP areas). Secret sin. Lack of accountability. Pride and / or comparing yourself to others. Issues from your past. Physical health. Incorrect expectations. Bad habits Wrong desires (Mt. 13:7 & 22, 2 Tim.2:3-4) Personality weaknesses. Relational issues. Fears Lack of balance. Lack of vision, goals, priorities, purpose or purpose statement. Bad boundaries / canʼt say, no. Lack of discipline and diligence. Negative side of your gifts. Insufficient knowledge & training: Ex. In content, in principle & in strategy. Lack of experience. Bad time management. Inadequate resources. Technology imbalance (technologically challenged or addicted). Others:. 29

30 How to break through your lids: Keep your eyes on Jesus, not your lids (Heb.12:1-2). Confess sin (1 Jn.1:9). Be transformed by the renewing of your mind (Rom. 12:1-2). Walk by faith not by sight (2 Cor.5:7). Spend more time in fellowship, your issues will surface (1 Jn. 1:5-7; Accountability is key James 5:16). Spend more time in the action (James 1:22, 1 Jn.3:18). Be diligent in dealing with your lids. Diligence is defined as constant and earnest effort to accomplish what is undertaken; persistent exertion of body or mind. Check out these passages for more on this issue: 2 Tim.3:16-17, 1 Tim. 4:12-16, 2 Peter 1:3-9. How do you think Pr. 12:24 and Pr. 21:5 apply to dealing with lids? How do you think the Holy Spirit can empower you to break through your lids like He did with Peter (Eph.5:18)? Note: The Spirit filled life by nature destroys lids!!! What do you think it means to do your best to become a workman approved (2 Tim. 2:15)? Working through your lids over time has amazing results. Cloud and Townsend tell us that Growth is a product of Grace and Truth over Time. Visualize your life effectiveness for Christ as a cube with time as the 3rd dimension (in addition to personal ability and leadership ability). As you grow in both areas over time youʼll fill up the ministry potential God created you for! Jake Boyd says it will be like a bank account compounding interest over time; the more you invest, the more it will multiply. Bottom line. Deal with personal lids and leadership lids patiently over time in the power of the Holy Spirit to accomplish your life purpose. Remember: Your weaknesses, inadequacies and failures present no challenge to Godʼs will for your life. Your willingness does. 30

31 Application Make a list of 8 things you know are holding you back personally Make a list of 8 things you know are holding you back as a leader Put a line through each and write God is big enough above it. Add these to your prayer list and begin giving them to God daily. Share these with your accountability partner and ask them to pray for you as well. God really will help you break through these so you can love and serve Him the way He created you to. Take some time coming up with some goals to deal with these on the notes page coming up next! 31

32 Notes on Breaking Through Personal and Leadership Lids: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for this week concerning lids you want God to break through in your life How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? Review the Leadership Characteristics from week 3. How is God growing you? Put that and everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 32

33 Week 6 - The Leaderʼs Balanced Life Book suggestion: Ordering Your Private World by Gordon MacDonald Leadership Profile - Timothy: Paul told Timothy (in 1 Tim.4:12) to set an example in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity. Everything we know about Timothy confirms this young pastor was balanced in all these key areas of life and ministry. His well rounded life and spiritual maturity equipped him for effective ministry at a young age. Balance in your life will prepare you for effective ministry as well! Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: 1 Tim.4: set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity. Balance will help you fulfill your purpose and accomplish all God has called you to. Jesus gives us the example of balance we will take todayʼs discussion from in Lk. 2:52,...Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men. Jesus grew in these areas, and so should we. Personal discipline is vitally important in maintaining balance in these 4 key areas of life: 1 relationship with God, 2 relationships with others, 3 wisdom & 4 stature. Be balanced in both spiritual and physical areas (1 Tim.4:8). Balance area # 1 - Fellowship with God. This area of balance keeps all others in perspective. Review week one about your first leadership priority for more on this. Jesus spent quality time with the Father early in the morning (Mk.1:35) and did only what the Father directed (Jn.5:19). Your daily Time with God is the foundation for the rest of your day. Ravi Zacharius described its importance saying, if you fail there, you will fail everywhere else also. It is vitally important that we make a daily time with God a life habit. Unfortunately, your time with God can easily become the first thing to go when things get busy. A leader will always make a way to prioritize their fellowship with God. How have you made your fellowship and intimacy with God your first ministry priority since the 1st week of this packet when we discussed it? If your walk with God isnʼt where it needs to be, no other balance areas will be in balance. How can you grow in that now (name specific steps)? Balance area # 2 - Relationships with others. When your walk with God is where it needs to be, your relationships with others will flow from that (Mk.12:30-31). A leader leads other people within a context of authentic, Agape relationships. A leader must be quick to repair damaged relationships, invest in current relationships and grow new ones. A leader always puts their walk with God first, their relationships with their family second and then invests as much as possible in close friends, other believers and non- Christians as well. Your leadership capacity is directly proportional to the quality of your 33

34 relationships. Quality relationships are also key to longevity in ministry. List a relationship you need to make right along with a plan to do that: How can you better prioritize your family relationships? How can you better prioritize your other relationships? How can you better prioritize your relationships with those you lead? How can you better prioritize your relationships with your team? How can you better prioritize your relationships with non-christians? Special note: Relationships and ministry both require that you get good at meeting new people. Remember the REACH acronym for meeting new people: Relate (Smile. Compliment. Wave), Environment (Look for conversation starters in your surroundings), Ask (Ask a stranger a question they might be able to answer and then strike up a conversation), Communicate (Donʼt end with their answers, continue a conversation. Be appropriate and interesting), Help (Help someone that needs it or ask for help if you do). 10 things not to do when meeting new people: Don t focus on yourself. Don t try to be someone you are not. Don t be strange or awkward. Don t play favoritism. Don t be a quiet, antisocial loaner. Don t stare or invade. Don t laugh at people, awkward situations or topics. Don t be wordy or peculiarly silent. Don t get too deep right off the bat. Don t end there (develop the new friendship). Make it a point to meet 3 new people using these ideas this week. Balance area # 3 - Wisdom. You can think of wisdom as knowledge applied correctly. Both the intellectual side and the application side are important. A leader never stops learning, but is committed to growing in the knowledge of Godʼs Word and other areas as well. Howard Hendricks says, If we stop learning today, we stop teaching tomorrow. A leader is always committed to applying all they learn. Remember James 1:22! What areas of Biblical knowledge are you weakest in and how can you begin growing in those? What areas of Ministry knowledge (ex. apologetics, leadership, counseling, etc) are you weakest in and how can you begin growing in those? 34

35 What other areas of knowledge do you need to grow in (ex. languages, history, politics, etc.) and how can you begin growing in those? Are you wise according to James 3:17? If not, why not? Challenge: Ask God to give you wisdom (James 1:5) and begin reading the book of Proverbs! Balance area # 4 - Stature. Stature includes your physical health and your resources. If any of these are out of balance, youʼll be hindered tremendously. Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor.3:16). God has called you to steward each of these areas diligently (Mt.25:14-30); neglecting them is sin. Steward them well. Your physical health, diet, exercise, habits, conditions, fun and personal recharging are vital. It is imperative that you find ways to recharge. Know yourself and how you tick, then organize your life and schedule to make it work. Russ Akins always says, You must first survive and then do ministry. That is very true. You must minimize stress and schedule and cultivate fun activities and hobbies that will recharge you. Prioritize rest and recharging (Heb.4:1-11) and schedule a sabbath (Mk.2:27). List 2 areas your health is not where it needs to be and what you plan to do about it: Your resources (What Randy Alcorn calls your time, talent and treasure) are as vital to you and your leadership success as your physical health. Steward them well! Time. You have 86,400 Seconds in a day. Steward them well. Here are 10 tips for managing your time (from various sources): 1 Donʼt negotiate with your alarm. It has been said that, Getting up in the morning has a lot to do with getting up in life. 2 Prioritize and write down your priorities. 3 Set goals to achieve them (remember the SMART acronym). 4 Use a schedule and plan your priorities and goals into your schedule. Multiple tools can be a benefit here as well (Ex. paper, day-planner, phone and online). Leave yourself good reminders. Do whatever it takes to schedule well. (My examples - coffee pot, door, etc). 5 Use a pencil in your day-planner and schedule so you can change and update it as needed. 6 Use communication tools effectively; phones, texting, , facebook, skype & other methods can help but they can also kill your time. 7 Be willing to be flexible with your schedule, just try to always be flexible towards Quadrant 2 activities (Quadrant 1 if necessary). 8 Make the most of your on time. 9 Maximize spare moments and surprise breaks. 10 Evaluate yourself and your time management on a regular basis - adjust your habits as needed. 35

36 Use this time management grid to evaluate and plan (from The 7 Habits Highly Effective People by Steven R. Covey). How to use this grid: Try to shift as many of your activities as possible to Quadrant 2 (80/20 rule - 80% of your productivity comes from 20% of your investment). Prevent firefighting in Quadrant 1 by scheduling and being disciplined with your time before things get urgent. Try to minimize Quadrant 3 activities by planning ahead and having good boundaries. Decide which Quadrant 4 activities can be improved on (Ex. Audible while driving) and which should be discarded (Ex. Pointless wastes of time). Complete the schedule in this weekʼs application section. How much of your time is spent in each of the 4 quadrants and what can you do to shift your time more to quadrant 2? What 5 things are your biggest time wasters? When you work through your schedule in the application section this week, see how much time you would have if you eliminated these time wasters. Then, come up with a plan to do just that! Being late is a waste of your time and othersʼ as well. How are you at being punctual and how can you improve? 36

37 In addition to completing the schedule worksheet in this weekʼs application section, utilize online resources as well. Your phone, computer, and social media all have schedule capacities. Use them! There is no longer an excuse for mismanaging time. Also, there are many online resources to help (Ex. Try making cozi.comʼs to do list or calendar your homepage. Talents: Know your gifts and talents (more on this in week 10). Donʼt neglect them (1 Tim.4:14). Do develop them (2 Tim 1:6). Again, more on this soon! List a few talents you have: How can you maximize these and use them in leadership (Mt. 25:14-30)? Treasure. Your money and other resources are a gift from God for you to use for Him. Are you stewarding them well. Do you have a budget? Why or why not? Do you tithe and give (2 Cor.9:6-8)? Why or why not? Do the budget worksheet in this weekʼs application section. Take advantage of the numerous online resources to help you with budgeting and managing your money. Note: All Christians are called to give. No matter where you are at in life you should be giving generously. Tithing and giving are not just for those with extra money. Challenge: Make a donation to a godly ministry today! Note: If you are following God in leadership and ministry you will eventually have to warm up to the idea of support raising. This is a Biblical concept. Check out the following references on support raising: 1 Tim. 5:17-18, Deut. 25:4, Luke 10:1-7, Luke 8:3, 1 Cor 9:14, 2 Cor 8:5, Phil. 4:10-19, Rom. 15:24, 2 Cor. 8:1-5 & 2 Cor 9:3. Grow in each of these areas of balance and youʼll find enormous peace and effectiveness in ministry! Follow Christʼs example in Lk.2:52. Balancing your walk with God, other relationships, wisdom and stature will free you up for effective leadership. Finally, recognize activities that recharge you and do whatever it takes to stay physically and emotionally sharp for life and ministry. Sacrifice is the epitome of leadership. Seek to live a life of sacrifice across all these areas (Rom.12:1-2), but be careful what youʼll sacrifice for success in ministry (Judges 11:29-40); donʼt sacrifice what doesnʼt belong to you (2 Sam.24:24). God, your family and friends, physical needs and more all require energy, time and resources; be careful not to sacrifice at their expense. Wisely live sacrificially for Jesus (2 Tim.4:6-8). 37

38 Application Section 1 Schedule worksheet - Continue using this throughout the year 38

39 Application Section 2 Budget worksheet - Continue using this throughout the year 1. Make any adjustments as needed to make the math work. 2. Decide what you need to do to make ends meet. 3. Establish accountability for your budget to keep you on track. 39

40 Notes on The Leaderʼs Balanced Life: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals concerning balance for this week (include goals to quit wasting time and money) How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? Review the Leadership Characteristics from week 3. How is God growing you? Put that and everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 40

41 Week 7 - Boundaries in Life & Leadership Book suggestion: Changes that Heal by Cloud and Townsend Leadership Profile - Nehemiah: Nehemiah was cup-bearer to king Artaxerxes yet grieved by the demise of Jerusalem and the Jews. He had a great sense of personal boundaries and was willing to take a tremendous risk asking the king for permission to intervene. Even after that permission was granted, he had to have good boundaries with governors of surrounding provinces and some of his own people who opposed him! Nehemiah was convinced of his call and resolute regardless of othersʼ opposition or disapproval (Nehemiah 1-13). Godly leaders must follow his phenomenal example. Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: Mk. 12:30 - Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. Note: Weʼll borrow a lot directly from Cloud & Townsendʼs, Changes that Heal in this weekʼs notes. We canʼt stress it enough, please read this book! Why boundaries are important. You canʼt fully love God and others until you are a whole person. Jesus tells us, in Mk.12:29-31, that most important commands are to "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength and to Love your neighbor as yourself. You canʼt love God with ALL your heart, soul, mind and strength if youʼre allowing other people to control some of those areas. You canʼt love others like yourself until you understand & accept yourself. A leader who is following the 2 greatest commandments and all else God calls them to must have a good sense of personal boundaries. You canʼt maximize your impact while your resources are being minimized. You canʼt fully serve God until you have good boundaries. Read Rom.12:1.You canʼt surrender to God what others are manipulating away from you. What areas of your life are others keeping you from surrendering to God? Areas and solution: Read Mt. 25:14-30.You canʼt steward what lies outside your control. What areas of your life and ministry are you allowing others to control? Areas and solution: 41

42 Read 2 Cor. 9:6-8. You canʼt give whatʼs been taken. What areas of your time, talent and treasure are being taken from you, preventing you from being able to give them away as God directs? Areas and solution: Paul tells us, in Gal.1:10 - Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ. Paul reiterates this in 1 Thes. 2:4 and Jn.12:43 warns us about doing what we do for manʼs praise rather than Godʼs. Read Col.3:23. What areas are you working for the approval of other people and not able to work as unto the Lord? Boundaries defined: Dr. Cloud says, In a psychological sense, boundaries are the realization of our own person apart from others. This sense of separateness forms the basis of our personal identity. It says what we are and what we are not, what we will choose and what we will not choose, what we will endure and what we will not endure, what we will feel and what we will not feel, what we like and what we donʼt like and what we want and what we donʼt want. Boundaries in short, define us. You must have good boundaries with your self (growth requires it), with your family and close friends, in your relationships, with ministry (people, priorities, events, needs, time, finances, vision and ideas are all areas ministry boundaries are necessary - they will own you if you donʼt own them) and finally, in leadership (itʼs difficult to help others grow without manipulation until you own your boundaries and an ability to respect theirs. The self test below lists key boundary areas followed by indicators of weakness in those key areas. Check the boxes you feel apply. 42

43 You must be able to own these key boundaries areas and steward them well. Which boundaries self test areas do you feel weakest in? Youʼll use these in this weekʼs application section. Setting boundaries. We canʼt escape the idea of responsibility when thinking of boundaries. Our boundaries define our sense of responsibility for us. They define what our lives consist of and what we are responsible for. One of the most important aspects of being in relationship, and of loving God and others is the issue of owning oneʼs self. With a good sense of boundaries youʼll be able to submit to one another in love (Eph. 5:21) and to your spiritual authority (Heb.13:17). It is important to gain awareness of who you are: your body, attitudes, feelings, opinions, behavior, thoughts, abilities, desires, choices, limits, possessions, actions & who you arenʼt. You must know who you are and who you are not and then own and take responsibility for each area!!! Here are 10 ways to take responsibility by setting boundaries in your life: 1. Define who you are by: Offering an opinion, expressing a need, describing yourself and who you are not. Decide to say what you like and donʼt like. Define who you are not. Establish boundaries. Donʼt be taken advantage of. Donʼt encroach on others or allow others to encroach on you. Refrain from saying I donʼt care at least once this week. 2. Choose for your self & respect your own choices and decisions: Donʼt make excuses for them. 3. Become Active not reactive: Do what you do based on convictions and then go for it. Stop making choices by passively reacting to others. Donʼt react in defensive ways. Take a stand - donʼt just merely stay quiet and fit into the crowd. 4. Stop blaming others: Sometimes we reap what otherʼs sow. Decide to stop blaming others even if they are the source of your trouble, take responsibility for that trouble in your life. Be willing to accept responsibility for dealing with the effects of injury that was not your fault. Stop playing the victim. As an adult, you make choices and you are responsible for what you choose to do. 43

44 5. Set Limits: Put limits on what you will tolerate, even if that person never changes, follow through on your limits. Recognize your limits of time, money, and energy. 6. State Values: Define what you value and why. Be specific. Be willing to take a stand for something even if it is unpopular. 7. Practice Self control: Prov 25:28 tells us, Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self control. Learn to say no to things you know wonʼt help you. 8. Accept others: Respect otherʼs boundaries and when they say no. Only when you love people when they say no and grant them their freedom will you yourself be free. Donʼt manipulate. Realize your separateness. You are different from your loved ones. Different desires, purpose, characteristics. Donʼt live vicariously through others. You can be alone. 9. Be Honest: Prov. 12:22 tells us, The Lord detests lying lips but he delights in men who are truthful and Ps 51:6 says, Surely you desire truth in the inner parts Truth and honesty bring people closer together in their relationships. Donʼt hesitate to tell loved ones what you really think. Be honest with yourself. 10.Develop your no muscle: Jesus says, in Mt. 5:37, Simply let your 'Yes' be 'Yes,' and your 'No,' 'No.' Learn to commit. Be OK with saying no. Donʼt take responsibility for another personʼs disappointment or feelings with your decision. Leading others with a good sense of boundaries. Accept and acknowledge othersʼ boundaries! It is difficult to help others grow without manipulation until you have a good sense of your boundaries and an ability to respect theirs. Ministry and leadership require that you give those youʼre leading freedom, protecting the freedom they have in Christ (remember Gal.5:1). If you donʼt respect the boundaries of those you lead youʼll encounter one or both of the following: 1. People wonʼt follow you. They will sense Godʼs will and follow Him in stead of you. They will feel manipulated and want nothing to do with you. 2. People will follow you but out of the wrong motives. Usually they will feel manipulated and follow only begrudgingly. They may follow out of a desire to please you more than God. Godly leaders help those following them follow God (remember Paulʼs example in 1 Cor. 11:1). Never try to manipulate someone into what you think is best for them. Help them understand scripture. Share the vision. Respect their boundaries. Special note: this even applies to issues of confrontation - confront sin, take Biblical steps, be firm about correct consequences but ultimately, respect their decisions (more on this 44

45 in appointment #11). You canʼt choose for them! Gently force those you lead that have bad boundaries to respect yours. Delegate as much as you can to those with good boundaries who need to grow. Bottom line: good leaders lead by protecting their own freedom and the freedom of those they lead. Read Mt.20: Godly leaders lead by serving, NOT manipulating!!! What is the difference between serving and manipulating in leadership? How can you be better at serving those you lead? As you consider the issue of boundaries, remember the good / bad split. Realize no one or thing is all good (except God) or all bad (except Satan). Recognize the difference between perfection and reality. Aim for perfection but accept reality in your life and in othersʼ. Remember this with your leaders, co-laborers & ministry!!! Results of having good boundaries and respecting othersʼ boundaries. Youʼll be able to love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength! Youʼll be able to love others as yourself. Youʼll be able to surrender your whole self to God. Youʼll be able to steward and be responsible for all Heʼs entrusted to you. Youʼll be able to give generously. Youʼll be able to serve fully. You will be able to grow tremendously. Remember the Cloud - Townsend growth equation: Grace + Truth / Time. You will experience freedom, joy, peace and the fruit of the Spirit in greater measures. Knowing what lies outside your control and accepting what you canʼt change will result in a tremendous sense of freedom, joy & peace. It will also help you make the biggest change where you can! Youʼll be able to accomplish your life purpose & all God has for you. List an area youʼve had a good sense of boundaries and describe how that produced freedom for you in your personal life: List an area youʼve had a good sense of boundaries and describe how that produced freedom for you in ministry: Finally, be patient with yourself. Remember Godʼs patience with us, 2 Peter 3:9. This is a life long learning process. The better grasp you get on boundaries the more youʼll be able to own yourself and then give yourself to God and others! The Holy Spirit will work Christʼs character (including good boundaries) into your life & ministry as you allow Him to (2 Cor.3:18). It is imperative that you PERSEVERE! Remember Heb 12:1-3. Setting and respecting boundaries is difficult but necessary and will produce great fruit. Chip Ingram describes frustration as the distance between expectations and reality; be careful to maintain a realistic, scriptural and godly sense of expectations. 45

46 Application List the 5 Boundaries areas you wrote down after the boundaries self test. For each one come up with a plan to own that area List something about yourself youʼve feared sharing: List a choice youʼve been afraid to make: List an action you have been afraid to take: List an area youʼve blamed others for that youʼll own: List a limit in an area you have felt manipulated in before: List a value that you have that youʼve been afraid to admit: List an area youʼll begin practicing self control in: Think about someone youʼll accept that youʼve had a hard time accepting and choose to accept them (note: feel free not to write this name down): Be honest. List something youʼve been afraid to be honest about: Develop your no muscle. List something youʼll say no to that you havenʼt felt free to say no to before. 46

47 Notes on Boundaries in Life & Leadership: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow most in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for this week concerning boundaries areas you want God to break through in your life How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? Review the Leadership Characteristics from week 3. How is God growing you? Put that and everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 47

48 Week 8 - Leading with Courage and Confidence Instead of Fear and Insecurity Book suggestion: Spiritual Leadership by J. Oswald Sanders Leadership Profile - Moses: Moses exhibits insecurities about his calling in a very honest way in Exodus 4, doubting Godʼs call and how people would respond. He was consumed with insecurity to the point of begging God to send someone different. All leaders will have to deal with insecurities of different types in life an ministry. God promised Moses, in verse 15, that He would be with him and be sufficient for his weaknesses and insecurities. Every effective leader comes to a place of trusting God with their insecurities, allowing God to make them a bold and confident leader. God will do great things through any leader who is surrendered to Him, like He did with Moses. Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: Pr.28:1 - The wicked man flees though no one pursues, but the righteous are as bold as a lion. Dealing with confidence killers. Leaders canʼt lead effectively without godly confidence. Pride, sin, ignorance, inexperience, past failures and personal insecurities all destroy a leaderʼs confidence and ministry abilities. The Spirit filled life is naturally confident and if a leader eliminates confidence killers, confident leadership will be a natural result of being filed with the Spirit. A leader should not be confident in their own abilities (self-confidence) but rather in Godʼs abilities through them. Evaluate what minimizes your confidence in leadership below. Pr.14:26 promises that, In the fear of the LORD there is strong confidence... Life and ministry done with a correct perspective of God result in strong confidence! Pride creates the need to protect oneʼs self in effect minimizing confidence while humility creates true fearless confidence (Pr.16:18, James 4:6). Which areas of pride have kept you from walking in the freedom and confidence God offers? Sin, especially secret sin, robs the believer of confidence. What sin has kept you from the confidence God desires you to walk in? Share this with the person discipling you and come up with an accountability plan for beating it (Remember Week 2 notes). Ignorance and a lack of knowledge and wisdom creates confusion and a lack of confidence. What areas have you felt a lack of knowledge or wisdom kept you from confidence in ministry? Inexperience leads to an inevitable lack of confidence about aspects of ministry weʼre not familiar with. What steps have you become afraid of stepping out in and how can you take a step in these areas? 48

49 What past failures in life and ministry have lead to a lack of confidence today & what do you need to surrender these to God? Insecurities plague all leaders so we will address those in more detail next. Before that, briefly describe how insecurities have effected your confidence so far. Dealing with insecurities. Insecurity is defined as a lack of confidence or assurance. All leaders have insecurities. Insecurities derive from anything in your life or ministry that causes you to doubt how others will view or respond to you. Insecurities are in effect the fear of man. Whether outgoing people hide their insecurities behind an outgoing facade or introverts obscure them with their quietness, everyone has them. Leaders can be insecure about themselves, their talents, abilities, productivity, ministry, ministry size and many other things. Whatever your insecurities are, they are sin and they are keeping you from being who God made you to be and accomplishing what He made you to accomplish. God wants to free you from them. Pr. 29:25 says, Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe. You must realize that God formed you before birth uniquely how He desired (Ps.139:13-14), created you in Christ Jesus as a masterpiece (Eph.2:10), is the author of each chapter of your life (Heb.12:2) and will finish the good work He began in you (Phil.1:6). How have your insecurities kept you from all God has for you in life and ministry? Remember the STRONG acronym for overcoming insecurities. 1. Surrender it! Release it. Give it to God. Recognize that insecurities are sin and quit holding on to them so tightly. Trust Him with your insecurities (Pr. 3:5-6). 2. Talk to God about it! Pray! Consciously put it in His hands as often as you need to. Cast your anxieties on him through prayer (1 Peter 5:7, Php. 4:6-7). 3. Remember scripture about it! Memorize Scripture and and repeat it to yourself when tempted to be insecure. A great place to start is Pr. 29:25. Allow God to transform your mind with His truth (Rom.12:1-2). 4. Open up about it! Get it in the light (1 Jn.1:7). Vulnerability and accountability are key. Publicize it appropriately and with the right people (people you can trust). Talking about it with other believers will free you from much of its power. 5. Navigate past it. Walk by faith (1 Cor.5:7). Step into situations youʼre tempted to avoid, taking the initiative in the power of the Holy Spirit and then trusting the results to God (as Bill Bright would say). Repeat these exposures until the insecurity is beat! 49

50 6. Get over it. Realize it is not as big a deal as you think it is. Most likely no one is holding your insecurity issues against you. We tend to make them bigger than they really are. Accept what you canʼt change and do something about what you can. Remember the good / bad split. You donʼt have to like everything about yourself but you do have to trust it all to God. Keep your eyes on Jesus rather than on your insecurities (Heb.12:1-2). Dealing with shame and guilt. Many people live in bondage to constant shame and guilt, stemming from things theyʼve done or things done to them. You will never be able to be who God made you to be or lead how He made you to lead until you surrender these to Him and experience the forgiveness (Ps.103:12) and healing (Is.53:5) He offers. You are made wonderfully (Ps.139:13-14) in Godʼs very image (Gen.1:26-27) and you are who you are by His grace (1 Cor.15:10). Start living in the freedom He offers (Gal.5:1), rather than the bondage of shame and guilt. List the things youʼre ashamed about and any issues from your past that you need to surrender to God? Note: Youʼll only experience healing when you carefully bring these issues into the light, sharing them with a person you trust (1 Jn.1:5-7). Talk to the person discipling you about what steps to take next. Who do you need to forgive or seek forgiveness from and how will you go about that? Becoming as bold as lions. Boldness is defined as being courageous, daring and not hesitating or fearful in the face of actual or possible danger or rebuff. Pr.28:1 tells us, The wicked man flees though no one pursues, but the righteous are as bold as a lion. The point of boldness is not just to be obtrusively strong, but to be the example that He s called us to be, saying what He calls us to say, doing what He calls us to do and standing for what He calls us to stand for. As you trust God with your insecurities, applying these principles and persevering even when tempted to give up, you will find victory over fears and insecurities and learn to walk in the confidence and boldness God has for you. Remember the stand Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego took (Daniel 3), how Daniel risked everything to do the right thing (Daniel 6), Estherʼs fearless action (Es. 4-5), the hardships Paul endured (2 Cor.11:16-12:10), the apostlesʼ obedience in the face of opposition (Acts 5) and the way David courageously fought Goliath (1 Sam. 17). Fears must be crushed as you walk, by faith, through walls of fear (Josh.1:9). Leadership requires courage. What giants do you need to destroy in life and ministry? 50

51 What fears do you need to crush and how can you walk through those walls? As you deal with confidence killers (like shame, guilt and insecurities) and take bold steps of faith God will grow you into the confident and bold leader He created you to be! Learn to hate your insecurities, fears, shame and guilt more than what makes you feel those ways. You donʼt have to live in bondage any longer. You can begin living in the freedom and grace God offers today, by faith! 51

52 Application Which confidence killers (pride, sin, ignorance, inexperience, past failures and personal insecurities) have stolen your confidence and what steps do you need to take to recapture the natural confidence of the Spirit filled life? List your 3 biggest insecurities (be honest even if it is difficult to write them down). For each one, come up with a game plan (using the STRONG acronym) for dealing with it: How will dealing with confidence killers and insecurities free you up to lead boldly? What is your next step in becoming the confident, bold and secure leader God has made you to be? 52

53 Notes on Leading with Confidence and Boldness Rather Than Insecurity: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow most in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for this week concerning confidence and boldness areas you want to grow you in How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? Review the Leadership Characteristics from week 3. How is God growing you? Put that and everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 53

54 Week 9 - Leading According to Godʼs Will & Your Life Purpose Book suggestion: The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren Leadership Profile - Jonathan: Jonathan was willing to take huge risks for God, attempting great things for Him even in the face of impossible odds (1 Sam.14), telling his armor bearer, Perhaps the LORD will act in our behalf. Nothing can hinder the LORD from saving, whether by many or by few. He had a sense of purpose and a willingness to follow Godʼs will trusting Him no matter what. Because of his radical obedience God was able to do great things through him. God will do the same with you as you live your life fully surrendered to Him, willing to obediently follow His will for you and your life purpose. Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: Jer.29:11 - For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Living with a sense of purpose: The fact that you are a Christian carries with it a job description. Many Christians have ignorantly believed that the worldʼs idea of purpose is also their life calling the 5 Cʼs (cash, cars, careers, condos and cuties). The Christian has a new identity and specific purpose. It is your responsibility and opportunity to know and live Godʼs purpose for your life. The Christianʼs life purpose is a life of meaning, accomplishment and fulfillment. If you do not understand your new identity and if you have not articulated a well-defined purpose, in line with His Word, you will experience little of the abundant and fulfilling life God has planned for you. God has a wonderful, elaborate plan for your life. Will you follow it? Youʼre answer to that question describes how you will follow those whose shoulders you stand on and how youʼll prepare for those who will stand on yours (remember how David did this for Solomon in 1 Chr. 28). There are a few main callings every Christian is called to, and created for. They are 1) to know God personally (this is a personal, daily relationship. It affects every other aspect of your life), 2) to make Him known and to glorify Him in all you do (You are called to be active in making Him known; this is your job description not a matter of opinion!) and 3) to develop relationships, illustrating His love to others (the kingdom of God is founded on relationships). There are individual callings inside the context of the 3 listed above. These callings will always work towards those listed above. Following His will for your life will result in a life of purpose and one that is significant for eternity! Leaders must be able to make the right decisions, at the right time and in the right way, all in line with Godʼs will. Indecisiveness is often worse than making a bad decision (God can correct a bad decision but it is difficult to overcome a habit of indecisiveness). Leaders must be able to know Godʼs will and follow Him, making the right decisions. Here are some simple guidelines that will help you know Godʼs will. Remember Jer. 29:11 and Eph.2:10 as we dive into this topic. Godʼs Word literally gives us a three-step 54

55 method for knowing His will in Rom.12:1-2: 1) Present your body as a living sacrifice, in effect, living for Him rather than yourself, 2) do not be conformed to the patterns of this world (donʼt be worldly) and 3) be transformed by the renewing of your mind (the renewing of your mind occurs when you read, meditate on, study, memorize and apply His Word). If you are following those 3 steps and dedicated to doing His will, desiring to do His will, knowing confidently that His way is best and being willing to do His will whatever that may be you wonʼt miss his will for your life! Here are 15 important characteristics of knowing Godʼs will: 1. God reveals His specific will as you are obedient to His general will (Mt.6:33). 2. God may not reveal more of His will to you if you are being disobedient to what He has already given you (Jonah chapters 1-3). 3. God is eager to reveal His will (Ps.127:1). 4. God isnʼt obligated to reveal His will if you arenʼt willing (Jn.17:7). 5. Godʼs will is often in line with the desires of a Spirit filled Christian (Php 2:13, Ps. 37:4). 6. God expects us to use sanctified common sense not emotionalism or mysticism (Pr.16:9). 7. God wonʼt lead you into failure (Ps.37:5, Rom.8:28). 8. Godʼs will is in the present tense a lifestyle (Dt.30:1-6). 9. God wonʼt reveal His will for your entire life all at once; He will always reveal it to you at exactly the right time (Ps.32:8). 10.Godʼs will is always in agreement with His Word (Ps.119:9-11). 11.God wants you to be careful about who you go to for advice (Pr.11:14). 12.Godʼs will is about a relationship not a situation focus on Him not the circumstance (Jn.15:1-5). 13.Godʼs will cannot be improved upon, it is perfect (Rom.12:1-2). 14.God will give you specific direction at times via speaking to you in various ways but this is fairly rare Biblically (1 Kings 19:10-13 is often taken out of context). We are never once in scripture commanded or told to wait for a voice. Godʼs voice occurs primarily in scripture, but He can also encourage you other ways (Ex. in your mind, through other believers, etc). Donʼt rely solely on this. There are only a 55

56 few examples of this in the entire Bible and there are no commands to wait for this anywhere. He will guide your thinking according to His will but donʼt wait for a sensationalistic voice. Always check what you think God says with scripture and get confirmation of it from spiritual authority. 15.God will open doors as you step out in faith but you shouldnʼt determine Godʼs will by what appears to be an open door. Understand that the open door policy (whatever door opens is Godʼs will) is not correct. David and Bathsheba was an open door situation. Seek Godʼs will and then when you know His will definitely step out in faith and watch Him open the door. How to know Godʼs will. Eph.5:17 says,...do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is. Knowing Godʼs will is a command and God never commands you to do something He wonʼt enable you to do. If you can check yes to each of the 10 points in this checklist, youʼll likely be certain of Godʼs will: I am walking with Christ on the throne, being filled with His Spirit (Eph.5:18). I desire to obey His will whatever that is (Ps.40:8). I am presenting my life continually for His purposes, living a life of surrender and obedience and being conformed to His character not the worldʼs (Rom.12:1-2). I am being obedient to Godʼs general will (in scripture) and being faithful with all God has given me to be faithful with so far (Lk.16:10). I am praying, fasting and asking God for wisdom about the issue (James 1:5). I am checking general scriptural principles and what the Word directly says about the issue (Ps.119:105). I am using wisdom and common sense and have written out a proʼs and conʼs list (2 Tim.1:7, 1 Cor.2:16). Pros Cons

57 I have sensed Him changing my desires in this direction as I have sought Godʼs will and walked in close fellowship with Him (Ps.37:4). I have God-given talents and abilities in this area (Rom.12:3-8). I have sought confirmation from godly authority (pastor, parents, accountability partners, etc.) in my life and they are in agreement (Pr.11:14). Once youʼre confident what Godʼs will is, step out by faith! Knowing Godʼs will is not enough, you must obey Him too! Follow these 6 steps as you obey Godʼs will. 1. Prioritize Godʼs will over all other distractions (remember time management). 2. Set goals (remember SMART goals) to achieve Godʼs will. 3. Develop a strategy and plan for how youʼll follow His will. 4. Take action; step out by faith and go for it 100%. 5. Periodically evaluate how youʼre doing to ensure youʼre accomplishing Godʼs will. 6. Stay motivated to accomplish Godʼs will (review week 4 notes on motivation). Jesus is our example! Jesus prepared for His purpose (Luke 2:52), planned for His purpose (Mark 11:1-7, 14:13-15) & did only what the Father directed (Jn.5:19). We are to imitate Him (Phil.2:5). Your weaknesses, inabilities and failures present no challenge to Godʼs plans for your life; your willingness does. Choose today to accomplish all that God has planned for your life, through His power. Decide now that you will know your purpose, plan for your purpose, be motivated to accomplish your purpose, avoid distractions and manage your time wisely. 57

58 Application: Write Out a Life Purpose Statement Clearly formulate why you exist and what would be missing if you didnʼt. You will never know what a distraction is until you know what your goal and purpose are. You must enunciate what your final goal is. It is imperative that somehow, before God, you take that time to write out on a blank sheet of paper why you exist. How wonderful it would be to clearly write out what the purpose of your life is really about and in light of that determine what will refresh and rejuvenate you as you pursue that purpose. - Ravi Zacharias Write out your life purpose. Evaluate your activities in light of this purpose statement to determine whether theyʼll help facilitate your purpose or distract you. Keep answers to 1 or 2 sentences to keep your purpose statement short, to the point and easy to remember. What is your life purpose as it relates to knowing and having a relationship with God? Verses: Mat.22:37-40, Mark 12:29-30, Jn.14:15. Example summary: My relationship with Jesus is my utmost purpose I will spend time with Him daily, growing in my relationship with him. What is your purpose as it relates to fulfilling the Great Commission? Verses: Matt.28:18-20, Acts 1:8, Romans 1:16, 1Cor. 9:16, 2Cor.5:18-19, Col.1:28-29 and Philemon v.6. Example summary: I will be continually involved in evangelism and multiplication oriented discipleship, devoting my life to His service. What is your life purpose as it relates to having a family (note: not all Christians are necessarily called to this)? Verses: Eph. 5:22-31, 1Peter3:7, Prov.31, Eph.6:4, Col.3:21, Prov. 22:6 and 23:13, Deut.4:9 and 6:6-7. Example summary: I will love my wife as Christ loved the church, serving her, respecting her, living in understanding with her and putting her good above my own. I will love my children, train them in Godʼs ways and develop quality relationships with each of them. What is your purpose as it relates to relationships with other people? Verses: Pr. 11:13 and15, 15:1, 16:28, 17:17, 26:20, 27:10, Mt.6:14, Col.3:13 and1jn. 4:21. Example summary: I will be a committed friend, forgiving those who wrong me, not gossiping, but keeping my word and letting God use me to bless others. 58

59 What is your life purpose as it relates to your work (full time ministry, career, college, etc. note: every Christian is called to be continually and actively involved in the ministry even if they hold an 8-5 job). Verses: Mat.28:18-20, 1Cor. 3:13, Col.3:23, 1Thes.4:11 and 5:12. Example summary: I will work diligently at every task God gives me; I will live my life to further His kingdom. Summarize each answer into a final purpose statement below. Add 3 lifetime goals you have. Include anything else you know you are called to which was not listed in those answers. Review and update your life purpose statement periodically. Evaluate decisions and prioritize your schedule in light of this purpose statement. My Life Purpose Statement, Date: / / 59

60 Notes on Leading According to Godʼs Will & Your Life Purpose: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow most in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for this week concerning knowing Godʼs will that you want to grow you in How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? Review the Leadership Characteristics from week 3. How is God growing you? Put that and everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 60

61 Week 10 - Leading with Your Spiritual Gifts. Book suggestion: What you do best in the Body of Christ by Bruce Bugbee Leadership Profile - Tychicus: Paul knew Tychicus well having traveled and ministered with him (Acts 20:4). He described him to both the Ephesians (Eph.6:21-22) and Colossians (Col. 4:7-8) as a faithful servant and a competent encourager. He earned this reputation working alongside Paul and other leaders like Titus (Titus 3:12). Tychicus was gifted with the spiritual gifts of serving and encouragement and he used those well, furthering Godʼs kingdom in every way possible. No matter what your gifts are, use them to serve God and His body rather than for your own glory! Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: 1 Cor.10:31 - So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. James 1:17 tells us all good gifts come from God. Before diving in to the topic of spiritual gifts get your heart in the right place. Read Eph.2:8-9, Eph.1:3, Mt.7:7-11 and Ps.84:11. Take a few moments to remember some of the good gifts God has given you. Thank Him for those good gifts. Begin this appointment with a sense of thankfulness and humility. Nothing you have comes from your self; it is all from Him! Have you ever allowed Godʼs various gifts to you to become more important than Him, your brothers and sisters in Christ or the purpose youʼre called to? Why? Leadership requires humility. Much damage has been done in the Body of Christ by people who considered their perspective on the gifts or their gifts themselves to be more important than their brothers and sisters in Christ. It is time to view this topic with humility, realizing that neither our perspectives or gifts are more important than unity in the Body. Instead of fighting each other on this peripheral issue we need to humbly consider others better than ourselves (Php. 2:3). After discussing the gifts Paul tells the Romans, in Romans 12:10, Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. All ministry must be done from a perspective of humility. The areas you feel gifted in will be the areas youʼre most likely to struggle with pride in. Please read Humility by Andrew Murray for a great perspective on humility. Have you ever made your perspective or gifts bigger than they should be? Why? Read 1 Cor.1:27. What do you on your own have to offer God? Does He need you? Why does He choose to use you? What is the point of Rom.12:3 and how does that relate to Paulʼs description of the Body in verses 4-5, the gifts in verses 6-8 and life and ministry in verses 9-21? 61

62 So what are the spiritual gifts? God gives specific gifts to different believers which when used together with other believers enable the Body as a whole to accomplish what God has called us to - The Great Commission. No believer can have all the gifts - ONLY Jesus does. We must work together as a Body to glorify Him and show Him to the World. There are many different extremes concerning the gifts and most all of those extremes are wrong. No matter what you believe about the gifts remember that other believers are your brothers and sisters regardless of their perspective. Howard Hendricks writes, The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing. Thatʼs great advice concerning the gifts. Today weʼll discuss the gifts from a balanced and scriptural perspective and conclude with a spiritual gift survey to help you discover your gifts. What the Bible says about the gifts: The main passages in scripture which discuss the gifts are 1 Cor.12:1-31, Rom.12:1-8 and Eph.4:1-16. Each passage starts with the foundation for the gifts: Avoiding idolatry and worldliness and worshiping God, walking in humility. 1 Cor.12:1-3, Rom.12:1-3, Eph.4:1-2. Worship is submission to God, living for His purposes. Ravi Zacharius makes the point that your calling must come before your gifting. Know your calling, know you purpose and then use your talents and gifts to accomplish what God has called you to. Remember, God will only reveal the specifics when you are being obedient to the general. The gifts are not the source of joy or passion in your walk. Your passion, zeal and spiritual fervor come not from gifts but from loving and serving the Lord (Rom.12:11). Overemphasis on the gifts is idolatry - worshipping the gifts over the gift giver, the creation over the created. Have you ever overemphasized the gifts and if so, why? Underemphasis on the gifts is ignorance and burying your talent (Mt.25:24-25). Have you ever underemphasized the gifts and if so, why? Each passage describes the context for the gifts: Being committed to the Body of Christ, using your gifts and talents to build His Body. 1 Cor.12:12-31, Rom.12:4-5 and Eph.4:3-6 all tell us to maintain unity and peace in the Body and to be committed to the Body serving the Body with all God has given us. Read 1 Cor.12: What is the point of this passage? What happens when each part does itʼs own thing in pride and separated from the rest of the Body? What happens when each part does itʼs own part in humility and in cooperation with the rest of the Body? 62

63 Each passage defines the different gifts and explains not all are for all members: 1 Cor. 12:4-11, Rom.12:6-8 and Eph.4:7-13 describe many different gifts. It is important to note that there are major differences among believers concerning some of these gifts but those make up less than half of a percent of the New Testament. They are a very minor issue in scripture and not something Christians should make a big deal about. We will continue this discussion with an emphasis on those gifts that are generally agreed upon by all believers and trust you will go to Godʼs Word concerning the others. The bottom line: Keep the main thing the main thing! How can you make sure to keep your perspectives on and exercise of the gifts from creating disorder and disunity in the Body of Christ (Remember 1 Cor.14:33 & 40)? Scripture is very clear that different people have different gifts (Rom.12:6, 1 Cor. 12:8-10 and 27-30). You should trust God has given you the gifts He wants you to have and be wary of anyone telling you thereʼs something more you still need. Are you satisfied with Christ alone or tempted to look for something new and why? Each passage concludes with the context of Loving each other. Rom.12:9-10, Eph. 4:14-16 and 1 Cor.13:1-8 go back to the main thing, Love for God and love for others both of which can be accomplished through encouraging other believers and winning the lost to Christ. This involves being obedient to God in areas you might not feel gifted. For example, Give, encourage, serve, share your faith and show hospitality even if you donʼt feel gifted in those areas. How will an understanding of the context of the Body and unconditional love keep believers from overemphasizing the gifts and making them an issue of division? Discovering your talents and gifts. You are unique and created for a unique purpose. There are no cookie cutter Christians. God has given you different gifts and talents. These are good and to be used, grown and invested for a purpose. The more you walk in obedience the more you ll discover what and where youʼre gifted. Have the right perspective - Keep your eyes on Christ, worship God, serving Him in humility, be committed to the Body of Christ, using your gifts and talents to build His Body, cultivate the different gifts and talents He gives you, loving and serving each other with those gifts. Be obedient in all areas, but also know where God has uniquely gifted you. The application section coming up next will help you discover some of the areas God has gifted you. You donʼt have to do anything special to get Godʼs gifts. As you grow in Him, He will give you whatever gifts He wants you to have (1 Cor.12:11) and He wonʼt take them back or change His mind about it (Rom.12:11). As you begin to find some of the ways God has uniquely gifted you to lead, donʼt neglect them (1 Tim.4:14) and make sure to kindle them and cultivate those areas (2 Tim.1:6). 63

64 Application - Spiritual Gift Survey Note: this survey has been adapted from 3 other surveys. Read each statement and rate it with a score of 1-5 (1 being low, 5 high) in the scoring section on page 62. Add up the columns in the scoring section & compare them to the gift descriptions! 1. I make decisions quickly and rarely second guess them. 2. I am an outgoing person and always making new friends. 3. I am the person people come to with their problems. 4. I recognize needs as soon as I see them. 5. I like doing things for people that are sick or need my help. 6. I want what I say and do to inspire others to obey God better. 7. I often do jobs that donʼt get noticed and Iʼm OK with that. 8. I usually put othersʼ needs above my own. 9. I am good at making scripture understandable to others. 10.I rarely struggle with doubt. 11.I am organized, diligent, take the initiative and will stop at nothing. 12.I am intentional about trying to share my faith. 13.I naturally see othersʼ strengths, abilities and talents. 14.I know that all I have comes from God and want to be wise with His resources. 15.I go the extra mile for people that have special needs. 16.I canʼt stand hearing people speak or teach scripture incorrectly. 17.I enjoy using the talents God has given me to help others. 18.I love helping groups of people grow into a close-knit community. 19.I am excited for opportunities to share what I learn with others. 20.I am optimistic not pessimistic. 21.I can lead groups at whatever level theyʼre at. 22.I like inviting my non-christian friends to church and other Christian events. 23.I have to be there for others when they are going through hard times. 24.I am good at budgeting my money and give on a regular basis. 25.I often pray for the needs people around me have. 26.I have very strong convictions about problems in society and government. 27.I like hands-on projects. 28.I could see myself spending many years with the same group, helping them grow. 29.I spend a lot of time studying the Bible in depth. 30.I live my life expecting God to pull amazing things off in and through me. 31.I like coming up with plans to help groups catch the vision and move to accomplish it. 32.Iʼm passionate about helping others work through barriers they have to putting their faith in Christ. 33.I share motivational scripture more often than deep theological truths. 34.I want the money I give to be used effectively. 35.I seem to be a magnet for people that are either needy & depressed or excited and overjoyed. 36.I feel the need to talk to friends when I see sin or hypocrisy in their lives. 37.I would rather do what someone else asks me to do than decide who does what. 38.I feel a strong need to protect people I am leading. 39.I feel constrained when I have to teach from someone elseʼs notes and would rather prepare my own. 40.I am always excited about taking risks that might scare others. 41.I can see how each person can contribute to the team and its goals. 42.I enjoy meeting new people. 43.I like affirming others and helping them see how valuable they are. 64

65 44.I am quick to give when I hear of a need someone has. 45.I often do things for people that probably couldnʼt return the favor. 46.I am passionate about knowing, speaking and challenging others towards truth. 47.I am a task-oriented person. 48.I think relationships are more important than events and things that need to be done. 49.I sometimes have a hard time being relatable to those that arenʼt at my level. 50.Iʼm not afraid to raise money for missions trips or projects. 51.I can motivate others to accomplish goals. 52.I can be critical of Christians that donʼt share their faith. 53.I often have meaningful and deep conversations with many different friends. 54.I feel spread thin at times because I am giving so much of myself away. 55.If a friend is going through a hard time I do everything I can to encourage them. 56.It can be hard for me to see the good in other people or groups. 57.I am a jack of all trades. 58.I like helping groups of people grow over time in a structured environment. 59.I often hear back from people that they have learned from what Iʼve shared. 60.I canʼt stand when other believers minimize Godʼs ability in their lives. 61.I am always thinking of new ideas, strategies and how to make things work. 62.I enjoy spending time with people that donʼt know Christ and look for opportunities to share with them. 63.I often share advice with others. 64.I feel hurt when people donʼt recognize my contribution or thank me for my gifts. 65.I try to avoid conflict. 66.I can be very critical of people or groups that arenʼt on track. 67.I sometimes feel like people use me. 68.I can get so focused on my group that I forget about those outside. 69.I have an insatiable appetite for learning. 70.I find it easy to trust God, no matter what situations I am going through. 71.I can come across as overbearing and uncaring. 72.I find myself talking about Jesus in most of my conversations. 73.I canʼt stand it when others are negative or critical. 74.I am OK with having less so that I can give more. 75.I feel overwhelmed when I hear of catastrophes and injustice. 76.I like to challenge groups of believers about sensitive issues. 77.I feel a sense of duty when asked to do various jobs that need to be done. 78.I am a patient person. 79.I feel very strong and confident in my grasp of the Bible. 80.I spend a lot of time praying. 81.I am often asked to lead. 82.Iʼm interested in finding new ways to convey the gospel. 83.I feel all Biblical teaching should be practical and applicable to daily life. 84.I enjoy giving money, possessions, time and whatever other resources I can. 85.I make time to visit people that are sick or going through hard times. 86.I want people to be convicted and repentant after listening to me speak. 87.I serve as soon as I see or hear of a need, regardless of what it is. 88.I love helping others take steps they need to take. 89.I love to read. 90.I rarely worry. Complete the spiritual gift survey on the next page to discover some of the areas God has uniquely prepared you to lead effectively for Him! 65

66 Scoring: Add up the columns in the scoring section & compare them to the gift descriptions on the next page! Strength 1: Strength 2: Strength 3: Discuss these strengths with the person discipling you and ask them to find ways to help you step out in these areas. List one step youʼll take: 66

67 Note: This is just a survey!!! These results are not conclusive. Your gifts will become more apparent the longer you follow and serve God. This is meant to give you a little perspective on how God has wired you but it is by no means the final description of who God made you to be. It is just a tool and we hope it helps! The 10 gifts we have included in this list are the major gifts listed in Romans 12:6-8, 1 Corinthians 12:8-10 and Ephesians 4:11. We have not listed those gifts that are not clearly described in scripture, debatable or gifts the Body of Christ has traditionally been divided over (with the exception of prophecy - we have included this gift with its widely accepted definition and predominant Biblical usage here). It should also be noted that there are more gifts not listed in those 3 passages (ex. hospitality, Rom.12:13 and singleness 1 Cor.7:7) and all good gifts come from God (James 1:17). We hope God gives you wisdom about any other gifts He gives you. We encourage you to go to Godʼs Word as you seek to better understand the gifts and the various ways in which God has gifted you. Jesus is THE example of all the gifts and only He has them all. You are unique! We hope this helps. Our greatest hope is that youʼll use your gifts for Him and His Great Commission! Spiritual Gifts described. A. Leadership - Leading by organizing people, groups and events and setting the vision, direction and course for a group. Biblical example: Moses. B. Evangelism - Sharing the Good News of Jesusʼ gift of salvation with those who donʼt yet have a relationship with Him. Biblical example: The Apostle Paul. C. Encouragement - Encouraging, supporting and building up other believers by affirming them in any way possible. Biblical example: Mordecai. D. Giving - Giving your time, talent and resources to help others. Biblical example: Barnabas. E. Mercy - Showing compassion, sympathy and love for others. Biblical example: Boaz. F. Prophecy - Boldly sharing the truth with other believers and challenging them to live lives of obedience to God. Biblical example: Jeremiah. G. Serving - Doing whatever needs to be done to help the team reach the goal and make othersʼ lives easier. Biblical example: Ruth. H. Pastoring - Overseeing a group of believers, over time, helping them grow as the Body of Christ. Biblical example: Peter. I. Teaching - Learning and sharing the truth of Godʼs Word. Biblical example: Nehemiah. J. Faith - Trusting God for more than most are willing to and living life with that type of perspective. Biblical example: Elijah. 67

68 Notes on Leading with Your Spiritual Gifts: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow most in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for cultivating the gifts God has given you How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? Review the Leadership Characteristics from week 3. How is God growing you? Put that and everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 68

69 Week 11 - Effective Leadership Communication Book suggestion: Getting to Yes by Fisher & Ury Leadership Profile - Esther: Esther was one of many Jews scattered throughout Persia around 500 years before Christ. Esther was made queen by Ahasuerus King of Persia (Xerxes) in the third year of his reign (Esther 2:17). While she was queen, her cousin Mordecai, who raised her after her parents died, told her of Hamanʼs plot to exterminate the Jews and encouraged her to use her position of authority to speak boldly on behalf of her people, even though her life would be endangered by such boldness (Esther 4:9-14). Esther decided to say what needed to be said regardless of the danger and fearlessly said, if I perish, I perish (Esther 4:16). Esther told the king of the plot and she and her people, the Jews, were saved (Esther 7:1-6). Leaders must be willing to say what needs to be said, the right way and at the right time regardless of the consequences. Esther is a perfect example of this. Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: Pr.10:21 - The lips of the righteous nourish many... Leaders must communicate in various ways in different circumstances! Note: Please do a personal Bible study on speech sometime this week!! The tongue is powerful (Pr.18:21) and it must be used (2 Cor.4:13) but it must be used wisely (Mt. 12:36). Whether teaching, confronting, resolving conflict, witnessing or encouraging, leaders speak what needs to be spoken on Godʼs behalf (1 Peter 4:11). As leaders we follow Christʼs example (Lk.4:32) setting an example for others (1 Cor.11:1) in speech (1 Tim.4:12). Leaders must communicate the gospel (Rom.10:13-15), they must speak the truth in love (Eph.4:15) and as they communicate the vision, the plan and the priorities they must do it all in a godly way (Titus 3:2). Some people canʼt seem to stop talking and others have a hard time getting a word out. What type of person are you and why? Have you ever had the opportunity to see God speak through you so to say? If so, describe that experience: What has been your experience speaking the gospel and sharing your faith? Speaking can be hard! Remember Mosesʼ example in Ex.4:1, Then Moses said, "What if they will not believe me or listen to what I say? For they may say, `The LORD has not appeared to you.' "Then Moses said to the LORD, "Please, Lord, I have never been eloquent, neither recently nor in time past, nor since You have spoken to Your servant; for I am slow of speech and slow of tongue." The LORD said to him, "Who has made man's mouth? Or who makes him mute or deaf, or seeing or blind? Is it not I, 69

70 the LORD? "Now then go, and I, even I, will be with your mouth, and teach you what you are to say." But he said, "Please, Lord, now send the message by whomever You will." Then the anger of the LORD burned against Moses, and He said, "Is there not your brother Aaron the Levite? I know that he speaks fluently. And moreover, behold, he is coming out to meet you; when he sees you, he will be glad in his heart. "You are to speak to him and put the words in his mouth; and I, even I, will be with your mouth and his mouth, and I will teach you what you are to do. Have you ever felt like Moses in this passage? Why or why not? What fears do you have about speaking as a leader and why? Leaders avoid negative speech & are committed to positive speech! Leaders avoid hidden agendas & manipulation and speak clearly and openly (2 Cor.4:2). Leaders avoid dishonesty and speak what is true (Eph.4:25). Leaders avoid gossip, slander and discouraging speech and speak what will encourage, uplift and edify (2 Cor.12:20 & Eph.4:29). Note: Avoid gossiping, donʼt believe gossip and talk good of others! Leaders avoid crude & tasteless speech and speak kindly (Eph.4:31-32). Leaders avoid arguing (2 Tim.2:24). Leaders take disagreements (which are inevitable) back to the Word rather than trying to win word battles (Chapman writes, in Everyone Wins, If someone wins, you both lose ). Always strive for unity based in the truth of Godʼs Word. Leaders avoid empty and vain speech and speak in a way that is confident, gracious and interesting (Col.4:6). James 3:2 tells us we all sin in different areas of speech. What areas of speech do you typically struggle to honor God in (these could be sins of omission, not saying what you need to, sins of commission, saying what you shouldnʼt, or both)? What steps have you taken to gain victory over sin in the area of speech and what next steps do you need to take? Leaders confront people and issues when necessary. It is imperative that you have a good sense of boundaries whenever it becomes necessary to confront someone (Refer back to week 7 for more on boundaries)! Confrontation is not fun, but sometimes it is necessary. When you must confront someone, do it in the power of the Holy Spirit (Eph.5:18) and according to scripture (2 Tim.3:16). Major, scripturally clear deceptions must always be corrected. Titus 1:13 & 2:15 tell us to rebuke sharply and with all authority but in an encouraging way! Minor, scripturally vague issues should be treated with grace. Have Paulʼs attitude (Php.3:15). Sin must at times be confronted (Gal.6:1-2) and that should happen according to scriptural protocol (Mat.18:15-17). See a good Biblical example of this in 1 Cor.5:1-13 and itʼs resolution in 2 Cor.2:

71 What seems most difficult about godly confrontation to you and why? Leaders resolve conflict when necessary. Resolve conflict with those you have conflict with. Eph.4:26-27, says (in the context of speech), "In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Resolve conflicts that arise in your ministry. James 3:18, discussing relationships and speech, says, Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. Here is the communication wheel courtesy of the Krokoses (and probably CRU): How to use the communication wheel (Again, this comes from the Krokoses). Role play through this a few times to get comfortable with it: Communication wheel definitions: These may seem selfish but it is important to express what we think, feel & want. Issue: Define whatʼs at the heart of the issue? Use I statements. Own the issue. Sensory data: Explain what you took in from your senses. Thoughts: Describe what you thought and interpreted. Feelings: Use feeling words, ex. sad, lonely, frustrated. Wants: Say what you want, for your self, others and each other. 71

72 Actions: Discuss past actions (what caused the issue), present actions and future actions (specific things youʼd like to see happen). Communication wheel directions: Each person should go through the whole wheel until completely finished and then switch. You can go in any order. Jump back and forth, etc. If possible write out the wheel ahead of time. It is O.K. to interrupt to ask questions or summarize. Follow these rules (James 1:19): Seek to understand. It takes supernatural power to put your needs on hold and try to understand the other person (Pr.18:2). Most conflicts are resolved when you understand each other. Speak for yourself. Use I statements. Take ownership of your feelings. Try not to accuse or blame. Listen by following. You want to hear their story. Asking leading questions makes you the leader, instead, follow where they go. Do not try to jump in & fix them or relate your autobiography. Just listen. Invite them to tell you more. Donʼt stop until they tell you theyʼre done. Usually the 3rd time theyʼll begin to open up. Listening tips: Attending: Establish eye contact, nonverbals. Acknowledging: Agreeing statements (uh huh, right, etc). Inviting: Ask them to tell you more. Summarizing: Capture the essence of what they are saying in an empathetic way. You can help people youʼre mediating between work through this process. Always remember every conflict has two sides and there is always more to the story! Donʼt jump to conclusions. Be a patient and wise peacemaker. Leaders teach & preach (1 Tim.4:13 & 5:17). Teaching is speaking Godʼs Word to believers. Preaching is speaking Godʼs Word to unbelievers (evangelism)! Leaders do both! There will be more on evangelism later so for now, consider these 10 points on putting together and teaching a lesson: 1. Be diligent and prepare adequately. 2. Seek to communicate the truth of Godʼs Word rather than finding random verses to support your predetermined ideas. Use scripture more than your own ideas and opinions. Ask God to give you wisdom as you prepare (James 1:5). 72

73 3. Develop an interesting intro, a good body for the talk (many people will use a 3 point outline) and an effective closing. Be clear and concise. 4. Use illustrations and stories as needed to explain your point. 5. Establish a rapport with your audience. You might share a story, use a joke or find some other way to build a bridge with those listening to you. 6. Speak loudly, boldly and confidently. 7. Be appropriate and real. 8. Make eye contact with your listeners (many people will try to do a figure 8 back and forth across the room as they speak). 9. Avoid distracting actions. Donʼt do weird things with pens, your notes, or other objects. 10.Challenge your audience to action. Leave them with ways to put your talk into practice and apply what they have learned. Have you ever taught from Godʼs Word? If not, ask the person discipling you to help you prepare for this, come up with a time you can do it and take a risk. If so what went right and what would you improve on later? Leaders negotiate for Godʼs glory. Negotiating is defined as arranging for or bringing about by discussion and settlement of terms. Leaders negotiate with non- Christians to come to Christ (2 Cor.5:20) and with Christians to grow with & follow Christ (Gal.4:12). Getting to Yes by Fisher & Ury includes the results of decades of Harvard studies on effective negotiation! We have paraphrased their findings into 4 pʼs. As you negotiate in evangelism, discipleship and all other areas of ministry, follow these steps (the 4 pʼs): 1. People - Before negotiating, build bridges and a rapport with the person or people youʼre communicating with! 2. Priorities - Decide what the values and non-negotiables are. 3. Plan - Come up with a plan that meets those. 4. Probation - Decide what criteria will show you the plan is working. Are there any areas you need to negotiate for Godʼs glory right now? Explain: 73

74 Leaders ask forgiveness when necessary. I have yet to meet a leader that hasnʼt made mistakes that hurt others. It is very important that a leader be quick to ask forgiveness whenever that is needed. If in doubt, itʼs always better to be safe than sorry. Think of someone you need to ask forgiveness of right now. Take a step towards doing that. A few last thoughts on communication: The goal of communication is not quantity of words but rather quality of words (saying the right thing at the right time). Pr. 10:19 says, When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise. Believe the best about others, try not to believe anything more than what you know for sure. Clarify whatever could be wrong. Men and women must strive to understand each other. Men, realize women read into what you are saying! Women, realize men mean just what they say!watch your body language, eye contact, tone and other issues. The book Louder Than Words: Nonverbal Communication tells us that communication is 7% verbal, 38% vocal (volume, pitch, rhythm, etc) & 55% body language and facial expressions. Assume , texting and other media will convey a negative or incorrect meaning more often than a positive one. Strive to make important conversations face to face 1st, phone 2nd and other media if nothing else is possible. Bottom line: Decide to speak boldly for Christ. Jim Elliot wrote in his journal Father, make of me a crisis man. Bring those I contact to decision. Let me not be a milepost on a single road; make me a fork, that men must turn one way or another on facing Christ in me. Remember Ex. 4: This all comes out of your walk with God (Mt.12:34) and a Spirit-filled life (Mt.10: Note: this is referring to a very specific context but it is based on a larger Biblical principle)! Finally, read Ez.2:7 and 3:

75 Application Describe your comfort level (on a scale of 1 to 10) with each of the following areas of speech and list how you can take a step to the next level: Confrontation: Comfort level: How you plan to take it to the next level: Conflict resolution: Note - Plan to use the communication wheel this week. Comfort level: How you plan to take it to the next level: Teaching: Comfort level: How you plan to take it to the next level: Preaching (evangelism): Comfort level: How you plan to take it to the next level: Negotiating: Comfort level: How you plan to take it to the next level: Asking forgiveness: Comfort level: How you plan to take it to the next level: Other areas not discussed today : Comfort level: How you plan to take it to the next level: 75

76 Notes on Effective Leadership Communication: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for effective communication this week How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? Review the Leadership Characteristics from week 3. How is God growing you? Put that and everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 76

77 Week 12 - Leading Individuals, Teams and Events Book suggestion: The 17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork by John Maxwell Leadership Profile - Gideon: God calls Gideon to deliver Israel from the oppression of the Midianites (Judges 6:14) and then tapers down the Israelite army from 32,000 to 300 (Judges 7:8) in order to show His own power. Gideon then divides those 300 men into 3 groups and using great leadership and teamwork, defeats the entire Midianite army of 135,000 (Judges 7:9-25 & 8:10). As you apply the principles of teamwork and leadership in the power of the Holy Spirit, God will accomplish great things. Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: 2 Tim.2:2 - And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable men who will also be qualified to teach others. To accomplish the vision, leaders must be able to lead in a variety of areas and ways! Today weʼll discuss 3 big areas leaders must be able to excel in. Leading individuals, leading teams and leading events. Remember, ministry is about people, not numbers and a process, not just events. An effective ministry must be able to maintain that focus while also using individuals, teams and events to accomplish the goal. Donʼt ever forget the priority - PEOPLE!!! Remember the 4 contexts of discipleship (check out the ministry fundamentals class for these and much more): 1 meeting one-on-one weekly for discipleship (the individual aspect), 2 meeting in a small group Bible study weekly (the team aspect), 3 being part of a large group weekly (the event aspect) and 4 being involved in consistent outreach and personal evangelism (putting it all into application). Whatʼs been your experience leading in these 3 areas (individuals, teams and events); what do you feel least comfortable with and why? How are you being faithful with little for the sake of the little in whatever leadership role you have now so God can grow you into a better leader in more areas? Leading individuals. This is Godʼs command to all believers! Jesus commands you to make disciples (Mt.28:18-20) and that involves leading individuals. Follow the following principles (from the teacherʼs edition of the discipleship packet) as you seek to lead individuals and make disciples: First, invest in the right individuals! Probably the most important aspect of leading individuals is picking the right individuals to invest your life in. Paul told Timothy to find faithful men to invest in (2 Tim.2:2). Based on that principle, we developed the FAITH acronym and later discovered that Steve Shadrach developed the same acronym! We only differed in one word. Look for these 5 characteristics in anyone you hope to 77

78 disciple. Look for someone who is Faithful (does what he says he will), Available (has time to meet and doesnʼt miss appointments, meetings, etc.), takes the Initiative (thanks Steve Shadrach) and is interactive (communicates honestly), is Teachable (not argumentative but takes what you say to heart and applies it) and has a Heart for God (a heart for God is the most important thing to look for in someone you wish to disciple). Second, invest in them according to these specific guidelines. 1 Pray for the person you are beginning to disciple. Rely on the Holy Spirit to work in their lives. Remember, that the person you are discipling will be discipling the next generation! 2 Building a relationship and personal credibility is most important. Be sensitive to the needs and interests of the young disciple. Meet them where they are at. 3 Be personable, relatable, and genuinely interested in the new disciple with motivation of love. This should be demonstrated by taking the initiative to be relatable and build good lines of communication. Balance your relationship with common interests and fun activities. 4 Remember, who you are to a person determines a lot of what he takes in from you. The acceptance of content and new knowledge depends to a large degree on how he views the Christian sharing the information. Itʼs been said that, first they want to know that you care and then they will care what you know. 5 Be sure to let the new disciple see you as a person who is also growing in Christ; and share with him appropriate issues that you are presently trusting God for (ex. problems, challenges, difficulties). 6 Answer the new disciple's questions first, then proceed to share the material that you have planned for your time. When answering questions, always help him to think first about what God would say, instead of what you, a friend, or book would say. 7 Do not "preach" at the person but rather ask him questions to help him learn things from the Bible himself. Think of your time as guided learning not forced teaching. 8 Always help the new disciple see the Bible as the only source of truth for living his life. As you are talking, write out verses, diagrams, illustrations on paper, and give it him as you are ending the appointment. Encourage them to keep this for future reference. 9 If you do not have time to finish all the material, simply continue it next time. 10 "Too much, too soon, too bad; too little, too late, so sad" - Donʼt overload them with info, be patient! Donʼt dumb it down, help them take the next step! 11 Remember, the new disciple does not yet think, talk, or act like a more mature Christian, so do not ignorantly lose your credibility by doing one or more of the following: Do not talk in "heavy" Christian religious language; talk in a normal way. Do not try to communicate too deep; avoid rabbit trails; keep it simple. Do not verbally or non-verbally communicate a standard of performance such as legalism, "rules and regulations," dress codes, language use, or any other Christian mannerisms. The new disciple must learn to thrive in his new freedom in Christ and follow the Holy Spirit's direction rather than the philosophies of others; avoid legalism. Do not "spiritualize" everything in your conversation; be real with them. 12 Meet once or twice each week; continuity and consistency of time spent together is critical for effective discipleship. There must be a WILLING COMMITMENT to spend effective time with the new disciple so that he or she gets a good start in their walk with God. You can not mass-produce or assembly-line the discipleship process. 13 Do not get discouraged thinking that you did something wrong when someone becomes a Christian, but doesnʼt want to meet with you, or starts, but then drops out. Remember, youʼre responsible only to be available to let God work through you in His Spiritʼs power, trusting results to Him. 78

79 Third, invest in them according to these general criteria: Have good boundaries! Deal with your own insecurities. Be humble. Be bold. Leaders challenge people to more than theyʼll typically do otherwise. Be honest about where they need to grow. Encourage them often. Delegate to them at their level, help them take the next step. Demonstrate what you want them to learn in your own life. Do everything you can to help them grow. Share resources & opportunities. Have fun together!!! Get the ball rolling. Weʼve discussed a lot about leading individuals and investing your life in others through discipleship. When youʼre ready to take that step, go to the potential disciple and intentionally set up an initial appointment, donʼt expect them to come and ask you to disciple them, remember Jesusʼ example Mt.4:19 and Mk.1:17. When setting up that first appointment, you need an opening transition statement as to what and why you would like to meet with them. Ex. "John/Suzi, would you like to see how God works in our lives in a practical day to day way?" Or, Do you have some time tomorrow or the next day to get together and talk? Have your schedule handy to plan a time. Always call them the night before to confirm and remind them of the appointment. At the end of each appointment, set up another appointment. More than anything, model what your teaching to them. Itʼs been said that discipleship must be taught and caught. Teaching them is important but getting them in the action will drive it all home. That will also help them take the next step they need to take. Have you ever been discipled? Explain how that went: Have you ever discipled someone else? If so, how did it go and what would you change? If not, when do you plan to get started and who will you invest in? Leading individuals can be difficult but stick with it. If you want them to become Christ like youʼll have to battle their flesh. Be concerned with character development first, then skills and finally specifics. Think about the long term rather than the short term. Be more concerned with the next 30 years of their ministry than with the quality of the event youʼve delegated to them this weekend. Help them see their potential in Christ; donʼt give up on them! Leading teams. Accomplishing anything significant requires a team. A team is not a luxury but rather a necessity. Even Jesus had a team!!! Until leaders can lead teams well theyʼll never be effective leaders. The following section on teamwork is a summary of The 17 Iindisputable Laws of Teamwork by Maxwell. First, be the right leader for the team. Be who you need to be. Lead humbly! If your team experiences success give credit to the team. If the team does OK, include yourself along with the team in the credit (ex. we did our best... ). If the team experiences failure, be quick to accept the blame yourself. These principles will help you build your teamʼs trust and support of you. Do your part, set the pace and lead by example. 79

80 Second, build the right team! The laws outlined by Maxwell in The 17 Iindisputable Laws of Teamwork are vitally important for all leaders to understand. Here they are: 1 The Law of Significance: One Is Too Small a Number to Achieve Greatness. 2 The Law of the Big Picture: The Goal is More Important Than the Role. 3 The Law of the Niche: All Players Have a Place Where They Add the Most Value. 4 The Law of the Great Challenge ("Mount Everest"): As the Challenge Escalates, the Need for Teamwork Elevates. 5 The Law of the Chain: The Strength of the Team Is Impacted by Its Weakest Link. 6 The Law of the Catalyst: Winning Teams Have Players Who Make Things Happen (always look for team members that will rise to the occasion and get the team to victory). 7 The Law of the Vision ("Compass"): Vision Gives Team Members Direction and Confidence. 8 The Law of the Bad Apple: Rotten Attitudes Ruin a Team. 9 The Law of Countability: Teammates Must Be Able to Count on Each Other When It Counts. 10 The Law of the Price Tag: The Team Fails to Reach Its Potential When It Fails to Pay the Price. 11 The Law of the Scoreboard: The Team Can Make Adjustments When It Knows Where It Stands. 12 The Law of the Bench: Great Teams Have Great Depth. 13 The Law of Identity: Shared Values Define the Team. 14 The Law of Communication: Interaction Fuels Action. 15 The Law of the Edge: The Difference Between Two Equally Talented Teams Is Leadership. 16 The Law of High Morale: When Youʼre Winning, Nothing Hurts. 17 The Law of Dividends: Investing in the Team Compounds Over Time. Third, manage team dynamics well. Team dynamics are often interesting and hard to figure out. All teams need good leadership. All teams need a diversity of abilities and gifts. Be intentional about bringing people on your team with gifts different than your own. Delegate to your team and then cut them loose! Maxwell says if someone can do something 80% as good as you, delegate it! Remember that a diversity of gifts, talents and abilities will also bring a diversity of opinions. That will inevitably lead to butting heads; be ready to help the team be who they need to be and get where they need to go. Leadership consultants Ron and Geri Swingle share the following notes on dealing with conflict on your team. Forming The team comes together. There is minimal initial conflict. Storming As personalities come out so will conflict. A good leader will lead the team past this. Norming The team unites around the common vision in spite of differences. Performing Now unified around the major, common direction, the team is able to accomplish great things! Whether itʼs leading a Bible study, ministry team or any other type of team, you will experience success in leadership as you learn to use a team. Make sure to network with like minded individuals in order to build the right teams. What has been your experience with teamwork? 80

81 What characteristics do you think make teams successful? What characteristics do you think hurt teams? Are you more of a go-it-alone type of person or do you yearn for a team and why? Leading events. Remember, ministry is about people and process more than events. Donʼt overemphasize events but remember they do serve an important role. Be strategic about designing events to help accomplish the vision! Keep up the momentum and plan momentum building events into your schedule. Design low input high impact events rather than high input low impact events. Brainstorm and come up with creative and new ideas to keep the event fresh. Plan your event carefully. Donʼt do events alone. Weʼve discussed the importance of your team! Use your team!!! Keep them motivated. Be faithful to lead well. Make sure each person on the team knows exactly what they need to do and how they need to do it. Be diligent to prepare well for the event ahead of time. Stay ahead of the curve. Do whatever it takes to make the event what it needs to be. Make sure to maximize all aspects of the event: advertising, schedule, content, resources, budget and other specifics should be delegated and accomplished. Donʼt let them fall through the cracks. Make sure to find, understand and abide by all legalities and regulations that might pertain to your event. Make sure to obtain any insurance or other precautions that are needed. Evaluate your preparation frequently to stay on track and evaluate the event after it is done to see how you can do better next time. Whether youʼre leading a Bible study, mission trip, outreach, weekly meeting, retreat, conference or some other type of event, apply these principles to make it what it needs to be. Have you had the opportunity to plan and/or lead events? Explain? If so, what would you do differently now? If not, talk with the person discipling you about taking a step in that direction. Final thoughts. As you grow as a leader, youʼll need to grow in each of these areas. Step out; this is on the job training. Trust God to develop you in these areas by the power of His Spirit. Remember, you donʼt have what it takes but He definitely does!!! Describe the best examples of leading individual, team and event leadership youʼve ever seen: 81

82 Application Write out a personal plan for the upcoming year for growing in leading individuals. Include discipleship issues: Write out a personal plan for the upcoming year for growing in leading teams. Include Bible study plans and other issues: Write out a personal plan for the upcoming year for growing in leading events. Include different events (Ex. Bible studies, mission trips, outreaches, weekly meetings, retreats, conferences or some other types of events) youʼd like to try leading and how youʼll do that: 82

83 Notes on Leading Individuals, Teams and Events: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for leading individuals, teams and events this week How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? Review the Leadership Characteristics from week 3. How is God growing you? Put that and everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 83

84 Week 13 - Leaders Stand Strong on Truth. Book suggestion: The Invisible War by Chip Ingram Leadership Profile - Daniel: Daniel received a word from God (Daniel 10:2) and instantly committed himself to understanding what God had said (Daniel 10:12). Daniel prayed and fasted for 3 weeks and after that time was visited by a messenger from God who had been caught up in spiritual battle with the Prince of Persia (a demonic force, Daniel 10:13). Whatʼs important to realize is that Daniel was actively involved in spiritual battle through prayer and fasting, as he stood on the truth of Godʼs Word (the vision he had received from God). The Christian leader must follow His example, living a life of commitment to Godʼs Word, the Bible, and fighting a spiritual battle in prayer. Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: Heb.4:12 - For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. As we begin discussing spiritual warfare, read Eph.6: Remember the context of ch. 6 is chapters 4-5 which deal exclusively with unity in the Body and relationships. You should always remember that victorious spiritual warfare comes out of authentic and godly fellowship; you canʼt fight alone or divided. There are only two options in the spiritual battle you, as a believer, are involved in: victory or failure! General Patton wrote his wife before a major battle in Northern Africa telling her, I will either leave this battlefield a hero or a corpse. We need to have a similar sense of resolve concerning the spiritual battle weʼre involved in; our enemy sure does! If you arenʼt fighting the spiritual battle in the power of the Holy Spirit, you will crash and burn. As a leader, youʼre stepping into Satanʼs firing squad. Donʼt over-emphasize or under-emphasize the battle; know youʼre engaged in it but guaranteed victory in Christ. Where have you acquired your current knowledge of spiritual warfare (friends, books, media, sermons, movies, the Bible, etc.)? Is your source trustworthy; why or why not? What do you think of spiritual warfare? Do you tend to over-emphasize it or underemphasize it and why? We will go through Eph.6:10-20 step by step in this weekʼs notes. Eph.6:10, says, Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. If you try to fight off Satanʼs attacks in your own strength youʼll fail every time. You simply arenʼt strong enough to fight the temptation, deception and opposition he will throw at you. You must be filled with the Spirit (refer to week 1) and stand strong in the Lord and His power. 84

85 Have you ever tried to stand and fight in your own strength rather than Godʼs? What was the result? What will you do differently from now on? Eph.6:11, says, Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. Thereʼs a lot to get out of this verse. You need to know your enemy, the Devil, schemes against you. The Greek word used here for scheme is Methodeia which means A strategy to attack you. 1 Peter 5:8 says, Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Our enemy roams the earth looking for someone (unaware and weak) to devour (remember Job 1:7). He steals, kills and destroys (Jn.10:10), deceives (Rev. 20:10), accuses (Rev.12:9-10), tempts (Mt.4:3, 1 Thes. 3:5) and setʼs snares and traps for you (1 Tim.3:7, 2 Tim.2:26). He is constantly updating and switching up his attack and will hit you where it hurts most and when it is least expected. Have the right perspective. He is stronger than you (Jude 9) but you have authority over him (Lk. 10:19-20). It is imperative that you exercise your authority over him, not giving him a foothold (Eph.4:27 - read Eph.4:25-31 for a list of footholds ). You are able to stand against Satan and his schemes by putting on the full armor of God. How have you underestimated your enemy in the past? What was the result? What do you think some of Satanʼs schemes against you are (hint: where does he seem to get you every time he tries)? How can you better prepare for those schemes in the future? Eph.6:12, says, For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. As you consider your enemy, Satan, you should know he is just part of the attack - he has a formidable team on his side. The attack comes from Satan (as we just learned) but also from your own flesh, his greatest ally (Jer.17:9, Rom.7:18 and Php.3:3) and the world, his dominion (2 Cor.4:4, 1 Jn.2:15-17 and Rom.12:1-2). How has your own flesh fought along side Satan against you? How has the world fought along side Satan against you? Eph.6:13, says, Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Put on the full armor because the day of evil IS coming. Donʼt be passive about your foe. Again, donʼt over-emphasize or under-emphasize the battle (Remember 2 Kings 6:15-17). The battle isnʼt a Christian version of ghost busters but it is very real. 85

86 Donʼt get taken out of the battle. Every year Christians, including leaders, get taken out of the battle. We must do the ministry with a constant eye on the battle just like Nehemiah did when rebuilding the wall (Nehemiah 4:16-20). Be ready and pro-active not reactive. Think offensively! Always look to shore up your defenses & take new ground. Fight to win, not just to survive. The Greek word translated to stand your ground is Anthistemi which means resist, set oneʼs self up against, withstand and oppose. The spiritual battle begins with intentionally resisting and setting yourself up against your enemy; it involves offense as much as defense (remember James 4:7-8 and 1 Peter 5:8-9). Do not get complacent about his traps and attacks. Satan is always shifting, tweaking and maneuvering to destroy you. 1 Cor.10:12 warns,...if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall! Eph.6:13 concludes saying once youʼve resisted Satan and put on the full armor, stand. This last Greek word translated stand literally means stand. When you are fully equipped with the armor of God, fighting offensively and defensively in the power of the Holy Spirit you will be able to stand strong in the face of attack and in the day of evil. Describe a time you have stood strong, resisting the devil in the face of attack (use a ministry example if you have one). How did you stand strong? How can you apply James 4:7-8 and 1 Peter 5:8-9 in spiritual battle? Eph.6:14a, begins describing the armor saying, Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist... It is not coincidental that the armor begins with truth and concludes with the sword of the Spirit, the Word of God (v.17). Just like Danielʼs battle was fought in the context of Godʼs Word, ours will be as well. A scripturally illiterate soldier is doomed to failure. The soldierʼs belt, in the time of Paul, held all the armor, clothing and weaponry in place. Every piece of your armor rides on truth and Godʼs Word. If you lose that battle youʼll loose them all. The belt of truth holds everything together and everything goes back to truth! You should also note, the soldiers belt protected his waist and loin area including his reproductive organs. Not to be crass, but spiritual warfare and a foundation of truth are vitally important for spiritual multiplication (remember 1 Tim. 4:16). Practically, buckle the belt of truth around your waist by walking in the truth, reading, studying, meditating on, memorizing and applying Godʼs Word. Remember how Jesus fought off Satanʼs attacks in Mt.4 and Lk.4. How has ignorance about scripture hurt you and truth protected you in battle? Remember Satan is a deceiver (deceives Rev. 12:9-10 and 20:10) and the father of lies (Jn.8:44). Have you ever been deceived, are you now and what was the result? Before going any further, learn these 5 steps for evaluating anything to see how it lines up with the truth. Work through each of these steps concerning the issue in question 86

87 and then ask whether you could accept this issue without doubting (Rom.14:23). 1. What does the Bible say specifically about the issue? 2. What Biblical principles apply to the issue? 3. Does this issue meet any of the criteria for deception? a. Here are the 21 signs of deception described in Mt.24:24, Mk.13:22, 2 Cor. 11:3, 19-20, Rom.16:18, Eph. 5:6, Col.2:4, 1 Tim.1:3-7, 2 Tim.3:13, 4:1-5, 2 Peter 2:1-3, 17-22: 1 Overemphasis on signs and wonders, 2 division among believers, 3 flattery and nice sounding arguments that are actually empty but deceive the naive, 4 distraction from simple and pure devotion to Christ, 5 foolishness, 6 physical roughness, 7 legalism and manipulation, 8 special revelation from God (an uncommon form of Christianity), 9 speculation and fruitless discussion, 10 distraction from doing God s work by faith#, 11 confidence without understanding (do they consider themselves teachers of God s Word yet have a poor understanding of it?), 12 does it continue going further and further away from the truth & getting crazier and crazier (does it go from bad to worse - remember the law of diminishing returns), 13 strange doctrines, myths and stories which differ from sound doctrine, 14 hidden agenda or secrecy about true beliefs and teachings, 15 sensuality and an appeal to peoples fleshly desires and emotions, 16 Jesus and Christianity get a bad rap, 17 greed and materialism, 18 taking advantage of people, 19 pride, 20 the promise of freedom or something more and finally, 21 non- Christian actions (or acting like we did before Christ). 4. What s been the historical occurrence of the issue? 5. What is the fruit of the issue? If you apply these 5 steps to the teaching, teacher or thought in concern and find that you have doubt about it since the Bible says nothing about this or contradicts it, it isnʼt in line with Biblical principles, it meets different criteria of deception, it has traditionally been something rejected by the church or propagated by non-christians or it produces bad fruit, you should probably reject it by faith and youʼll be able to know you arenʼt falling for Satanʼs deceptions. Apply these 5 steps to an issue of ambiguity in your life now and see how it fares. Eph.6:14b, defines the armor, saying, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, The breastplate protected vitals in combat. The believerʼs breastplate is the breastplate of righteousness. You are protected from guilt and shame as you walk in His righteousness (Php.3:7-9). As you practice righteousness, walking in integrity and avoiding Satanʼs deception, attacks and the consequences of sin (1 Jn.3:7 and Is. 87

88 54:17), you are also kept safe. Practically, put on the breastplate of righteousness by walking in his righteousness and practicing righteousness in His power as well. How have guilt and shame from your past hurt you in the past? Have you experienced victory in the battle by standing in His righteousness? Explain: How have sin and a lack of integrity hurt you in battle? Have you experienced victory over sin that led to more victory in other areas as well? Explain: Eph.6:15, mentions the third piece of armor, saying, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. The soldiers shoes were often studded with nails enabling traction and movement in battle. Our feet are fit with the readiness that comes from the Gospel of peace. The Gospel canʼt be dissected. Accepting the Gospel, living the Gospel and sharing the Gospel are each fundamental to having your feet, traction and movement in the battle. Remember Rom.10: Practically, put on your spiritual shoes by always being ready, living and sharing the gospel!!! If you arenʼt sharing your faith youʼre setting yourself up for defeat in battle. Whatʼs been your experience with evangelism? Have you seen evangelism contribute to victory in other areas or a lack of evangelism result in defeat in other areas? Explain: Eph.6:16, describes the fourth piece of armor, saying, In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Fiery darts can take on many forms. They may look like good opportunities. Satan tempted Jesus with good things. Heʼll do it with you too. The good is often the enemy of the best. You must know your purpose in order to discern! Satan could use people as part of his attack. Youʼll likely encounter gossip and slander from believers and unbelievers alike. Respond to people attacks with love and forgiveness. Circumstances can be some of Satanʼs favorite flaming arrows. Respond to circumstantial attacks with trust and walking by faith. Temptations will hit where many other attacks come up short. Respond to temptation by drawing near to Jesus (1 Cor.10:13). Satan will often attack you hardest in your mind. Depression, anxiety, fear, doubt, insecurities and the like should not surprise you; recognize these as mental attacks. Extinguish fiery arrows with the shield of faith (more on that in a moment) and by placing that faith in Godʼs Word alone! Defend yourself with scripture. Other forms of attack might even include demonic experiences: Respond to these by exercising your authority as Godʼs child. Exercise authority over demonic issues as a believer (Acts 19:13-16), rebuking them in Jesusʼ name (Lk.10:17-20, Acts 16:18), using scripture (Mt.4:1-11, Lk.4:1-13), by faith (Mt. 17:18), believing and praying (Mk.9:25-29), telling them to go (Mt.8), come out (Mt.5:8) & be quiet (Lk.4:35). Whatever the flaming arrow happens to be, the fallout is always 88

89 mental & emotional - Satan tries to wear you down. Remember and Is. 26:3 and 2 Cor. 10:3-5. As you walk by faith youʼll extinguish these attacks and the fiery darts are stopped at the shield - they never make it into your mental and emotional world; they never have an opportunity to penetrate your thoughts and feelings. Practically, we take up the shield of faith by walking by faith in God and His Word and not by sight (2 Cor. 5:7)!!! How has the shield of faith protected you from the various flaming arrows of Satan? What area of attack do you need to fend off by deploying the shield of faith today? Eph.6:17, explains the fifth piece of armor, saying, Take the helmet of salvation... Greek helmets had images of hope on them to balance the soldiers perspective in battle. As Satan attacks your mind with temptation, deception and doubt, it is imperative that you stay focused on the hope of your salvation in Christ provides (1 Thes 5:8) maintaining an eternal perspective in the battle (2 Cor.4:18). Practically, we put on the helmet of salvation first by being saved in an eternal sense and 2nd, by keeping our hope focused on Him for His salvation and solution in every circumstance!!! Have you been freed from disillusionment by remembering the hope of your salvation? Explain: What mental tapes (ex. Iʼm not good enough, people donʼt like me, etc) constantly run through your mind and how can you combat those with scripture (2 Cor.10:5)? Eph.6:17b, concludes the description of the armor with an offensive weapon, saying, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. We win the battle by going on the offensive, fighting with the sword of the Spirit which is the Word of God (Heb.4:12). The Spirit reveals Godʼs Word to us by teaching us (Jn.14:26, 1 Cor.2:12), reminding us of Christʼs Words (Jn.14:26), giving us Christʼs mind and thinking (1 Cor.2:16) and guiding us into all truth (Jn.16:13). He will enable you to fight the battle with scripture like Jesus did in Mt.4 and Lk.4. Practically, we use the sword of the Spirit by allowing the Holy Spirit to guide us and living moment by moment applying the truth of His Word in His power!!! Describe a time where the Holy Spirit brought just the right passage of scripture to mind to win some aspect of the battle: If you arenʼt strong in Godʼs Word youʼre on the verge of spiritual defeat. How do you need to grow in your knowledge and application of Godʼs Word? 89

90 Eph.6:18, wraps up this discussion of spiritual battle, reminding us of the importance of two keys to victory, saying, And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints. Pray also for me, that whenever I open my mouth, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should. The 2 final keys Paul mentions are prayer and evangelism. Prayer is not an option, it is the solution (1 Cor.3:9) and the Holy Spirit will direct you to pray as you fight the spiritual battle, be sensitive to His leading. Remember Php.4:6-7. Bottom line, leaders pray (Remember Samuelʼs perspective on prayer for those he led in 1 Sam.12:23). Evangelism is where ground is gained in the battle. Weʼll discuss this more in next weekʼs notes. How is it difficult for you to stay diligent in prayer? What results does an active prayer life produce in the rest of your life? How have you seen prayer contribute to victory in the battle? A life of Christian leadership will inevitably include hardship, discipline, trials and adversities (Jn.16:33). Persecution is likely (2 Tim.3:12). Remember: God is more concerned with developing Christlikeness in you than He is with your comfort level. Sometimes Satanʼs attacks are allowed for Godʼs purposes and your growth, maturity and discipline (2 Cor.12:7-10). Keep persevering (Heb.12:7, 11), trust Him (1 Peter 4:19) and consider all He uses to develop your character pure joy (James 1:2-4). Stay disciplined (1 Cor. 9:24-27), recognizing that your comfort zones will be crushed (2 Tim. 2:3-4). Persevere through the attack, allowing God to develop you into the leader He wants you to be. Sir Winston Churchill described perseverance saying, Never give in-- never, never, never, never, in nothing great or small, large or petty, never give in... Never yield to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy. Keep learning and getting stronger (Ps.18). What hardships have you persevered through that ended up making you stronger? The Battle is the Lordʼs! He is building you and your ministry (Ps.127:1). Meditate on Godʼs Word constantly (Ps.119:97). Pray continually (1 Thes. 5:17). Fight the battle by praising God (magnifying God, declaring His character and acts - 2 Chronicles 20). Stay strong with the perspective of Joy (Neh.8:10). The battle belongs to the lord (1 Sam. 17:47) and God will save you in battle (ex. Hos.1:7). Remember Rom. 8:37. How do you need to trust Him with the battle today? 90

91 Application Section 1 Come up with a plan to arm yourself daily!!! Whatʼs your daily game plan for practically buckling the belt of truth around your waist by walking in the truth, reading, studying, meditating on, memorizing and applying Godʼs Word? Whatʼs your daily game plan for practically putting on the breastplate of righteousness by walking in his righteousness and practicing righteousness and walking in integrity in His power as well? Whatʼs your daily game plan for practically putting on your spiritual shoes by always being ready, living and sharing the gospel? Whatʼs your daily game plan for practically taking up the shield of faith by walking by faith in God and His Word and not by sight? Whatʼs your daily game plan for practically putting on the helmet of salvation by keeping your hope focussed on Him for His salvation and solution in every circumstance? Whatʼs your daily game plan for practically using the sword of the Spirit by allowing the Holy Spirit to guide you and living moment by moment applying the truth of His Word in His power? Whatʼs your daily game plan for winning the battle through prayer? Whatʼs your daily game plan for winning the battle by sharing your faith? 91

92 Application Section 2 Ps. 119:11 - Hide the Word in your heart! We hope youʼve been memorizing each weekʼs memory verse in this packet. Make it a goal to memorize at least 1 scripture passage per week. Get started here! Write out 10 more verses youʼll begin memorizing (there are also extra notecards in the back):

93 Notes on Leaders Stand Strong on Truth: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for winning the spiritual battle in your life this week How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? Review the Leadership Characteristics from week 3. How is God growing you? Put that and everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 93

94 Week 14 - Leaders Multiply with Vision! Book suggestion: The Fuel and the Flame by Steve Shadrach Leadership Profile - Joshua: Joshua was a servant of Moses. One of his first major leadership roles was spying out the land God had called Israel to inherit, along with 11 other men (Numbers 13:1-24). Upon returning, most of the spies gave terrible reports that demotivated the Israelites from accomplishing what God had called them to (Numbers 13:25-33). Only Caleb and Joshua believed God and kept His vision in front of the people (Numbers 14:6-9); God killed the doubting spies and protected Joshua and Caleb for keeping His will first and foremost (Numbers 14:36-38). God ended up appointing Joshua to succeed Moses in leading Israel (Numbers 27:15-23). As soon as Moses died, Joshua became the nationʼs leader and immediately clarified Godʼs vision for them and then led the people into the land God had given them (Joshua 1). Joshua divided up all the land among the tribes of Israel, assigning different locations to them, allowing them to multiply across the land and conquer it (Joshua 13). It is important for leaders to believe God and then share His vision of spiritual multiplication (Mt.28:18-20) boldly and clearly with those they lead. Before going any further, is Christ on the throne? If not, make sure He is! This weekʼs memory verse: Mt.28: Then Jesus came to them and said, ʻAll authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.ʼ What about you? Before we go any further with vision, letʼs discuss Maxwellʼs 14th law described in the 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership. Irrefutable Law of Leadership #14 is The Law of Buy-In and states that people buy into the leader, then the vision. This is one more reason character development is so vital to leadership. You may know the way to go but have a hard time getting people to follow you if youʼre character or personality is turning them off. As you seek to lead with vision, make sure youʼre not limiting your own leadership potential by not allowing God to develop you personally. Have you ever hit a brick wall in leadership because of a personal weakness? If so, describe this situation: How has God developed your character and personality in recent years and what effect has that had on your ability to lead? What is God seeking to refine in your life right now? Are you allowing Him to do what He needs to do in you? 94

95 Vision and strategy. It is imperative that a leader has a clear vision and a strategy to achieve it. Once you know the vision you must also consider what must be done to accomplish it and what obstacles could keep you from it. You must determine what resources will be needed to make the vision a reality. You must also determine what roles key team members will play in accomplishing the vision. Once these factors have all been considered, write out a clear step by step strategy for accomplishing the vision, including every aspect that will be necessary for success. Review your strategy and determine what measurable outcomes will confirm it is working and what to do if these criteria arenʼt met. Finally, implement your strategy. If the trajectory isnʼt set exactly right at the start, youʼll be far off in the end. Devote the time and energy necessary to start right, doing whatever it takes early on to ensure the goal is reached down the road. Describe a past experience in which a lack of strategy had negative results and prevented you from reaching a goal: Leading with THE vision! Leadership expert Warren Bennis defines leadership as the capacity to translate vision into reality. A leader without vision has nowhere to go and no way to lead. Fortunately for the Christian leader, the vision has already been clearly described by our Savior. Jesus gives the Great Commission, in Mt. 28:18-20, saying All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age. Every godly leader will strive to lead others in accomplishing His vision. The vision will never change but the leader must be creative, resourceful, diligent and committed to accomplishing it. How has a lack of direction, knowledge or vision kept you from accomplishing the Great Commission? What Great Commission strategies have been most effective as you seek to fulfill Christʼs command? The funnel diagram. The funnel diagram is a practical tool for explaining the multiplication process. The process involves: winning the lost, building them into strong disciples and sending them into the harvest. This model can be applied in any church or other ministry. Weʼre not sure where this comes from but itʼs great! Follow along with the notes and this short presentation on the funnel diagram. Meet New People. Assuming youʼre walk with God is where it needs to be and your team is ready to go, the first step in any ministry is meeting people. The moment you quit meeting people, your ministry quits growing and the Great Commission ceases to be accomplished. 95

96 Special note on meeting people (review of week 6): Relationships and ministry both require that you get good at meeting new people. Remember the REACH acronym for meeting new people: Relate (Smile. Compliment. Wave), Environment (Look for conversation starters in your surroundings), Ask (Ask a stranger a question they might be able to answer and then strike up a conversation), Communicate (Donʼt end with their answers, continue a conversation. Be appropriate and interesting), Help (Help someone that needs it or ask for help if you do). 10 things not to do when meeting new people: Don t focus on yourself. Don t try to be someone you are not. Don t be strange or awkward. Don t play favoritism. Don t be a quiet, antisocial loaner. Don t stare or invade. Don t laugh at people, awkward situations or topics. Don t be wordy or peculiarly silent. Don t get to deep right off the bat. Don t end there (develop the new friendship). Evangelism: Once you meet people, it is imperative that you share the gospel with them. Weʼll cover this in detail in the next packet but for now, follow the SHARE acronym. Supercharge! Be intentionally filled with the Spirit for powerful evangelism (Acts 1:8). Seek God in prayer and be willing for Him to use you. Have an expectant attitude! Look for opportunities and expect God to use you!!! Ask a conversation starting question. Transition to the gospel by asking transition questions (Ex. What s been your experience with Christianity?). Use good Resources: The Soularium, KGP and 4 Spiritual Laws are just a few. Make sure to use a transferable resource that brings someone to the point of making a decision. Finally, Help them take the next step by following up with them. This illustration includes CRUʼs evangelism modes - use all 3! 96

97 Ask the person discipling you to join you for a time of meeting new people and sharing the gospel! Once youʼve shared the Gospel with new people, evaluate how to best follow up. 97

98 Determine who youʼll invest most of your time in (donʼt push them if theyʼre not ready). If people are ready to go further, begin doing follow up. Review the Leading Individuals section from week 12 for more specifics on discipleship. 98

99 Continue evaluating those youʼre discipling to determine if you should keep investing. Continue helping the new disciple grow where needed. 99

100 Make intentional discipleship the cornerstone of multiplication in your ministry. Remember the 4 contexts that make discipleship effective: 1 personal weekly appointments, 2 weekly Bible studies, 3 weekly fellowship and 4 outreach (action). 100

101 As you plan multiplying Bible studies, youʼll begin to see multiplication occur! If you keep doing the process multiplication will continue unimpeded. 101

102 As soon as you get distracted by peripheral issues, multiplication ceases. Tools help keep the process going but arenʼt themselves the process. 102

103 A context of love makes everything work and without it no process is worth repeating. The Funnel diagram is an effective ministry philosophy and it is one that enables you as a leader to share the vision of the Great Commission in a practical way. 103

104 The Great Commission is the vision Jesus Himself gave us. If you stay committed to this process of multiplication we truly will reach the whole earth with the Gospel. What is the largest number of spiritual generations youʼve ever seen in your own ministry (IE. you discipled someone who discipled someone who discipled someone would be 4 spiritual generations)? What stopped the multiplication at your last spiritual generation (where did the process break down)? If youʼve never seen multiplication happen in your life decide today to do this process! Begin with the funnel and go from there. Whatʼs your plan to do this for this week? The Great Commission is not optional. It is Christʼs command to you. As you apply the leadership principles found in this packet and the Great Commission strategy described today, youʼll find yourself making disciples, building new leaders, multiplying multipliers and making an impact across the globe! As Bill Bright would say, Take the initiative in the power of the Holy Spirit and trust the results to God! Go big for Jesus! 104

105 Application Section 1 Get ready to have your mind blown!!! Get out a calculator (your phone probably has one). Begin with yourself this year and chart out multiplication by 2 each year. How long will it take to effectively reach the entire world for Christ? It might be hard to graph at first but it will get easier. How long will it take to reach a world population of 10 billion if you start today and double each year? Will you commit yourself to the Great Commission process of spiritual multiplication, becoming the best leader you can become for Christ and training others too as well? 105

106 Application Section 2 The Testimony Worksheet 1 Peter 3:15 tells us, always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. Your personal testimony, the story of what God has done in your life, is one of the best ways you can do this. Although people can try to argue about the veracity of Christianity s claims, no one can argue with what Christ has done in your life. It has been said that a man with a testimony is never at the mercy of a man with an argument. People are often very interested in what the God of the universe is doing on a personal level and they want to know what He is doing in your life. A testimony is most effective when it is concise, to the point and organized (see Paul s personal testimony in Acts 26 for an example). 1. How to organize and write your personal testimony. a. Ask the Lord to guide you as you write. b. Prepare it in such a way that you can give it to groups or individuals. Keep it concise and emphasize a personal commitment to Christ. c. Try to keep it within a 3 minute time limit (see Paul s example again in Acts 26). d. Be realistic and honest about what you include. e. Consider your typical audience (those you will most often be communicating with) and write it in a way that will relate to them. f. Use a 3 point outline containing the following (your personal examples will go a long way towards establishing your credibility with your audience so be real and honest but also be appropriate): i. What was your life like before Christ? 1. What were your attitudes, needs and problems? 2. What did your life revolve around? What was most important to you? 3. What did you look to for security, peace of mind and happiness and in what ways did those leave you unsatisfied? ii. What led you to put your trust in Christ? 1. Be very honest about how you came to that decision. 2. Do your best to summarize the gospel at this point and how you responded to the gospel. iii. What happened after you received Christ? 106

107 1. Contrast who you were before with who you are now and focus on the change God has produced and is continuing to produce in your life. g. Keep it focused: Avoid a religious approach - do not spend much time speaking about your church activities. Avoid inappropriate details about your past. Avoid mundane details about how you grew up. Stick to a theme. h. Avoid the following terminology: i. Do not make statements that reflect negatively on churches, other organizations or people. ii. Avoid mentioning denominations. iii. Explain vague terms such as joyful, peaceful, happy and changed when you use them. iv.explain Biblical words such as saved, born again, converted and sin when you use them (be careful not to speak Christianese ). i. Write out your testimony with these key components: i. Begin with an attention getting sentence or short story. ii. Only use phrases, questions and examples that are natural and won t make your audience tense or uncomfortable. iii. Be positive from start to finish. iv.keep the emphasis and focus on Christ throughout your testimony. v. Be specific. Give enough details to arouse curiosity (but remember to be appropriate and to not overemphasize your sin - keep the emphasis on Christ). vi.be natural. Do your best to help people understand and know you. vii.be accurate and honest. viii.include relevant thought provoking experiences. ix.use 1 or 2 scripture references but only when they relate directly to your experience and fit naturally in your testimony. x. Don t end your testimony with a verse but rather keep scripture in the body of your testimony. xi.end with a well thought through closing. j. Edit your testimony and rewrite it as much as needed to get it just right. Then memorize it so you will always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. Then use it often! 2. Write out your testimony on the next page and then edit and memorize. Time yourself to see if youʼre close to the 3 minute target. Look for opportunities to use your testimony in an evangelistic conversations. Also ask the person discipling you to schedule a time for you to share it publicly. 107

108 Your personal testimony! Write an attention getting sentence or paragraph. What was your life like before you received Christ? What led you to put your trust in Christ, why did you give Him complete control of your life and how did you make the decision (briefly summarize the gospel)? What happened after you received Christ, what changes have you seen in your life? Write a good closing. 108

109 Notes on Leaders Multiply with Vision: Write out this weekʼs memory verse (also, write it out several more times this week): What thoughts come to mind concerning everything we covered this week? Which of these areas do you need to grow in? List 3 SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic & within a Time-frame) goals for doing the funnel diagram this week How are you staying close to Jesus, walking in integrity and trusting Him and the power of His Spirit in life and ministry rather than yourself and how can you more? How will this weekʼs notes help you better accomplish the Great Commission and multiply spiritual multipliers? Review the Leadership Characteristics from week 3. How is God growing you? Put that and everything you learned this week in Godʼs hands, trusting Him to build these things into your life. 109

110 Closing Leadership Challenge Leadership isnʼt guaranteed to be easy but serving Christ in this capacity is one of the greatest joys youʼll ever know. Leadership, like everything else in the Christian life, really boils down to the two greatest commands (Mk.12:28-31). Review what youʼve learned from this packet and write out a personal leadership decision. Tell God what you desire concerning being involved in serving Him and leading in the Great Commission and then sign and date it at the bottom. Signature: Date: 110

111 Appendix of resources and tools 1. General: a. eternityimpact.com (Discipleship packet, ministry fundamentals classes and more). 2. Ministry: a. benrivera.org b. thebodybuilders.net c. godsquad.com 3. Talents: a. Do The Call with Ron and Geri (hiddentreasurecommunity.com) b. strengthsfinder.com 4. Apologetics: a. carm.org b. reasonablefaith.org c. apologetics315.com d. apprising.org 5. Leadership: a. hiddentreasurecommunity.com b. SwitzerOnLeadership.com c. johnmaxwell.com 6. More resources coming soon!!! 111

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