RESILIENCE God Style Lifetime Skills for Lifetime Warriors

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1 Author s NOTE: These slides represent generic Resilience God Style Content which has been used in a number of different venues. Lessons 1-5 (Deck 1) and Lessons 6-10 (Deck 2) are designed for a ten lesson series, keyed to the 10 chapters of Resilient Warriors and the Resilient Warriors Advanced Study Guide. Content is provided in PDF format. Users desiring to use these slides in a group forum, or to alter content for other specific purposes should contact administrator@resiliencetrilogy.com for permissions and instructions. Use fees may apply. RESILIENCE God Style Lifetime Skills for Lifetime Warriors Bob Dees author@resiliencetrilogy.com /12/2014 RFD LLC

2 DECK 1 Resilience God Style Lessons 1-5 Class #1 INCOMING! Reality of Tribulation Bob Dees Author@ResilienceTrilogy.com 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

3 RESILIENCE God Style CLASS INTRODUCTIONS I AM (NAME?) I AM FROM (TOWN, STATE?) I AM HERE BECAUSE? 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

4 RESILIENCE God Style CLASS SCHEDULE Week 1 INCOMING! /Introduction, Reality of Tribulation John 16:33 Week 2 HUMPTY DUMPTY/Nature of Trauma James 1:2-4 Week 3 BITTER OR BETTER?/Post Traumatic Growth Hebrews 12:1-3 Week 4 RESILIENCE LIFE CYCLE /Before, During, After Galatians 2:20 Week 5 BUILDING BOUNCE/Ounce of Prevention! Ephesian 6:11 Week 6 WEATHERING THE STORM/Until the Destruction passes by! Psalm 57:1 Week 7 BOUNCING BACK/Without Getting Stuck! John 16:22 Week 8 BOUNCING AHEAD/Into a Hopeful Future! Romans 12:1,2 Week 9 GETTING READY AGAIN!/Learn and Adapt! II Corin 4:8-11 Week 10 THE ULTIMATE RESILIENT WARRIOR/And even higher! I Peter 5:10 NOTE: The ten weeks correspond to Chapters 1-10 in Resilient Warriors and the Resilient Warriors Advanced Study Guide. Along with the Scriptures, these will be our primary references during the course. 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

5 RESILIENCE LIFE CYCLE LEARN & ADAPT Before During After Source: Resilient Warriors, 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

6 LEARN & ADAPT Know Your Calling (Mission, Purpose) Know Your Enemy Know Your Friends Know Your Equipment (Armor of God) Deploy with the Right Mindset Develop/Rehearse Actions on Contact (Get Ready!) Call 911 (Ask for help) Start the IV (Nurture yourself) Keep Breathing (Maintain routines) Your Well of Courage (Past strengths) Remember Your Calling Guard Primary Relationships Choose Forgiveness Grieve Well & Gratitude Sing a New Song Revalidate Your Calling (Discern/Chart the Future) Comfort Others 2/12/2014 SOURCE: Page 200, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees RFD LLC

7 RESILIENCE God Style OUR GOALS GROW IN OUR KNOWLEDGE, APPRECIATION, AND APPLICATION OF GOD S WORD TO BUILD GREATER RESILIENCE IN OUR LIVES AND IN THOSE WE LOVE AND LEAD GROW TOGETHER IN FELLOWSHIP AND MUTUAL SUPPORT ACQUIRE USEFUL RESILIENCE PRINCIPLES AND PRACTICES THAT WILL ASSIST OUR OUTREACH TO OTHERS We are often troubled, but not crushed; sometimes in doubt, but never in despair; there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend; And though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed. 2 Corinthians 4:8, 9 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

8 LIFE is a Contact Sport! 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

9 WE are all Warriors 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

10 SUFFERING IN THE WORLD YOU WILL HAVE TRIBULATION. Resulting From: SELF OTHERS SPIRITUAL FORCES INEXPLICABLE TRAGEDY Greek thlipsis Latin squeezing tribulum threshing This Tribulation results in Trauma, Pain, Suffering, and Opportunity. 2/12/2014 BUT BE OF GOOD CHEER, I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD. JESUS -- John 16:33(NKJV) RFD LLC

11 What does a STORM look like? At intervals between a bomb falling it sounded like church: voices from nearby slit trenches all chanting the Lord s prayer together- over and over again. Louder when the bombs hit closer. Veteran Army Air Forces Bombardier and Olympic Runner Louie Zamperini as recorded in Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand, page 117 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

12 RESILIENCE GOD Style We are often troubled, but not crushed; sometimes in doubt, but never in despair; there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend; And though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed. 2 Corinthians 4:8, 9 Source: Spiritual Fitness Handbook 2/12/ RFD LLC 2013

13 Week 1 Discussion Summary 1. Why are you taking this course? What are your expectations? 2. What does incoming look like in your life? How did this make you feel? (fear?, out of control?, anger? Other?) 3. Is EVIL real in this world? Have you ever looked evil in the eyes? 3X5 CARD #1 FRONT #2 BACK NO NAME NECESSARY TURN IN TO INSTRUCTOR 4. How would you define tribulation personally? 5. To balance this out, what does HOPE look like in your life? 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

14 Class #2 HUMPTY DUMPTY Nature of Trauma Bob Dees 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

15 Defining Trauma Trauma = Wound, Damage, or Defeat A traumatic situation is one involving an actual or threatened death or serious injury. A somewhat clinical explanation Until it happens to you Why Me? Why Now? How could you let this happen, Lord? 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

16 Common Misconceptions About PAIN PAIN IS PUNISHMENT (versus John 9:1-5) PAIN IS UNPRODUCTIVE (versus James 1:2-4, et al) PAIN INDICATES SPIRITUAL FAILURE (Paul?, Job?, Peter?) PAIN IS NOT GOOD (versus Romans 8:28,35,37) PAIN IS NOT COMPATIBLE WITH A GOOD AND ALL-POWERFUL GOD Our investigation of resilience will illustrate how God s goodness, omnipresence, and omnipotence provide courage and confidence as we struggle with pain in our lives. Resilient Warriors, page 52 Categories above from: Stowell, Joseph M. The Upside of Down. Grand Rapids, MI: Discovery House Publishers, /12/2014 RFD LLC

17 Consider My Servant, Job 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

18 From PAIN to SERVICE God s Economy of Suffering PAIN PRESENCE OF GOD In Your Presence is Fullness of JOY The JOY of the LORD is my STRENGTH I can do all things through HIM who STRENGTHENS me Not to be served, but to SERVE 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

19 A Theology of Suffering? GOD IS: A.. B.. C.. EVIL IS: A.. B.. C.. THEREFORE, WE: A.. B.. C.. D.. 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

20 Week 2 Discussion 1. How would you define trauma? What are the sources of trauma? 2. How do we make meaning of trauma, esp undeserved pain? A. Misconceptions regarding suffering? [Review RW, pages 50-52] 1) From GOD? 2) Is pain productive? Examples? You, others? 3. How would you articulate the Theology of Suffering? (3-4 main points) 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

21 Class #3 BITTER OR BETTER? Post-Traumatic Growth Bob Dees 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

22 My Theology of Suffering Application Exercise #1 GOD IS: A.. B.. C.. THEREFORE, I: A.. B.. C.. D.. EVIL IS: A.. B.. C.. 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

23 An Example Pain is no evil, unless it conquers us Charles Kingsley Pain, Problems, Persecution, Prison: Became God s unique open doors for two unlearned fishermen to witness to royalty the very ones who killed Jesus and were now asking Peter & John spiritual questions. Other Examples??? 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

24 Consider My Servant, Job There was a man in the land of Uz whose name was Job blameless, upright, fearing God and turning away from evil. (God to Satan) Have you considered my servant Job? (Satan to God) he will surely curse you to your face. (Job) Naked I came from my mother s womb, and naked I shall return there. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away. Blessed be the name of the Lord. 3 Friends, Wife (Eliphaz, Bildad, Zophar) (Curse God, and die) Wisdom of Youth (Elihu) (33:29,30 that he may be enlightened ) God s Feedback (Where were you when???) Job s GROWTH through Trauma (Post-traumatic Growth) Now my eye sees you and I repent in dust and ashes 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

25 POST Post-Traumatic TRAUMATIC GROWTH Growth MODEL Agenda Spiritual Growth Purpose of Life Contribution to Society Perception of Self Relationship Growth Helping Others Adversity EVENT Trauma Anxiety Sexual Assault Divorce Substances Violence Anger Isolation Suicide Primary Source for Diagram: Army G3, Comprehensive Soldier Fitness (CSF). Source of Concept/Research: Tedeschi & Calhoun, University of North Carolina, /12/

26 Week 3 Discussion 1. What does posttraumatic growth (PTG) mean to you? 2. Biblical Examples of PTG? 3. Modern Examples of PTG? 4. Counter examples? Lance Armstrong? Others? 5. Which fork in the road? Better or Bitter? Wiser? Stronger? Etc? NEXT WEEK: Analyze one of your life traumas in terms of Before, During, and After (Resilience Life Cycle). In Advanced Study Guide: Pgs 13,14 and pgs /12/2014 RFD LLC

27 Class #4 RESILIENCE LIFE CYCLE Before, During, After Bob Dees 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

28 RESILIENCE LIFE CYCLE LEARN & ADAPT Before During After Source: Resilient Warriors, 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

29 Learning from Trauma -- A Critical Life Skill Application Exercise #2? Analyze one of your life traumas in terms of the Resilience Life Cycle 1. My Body Slam: 2. My Reactions: 3. My Thoughts: 4. My Feelings: BEFORE DURING AFTER LEARN & ADAPT 1. Was I Prepared for this life experience? 2. How could I Get Ready for this? A. B. C. 3. Did I have Actions on Contact prepared in advance? 1. How did I Weather 1. Did it get worse? 1. What did I LEARN? the Storm? 2. Did I grieve the loss? A. Before? A. (D,A,B,D, Acceptance) B. During? B. 3. Did I get stuck? C. After? C. A. Guilt? 2. Did I GROW? How? 2. What/Who were my B. Anger? A. life preservers? C. Bitterness? B. A. 4. Am I still stuck? C. B. 5. How do I get unstuck? 3. Did I ADAPT in order to C. A. New Song? Be Ready for future B. Forgiveness? life traumas? C. Renewed Purpose? REFERENCE: Resilient Warriors Advanced Study Guide, pages 13,14, /12/ All Rights Reserved, RFD LLC

30 The Greatest of Commandments Comprehensive Personal Fitness 28 One of the scribes came and heard them arguing, and recognizing that He had answered them well, asked Him, What commandment is the foremost of all? 29 Jesus answered, The foremost is, HEAR, O ISRAEL! THE LORD OUR GOD IS ONE LORD; 30 AND YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART(EMOTIONAL), AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL(SPIRITUAL), AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND(MENTAL), AND WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH(PHYSICAL). The second is this, YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR(RELATIONAL) AS YOURSELF. There is no other commandment greater than these. 31 Mark 12: 28-31, NASB, Parenthetical and Bold comments added COMPREHENSIVE PERSONAL FITNESS 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

31 Comprehensive Personal Fitness leading to RESILIENCE PHYSICAL ( Body is Temple of Holy Spirit ) Diet, Exercise, Hygiene, Sleep MENTAL( Taking Every Thought Captive ) Thought Patterns, Intellectual Curiosity, Acuity SPIRITUAL( To be spiritually minded is life & peace ) Connection with God, faith practices EMOTIONAL( Slow to Get Angry ) Regulation, Temperament RELATIONAL( Let us LOVE one another ) Connectivity, Mutual Support 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

32 Comprehensive Personal Fitness MILITARY APPLICATIONS U.S. Army -- Comprehensive Soldier Fitness A structured, long term assessment and development program to BUILD THE RESILIENCE and enhance the performance of every Soldier, Family member and DA civilian Army/AF Judeo Christian Marines/Navy Physical Family Social Emotional Spiritual U.S. Army Comprehensive Soldier Fitness (CSF) Physical (Strength) Mental (Mind) Relational ( Neighbor ) Emotional (Heart) Spiritual (Soul) Holy Bible Great Commandment Mark 12:30,31 Physical Mental Social Emotional Spiritual Marine Operational Stress Surveillance and Training(MOSST) 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

33 A Additional Domains: FAMILIES CHILDREN OTHER Relational Emotional Spiritual Mental Physical Before During After Learn & Adapt Application Domains NATIONS LEADERS INDIVIDUAL WARRIORS 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

34 Week 4 Discussion 1. Do you remember the story of Captain Scott and Tiffany Smiley in Chapter 4 of Resilient Warriors? In Before, During, and After terms, how did they navigate their trauma? 2. With your Application Exercise #2 worksheet, how did you navigate a past trauma? 3. How would you assess yourself regarding Comprehensive Personal Fitness? What realistic goals do you have in each one of these areas? 4. How do you do these things without dependence on self-effort? 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

35 PHYSICAL MENTAL MY Comprehensive Personal Fitness Diet? Exercise? Hygiene? Sleep? Thought Patterns? Intellectual Curiosity? Acuity? Application Exercise #3 SPIRITUAL Connection with God? EMOTIONAL Faith practices? Regulation? RELATIONAL Temperament? Connectivity? Mutual Support? Some Leading Questions: 1. How do I assess my status in each of these areas? 2. To what degree am I prioritizing these fundamental values in my life? 3. Do I hold myself accountable to these priorities? 4. Have I enlisted others to help? 5. How does success or excess in one area affect the others? 6. What realistic changes/commitments make sense for me now? A. B. C. 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

36 Class #5 OUNCE OF PREVENTION Building Bounce Bob Dees 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

37 LEARN & ADAPT Know Your Calling (Mission, Purpose) Know Your Enemy Know Your Friends Know Your Equipment (Armor of God) Deploy with the Right Mindset Develop/Rehearse Actions on Contact (Get Ready!) 2/12/2014 Dr BEFORE Know Your Calling (Mission, Purpose) Know Your Enemy Know Your Friends Know Your Equipment (Armor of God) Deploy with the Right Mindset Guard Primary Relationships Choose Forgiveness & Gratitude Grieve Well SOURCE: Chapter 5, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees Sing a New Song Develop/Rehearse Actions on Contact (Get Ready!) Revalidate Your Calling (Discern/Chart the Future) Comfort Others 37 RFD LLC 2013

38 Know Your CALLING Calling: n.; a strong inner impulse toward a particular course of action especially when accompanied by conviction of divine influence. Resilient Warriors, page 86, Merriam-Webster Collegiate Dictionary 1. Do you agree with this definition? What would you add/subtract? 2. Is Calling a one time thing? Can it change? 3. What are the ingredients of Calling? General? Specific? 4. Do you have a Calling? A. Can you articulate it to others? (one sentence) B. Was there an event that crystallized your Calling? C. How did God motivate your Calling decision? Oh Boy, some more homework! 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

39 Know Your Enemy Save me from all those who pursue me, and deliver me. Or he will tear my soul like a lion. Psalm 7: 1,2 Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. I Peter 5:8 Know Your Equipment But resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same experiences of suffering are being accomplished by your brethren who are in the world. After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. 2 Peter 5:9,10 Armor of God: Ephesians 6: Be Strong in the Lord 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

40 Know Your 911 FRIENDS Sheltering Trees, by New Song it's been said a friend is like a mighty sheltering tree a place of refuge we can run when trouble comes for you and me someone we can count on through the thick and thin when the storms of life are blowing, there's just nothing like a friend (there's just nothing like a friend) there've been days that i was sure that i couldn't make it through clouds of doubt came rolling in and i didn't know what i would do i would've given in and said i just can't go on if it hadn't been for a friend that helped me to be strong (helped me to be strong) Emily Hardgrove you can face the highest mountain and the climb won't feel so high or cross the darkest valley and it won't seem so wide nothing is impossible when a friend is by your side. we all need sheltering trees friends in our lives who'll get down on their knees and lift us up before the king of kings we all need sheltering trees 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

41 Deploy with Right Mindset For the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace. Romans 8:6 For Ezra had set his heart to study the law of the Lord and to practice it, and to teach His statutes and ordinances Israel. Ezra 7:10 Mindset is inextricably linked with Heartset King Jehosophat s deployment (putting Levites out front in battle formation) reflected both his mindset and his heartset. 2 Chronicles 20 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

42 ACTIONS ON CONTACT Stop, Drop and Roll DURING Reflexive Action (Pavlovian Response) Infantry Term Immediate Action Drills What if British Army EG 2/12/2014 Deploy Evaluate/Develop Situation Choose Course of Action Recommend/Execute SOURCE: Chapter 6, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees Call 911 (Ask for help) Start the IV (Nurture yourself) Keep Breathing (Maintain routines) Your Well of Courage (Past strengths) Remember Your Calling RFD LLC

43 Week 5 Discussion 1. Review our Homework : Comprehensive Personal Fitness. 2. Why is CALLING so important??? 3. Which of the other five Resilience Builders represents a growth area for you? Which one do you think is a personal strength? 4. What does the concept of Actions on Contact mean to you??? Why are they important??? 2/12/2014 RFD LLC

44 See Resilience God Style Deck 2 for Lessons /12/2014 RFD LLC