Solution-Oriented Spirituality: Drawing on Spiritual Resources in Therapy and Changework to Get Better Results;

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1 Solution-Oriented Spirituality: Drawing on Spiritual Resources in Therapy and Changework to Get Better Results; Bill O Hanlon, M.S

2 Breathing Soul Back Into Therapy For a free copy of these PowerPoint slides, visit: Click on FREE STUFF Then click on SLIDES Wait about a week for the slides to show up; meanwhile there are others up there you can have while you are waiting On that page is a link to sign up for my free monthly newsletter, filled with interesting research, cool and moving videos and free handouts

3 Spirituality and Psychotherapy Psyche=Soul [Greek] Therapy=Nurse/cure [Greek]

4 Blocks to using spiritual resources and sensibilities in counseling and therapy Freud s legacy of negativity towards religion Behaviorism s black box approach Restraints from our training Religious traumas that bias us away from using spiritual resources Fear of imposing our values and beliefs on people Not knowing how to bring it in in an effective or non-impositional way

5 Solution-Oriented Spirituality Experiential exercise

6 Accessing Spiritual Resources

7 The 3 Cs of Spirituality Connection Compassion Contribution

8 Connection To something bigger within and beyond the person

9 Pathways to Connection 1 Self

10 Pathways to Connection 2 Body

11 Pathways to Connection 3 Another

12 Pathways to Connection 4 Others

13 Pathways to Connection 5 Nature

14 Connection to Nature Children diagnosed with ADHD were more calm, more focused and more able to follow directions after spending time in a green setting like a park or backyard. Frances E. Kuo and Andrea Faber Taylor, A Potential Natural Treatment for Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder: Evidence From a National Study, American Journal of Public Health, Sep. 2004; 94:

15 Connection to Nature Post-operative patients with rooms overlooking deciduous trees healed more quickly and had less need for pain medication than patients who viewed a brick wall. Dental patients who stared at a large mural of a natural scene had lower blood pressure and less anxiety than those who didn t. Inmates whose cell windows face the prison yard made 24% more sickcall visits than those whose cells looked outward on rolling farmland and trees. Frumkin, Howard, American Journal of Preventative Medicine, 20(3), 2001

16 Pathways to Connection 6 Art

17 Pathways to Connection 7 Something Bigger

18 Pathways to Connection Personal!Core self!body Interpersonal!Another being!community/groups Transpersonal!Nature!Art!Higher power/bigger meaning/god

19 Assessing the 7 pathways How do you typically connect to something bigger within r beyond you? How do you connect with your deeper self or soul? How do you connect with or get in touch with your body? How do you connect deeply with others? What places or times in nature are the best for you? What is your favorite art form or activity? What are the times and ways you have felt the most xpansive? What music has touched your soul the most deeply? If you were to create a spiritual retreat, where would it be ocated? What book would you say has most touched your soul? Who do you feel most connected to? What group do you feel most a part of?

20 Personal, Interpersonal and Transpersonal Connections Transpersonal Goddess Great Spirit Nature God Another Cosmic Consciousness Interpersonal Soul Family Personal Body Community Higher power Universe Allah Tao Brahman

21 Spirituality Assessment in Therapy Past Present Future

22 Spiritual History/Background Have you ever had religious or spiritual beliefs or practices? What have been your religious affiliations, if any? Have those been helpful in any way? Harmful in any way? Any traumas connected with religion? Have you ever felt connected to something more than yourself, like nature, another person, humanity, the Universe, God, etc.? When or how? What has been your most profound spiritual experience, if any?

23 Spiritual History/Background What did each of your parents teach you or show you about religion or spirituality? Who else, if anyone, influenced you in regard to religion or spirituality? If you ever went away from religion or spirituality and then returned, how did that happen? What would you say is the single most profound experience of your life so far? What was the period in your life when you most relied on religion, spirituality or faith for strength? What did your family show you in the area of service or compassion? What charitable or volunteer activities happened in your family?

24 Compassion Softening towards yourself and others

25 Karen Armstrong on Compassion

26 Compassion/Self- Compassion People who are unable to forgive themselves or others also have an increased incidence of depression and callousness toward others. Pargament, K.L., et al. (1998). Journal of Scientific Study of Religion, 37:

27 Compassion Find contexts of compassion/self-compassion (the solution-oriented approach) Ask about moments when the person softened toward themselves or someone else Find another context (like being a friend, a child, or a client) that can access compassion Ask the person how they would like to be treated if they have wronged someone

28 Compassion This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness. Dalai Lama

29 Contribution Serving others and the world

30 Contribution/Service Mitzvah therapy The African Violet Queen Sol Gordon s Abuse Victim

31 Ghandi The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.

32 Albert Schweitzer You must give something to your fellow men. Even if it is a little thing, do something for those who have need of help, something for which you get no pay but the privilege of giving... The only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve.

33 Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Life's most persistent and urgent question is: What are you doing for others?

34 The Talmud The highest form of wisdom is kindness.

35 Contribution Is there anywhere your client could be of service or make a contribution that would help them make amends or heal wounds? Where do they give of themselves? If they had to name their most significant contribution to helping another person or people, what would they say? If they had to name the cause that they feel most passionate about, what would it be? Suggest your client become aware of some social injustice or victim situation that moves or touches you. Every time your client experiences some recurrent problem, have them do one thing to contribute to the relief of the victim s suffering or to righting some social injustice. It may be writing a letter, making a donation of money or time to some charitable group, praying, or some other action you are moved to.

36 W.H. Auden We are all here on earth to help others; what on earth the others are here for I don t know.

37 The 3 Cs of Spirituality Connection Compassion Contribution

38 Swami Beyondadanda s Guidelines for Enlightenment 1. Be a Fundamentalist Make sure the Fun always comes before the mental. Realize that life is a situation comedy that will never be canceled. A laugh track has been provided, and the reason we are put in the material world is to get more material. Have a good laugh twice a day, and that will ensure regular hilarity. 2. Remember that each of us have been given a special gift, just for entering so you are already a winner! 3. The most powerful tool on the planet today is Tell-A-Vision. That is where I tell a vision to you, and you tell a vision to me. That way, if we don t like the programming we re getting, we can simply change the channel. 4. Life is like photography you use the negative to develop. And, no matter what adversity you face, be reassured: Of course God loves you. He s just not ready to make a commitment. 5. It is true. As we go through life thinking heavy thoughts, thought particles tend to get caught between the ears, causing a condition called truth decay. So be sure to use mental floss twice a day. And when you re tempted to practice tantrum yoga, remember what we teach in Swami s Absurdiveness Training class: Don t get even, get odd. 6. If we want world peace, we must let go of our attachments and truly live like nomads. That s where I no mad at you, you no mad at me. That way, there ll surely be nomadness on the planet. A little peace here, a little peace there, pretty soon all the peaces will fit together to make one big peace everywhere.

39 Contact information Bill O Hanlon, M.S., LMFT Possibilities 223 N. Guadalupe #278 Santa Fe, NM Bill@billohanlon.com

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