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1 Respect Table of Contents RESPECT - UNIT OVERVIEW...2 WHAT IS RESPECT?: WEEK Week 1 - BIBLE CLUB...3 Week 1 - SKIT...15 Week 1 - MEMORY VERSE...17 Week 1 - PRACTICAL LIVING...19 Week 1 - READ-ALOUD...23 Week 1 - CRAFTS...25 Week 1 - RECREATION...27 WHO SHOULD YOU RESPECT?: WEEK Week 2 BIBLE CLUB...32 Week 2 - SKIT...38 Week 2 - MEMORY VERSE...40 Week 2 - PRACTICAL LIVING...42 Week 2 - READ-ALOUD...46 Week 2 - CRAFTS...47 Week 2 - RECREATION...49 HOW DO YOU SHOW RESPECT?: WEEK Week 3 BIBLE CLUB...54 Week 3 - SKITS...65 Week 3 - MEMORY VERSE...67 Week 3 - PRACTICAL LIVING...68 Week 3 - READ-ALOUD...75 Week 3 - CRAFTS...76 Week 3 - RECREATION...77 HOW DO YOU BECOME RESPECTABLE?: WEEK Week 4 BIBLE CLUB...82 Week 4 - SKIT...89 Week 4 - MEMORY VERSE...91 Week 4 - PRACTICAL LIVING...92 Week 4 - READ-ALOUD...96 Week 4 - CRAFTS...98 Week 4 - RECREATION Cru Respect 1

2 Week 1 What is Respect? RESPECT - UNIT OVERVIEW MEMORY VERSE: Show proper respect for everyone: Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the King. 1 Peter 2:17 Respect... if you said that word to a group of people it might mean something different to everyone. Fifty years ago you could have said the same word and there would have been no question what it meant. Why the change? We have become a society focused on ourselves. After all, don t we deserve it? We have abandoned all the ideals that believed in our communities and country because we were tired of the people that we respected and admired turning out to be liars and thieves. We have decided that everyone must be in it for something that will benefit themselves in the long run, so we should be as well. Trust no one and you won t be hurt. Sounds safe, but it also means you respect no one and that and all the other beliefs that have just been stated are completely against who Christ was. He showed respect for those who couldn t ever respect themselves and He commanded us to respect those He has chosen to be our authority whether they have earned our personal seal of approval or not. This unit will show you almost a completely opposite image of what it means to show respect. The truths are radical. But then again, so was Christ. In this unit on RESPECT, you will find... BIBLE CLUBs that show many examples of respect all the way from God consuming leaders in an earthquake who opposed Moses leadership to Jesus telling his disciples that they had to become servants of all to be first is His kingdom. PRACTICAL LIVING will teach the children how to be a good neighbor, appreciate the aged, show respect to a host and how to do well on a job interview. READ ALOUD, CRAFTS and RECREATION will teach them everything from how to respect the flag to how to imitate their leader in a sneaky way in a new recreation game. We pray that this unit on respect will begin to show the children at your center that respect is not something that can only be earned by carrying a gun. By the Spirit of God they will understand that God s word is very clear on who we should respect and how we should show it. We pray that they will begin to see the strength in humility as they learn to gain respect by being a servant. If our communities could be full of young men and women who respect their parents, teachers, community leaders and each other, we believe that many problems would simply disappear. We pray that your children can begin to comprehend the difficult task of going against the flow and standing for the cause of Christ. It is only in obeying His commands, that they will become people who are worthy of the respect that they seek Cru Respect 2

3 Week 1 What is Respect? WHAT IS RESPECT?: WEEK 1 WEEK 1 - BIBLE CLUB LESSON AIM: SCRIPTURE: MEMORY VERSE: To help the child understand what respect is. Leviticus 19:32, Ruth 3:1-5, Esther 5:1-7, 1 Kings 12:1-19, John 13:2-17 and Revelation 15:3-4 Show proper respect to everyone. Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the king. 1 Peter 2:17 EXAMPLES OF RESPECT You might have been surprised when you saw all of the scripture references for this Bible Club. Quite simply, they each will provide a small picture of what it means to respect, and in one situation, disrespect others. This is a brief summary of each passage: In Leviticus 19:32, we see simple directions that are given to tell us how to show respect--rise in the presence of older people, show respect for the elderly, and revere God. Revering God is to worship Him - a step up from respect. Ruth 3:1-5 shows us Ruth who has completely submitted herself to the authority of her mother-in-law. She obeys exactly without questioning her--a clear sign of respect. We see the same attitude in Esther as she approaches her husband, the King. She dresses up, speaks with respect, and does not take advantage of his offer to give her whatever she wants, but chooses to continue to honor him! 1 Kings 12:1-19 shows us a picture of disrespect. Rehoboam has just become king and he is required to respond to requests from his new subjects, immediately. He asks the elders for advice. Wisely, they tell him to agree to the people s request which would have resulted in peace. Instead, he chooses to take the advice of the young men, who agree with what he wants to do and makes the rules harsher and instead of resulting peace, a rebellion starts that ends up dividing the kingdom. John 13 shows us Jesus as an example of how you respect others by serving them. By doing this, Jesus gained the respect of his disciples and showed them respect by submitting to them even though they were not necessarily worthy of respect. Then, the last passage in Revelation shows us how we must reverence God for who He is and for what He has done! Each of these passages shows different ways people have respected each other and God. As these all come together in Bible Club this week, we pray that the children can begin to see a framework for what it means to respect someone. Discipleship Tip Take some time this week to get one-on-one with the children you are discipling. Ask them what they think of when they think of respect. Who do they respect and why? Share some people that you respect and why. Sometimes we don t always respect someone because they are worthy of it but because God has commanded us to do it. Ask them how they reverence God Cru Respect 3

4 Week 1 What is Respect? Hook MATERIALS: Simple, written instructions for each child. Begin Bible Club in your small groups. To keep the time short, keep each group to five or six children. SMALL GROUPS Give each a task he is to perform in front of the other children. (See the sample list of tasks.) Tell them number one will go first, number 2 second, and so forth. You will not tell the one to go. She should be ready. Do no disciplining. If the children are disrespectful to one another, let it go for now. You might want to take notes so you remember who disrespected whom and how. Sample Tasks for Children to Perform 1) Read this Bible verse to your group: I Peter 2:17 2) Read this short poem to your group. 3) Ask your group to do the following actions. Say, I would like you to do the following actions: Stand up Turn around Sit down 4) Read this Bible verse to your group. 5) Ask your group to lay down on their backs, close their eyes, and with you, count to 10. Non-Readers Give each one a number and tell them what they are to do. 1) Say your ABC s as far as you can go. 2) Count to 10. 3) Ask everyone to standup and then sit down (whisper this instruction to the child). 4) Quote a poem you know. 5) Sing a song Cru Respect 4

5 Week 1 What is Respect? DEBRIEF: 1. What does the word respect mean? 2. Who has felt respected this afternoon? How were you shown respect? 3. Who has felt disrespected this afternoon? How were you shown disrespect? 4. What do you feel like when you are disrespected? What does your body do? Body gets tense, feel angry, frustrated, hurt, might feel like crying or screaming... Go right from the debrief time to having the children prepare for Bible Story time. Bible Story MATERIALS Copies of the questions for the leaders of each group, large board, tape, and copies of the words that describe respect as found at the end of this Bible Club. This Bible Story will be a little different since there is more than one passage. You will be dividing the children up into their classes to answer the questions about the passages. If your classes are larger, you might want to divide them up into smaller groups. There are six passages. You do not have to use all of them. For each passage you will see a recommended age group. The recommendations are there because some of these passages are a little more abstract than others. If you want to use them for different age groups than the ones that are suggested, feel free. Here is a suggestion of how to break up your time for this Bible Club: Hook - 8 min. Group time - 6 min. Sharing time - 10 min. Discussion - 6 min. Begin by telling the children that they are going to present the Bible Story today. Each of their classes has a passage of scripture that they must find out about and tell the rest of the group. Today each group is going to read a different passage of scripture. You are to listen for ways that the person in your story showed respect or did not show respect. We will share with all of the other groups what we learned from our passage of scripture Cru Respect 5

6 Week 1 What is Respect? SMALL GROUPS These are the passages and their recommended age groups: Younger Children Lev. 19:32 Young Middle Children Ruth 3:1-5 Middle Children Esther 5:1-7 Middle Older Children 1 Kings 12:1-19 Older Children John 13:2-17 Older Children Rev. 15:3-4 LARGE GROUP: When you bring the children back together, have each group share who they read about and how they were an example of respect or disrespect. As the children share, have them add the words that they were given in their group to the large board. When all groups have finished sharing, go over the board all together and read again all of the things that they discovered about respect. Ask the children if they can think of anything else that someone can do to show respect and add that to the board as well. After they have shared, break the children into groups again but this time, mix up their age groups so that you have children reading the different stories together. To do this, break them up into their recreation teams and then break those in half or in thirds. The following pages include the SMALL GROUP age-specific passages of Scripture and the related Discussion Questions 2014 Cru Respect 6

7 Week 1 What is Respect? YOUNGER CHILDREN Passage: Leviticus 19:32 Rise in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your God... Read the above passage to the children. Show the verse printed out. Point to each of the words as you ask them these questions: DISCUSSION QUESTIONS [Younger Children] 1. What does it mean to rise? The sun can rise, but this means to stand up when someone you should respect walks in the room so that you show them honor. 2. Can someone show me what you should do when the president of the United States walks into a room? Rise. 3. How about your grandma? Rise. 4. This word says aged. What does that mean? Someone who is older - like your grandparents or someone older like that. 5. This part says, show respect for the elderly. What word did we just talk about that means the same thing as elderly? Aged. 6. What is a way that we just learned to show respect for them? Stand up or rise when they walk into the room. 7. What are some other ways that we could show respect for them? Do not interrupt them when they are talking, especially if they are talking to someone else. Listen to what they say. Obey them when they tell you to do something. Do not complain when they ask you to do something. Talk to them nicely. 8. This part says to revere God. Revere means to worship. What does it mean to revere? To worship. 9. What should we do to God? Worship Him. 10. Is worshipping God a way that we can show Him respect? Yes. Show the children the words that go with your passage. Say, These are the words we want to share with the rest of the children. WE SHOULD WE SHOULD rise and show the elderly and aged respect. revere God, which means to worship Rise in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your God... Leviticus 19: Cru Respect 7

8 Week 1 What is Respect? YOUNGER - MIDDLE CHILDREN Passage: Ruth 3:1-5 Tell the children, We are going to read a story today about Ruth. We need to find out what Ruth did to show respect for Naomi. Listen as I read you this story about what Ruth did. Read the passage to the children. Have them follow along in their Bibles. After you are finished reading, ask the following questions: DISCUSSION QUESTIONS [Younger Middle Children] 1. Who was Naomi? She was Ruth s mother-in-law. 2. What was it that Naomi said to Ruth? She told Ruth what to do. 3. Why do you think Naomi was telling Ruth what to do? Because she was trying to take care of Ruth. 4. Do you think Naomi would have asked Ruth to do anything that would have caused her harm? Why? No, because she loved Ruth and wanted her to be safe and provided for. 5. When Naomi told Ruth what to do, did Ruth ask any questions? Why not? No, because Ruth trusted that what she asked Naomi to do was good for her. 6. What did Ruth do to show Naomi respect? Ruth did not ask Naomi why she asked her to do something and Ruth did exactly what Naomi asked her to do. Show the children the words that go with your passage. Say, These are the words we want to share with the rest of the children. We want to share with them what we learned about Ruth and how she showed respect. RUTH obeyed her authority Cru Respect 8

9 Week 1 What is Respect? MIDDLE CHILDREN Passage: Esther 5:1-7 Tell the children, We are going to read a story today about Queen Esther. We need to find out what Queen Esther did to show respect for her husband, the King. Now listen to the passage I am going to read you about how Queen Esther showed her husband respect. Read the passage to the children. Have them follow along in their Bibles. After you are finished reading, ask the following questions: DISCUSSION QUESTIONS [Middle Children] 1. What was the first thing that you noticed that Queen Esther did to show her husband that she respected him? She put on her royal robes. She showed respect for him by the way that she dressed. 2. When Queen Esther goes before the king, what does she do? Does she speak out loud, or does she wait for the King to notice her? Why do you think she did that? She waited for the King to notice her because it was rude to demand that the King notice a person by speaking out loud. 3. When Queen Esther talked to the King, what did you notice about how she talked to him? Do you remember what she said? She talked to him in a very respectful way by saying, If it pleases the king What do you think you would have said if the King offered you half of the kingdom? 5. What did Queen Esther say? She asked him to come to a banquet. 6. Why do you think she invited the king to a banquet? Because she wanted to show him respect so that he would be more willing to grant her the request she was going to make. 7. After honoring the king once with a banquet, what did she do? She invited him to another banquet. 8. Why do you think it was so important to show the King so much respect? Because he had a very high position. Show the children the words that go with your passage. Say, These are the words we want to share with the rest of the children. We want to share with them what we learned about Esther and how she showed respect. ESTHER spoke with respect to her husband. gave a banquet in her husband s honor Cru Respect 9

10 Week 1 What is Respect? MIDDLE--OLDER CHILDREN Passage: 1 Kings 12:1-19 Tell the children, We are going to read a story today about Rehoboam. Rehoboam did not show respect to the people that he should have. Listen to see if you can find out what Rehoboam did to show that he did not respect those that he should have respected. Read the passage to the children. Have them follow along in their Bibles. After you are finished reading, ask the following questions: DISCUSSION QUESTIONS [Middle Older Children] 1. What was the situation in which Rehoboam was trying to make a decision? His father, Jeroboam had placed a heavy yoke on the people and now that Rehoboam was king, the people were coming before him wanting the yoke to be released. 2. From whom did he seek advice for his decision? He asked the elders and the young men who had grown up with him. 3. Whose advice did he take? Why? He took the advice of the young men because it agreed with what he had already wanted to do. 4. What did he do that was disrespectful? He did not take the advice of the elders. 5. Why was not taking the advice of the elders disrespectful? Because it was like Rehoboam saying that he knew better than the elders. 6. What happened as a result of Rehoboam taking the advice of the young men? A rebellion broke out and the county was divided. Show the children the words that go with your passage. Say, These are the words we want to share with the rest of the children. We want to share what we learned about Rehoboam and how he did not show respect. REHOBOAM disrespected his elders by not taking their advice 2014 Cru Respect 10

11 Week 1 What is Respect? OLDER CHILDREN Passage: John 13:2-17 Tell the children, We are going to read a story today about Jesus. We need to find out what Jesus did to show respect and how He gained respect. Listen as I read you this story for what Jesus did to show respect and how He got respect in return. Read the passage to the children. Have them follow along in their Bibles. After you are finished reading, ask the following questions: DISCUSSION QUESTIONS [Older Children] 1. What was something that Jesus did in this passage that might have surprised you at first? Jesus washed the disciples feet. 2. Why did Jesus wash their feet? To show them that He was not above such a lowly task and to show them what they should be doing for each other. 3. Why would anyone need to wash their feet? We don t do that today. Because the roads were very dusty and they wore sandals without socks. This made their feet get very dirty and they usually had their feet washed by a servant when they entered the house. 4. How did the disciples respond to Jesus washing their feet? At first they were embarrassed and did not want Jesus to wash their feet because they knew that was a job for a servant. 5. How do you think that the disciples felt about Jesus after He did this humble task? They respected Him more. 6. Why do you think when someone is willing to do a lowly task that people respect him? Because when someone is willing to do a lowly task his isn t so apt to think he is better than another person, he tends to care more for others 7. What did Jesus tell them after He washed their feet? (What was the lesson He wanted His disciples to learn from this?) He said that He set an example for them that no servant is greater than his master and that they would be blessed if they did this. Show the children the words that go with your passage. Say, These are the words we want to share with the rest of the children. We want to share with them what we learned about Jesus and how He showed respect to His disciples. JESUS washed His disciples feet Cru Respect 11

12 Week 1 What is Respect? OLDER CHILDREN Passage: Revelation 15:3-4 Explain to the children that this passage is different from the other passages. This passage is an example of the way a song of Moses expresses his reverence for God. Tell the children, The passage that we are about to read is a song that Moses sang to God. In this passage, people who are in heaven are singing the same song that Moses sang many years ago. The song shows God how the people reverence Him. To God we show reverence, which means to worship Him. Reverence is even greater than respect. Listen for some of the things that this song says about God. Have someone read the passage. After you read the passage, ask these questions: DISCUSSION QUESTIONS [Older Children] 1. What is one of the first things you noticed when we read this passage? Everything that Moses said in this song showed reverence for God. 2. What are some of the things that the song says about God? Great and marvelous are His deeds, just and true are His ways, You alone are holy, Your righteous acts have been revealed. 3. Why do you think it is important to say things like this to God? Because He is worthy of praise. It reminds us of who God is. 4. How does saying this to God help us? As we are reminded of who God is, we are more apt to make Him #1 in our lives. When He is the most important person in our lives we will be more obedient. Obedience leads to blessings. 5. After reading this passage, how do you think reverence and respect are different? Reverence is to worship something as being the best above anything else and respect means to honor someone, but not necessarily above everyone else. Show the children the words that go with your passage. Say, These are the words we want to share with the rest of the children. We want to share with them what we learned about the people in heaven and how they showed reverence for Him. PEOPLE IN HEAVEN sing songs of worship to God Cru Respect 12

13 Week 1 What is Respect? We should We should Ruth Esther Esther Rehoboam Jesus People in heaven rise and show respect to the elderly and the aged. revere God, which means to worship Him. obeyed her authority. spoke with respect to her husband. gave a banquet in her husband s honor. disrespected his elders by not taking their advice. washed His disciples feet. sang songs of worship to God Cru Respect 13

14 Week 1 What is Respect? DISCUSSION QUESTIONS [Large Group} 1. Who is someone that we learned about today that showed respect in some way? Ruth, Esther, Jesus, people in heaven. 2. What are some of the things that they did to show respect? They obeyed authority, spoke respectfully, Jesus washed His disciples feet, sang worship songs to God. 3. How do you think someone in authority feels when we treat them with respect? They feel good and honored to have the responsibility that comes with the authority. 4. How do you feel when someone is disrespectful towards you? 5. Does anyone know what our memory verse says? Let s look it up and read it. Turn to 1 Peter 2:17. Can someone read it for us? 6. What does it tell us about respect? It tells us to respect everyone, God, and the king. 7. Sometimes there are people that we should respect, but we don t. What are some of the reasons why we don t respect people sometimes? Because they don t keep their promises, they don t always tell the truth, they do things that hurt our feelings, they don't make decisions that we agree with. 8. When the Bible tells us to respect everyone, are there any of these reasons listed that could give us an excuse as to why we don't have to respect some people? Why not? No, because we are to follow the example of Jesus and treat everyone with respect, even if we don't think that they deserve it. 9. What are some little things you can do to show people respect? Speak politely to people, hold the door open for others, obey the rules of any place that you are at, ask people s permission before you act or use things that belong to them, allow someone else to go before you in line, etc If people see you doing things like this, what do you think that they will think about you? They will respect you because you showed them respect. They will also notice something different about you and this could give you a chance to share Christ with them. Take some time to pray with your children now. Ask God to give them the strength to show respect to others even when others don t seem deserving of the respect Cru Respect 14

15 Week 1 What is Respect? WEEK 1 - SKIT CHARACTERS: SCENE: Maria, LaTasha, and a teacher from school. Maria and LaTasha are at school and run into a teacher. Maria and LaTasha are walking in the hall in school. LaTasha and Maria both get out a piece of candy and throw the wrappers on the ground. As soon as they do, a teacher walks up to them. TEACHER: LATASHA: TEACHER: MARIA: LaTasha and Maria, what did you girls just do with the wrappers from the candy that you are eating? Well, I... Maria, what did you do with the paper? I dropped it on the ground, Mrs. Jackson, but I will be happy to pick it up. I don't know why I did that. I guess I just wasn t thinking. LaTasha looks at Maria like she is crazy and can t believe what Maria just said. TEACHER: LATASHA: TEACHER: Thank you, Maria, for telling me the truth. So, LaTasha, do you have anything to say? (sarcastically) I m sorry, okay? Young lady, you need to learn some respect. You both need to learn how to care about your school. It won t look very nice if everyone just throws paper down on the floor like you two just did, but LaTasha, I will not have you talking to me like that. Come with me. You are going to see the principal right now. (looking at Maria) You can go ahead and go back to class and try to remember not to throw your trash on the ground. Maria walks away. The teacher takes LaTasha towards the principal s office. TEACHER: LATASHA: TEACHER: I am going to have you cleaning up around this school for the next week! But, Maria did the same thing, why didn t you do anything to her? You just like her more than me. You d better be quiet, young lady, or you are going to get yourself in even more trouble Cru Respect 15

16 Week 1 What is Respect? DEBRIEF: What did Maria and LaTasha both do that was wrong? They both ate a piece of candy and threw the wrappers on the floor. When the teacher asked them what happened, how did Maria respond? She was respectful by the way she talked and because she obeyed what the teacher told her to do. Why did LaTasha get in trouble and not Maria? Because LaTasha not only threw the paper on the ground, but she disrespected the teacher. Who do you think was smarter in this skit, Maria or LaTasha? Why? Maria, because she took care of the smaller problem without making into a bigger problem by become disrespectful. What did Maria do to show respect to the teacher? Maria spoke to her teacher respectfully and she obeyed her and apologized for what she did wrong Cru Respect 16

17 Week 1 What is Respect? WEEK 1 - MEMORY VERSE MEMORY VERSE: Show proper respect to everyone. Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the king. 1 Peter 2:17 EXPLANATION OF THE VERSE This verse gives us specific directions about respect. First, we are to respect everyone because they are God s unique and beautiful creation. Second, we must love and show respect to our brothers and sisters in Christ, and then we are to reverence God. We cannot really respect others until we have learned to reverence, or stand in awe, of Our Creator. Lastly, we must show respect for those whom God has given authority over us, like the king. TEACHING THE VERSE Read the scripture to the children. Teach two of the actions from below, at a time. Each time you teach two new actions, start at the beginning again. This is so that the children to not forget the previous actions. Do this until you have completed the verse. Then, do it two more times as a group. If you have the time, separate the children into two groups and see who does the best job reciting the verse. Verse Actions are on the following page 2014 Cru Respect 17

18 Week 1 What is Respect? MOTIONS TO THE VERSE Show : proper : respect : to : everyone : love : the : brotherhood: of : believers : fear : God : honor : the : king : Make your hands like a book and open them as if to show someone else. Snap your fingers. Bow or curtsy. Hold up two fingers. Point to everyone (around the room at many people). Cross your hands over your heart like the sign for love. Clap your hands. Act as if you are putting your arm around a friend. Pat your leg. Fold your hands like you are praying and look up to God. Bow your head while looking up (explain that this does not mean to be afraid, but to reverence God or honor Him, like we do when we worship Him, acknowledging His power and strength.) Point up to God. Bow or curtsy. Clap. Make your hands to be like a crown and place them on your head. 1 Peter: Hold up one finger and say, I Peter. 2 :17 : Yell the numbers two, seventeen (yelling helps you to remember it!) 2014 Cru Respect 18

19 Week 1 What is Respect? WEEK 1 - PRACTICAL LIVING Being A Good Neighbor Materials: something to make someone look like a robber (a mask or ski-mask), a board to post the qualities of a good neighbor In this practical living segment, you will need three people (besides yourself) to present it. You will be the LEADER (like an emcee). Two people will act as Neighbor Ned and his neighbor. The fourth person has a bit part as a robber and someone mowing a lawn (yard person). Begin the segment by setting up two chairs that are to represent the two residences. Have Neighbor Ned and the other neighbor sit in the chairs. When the children come in, introduce Neighbor Ned and tell the group that they are going to give some advice to Ned on how to be a good neighbor, because he doesn t really know how. Also tell them that part of showing respect for others is by being a good neighbor. Begin by showing how they should give advice to Neighbor Ned. It might go something like this: Example #1 of what Neighbor Ned does... LEADER: Neighbor Ned likes to play his music really loudly. Neighbor Ned should be acting as if he is listening to very loud music, drumming on things and singing. His neighbor should be responding by frowning and covering his ears. LEADER: CHILDREN: Do you think a good neighbor would play his music that loudly? No. LEADER: When I count to three, let s all say, Neighbor Ned, be a good neighbor! and see if we can get his attention. ALL: (Loudly) Neighbor Ned, be a good neighbor! NED: What does a good neighbor do when he likes his music loud? Wait for someone to say, Listen with head phones. NED: Oh! I have some head phones. Neighbor Ned puts his head phones on and now is still enjoying his music, but you can tell that his neighbor is very happy now Cru Respect 19

20 Week 1 What is Respect? Example #2 of what Neighbor Ned does... LEADER: Neighbor Ned s neighbor is gone for a week, and Ned sees someone looking around his house. Neighbor Ned should be acting as if he were watching out his window while the person that is dressed like a robber is looking around his neighbor s house. When Ned first sees them, he is laughing because it is not his house. LEADER: Do you think a good neighbor should look out for his neighbor s house when he knows that he is not home? CHILDREN: Yes! LEADER: When I count to three, let s all say, Neighbor Ned, be a good neighbor! and see if we can get his attention. ALL: (Loudly) Neighbor Ned, be a good neighbor! NED: What does a good neighbor do when he sees his neighbor s house is about to get robbed? Wait for someone to say, Call 911. NED: Call 911, I can do that! Neighbor Ned calls 911 and the police come and take the robber away. Have the group cheer when the police come and his neighbor s house is safe. Example #3 of what Neighbor Ned does... LEADER: Neighbor Ned hates to mow his grass and take care of the outside of his house. Neighbor Ned should be acting as if he is taking a nap as happy as he can be while his neighbor is outside mowing his yard, painting his house and sweeping his front porch. The neighbor keeps looking at Ned s yard with disgust. LEADER: Do you think a good neighbor would let his yard get overgrown with weeds and let his house look all torn apart? CHILDREN: No. LEADER: When I count to three, let s all say, Neighbor Ned, be a good neighbor! and see if we can get his attention. ALL: (Loudly) Neighbor Ned, be a good neighbor! NED: What does a good neighbor do when he hates doing the yard work? Wait for someone to say, Do it anyway, or pay someone to do it for you, but don t just leave it looking bad. NED: Oh! I know someone who said he would do my yard for me if I paid him. Neighbor Ned gets on the phone to someone and asks him to come do his yard. The yard person comes over and starts to mow his lawn. Ned s neighbor starts jumping up and down with joy that Ned is doing something about his overgrown yard Cru Respect 20

21 Week 1 What is Respect? DEBRIEF Put each of the three things that you have talked about up on the board. (There are some printed items on the following pages you can use as aids.) Then, ask the group if they can come up with any other things that a good neighbor could do. There are a few others that are printed out for you. There may be different things in various geographical areas that neighbors do for each other. Try to think of some things that would be specific for your area. Before you close, go over the complete list again as a review. Remind the group that when we are good neighbors, we show respect for our neighbors and our communities Cru Respect 21

22 Week 1 What is Respect? turn your music down or wear headphones [No loud music] watch out for their house when you know they are gone take care of your yard let each other borrow things check on them if they are elderly help them if they are sick 2014 Cru Respect 22

23 Week 1 What is Respect? WEEK 1 - READ-ALOUD The Silent Couple The Book of Virtues p SUMMARY: This story shows different ways that the characters in this story are being disrespectful. There is a newlywed couple in this story that gets in a argument over who is going to close the door. Neither of them wants to do it because they are both tired. In the process, they decide to not say a word to each other until one of them closes the door. The door, standing wide open, is an invitation for thieves and because they are both stubborn and don t want to give in to the other person, they let the thieves come in and steal everything in their house. Finally, a police officer comes to help, but again they are too stubborn to speak to the police officer. Finally out of desperation, the police officer raises his hand to strike the man and the woman speaks in his defense. The husband shouts, I won. What we want the children to see is all the different ways we need to respect each other and how bad things can get when we don t do it. PRE-READING QUESTIONS 1) Have you ever been really mad at someone and decided you were not going to speak to him? Can someone tell me about a time when he or she did this? 2) What do you think it proved to that person when you refused to speak to them? 3) Do you think this was a correct way to show respect for that person, especially if that person was your parent, or an authority? Today we are going to read a story about a couple who were very disrespectful to each other. Listen for ways that you think that they were disrespectful Cru Respect 23

24 Week 1 What is Respect? POST-READING QUESTIONS 1) What did the couple do to show disrespect? First, to each other, then to the officer? They did not respect each other by not volunteering to close the door. They did not respect the officer by refusing to speak to him when he asked them a question. 2) Because they were disrespectful, what did it cost them? They lost all of their furniture because they were so stubborn. 3) If the wife showed respect for her husband, what do you think she would do? She would have closed the door when he asked. (Remember the Bible commands wives to be respectful to their husbands, even if their husbands may not have earned that respect. 1 Peter 3:1-4) 4) How would the story have been different if they had showed respect for each other? Allow the children to choose a couple of different endings to the story. This is a very good critical thinking skill. Allow some extra time for this if necessary Cru Respect 24

25 Week 1 What is Respect? WEEK 1 - CRAFTS A Kingly Crown MATERIALS: construction paper (or card stock), scissors, sequins, glue, markers, patterns for the crown, staplers BEFORE CRAFT TIME: Cut out several patterns for the crowns. Make a sample crown to show what the children are going to make. DURING CRAFT TIME: Begin by asking, In our country, who is the person who holds the very highest position and whom we should respect? The President of the United States. In another country, he/she might be called a king (or queen). One of the symbols that remind us of this important position is a crown. A king or the President is someone whom we should show respect to because of the position that this person holds. Today we are going to make a crown to remind us to show respect to people in positions of authority. What are some other positions of authority we must respect? Police, teacher, parents, etc. First, have each child choose two pieces of construction paper that are the same color. Next, have the children trace the pattern for the crown on each piece of paper. Let the children cut out and decorate their crowns. When the decorations are finished, allow everyone to staple the two pieces of paper together. WARNING: Staple the pieces together from the inside out. If you don t, the staples might scratch or snag when worn. GUIDED CONVERSATION: 1) What does respect mean? To deem someone or something worthy to be exalted, admired, or revered 2) What are some ways that we can show respect to others? Speaking politely, listening to someone, obeying someone 3) Whom should we show respect to? Parents, teachers, police officers, S.A.Y. Yes! or YMCA staff, etc. 4) Do you think you are respectful? Why? 2014 Cru Respect 25

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27 Week 1 What is Respect? WEEK 1 - RECREATION DAY ONE: Set-up Teams MATERIALS: OBJECT: SET UP: Students divided into two teams, (the list should be prepared by the staff in advance), poster board, and marker. To help the children learn how to work together and support each other. Create two permanent teams. These teams would play together everyday during recreation. These teams will change every month. This gives the students a chance to learn to work with new team members. It also gives them a chance to play on a winning team if they were not on one in the past. You will want to make sure the teams are evenly matched age wise. You may want to sit down as a Staff team and decide who will be on what teams. Be sure and keep your lists from the previous months so that you can remember who played together in the past. TO PLAY: Have each team come up with a team name. It can be whatever they want. The names that our students liked best were ones that had to do with their relationship with Jesus. Acronyms are fun to use, too. Have each team create a team cheer. (Raps are fun too!) Remember that during recreation winning isn't as important as spirit. Make posters which you will keep up and post the scores. RESPECTFUL ROBINS REVERENT RADICALS COMPETITION SPIRIT POINTS COMPETITION SPIRIT POINTS 1,000 20,000 2,000 10,000 1,000 10,000 1,000 30, Cru Respect 27

28 Week 1 What is Respect? DISCUSSION Watch to see how the players respond to their new teammates and who provides leadership on the team. Notice who is encouraging and discouraging new ideas. 1. Was it hard to come up with a team cheer? Why? 2. We are learning about respect this month. Did you see anyone who was being disrespectful during the time you had to work on your cheer? What kind of things did they do that was disrespectful? They didn t listen, they interrupted the person trying to give an idea, they said mean things to the people who were trying to share ideas. 3. Why is it so important to be respectful? It is hard to get things done when people interrupt or are rude. DAY TWO: Ping Pong Blow MATERIALS: Two ping pong balls. OBJECT: SET UP: To get the ping pong ball into a goal more times than the other team. Have the children play this game in their teams. Divide the teams into small groups of 5 or 6. Two ways to play: TO PLAY o o One game is played while the players from the other teams cheer on the members of their Primary Team. Have several games going on at the same time. One small team from one team will go against a small team from the other team. Each team has a goal, at opposite ends of the room. The players get down on their hands and knees, the ping pong ball is placed in the center of the room. When the leader says, Go, the players begin blowing the ball towards their goal. The ball cannot be touched at anytime. It can only be moved by blowing it. To add to the excitement you might add a second ball. The winner is the team who gets the most goals Cru Respect 28

29 Week 1 What is Respect? DISCUSSION Watch to see if the team has a strategy or if they are all just playing on their own. Are any of the players trying to pick up the ball or bump it when they get frustrated? 1. What was fun about this game? 2. Did anyone think it was hard to blow the ping pong ball? What did you do to help your team win? 3. What was the one important rule about the ping pong ball that you had to remember? To not touch the ball no matter what! 4. We have to learn to respect the rules even when the rules may seem a little frustrating. Why do you think respecting the rules is important? The rules are put there for us to follow to protect us and to help us have fun. When we disobey the rules, the game does not work as it is planned and we could hurt other people or ourselves, or simply ruin the game for others. DAY THREE: Sheep Across The River MATERIALS: OBJECT: SET UP: none, unless you need something for boundaries (e.g., masking tape) To be the last sheep left that the wolf does not catch To begin, make a boundary like the one shown below. Choose someone to be the wolf. She/He stands in the middle of the center line. safe x wolf safe TO PLAY: All the other players stand on one line, preparing to run. When the wolf yells, SHEEP across the river, all the players try to run from the side they are standing on to the safety of the other boundary line, like the shore. If the wolf touches them, they have to freeze in the exact spot where they were touched. Then they put their arms straight out to their side. They can not move at all Cru Respect 29

30 Week 1 What is Respect? Once all the players have either reached the other side or are frozen in the middle, the wolf turns to face the sheep, and yells again, sheep across the river. This time, if the wolf touches the sheep they are out, but if the sheep run into an already tagged player, they are also out. The players who are frozen are not to try to tag the sheep who are running by. They are just supposed to be obstacles to try to get through. Continue to play until there is only one player left. She/He is the wolf in the next game. If there are players who are still at the starting line after almost everyone has run across to the other side, count to ten out loud. If they do not run by the time you finish counting, they are out and must find a place on the field to stand and freeze with their arms out. It s also fun to have two players be the wolves. The game goes much faster and more players get the chance to be the wolf. DISCUSSION Watch to see which children are willing to stand still when they are tagged and which children keep saying that they were not touched despite the staff s efforts to tell them that they are out. 1. How did it feel to get tagged early in the game and have to stand there the whole game with your arms stretched out? 2. Did you wish that wasn t a rule? Why do you think that rule was made? With other people standing with their arms stretched out, it makes it harder to run across the river and easier to get tagged. 3. When you obey rules that the staff have made, you are showing them respect and honor. Can you think of anything that you could do that would show respect to the people who God has placed in authority over you? Obey the rule that they set up for you no matter how small. DAY FOUR: Free Play MATERIALS: All the fun play equipment that you have. OBJECT: SET UP: To let the child try the new concept they have learned apply to everyday life. Let the children use any of the play equipment that they want. Let them set up their own games and make up their own rules if they want and get anyone else to play with them Cru Respect 30

31 Week 1 What is Respect? TO PLAY: Feel free to play with them, but do not take control of organizing the game. Let them do this and follow their rules. Ask the students to try to participate with their friends in the best way possible. Remind them that the rules of the center should still be abided by during this time. Have fun! DISCUSSION Watch to see if any of the children are trying to respect their friends in the games that they play by talking to them nicely and following the rules. 1. Were there any children who tried extra hard today to show respect to their fellow classmates? What were they doing? Speaking nicely, following the rules, listening to the team captain, etc. 2. How does it feel when someone respects you on the team? Is that someone who you will want to play with next time? Why or Why not? 3. Do you do try to respect others at school? Why or why not? 2014 Cru Respect 31

32 Week 2 Who Should You Respect? WHO SHOULD YOU RESPECT?: WEEK 2 WEEK 2 BIBLE CLUB LESSON AIM: SCRIPTURE: Numbers 16: 1-40 MEMORY VERSE: To help the child understand that we must respect the people that God has placed in authority over us. Show proper respect for everyone: Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the king. 1 Peter 2:17 Moses Confirmed By God as the Authority This passage tells of how the leaders in the tribe of Israel decided to oppose Moses leadership and how God felt about that opposition. This week we want to teach the children that God is the one who puts people in positions of authority. Because this authority comes from God, we need to respect our leaders whether or not we think there is someone more qualified for the job. Notice the things that the leadership under Moses did wrong. First of all, they came as a large group to question him. (v.3) Perhaps they thought they were justified because of their large number. Second, this made their opinion of him to be more justified because there was so many of them coming forward to confront him. Then, they said that Moses had too much power. Basically this was saying that they did not think he was qualified for the high position that he held. (v.3b) Moses fell down before the Lord and asked the Lord to be the one to choose who was in leadership. Moses told them to take censors and fill them with incense and present them before the Lord. (v.7) The Lord made His choice very clear by causing the ground to open up and swallow up the main leaders of the rebellion and their families (v.31) Then, the other leaders who had been a part of the rebellion tried to run away, but God sent fire from heaven and burned them up. (v. 35) God made it very clear how He feels about people who oppose the authority that He has set up. The Bible even says that these men showed contempt for God because they opposed His authority. (v.30b) We want the children to see that God hates when people disrespect their authority even if they think there is a very good reason for it. We also want the children to see that authority is not always placed because of qualifications, but because that is who God chooses to use. We want the children to have an ultimate respect for God and then see that He is the One who has given them every authority in their lives. Discipleship Tip Take some time this week to get one-on-one with the children you are discipling. Ask them to identify who the people are who are authorities in their lives. Ask them if they could share with you ways that they show these people respect each day. Inspire them to think of new ways that they could show them respect. Share with them ways that the Bible would have us show respect to authority. (Obedience, listening, etc.) Share with them some benefits that you have seen from showing respect for authority Cru Respect 32

33 Week 2 Who Should You Respect? Hook Begin your Bible Club time by playing a game that your children have played before and know well. This time, have a volunteer lead the game, but have them play by some new rules. The volunteer should act like their rules (the new rules) are the right rules and must be abided by today whether or not they usually play like this. You might want to play a game like Red Light, Green Light. Here is the game directions of how they might usually play if you play games according to this curriculum: Red Light Green Light MATERIALS: None. OBJECT: The winner is the first player to touch the leader. The leader stands at one end of the room, while the players stand in a line facing the leader at the opposite end of the room p l a leader y e r s The leader faces the wall with back to players and calls out, GREEN LIGHT. The players move towards the leader until the leader yells out, RED LIGHT and quickly turns around. Any players the leader observes moving when he turns around, must return to the start line. The winner is the player who gets to the leader first. This time, instead of the leader being able to turn around whenever he wants, he has to count to five out loud before they say Red Light and turn back around to face the other players. Also, if a player is caught moving she is out of the game and must sit and watch the rest of the players. When the volunteer starts the game they should say something like, Today we are going to play Red light, Green Light. Everyone knows how to play don t they? The leader must count to five before he turns around and if you are caught moving you are out Cru Respect 33

34 Week 2 Who Should You Respect? Give them a chance to respond but be very firm that these are the rules today and that they must follow these rules today. After they have played this game for about 5-7 minutes have all the children sit down and ask them these debriefing questions: DEBRIEF: How did you feel when you heard we were going to play a game today during Bible Club? How did you feel when the volunteer told you her rules? Did you like the new rules? Why or why not? How do you think the volunteer felt when you responded to the new rules? Do you think you showed respect to the volunteer by what you said and did? Why or why not? Do you think that the volunteer is someone that you have to listen to when they tell you what to do? Why or why not? Today we are going to learn about some people who thought that their leader was not doing things as they should be done. They told him that they could do the job just as well as he could. Let s find out what God thought about that! Bible Story MATERIALS: Costumes for different parts and props (a microphone for the reporter, a staff and robe for Moses, facial tissue for the people crying, a desk for the anchor to sit at.) This Bible Club story is to be told like a TV news report. These are the actors that you will need and their character. CHARACTERS: Anchor child Reporter staff Moses staff camera man child people hugging and crying child (crier #1 and 2) 2014 Cru Respect 34