Learning respect is an integral part of healthy child development, and it s never too late to start instilling this virtue. Here s how.

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1 May 2018 St. Kilian Congregation 428 Forest Street Hartford, WI Dennis Vlasak, DRE ext. 406 Attendance ext. 307 Emphasize and Model Respect POWERSOURCE ASK GOD: 1. To help your family respect and honor God in all you do. 2. To guide you as you model respect for your children. 3. To lead your children to live respectfully toward God, other people, and themselves. Today s kids can often be viewed as being disrespectful toward adults, property, each other, even themselves. Many parents teach children to be independent and to stand up for themselves, which can also result in perceived disrespect for authorities. Other culprits are media and music, as well as the lack of respectful role models. Learning respect is an integral part of healthy child development, and it s never too late to start instilling this virtue. Here s how. By treating kids with respect, you re teaching them to respect others. Say thank you when someone offers help, make cards for sick friends, and acknowledge kind acts. Also point out disrespectful and rude behavior so kids are aware of it. Talk to kids in a kind tone. Even when disciplining, your voice can be confident without yelling. Set fair but firm rules and boundaries. Kids crave fair limits, and it often helps to let them have a say in what rules are in place. Create immediate consequences for disrespect, and be sure to follow through. If possible, provide teachable moments by relating the consequence to the offense. Helping kids respect themselves is the first step toward respecting others. Tell children that God created them in his image and loves them unconditionally. Read on for more ideas about emphasizing and instilling respect.

2 The Role of Honor The Bible is our best resource for training children to act respectfully. When you hear these common phrases from your kids, offer the biblical corrections that follow: You re not my boss! Romans 13:1 Why do I have to do that!? Philippians 2:5-7 She hit me first! 1 Thessalonians 5:15 He s stupid! Ephesians 4:29 You re not my friend anymore! Ephesians 4:32 TEACHABLE MOMENTS Worthy of Honor You ll need a blue ribbon (or one made from paper), as well as a safety pin or tape. Sit in a circle and place the ribbon on a family member. Then take turns saying kind things about that person and applauding for him or her. Let everyone have a turn wearing the ribbon and receiving compliments. Ask: How did it feel when others said nice things about you and clapped for you? Read aloud Deuteronomy 5:16. Say: This verse talks about parents, but God wants us to honor everyone even ourselves. Ask: How did our words and actions honor the person wearing the ribbon? Say: Saying nice things and clapping aren t the only ways to honor and respect someone. Ask: What else can we do to show honor and respect? How can we honor God? How can we honor ourselves? Charting the Course Together, make a Respect Chart, similar to a chart you may use for weekly chores. Add a square for each family member for every day of the week. After dinner, share ways you ve each displayed respect that day. Add stickers and then celebrate when the chart is full. Bridging the Gap Connect so your bodies can form a bridge across a large room. One person starts by touching a wall with a body part; then everyone else must connect to reach the opposite wall. If you get stuck, use clothing (socks, belts, shoelaces, etc.) to bridge the gaps. Afterward, discuss how everyone mattered in order to achieve the goal. Also talk about ways we can honor and support one another. Certificates of Honor Search online for free certificate templates. Print one for each family member and fill in the person s name, as well as ways he or she shows honor and respect to others. Beach Ball Madness Form a circle. Say, Let s play the game. Go! Throw a beach ball into the circle without instructions. When family members are stumped, say: Toss the ball until everyone has a turn. Remember that pattern and keep following it, going faster and faster. Afterward ask: What was it like to receive no instructions at first? Why do rules make games more fun? How are the Ten Commandments like rules to a game? How do the Ten Commandments make it easier to live with other people? All Around the Neighborhood Using graham crackers, frosting (or cream cheese), and snack items, create small houses. Then have family members trade houses. Read Luke 10: Say: Just as we gave up a snack we really wanted, the good Samaritan gave up time and money to care for a stranger. He knew Jesus wants us to love and respect everyone as our neighbor. Eat the houses while brainstorming ways to show respect to all your neighbors. Up to the Challenge Have family members huddle closely. Tie them together with twine or rope. Have the group try to move through an obstacle course carefully. Debrief the experience by asking: How did you have to change your usual behavior to do this? What are some challenges of living and working with others? Read aloud Psalm 119: Say: God s Word offers lots of guidance for how we can respect one another. Close in prayer, asking Jesus to help you show honor and respect to all. Don t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. Romans 12:9-10, NLT

3 MEDIA MADNESS MOVIE Title: Show Dogs Genre: Action, Adventure, Comedy Rating: PG Cast: Will Arnett, Stanley Tucci, Natasha Lyonne, RuPaul, Ludacris Synopsis: Max, a macho but lonely police dog, goes undercover as a pampered competitor in an exclusive dog show. While trying to solve an animal-smuggling ring, Max bonds with his human partner and also gets a puppy love interest. Our Take: Kids will enjoy the various personalities of the talking dogs. The movie contains some rude and suggestive language and humor. Possible discussion topics include getting along with different personality types and working together to accomplish challenging goals. Games, Sites & Apps Kung-Fu Zoo In this board game from WizKids, players flick animal-themed dice into an arena to score points and to eliminate other players. Some dexterity is required, but a lot of randomness is involved as well. Kids as young as preschool age (who don t put dice in their mouth) can enjoy this fun family game. Artkiveapp.com This site and app provide a solution for preserving all the artwork your kids create. Artkive sends a box that you fill with masterpieces. After you mail it back, Artkive photographs the artwork and creates a keepsake book (with up to 200 images). You also can view and share the images on any device. BOOK Title: The Hanley Series Author: Dana Wilkerson Synopsis: This unique new book series is designed to spark meaningful conversations between moms and daughters (ages 8-11). Girls read one book at their level, and moms read another. The storylines intertwine, encouraging daughters and moms to discuss what s happening and their characters responses. Our Take: Wilkerson, a New York Times best-selling author, says the goal of these books is to build relationships. Themes include the importance of forgiveness, living well, and service. Each book pair comes with a discussion guide and ways for kids and adults to serve others. (anovelcompanion.com) Clips This free video-editing app from Apple lets users stitch together photos and videos. You also can add emojis, text, and filters. Clips is a clean-fun win for social preteens. It isn t as integrally tied into social media as other apps (such as Instagram) are. Just be aware of where kids share their clips. CULTURE & TRENDS On an Adventure Adventure playgrounds, also known as wastematerial playgrounds, are regaining popularity in urban areas as parents encourage free-range, risk-taking play. Children can build and tear down structures, spray graffiti, and develop grit without interference from adults. (citylab.com) Fortnite Frenzy This free-to-play, cross-platform survival game has gained instant popularity and sparked a new tournament trend. Fortnite is now the most-watched game on the live-streaming website Twitch. In battle royale mode, 100 players try to be the last one standing. Violence is persistent but cartoonish, not bloody. (dexerto.com) QUICK STATS A Real Page-Turner Two-thirds (66%) of kids ages 6 to 11 say they enjoy read-aloud time with parents because reading together is fun. (scholastic.com) Undocumented and on Edge More than 4 million U.S. children under 18 have at least one undocumented parent. And nearly 6 million children share a household with a relative who s now a target of random deportations. Experts say that is leading to more school struggles, increasing rates of poverty, and more cases of PTSD. (time.com) This page is designed to help educate parents and isn t meant to endorse any movie, music, or product. Our prayer is that you ll make informed decisions about what your children watch, read, listen to, and play.

4 Journey On. Then Jesus turned to the twelve and asked, Are you also going to leave me? John 6:67 As Religious Ed classes end and the school year winds down, there is an interesting phenomenon that occurs here at St. Kilian. Sunday Mass attendance drops considerably. I am not sure how much it drops, but it often seems about half the normal amount of pews have people in them. One of our faithful and faith-filled catechists refers to this as The Mass Exodus you would almost think the Egyptian charioteers themselves had suddenly chased people out of the building! The summer Gospels of Ordinary Time are full of the main body of work of Jesus teachings, and contain the parables and miracle stories that help us all understand the love, compassion, and mission of Jesus the Christ. Most of us would not attend a concert or sporting event, join an organization, or even read an article and skip half of it, or more. There would be no continuity and our understanding would be skewed or disjointed. We, along with our children, would not be getting the entire story of Jesus. We are also cheating our children out of becoming comfortable with our Parish Community. This Community may one day be, or already is, a source of great strength, witness, support, or comfort to them. I am wondering if we and society in general have become so self-sufficient that we no longer have gratitude for our blessings? Do we no longer give God credit for the blessings in our life? God s blessings and faithfulness never end - or even take a break, yet in our human weakness and, dare I say, fickleness, we do! Many national Catholic education experts caution their fellow Catholics against the practice of going on vacation when it comes to practicing our faith. Jesus came to not only teach about how to have a relationship with God, but also with one another. Catholic theology teaches that when we gather, all of us together, we make up the Body of Christ. When members are absent, we are a fractured Body, we do not function well, both within the community and in the broader world in which we live. The Body suffers. When your children were baptized as infants, the statement is made that you, the parents, are the first and the best teachers of your children in the way of the Faith. St. Kilian is blessed to be able to help and guide you. Thank you for the privilege of allowing us to help form your children this year! Our faithful volunteer catechists do an amazing job! I wish you and your family many blessings as your children continue to grow in faith and wisdom! Have a blessed summer, and. See you at Mass!

5 May, 2018 SUNDAY MONDAY TUESDAY WEDNESDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY SATURDAY National Day of Prayer St. Philip & St. Joseph the Worker St. Athanasius St. James, Apostles Cinco de Mayo th Sunday of Easter St. Damien Joseph de Veuster Ascension of the Lord Holy Day of Obligation Mother s Day 20 St. Matthias 21 St. Isadore 22 St. John I Archdiocese of Milwaukee Ordination to Priesthood 26 Pentecost St. Bernadette of Siena 27 Ordinary Time resumes 28 St. Rita of Cascia St. Gregory VII St. Philip Neri The Most Holy Trinity Memorial Day The Visitation of the Blessed Virgin Mary

6 Questions about the Catechism Continuing Series [Text] 32. How, then, is the Catechism an example of episcopal collegiality? 1 st Eucharist Students from the Religious Education and School Programs who have been preparing for the Sacrament of First Eucharist will celebrate the Sacrament on Sunday, April 29 th at 2:00 pm. One large group picture will be taken following Mass. All children receiving First Eucharist need to be on the picture as it is placed in the parish archives. Envelopes to order pictures were sent the beginning of April. Parents can take their own pictures after the photographer has taken the group picture. Please wait until the photographer has finished, as flashing affects the quality of the picture. [Text] The Catechism is an example of episcopal collegiality because it was requested by the Synod of Bishops and affirmed by the Bishop of Rome; it was conceived, designed and written by Bishops primarily for Bishops; it was examined by the Catholic episcopate worldwide and it was officially promulgated by the Bishop of Rome. Episcopal collegiality, then, seems to be a primary characteristic of the preparation of the Catechism. When he presented the Catechism to Pope John Paul II, Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, president of the Commission for the Catechism, said: "The Catechism [Text] of the Catholic Church is the result of a collegial episcopal effort... Thus, once again, the affective and effective collegiality of the Episcopate has been engaged in real and concrete terms, with abundant fruitful results." 33. Does the Catechism itself say anything about episcopal collegiality? In several references, the Catechism describes the essential elements of a definition of episcopal collegiality. Episcopal collegiality originated in the will of Jesus (CCC 1444); it is apostolic in nature (CCC 857); it is necessarily related to the primacy of Peter (CCC 552); it is essentially a pastoral ministry (CCC 1444); it underscores the collegial [Photo] responsibility of the Bishops for the universal Church (CCC 1577); it depends on a sacramental character (CCC ); it has a co-natural relation to priestly orders (CCC 857) and it reveals the eschatological dimension of the episcopal collegial mission (CCC 1577) RE Schedule We are nearing the finalization of the calendar for the year. Watch for next year s RE Schedule in your inbox before the end of school! Classes start again Sunday, September 9, 2018.

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10 REGISTRATION UPDATE!! [Text and Photos] May RE at a Glance [Text and Photos] You spoke, we listened, and we changed! Change in RE Registration!! In response to parent requests; Religious Ed registration is moving from August to May. In addition, we have a new on-line registration process. Religious Ed registration fees for the year will be $ per child, with a limit of $ per family. There is a DISCOUNT if you register and pay the fees (or make payment arrangements with the Business Manager) prior to June 3, 2018! When paid prior to June 3 rd, fees for one child will be $125, two children will be $250, and three or more children will be $375, the same as this past year. INSTRUCTIONS TO START THE PROCESS To start the process with our new software program, please go to: You will be taken to a family registration page, where you will put in your family name, address, , and phone, or cell number. **Please note, the family is usually listed under the father s first name. In several days you will be ed a link to the member portal for our new software. Once you receive that portal link, you will then, either double check the information, or enter your information, for each family member. This year s initial registration is a 2 step process. Next year it will only take going back into the Member Portal to double check information and register. June 3 rd is the last date to receive the discount! Classes are finished for the year see you in September! Apr. 29 First Eucharist Celebration 2:00pm May 31 7:00 pm Confirmation Practice in St. Kilian Church June 3 2:00 Confirmation Celebration with Bishop Jeffrey Haines in St. Kilian Church, includes St. John, Rubicon Confirmation Practice Confirmation Candidates are reminded of the Confirmation Practice scheduled for Thursday, May 31, 2018 at 7:00 pm in St. Kilian Church. All candidates are required to be at the practice. Sponsors are asked to be present with the candidate for the practice. If a sponsor is unable to be there, a parent is asked to attend in their place. Please arrive by 6:50pm so that we can start on time. Practice should only take about an hour if everyone is on time and attentive to what is going on! Confirmation Celebration St. Kilian and St. John parishes will be celebrating the Sacrament of Confirmation on Sunday, June 3, 2018 at 2:00pm with Auxiliary Bishop Jeffrey Haines. There are 21 young people from St. Kilian and 10 young people from St. John that are preparing for Confirmation. Please include these young people in your prayers as they enter the final preparation period for this Sacrament of Initiation. Candidates are reminded to be in the Gathering Space by 1:40 pm on June 3 rd. Line up at 1:50 pm.

11 The Knights of Columbus Have Purchased a Gift for You! Enjoy a free subscription to formed.org an incredible online gateway to the best Catholic content, all in one place! With FORMED, you can: Prepare for the Sunday Mass by watching an insightful five-minute video by renowned Catholic teachers Enjoy a movie with you family that is both nourishing and entertaining Enrich your marriage with the award-winning series Beloved: Finding Happiness in Marriage Help your children grow in character and embrace the beauty and wonder of the Faith Formed provides amazing content 24/7 for you to grow in your faith. It s FREE and EASY to register! Visit formed.org with a web browser Click on Register (lower right of page) Enter the Parish Access Code: 8HWXY8 Enter your and create a password (you need this to login later) There is an introductory video you may watch that describes formed.org Examples of books available 8HWXY8 Examples of movies available

12 Baccalaureate Mass All graduating High School Seniors who are members of St. Kilian and St. John Congregations are invited to attend the 4:30 pm Mass on Saturday, June 9 th. Please meet in the Gathering Space at 4:15 pm wearing your graduation gown (no caps). Graduates will process in at the beginning of Mass and will have reserved seating. A Summer Blessing May you walk with God This summer In whatever you do Wherever you go. Walking with God means... Walking with honesty And with courage, Walking with love And respect And concern for the feelings of others. May you talk to God This summer And every day and In every situation. Talking with God means... Praying words of praise For the beauty of creation Saying prayers of thanks For friends and good times, Asking God's help In all your decisions Expressing sorrow When you have failed. May you talk with God Every day. Amen. - Author unknown An appetizer reception will follow Mass in the Gathering Space sponsored by the Confirmation students and parents. Everyone attending Mass will be invited to stay and celebrate with our graduates. CONFIRMATION One large group picture will be taken following Mass. All young adults receiving Confirmation need to be on the picture as it is placed in the parish archives. Envelopes to order pictures will be sent the beginning of May. Parents can take their own pictures after the photographer has taken the group picture. Please wait until the photographer has finished, as flashing affects the quality of the picture. PARENT REMINDER The Archdiocese of Milwaukee recommends and St. Kilian requires, at least one year of religious formation prior to a student preparing for First Reconciliation and First Eucharist. Students in their first year of Religious Education during the year will receive First Reconciliation and First Eucharist in the year. The Archdiocese recommends and St. Kilian requires participation and attendance in Grades 9 and 10 Religious Education prior to the direct preparation for Confirmation in Grade 11. *This does not apply to those attending Catholic High School students. The Religious Education year will start on Sunday, September 9 th.

13 Logan's Laps For Love Saturday May 26th at the Hartford High School Track 9am 5K Run/walk 10 am Children under age 10 can participate in shorter race on the track More Fun 9am-noon there will be food for purchase, Silent Auction, bounce houses, games, and more. After 12 pm all registered participants will have swim passes for Veterans Memorial Aquatic Center for the day of the event Proceeds of the event All registrations and money raised will go to Love For Logan Fund at Children's Hospital of Wisconsin

14 Tech Knowledge College: Even though it hasn t felt like it, summer is coming!! That also means that TKC (Tech Knowledge College) is coming up fast too! TKC registration begins on May 1 st and fills up quick!! Registration closes on June 29 th. We would greatly appreciate if you could share this great event with your students, parents and in your newsletters or s! For those unfamiliar with TKC it is a 3 day summer activity for students going into 6th, 7th and 8th grade. It is held at the Fond du Lac campus on July 31 st August 2 nd. This exciting opportunity allows students to explore careers, experience hands-on learning and have a whole lot of fun! There are a variety of sessions to choose from. The cost is to choose from. The cost is $115 for the 3 days which also includes bussing from our West Bend and Beaver Dam campuses, lunch, a morning snack and a t-shirt. Below is a link to the 2018 TKC brochure and registration form. rvices/tech-knowledge-college/. Ministry Showcase Ministries, committees, and organizations throughout the parish will be sharing information and stories about their service. Join us after Mass on May 5 th and 6 th! Tables in the Gathering Space will feature presentations from liturgical ministries, parish committees and organizations, and school organizations. The showcase is part of the Stewardship Committee s annual Time and Talent Campaign. RE HELP NEEDED I invite you to become involved the mission and ministry of Religious Education in our parish. ~Become a Catechist or Co- Catechist. Help guide our children and youth on their faith journey! Training and mentorship is provided. ~Become a member of the RE Committee. Be part of the advisory group to the DRE that helps form policy and guide the DRE. ~Become a member of the newly forming Parents Advisory Commission. Be part of a group that will look at new and developing trends in catechesis like family and intergenerational models. "Catechesis is nothing other than the process of transmitting the Gospel, as the Christian community has received it, understands it, celebrates it, lives it and communicates it in many ways." (General Directory for Catechesis #105)

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16 Upcoming Events Easter Season Ending Easter is the celebration of the Lord's resurrection from the dead, culminating in his Ascension to the Father and sending of the Holy Spirit upon the Church. There are 50 days of Easter from the first Sunday to Pentecost. It is characterized, above all, by the joy of glorified life and the victory over death, expressed most fully in the great resounding cry of the Christian: Alleluia! All faith flows from faith in the resurrection: "If Christ has not been raised, then empty is our preaching; empty, too, is your faith." (1 Cor 15:14) [Text] [Text] The word "Easter" comes from Old English, meaning simply the "East." The sun which rises in the East, bringing light, warmth and hope, is a symbol for the Christian of the rising Christ, who is the true Light of the world. The Paschal Candle is a central symbol of this divine light, which is Christ. It is lit for all liturgical celebrations during the Easter Season. [Photo] [Text]