HOW TO HANDLE DISPUTES AMONG CHRISTIANS

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1 HOWTOHANDLEDISPUTESAMONGCHRISTIANS 6Ifanyofyouhasadisputewithhisneighbor,doeshedaretobringthematterbefore theunrighteousforsettlement,andnotbeforethesaints? 2 Ordoyounotknowthatthe saints shall judge the world? And if the world is to be judged by you, are you not competent to judge the most trivial cases? 3 Do you not realize that we will judge angels? [This being so,] should we not much more be [competent to] judge cases pertainingtoeverydaylife? 4 Nowthen,ifyoumustjudgecasespertainingtoeveryday affairs,appointasjudgesthosemenforwhomthechurchhasnorespect. 5 Isaythisto makeyouashamed.isthisthecase,thatthereisnot[even]onewisemanamongyou whoisabletodecide[adispute]betweenbrothers; 6 but[one]brothermustgotocourt [against another] brother and this before unbelievers? 7 Actually, the fact that you have lawsuits against one another is already a defect* in you. Why not rather suffer wrong?whynotratherbecheated? 8 Onthecontrary,youyourselvesaredoingwrong andcheating,and[youaredoingthesethings]toyourbrothers. 9 Doyounotrealize thattheunrighteousshallnotinheritthekingdomofgod?donotbedeceived.neither fornicators,noridolaters,noradulterers,normaleprostitutes,northosewhopractice homosexuality, 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor swindlers,shallinheritthekingdomofgod. 11 Andthatiswhatsomeofyouwere.But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the LordJesusChristandbytheSpiritofourGod.(1Cor.6:1 11) *TheAmericanStandardVersiongivesthetranslation, defect, forthegreekword,htthma.giventhe Corinthians propensitytoconsiderthemselvesashavingalreadyachievedspiritualperfection(note 4:8),thetranslation, defect, doesseemtobemostfitting. Introduction Suppose you overhear two young brothers carrying on a heated argument. They comespillingoutofthefrontdooroftheirhouse,tumblingintothestreet,accusing eachotherofwrongdoingandvehementlyclaimingtheirrights.theycaptureyour attention;youpausetolistenmorecarefully.whatisthisargumentallabout?from theintensityoftheirinvolvementitsurelymustcenteronsomeweightymatterof greatimportance. As you continue to listen in to this heated argument, to your amazement, you discover that the two boys are squabbling over nothing more than some insignificantbrokentoy!youcatchaglimpseofthis treasure thatisthecenterof the controversy, the treasure they are pulling back and forth between them, and quiteaccuratelyyouevaluateitasnothingmorethanapieceofjunk!asamatterof fact,isitnottheverytoyyouyourselfthrewintothegarbagethismorningbecause thesetwolittleboys yoursons haddiscardeditlongago? If you came upon such a situation, what would you think? What would you do? In this sixth chapter of 1 Corinthians the Apostle Paul tells us that disputes between Christiansoverworldlyissuesandthingsareverymuchcomparabletothescenario

2 just described involving the two young brothers. Scripture tells us that disputes amongchristiansareanindicationofspiritualdefect;butwhensuchdisputesoccur, they should be handled in a godly manner. Let us now consider some biblical guidelinesforhandlingdisputesamongfellowchristiansthatmaybegleanedfrom thispresentpassageofscripture. I.IsThisanIssueWorthDisputing?(6:2 7) In verse 2 the Apostle Paul reminds these Corinthian Christians actually informingthemofsomethingtheyshouldhaveknown, thesaintsshalljudgethe world. WemayalsotakenoteofPsalm149:6 9, MaythepraisesofGodbeintheirmouths,andadouble edgedswordintheir hands; 7 toinflictvengeanceuponthenations,andpunishmentonthepeoples; 8 tobindtheirkingswithfetters,andtheirnobleswithshacklesofiron; 9 tocarry outthesentenceofjudgmentwrittenagainstthem.thisisthehonorgivento allhissaints.praisejehovah.(psl.149:6 9) Paul finds it incredible that these Christians who will one day join Christ in judging the world are incapable of judging and settling the mundane disputes pertainingtothethingsofthisworld.note:pauldefinesthecorinthians disputes asbeing trivial, (whichtheycertainlyarewhenviewedfromthestandpointof thefinaljudgment;)althoughthecorinthiansthemselvesnodoubtviewedtheir disputes as involving matters of great importance: weighty matters of personal rights,personalpossessions,andpersonaloffensesthattheymayhavesuffered. Inverse3,tohelpusgainabetterandmorerealisticperspective,Paulremindsus that we shall judge angels. The apostle reminds us of our participation with ChristinthefinaljudgmentinordertoencourageustorecognizethatinChrist wehavethecompetencetohandletheselesserissuesthatbelongtothispresent life;astheapostlejamescounsels, Ifanyofyoulackswisdom,heshouldaskGod, whogivesgenerouslytoallwithoutfindingfault,anditwillbegiventohim (Jas. 1:5.) Furthermore, the Apostle Paul desires to give us a proper perspective on howinsignificantourpresentdisputesareincomparisontothegreatissuestobe decided at the final judgment. Many times the solution to our present disputes liesintherefocusingofourperspective;onceagain,mayweconsidertheapostle Jamesandtheadmonitionhegivesthechurch: What causes fights and quarrels among you? Do they not come from your desiresthatbattlewithinyou? 2 Youwantsomethingbutdonotgetit.Youkill andcovet,butyoucannothavewhatyouwant.youquarrelandfight.youdo not have, because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, becauseyouaskwithwrongmotives,thatyoumayspendwhatyougetonyour pleasures. 10 HumbleyourselvesbeforetheLord,andhewillliftyouup.(Jas. 4:1 3,10)

3 Resortingtoabitofsarcasm,PaulcounselstheCorinthianChristians,Ifyouhave disputespertainingtoeverydayaffairs, appointasjudgesthosemenforwhomthe church has no respect (vs. 4.) The apostle suggests that when the members of Christ s church have a dispute over worldly matters, (personal possessions, personal rights, etc.), they should select a man for whom they have no respect, (perhapsadrunkenbumwholivesinthegutter,)andappointhimtobethejudge and arbitrator such a man would make a fit judge to handle such trivial and worthlessdisputes!thepointbeingmadeisthis:inthelightofeternityandthe kingdomofgodandthefinaljudgment,thedisputesinvolvingthethingsofthis world are so insignificant that they should not become major divisive issues betweenchristians. The Corinthians held a very high evaluation of themselves and their spiritual status. In 1 Corinthians 4:8, Paul expressed the sentiment that was the Corinthians personalviewofthemselves,namely,thattheyhadalreadyattained to the supreme heights of spiritual life and experience: You have already been filled, you have already become rich, you have come to reign without us. Indeed, I wishthatyoudidreign,sothatwealsomightreignwithyou. Butcontrarytothe Corinthians personal evaluation of themselves, the Apostle Paul points out a glaring spiritual defect, namely, the fact that they have lawsuits and personal disputeswithoneanother(vs.7.) If we really have attained to full spiritual maturity, we would imitate the mind and attitude of Christ our Savior. Like Christ, we should endure wrongs and mistreatment with a spirit of forgiveness and confidence in God, note how the ApostlePeterdescribestheLord sresponsetothewrongshesuffered: Christsufferedforyou,leavingyouanexamplethatyoushouldfollow He committednosin,andnodeceitwasfoundinhismouth. 23 Whentheyhurled theirinsultsathim,hedidnotretaliate;whenhesuffered,hemadenothreats. Instead,heentrustedhimself[or,hiscause]totheonewhojudgesjustly.(1Pet. 2:21 23) By means of several striking examples, our Lord, in His Sermon on the Mount, emphasizesthespiritofkindness,forbearance,andevenself sacrificethatshould characterize us as His disciples, even as it was a characteristic of the Savior Himself: Youhaveheardthatitwassaid,Eyeforeye,andtoothfortooth. 39 ButItell you,donotresistanevilperson.ifsomeonestrikesyouontherightcheek,turn tohimtheotheralso. 40 Andifsomeonewantstosueyouandtakeyourtunic,let himhaveyourcloakaswell. 41 Ifsomeoneforcesyoutogoonemile,gowithhim twomiles. 42 Givetotheonewhoasksyou,anddonotturnawayfromtheone whowantstoborrowfromyou.(matt.5:38 42)

4 WhenyoufindyourselfinadisputewithafellowChristian,askyourself:Isthis anissueworthdisputing?doihavetherightperspective,rightlyevaluatingthe present issues of this world in the light of eternity and the great issues of the kingdom of God? Am I exhibiting the mind of Christ, the mind and attitude of forgiveness,forbearance,self givingandself sacrificinglove? II.ToWhatExtentamIatFault?(6:8 11) Inverse7theapostleraisesthequestion,Whyareyounotsimplyenduringthe wrongbeingperpetratedagainstyou?inotherwords,whyareyounotfollowing theexampleofchristyoursavior? His questions intended to stimulate self evaluation, conviction, and a truly Christian perspective now give way to charges against these Christians: You yourselvesarecheatinganddoingwrongtoyourownchristianbrothers(vs.8.) FarfromimitatingtheexampleofChrist,theseChristianpeopleweredoingthe exactopposite.notonlyweretheyunwillingtoendureanywrongperpetrated against themselves; they were committing acts of wrongdoing against their brothers! Inordertomaintaintheunityandpromotethewell beingofchrist schurch,we must be willing to endure and forgive offenses, as Paul exhorts the church in Colossians3:12 14, Therefore,asGod schosenpeople,holyanddearlyloved,clotheyourselveswith compassion,kindness,humility,gentlenessandpatience. 13 Bearwitheachother andforgivewhatevergrievancesyoumayhaveagainstoneanother.forgiveas thelordforgaveyou. 14 Andoverallthesevirtuesputonlove,whichbindsthem alltogetherinperfectunity.(col.3:12 14) Butnotonlymustwebewillingtoendureandforgiveoffenses,wemustrefrain fromdoingwrongtoothers;asourlordjesusinstructsus: ineverything,doto others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets (Matt. 7:12.) The Apostle Paul exhorts the church: Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification (Rom. 14:19.) Having mentioned the wrongdoing being committed within the church, even againstfellowbelievers,theapostlepaulissuesthissternwarning: DoyounotrealizethattheunrighteousshallnotinheritthekingdomofGod? Donotbedeceived.Neitherfornicators,noridolaters,noradulterers,normale prostitutes, nor those who practice homosexuality, 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy,nordrunkards,norslanderers,norswindlers,shallinheritthekingdom ofgod.(1cor.6:9 10)

5 Wemustnotbedeceived;thefactisthatthosewhocontinuetoengageinsinful conductshallnotinheritthekingdomofgod.achristianprofessionapartfroma Christianlifestyleisnotatrueprofessionoffaithanditmustnotbeallowedto become a fatal deception. In Luke 6:46 our Lord Jesus asks the penetrating question, Why do you call me, Lord, Lord, but do not do what I say? In His SermonontheMountourLordwarns: Noteveryonewhosaystome,Lord,Lord,willenterthekingdomofheaven,but onlyhewhodoesthewillofmyfatherwhoisinheaven. 22 Manywillsaytome onthatday,lord,lord,didwenotprophesyinyourname,andinyourname driveoutdemonsandperformmanymiracles? 23 ThenIwilltellthemplainly,I neverknewyou.departfromme,youevildoers!(matt.7:21 23) Notethatintheapostle swarning,issuedin1corinthians6:9 10,coupledwith such notorious sins as immorality and perversity, are such sins as thievery, greed,slander,andswindling. Followingthesoberreminderthattheunrighteousshallnotinheritthekingdom ofgod,comesthereminderthatwhenwe,byfaith,haveenteredintochrist,we have left the old sinful life behind: And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God (vs. 11.) When we believe in the Lord Jesus Christ we become united to Him and enter into His spiritual life of holiness.bythegraceofgod,thatholinessmustbecomeincreasinglyevidentin thelifewenowliveinthebodyinthispresentworld ourformersinsshould becomeananomalytoournewchristianlife,theymustnotremainthenormal patternforourlife,note1peter4:2, sincechristsufferedintheflesh,alsofortify yourselveswiththesameattitude,becausehewhosufferedinthefleshisdonewith sin. 2 Asaresult,hedoesnotlivetheremainderofhis[earthly]lifeforevilhuman desires,butforthewillofgod. WhenyoufindyourselfinadisputewithafellowChristian,askyourself,Towhat extent am I at fault? Have I slipped back into the old sinful lifestyle that is an intolerable contradiction to my new Christian identity? Do I need to honestly admit and then repent of wrongdoing? Have I joined the Psalmist in praying, Searchme,OGod,andknowmyheart;testme,andknowmythoughts. 24 Seeif thereisanywickedwayinme,andleadmeinthewayeverlasting (Psl.139:23 24.) III.WhatChristianBrotherCanHelpUsWorkThisOut?(6:1 6) The Corinthian Christians, being unwilling or unable by themselves to resolve their disputes, were taking each other to court (vs. 1.) The Apostle Paul is shockedthatthesechristianswoulddaretodosuchathing: Ifanyofyouhasa dispute with his neighbor [here meaning a fellow Christian], does he dare to

6 bringthematterbeforetheunrighteous[i.e.;theunbelievingcivilauthorities]for settlement,andnotbeforethesaints? Theapostle spointisthis:itisdisgracefulforchristianstoappealtotheworld to settle their disputes, rather than look to fellow Christians for help when needed.itisadishonortochristthatwewhoshalljoinwithhiminthefinal judgmentoftheworld(vs.2)shouldappealtotheworldtosettleourdisputes. ItisadishonortoChristforusnottoemploythespiritualresourceswepossess, (the Word of God, prayer, the person of the Holy Spirit, fellow Christians,) in settlingourdisputes. Inverse4PaulhadsarcasticallyinstructedtheseChristianstoappointamanof noreputetoserveastheirarbitratorandjudge.hewasnotserious,(noteverse 5a;) he was merely seeking to get the Corinthians to see the trivial nature of theirdisputesinthelightofthetrulygreatissuesofthefinaljudgment.butnow in verse 5b he does recommend that the disputing Christians seek out from among themselves(i.e.; from within the church) a wise man who is able to decide[adispute]betweenbrothers. There are times when Christians need the ministry of fellow Christians; occasionally,thesettlingofpersonaldisputesissuchatime,aswasthecasein thechurchatphilippi,towhompaulwrites: IurgeEuodiaandIurgeSyntyche toliveinharmonyinthelord. 3 Indeed,Iaskyou,Syzygus [loyalyokefellow] to help these women who labored with me for the gospel (Phil. 4:2 3a.) The Lord JesusgivesthefollowinginstructionstoHischurchwithregardtothesettlingof disputesandthehandlingofoffenses: If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the twoofyou.ifhelistenstoyou,youhavewonyourbrotherover. 16 Butifhewill not listen, take one or two others along, so that every matter may be establishedbythetestimonyoftwoorthreewitnesses. 17 Ifherefusestolisten tothem,tellittothechurch;andifherefusestolisteneventothechurch,treat himasyouwouldapaganorataxcollector.(matt.18:15 17) OnsuchoccasionswearecounseledtoseekthehelpofawiseChristianman:a Christianbrother(orsister)whoknowstheScriptures,whoisamanorwoman of prayer, who has the right spiritual perspective, focused on the kingdom of Godratherthanonthethingsofthispresentworld,whowillseektorenderan impartial,biblicaldecision.weshouldseekoutafellowchristianwhoexhibits thewisdomdescribedbytheapostlejames: Whoiswiseandunderstandingamongyou?Lethimshowitbyhisgoodlife,by deedsdoneinthehumilitythatcomesfromwisdom 17 thewisdomthat comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace loving, considerate, submissive,fullofmercyandgoodfruit,impartialandsincere.(jas.3:13,17)

7 WhenyoufindyourselfinadisputewithafellowChristian,askyourself,What Christianbrother(orsister)canhelpustoworkthisout?Ratherthanbrother against brother going to court before the civil magistrates of the world; when necessary, brother with brother should together seek out a fellow Christian whomtheyrespecttoassistthemingainingreconciliation. Conclusion IfweseektoliveChrist likelivesandfollowourlord sinstructiongiveninmatthew 7:12( ineverything,dotootherswhatyouwouldhavethemdotoyou,forthissums upthelawandtheprophets, )disputesbetweenfellowchristiansshouldnotoccur. Butwhenandiftheydoarise,asmembersofChrist sbody,wemusthandledisputes in the way our Lord prescribes and outlines for us by the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians6.