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Becoming Fully Alive! Part Two: Getting Your Whole Heart Back by Pastor Steve Peterson

Freedom - Part 2: Getting Your Whole Heart Back www.freshstartforallnations.org Produced And Distributed By: Body Life Ministries 800.860.7125 www.bodylifeministries.org

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Becoming Fully Alive! Session 1 Session 2 Session 3 Session 4 Session 5 Session 6 Session 7 Free From The Message Of The Arrows Free From The Arrow Of Pride Free From The Arrow Of Shame Free From The Arrow Of Fear Free From The Arrow Of Rejection Free From The Arrow Of Anger Free From The Arrow Of Depression

Becoming Fully Alive! PART 2 - SESSION 1 FREE FROM THE MESSAGE OF THE ARROWS You will not be afraid of the terror by night or the arrow that flies by day... Psalm 91:5 (NASB)

I. FREE FROM THE MESSAGE OF THE ARROWS A. THE ARROW OF PRIDE AN ISSUE OF SIGNIFICANCE 1. What is your opinion of yourself? 2. What do you believe others think of you? 3. Do you ever think that you have to prove yourself? a. Romans 12:3 b. Philippians 2:3-11 c. James 4:10 GOD S ANTIDOTE: HUMILITY AGREE WITH GOD ABOUT YOURSELF! B. THE ARROW OF SHAME AN ISSUE OF IDENTITY 1. Is there anything in your life that you are hiding or covering up? 2. Is there anything in your life, past or present, that you would be afraid of certain people finding out? 3. Do you feel a greater sense of shame over your own sins and shortcomings, or for those acts of omission committed against you? 4. Do you struggle with feelings of unworthiness of God s love and favor? a. Proverbs 18:3b b. Luke 15:18-31 c. Galatians 4:4-7 d. Zephaniah 3:17 GOD S ANTIDOTE: SONSHIP YOU ARE A FAVORED SON/DAUGHTER!

C. THE ARROW OF FEAR AN ISSUE OF SECURITY 1. What is your greatest fear? 2. Are you afraid to be known by others? 3. How real to you is God s love for you? 4. Do you really believe that God wants to take care of you? a. I John 4:18 b. I Peter 5:7 GOD S ANTIDOTE: RECEIVE GOD S PERFECT LOVE! D. THE ARROW OF REJECTION AN ISSUE OF ACCEPTANCE Has your life s experience predominantly been one of feeling accepted and valued by significant others? 1. Do you ever feel accused or condemned? 2. Who in your life has rejected or hurt you the most? 3. How has the rejection of others affected your opinion of yourself? 4. Today, if someone would say to you, You re wonderful!, what feelings or thoughts would this bring to the surface? a. I Peter 2:21-23 b. Romans 8:31-39 c. Colossians 1:19-22 d. Ephesians 1:6 (KJV) GOD S ANTIDOTE: BELIEVE YOU ARE ACCEPTED IN JESUS!

E. THE ARROW OF ANGER AN ISSUE OF SUBMISSION 1. Presently, what angers you the most in your life? 2. Is there anything bothering you, even in the least? 3. Are there any circumstances that you are fighting? 4. How important are these things or issues to you? 5. How does the importance of these things or issues compare to the importance you place on your relationship with Jesus Christ? a. Ephesians 4:26-27 b. Romans 8:28-29 c. Philippians 3:7-11 d. James 4:1-7 GOD S ANTIDOTE: SUBMIT TO THE SOVEREIGN WILL OF GOD! F. THE ARROW OF DEPRESSION AN ISSUE OF HOPE 1. Do you feel down or discouraged? 2. Are you experiencing a sense of dread in your life? 3. Is your heart despairing? 4. Are you feeling a sense of hopelessness? 5. Psalm 42:5 GOD S ANTIDOTE: PUT YOUR HOPE IN GOD!

II. APPLICATION A. Which of the following ARROWS can you identify with? (Please circle) 1. Pride 2. Shame 3. Fear 4. Rejection 5. Anger 6. Depression Under the ARROW(S) you have circled, please describe briefly how you have been hindered and/or affected.

Becoming Fully Alive! PART 2 - SESSION 2 FREE FROM THE ARROW OF PRIDE The reward of humility and the fear of the Lord are riches, honor and life. Proverbs 22:4 (NASB)

I. FREE FROM THE ARROW OF PRIDE A. PRIDE - AN ISSUE OF SIGNIFICANCE 1. Romans 12:3 2. Philippians 2:3-11 3. James 4:10 B. PRIDE PERSONIFIED 1. Isaiah 14:12-14 (Satan) 2. Genesis 3:4-5 (Satan tempting Eve) 3. Daniel 4:28-37 (King Nebuchadnezzar) 4. I Samuel 18:6 I Samuel 19:1 (King Saul) C. EVERY ARROW IS DIPPED IN THE POISON OF PRIDE 1. Pride 2. Shame 3. Fear 4. Rejection 5. Anger 6. Depression D. THE MANY FACES OF PRIDE 1. Trusting in yourself vs. trusting in God. 2. Believing in yourself vs. believing in God. 3. Angry with yourself or hating yourself vs. submitting to God s sovereign will and letting Him define you. 4. Comparing yourself with others vs. being content with who you are. 5. Elevating yourself or putting others down. (CONTINUED ON NEXT PAGE)

6. Being judgmental or critical of others. 7. Being unforgiving of others. 8. Being jealous of others. 9. Trying to impress others. 10. Seeking to be served rather than serving others. 11. Being self-conscious. 12. Being shy vs. getting out of yourself. 13. Being arrogant. 14. Being vain. 15. Valuing being right more than being in right relationship. 16. Having an entitlement mentality. 17. Thinking you deserve better than this. 18. Having a demanding attitude. 19. Having a condescending attitude toward others. 20. Having a know it all attitude. 21. Being insecure - security in I. 22. Never willing to admit wrong. 23. Blaming others vs. taking responsibility. 24. Unwillingness to let yourself really be known. 25. Promoting yourself rather than giving God the glory and/or giving others credit for their part. 26. Putting yourself first ( Me First ) rather than putting God first and preferring others ahead of you. 27. Having a poor me attitude (self-pity) 28. Being performance based in living. 29. Being perfectionistic. 30. Needing to be the center of attention. 31. Being un-teachable, defensive, and argumentative.

E. MY NAME IS PRIDE A story from Praying God s Word by Beth Moore My name is Pride. I am a cheater. I cheat you of your God-given destiny... because you demand your own way. I cheat you of contentment... because you deserve better than this. I cheat you of knowledge... Because you already know it all. I cheat you of healing... because you re too full of me to forgive. I cheat you of holiness... because you refuse to admit when you re wrong. I cheat you of vision... because you d rather look in the mirror than out a window. I cheat you of genuine friendship... because nobody s going to know the real you. I cheat you of love... because real romance demands sacrifice. I cheat you of greatness in heaven... because you refuse to wash another s feet on earth. I cheat you of God s glory... because I convince you to seek your own. My name is Pride. I am a cheater. You like me because you think I m always looking out for you. Untrue. I m looking to make a fool of you. God has so much more for you, I admit, but don t worry... If you stick with me You ll never know. Used with permission by Beth Moore, 2000, Published by Broadman & Holman Publishers, Nashville, Tennessee

II. APPLICATION A. Referring to Part D of this session, (The Many Faces Of Pride), which ones can you identify with? (Please circle) B. For each face of pride you have circled, please answer the following: 1. How have you been affected? 2. How has your relationship with others been affected? 3. How has your relationship with the Lord been affected? Please be thorough in answering these questions and use additional paper if necessary. GOD S ANTIDOTE FOR THE ARROW OF PRIDE: HUMILITY AND THE FEAR OF THE LORD - AGREE WITH GOD AND MAKE JESUS THE REASON!!!

Becoming Fully Alive! PART 2 - SESSION 3 FREE FROM THE ARROW OF SHAME If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. I John 1:9 (KJV)

I. FREE FROM THE ARROW OF SHAME A. SHAME - AN ISSUE OF IDENTITY 1. Proverbs 18:3b 2. Luke 15:18-31 3. Galatians 4:4-7 4. Zephaniah 3:17 B. SHAME BECAUSE OF REAL GUILT 1. Real Guilt because of real sin a. Genesis 3:6-13 (contrast with Genesis 2:25) b. Psalm 32:1-5 c. II Samuel 12:13 d. Psalm 51:1-4 e. Luke 22:31-34; 54-62 f. Acts 9:1-6; 26:9-18 2. Real Forgiveness through Jesus Christ (repent, believe, receive) a. Luke 13:3 b. Acts 16:31 c. Colossians 1:19-22 d. I John 1:7-9 e. James 5:16 f. Revelation 3:19-20 g. John 21:15-19 h. Acts 9:5-20

C. SHAME BECAUSE OF FALSE GUILT 1. Feeling guilty, though where sin was involved, you are in fact forgiven. 2. Feeling guilty due to experiencing rejection from significant others. 3. Feeling a heaviness of soul and a generalized guilt for something you have done wrong (you don t know what you have done wrong, however). 4. Experiencing thoughts and feelings that, There is something wrong with me. 5. Feeling stained by the overt sins of others committed against you. II Samuel 13:10-19 D. ISSUES WITH WHICH PEOPLE TEND TO HAVE THE GREATEST DIFFICULTY IN RESOLVING SHAME 1. Being a victim of sexual abuse. 2. Being a victim of satanic ritualistic abuse. 3. Being born out of wedlock. 4. Getting pregnant out of wedlock. 5. Having an abortion. 6. Having pre-marital sex, even without resulting in pregnancy (especially a factor if you eventually marry that person). 7. Committing adultery. 8. Getting a divorce. 9. Struggling with how God made you some unacceptable physical feature (especially a factor when others have ridiculed you). 10. Failing to meet the standards of your parents, or feeling that you have failed as a parent. 11. Other (i.e., drug or alcohol abuse, financial loss, lust, pornography, homosexuality, abusing someone else, etc.).

E. HOW TO RESOLVE SHAME 1. Seek out a safe and accepting person and environment where you feel you can be honest with yourself and with God. a. If you are experiencing shame due to something that has been done to you (i.e., abuse), express your heart (audibly) to Jesus (i.e., tell Jesus all about it ). b. This could involve telling Jesus what happened to you and expressing your feelings, thoughts, and unmet desires to Him. 1) Psalm 142:1-2 2) Psalm 62:5-8 3) Psalm 55:22 4) I Peter 5:7 c. Journaling (writing down your thoughts, feelings, and unmet desires) can be very helpful and may be necessary if you have repressed your feelings over a long period of time. 2. Give the guilt or shame to the offender (when someone else is the offender or guilty one). 3. Agree with God as to who the guilty one really is. 4. Take responsibility for your response(s). Psalm 139:23-24 a. Confess and repent of sin. 1) I John 1:9 2) James 5:16 b. Forgive others. 1) Ephesians 4:32 2) Colossians 3:13

c. Resist the Devil. James 4:7 d. Affirm your New Identity In Christ. See: What Is Your New Identity? 5. Agree with God about what is True about you!

II. APPLICATION A. Referring to Part C of this session (Shame Because Of False Guilt) and Part D (Issues With Which People Tend To Have The Greatest Difficulty In Resolving Shame), which ones can you identify with? (Please circle) B. For each example or issue of shame you have circled, please answer the following: 1. How have you been affected? 2. How has your relationship with others been affected? 3. How has your relationship with the Lord been affected? Please be thorough in answering these questions and use additional paper if necessary. GOD S ANTIDOTE FOR THE ARROW OF SHAME: RECEIVE YOUR SONSHIP YOU ARE A FAVORED SON/DAUGHTER! REMEMBER: YOU ARE NOT THE SUM TOTAL OF YOUR LIFE S EXPERIENCES OR SOME DEFINING PART THEREOF; YOU ARE WHO GOD SAYS YOU ARE!

Becoming Fully Alive! PART 2 - SESSION 4 FREE FROM THE ARROW OF FEAR There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear... I John 4:18 (NIV)

I. FREE FROM THE ARROW OF FEAR A. FEAR - AN ISSUE OF SECURITY 1. II Timothy 1:7 2. Philippians 4:6-7 3. Isaiah 41:10 4. Isaiah 43:2, 5a 5. Proverbs 3:24-26 6. Psalm 27:1 7. Joshua 1:9 8. Proverbs 29:25 9. Psalm 91:1-5 B. LEVELS OF FEAR 1. Timidity 2. Uneasiness, disquiet, or apprehension 3. Agitation or anxiety 4. Fear 5. Fright 6. Dread 7. Terror 8. Horror 9. Alarm 10. Dismay 11. Consternation 12. Trepidation

C. EXAMPLES OF FEAR 1. Fear of failure 2. Fear of success 3. Fear of rejection 4. Fear of death 5. Fear of heights 6. Fear of the dark 7. Fear of crowds 8. Fear of a small, confined space 9. Fear of going outdoors 10. Fear of abandonment 11. Fear of betrayal 12. Fear of an illness or disease (especially terminal illness) 13. Fear of injury (especially debilitating injury) 14. Fear of negative or painful consequences 15. Fear of being judged 16. Fear of change 17. Fear of flying 18. Fear of danger 19. Fear of being raped 20. Fear of fire 21. Fear of someone breaking into your home 22. Fear of tests (exams) 23. Fear of war 24. Fear of acts of terrorism 25. Fear of harm or cruelty 26. Fear of doctors or dentists (and their procedures ) 27. Fear of not fitting in 28. Fear of being kidnapped 29. Fear of poverty 30. Fear of intimacy 31. Fear of man

D. HOW TO BE FREE FROM YOUR FEARS Psalm 34:4 1. Face your fear. a. Who do you fear? b. What do you fear? 2. How has this fear affected you? a. What have your thoughts been? b. What have your feelings been? 3. How have you responded to this fear? a. What have you said? b. What have you done? c. What have you decided? 4. Pour out your heart to the Lord. a. Psalm 62:8 b. Tell Jesus all about your fear. c. Express thanks to the Lord. 1) I Thessalonians 5:18 2) Ephesians 5:20 3) Romans 8:28-29 4) Psalm 50:14-15; 23 5) Psalm 116:17 6) Philippians 4:6-7 d. Ask the Lord to deliver you from your fear(s). Psalm 34:4

5. Forgive anyone you still need to forgive. a. Cancel the Debt! b. Matthew 18:21-35 c. Ephesians 4:32 6. Submit to God and Resist the Devil. James 4:7 7. Cast all your cares upon the Lord. I Peter 5:7 8. Ask the Lord to give you a clear revelation of His perfect love and care for you. I John 4:18

II. APPLICATION A. Referring to Part B of this session, (Levels Of Fear) which ones can you identify with? (Please circle) B. Referring to Part C of this session, (Examples Of Fear) which ones can you identify with? (Please circle) C. For each example of fear you have circled, please answer the following: 1. How have you been affected? 2. How has your relationship with others been affected? 3. How has your relationship with the Lord been affected? Please be thorough in answering these questions and use additional paper if necessary. GOD S ANTIDOTE FOR THE ARROW OF FEAR: RECEIVE GOD S PERFECT LOVE AND ALLOW HIM TO TAKE CARE OF YOU!

Lord, Free Me From The Arrow Of Fear! 1. Fear of failure 2. Fear of success 3. Fear of rejection 4. Fear of death 5. Fear of heights 6. Fear of the dark 7. Fear of crowds 8. Fear of a small, confined space 9. Fear of going outdoors 10. Fear of abandonment 11. Fear of betrayal 12. Fear of an illness or disease (especially terminal illness) 13. Fear of injury (especially debilitating injury) 14. Fear of negative or painful consequences 15. Fear of being judged 16. Fear of change 17. Fear of flying 18. Fear of danger 19. Fear of being raped 20. Fear of fire 21. Fear of someone breaking into your home 22. Fear of tests (exams) 23. Fear of war 24. Fear of acts of terrorism 25. Fear of harm or cruelty 26. Fear of doctors or dentists (and their procedures ) 27. Fear of not fitting in 28. Fear of being kidnapped 29. Fear of poverty 30. Fear of intimacy 31. Fear of man

Becoming Fully Alive! PART 2 - SESSION 5 FREE FROM THE ARROW OF REJECTION To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved. Ephesians 1:6 (KJV)

I. FREE FROM THE ARROW OF REJECTION A. REJECTION - AN ISSUE OF ACCEPTANCE Ephesians 1:6 B. EXAMPLES IN THE BIBLE OF THOSE WHO EXPERIENCED REJECTION 1. Jesus a. Isaiah 53:3-6 b. I Peter 2:21-24 2. The Apostle Paul a. II Corinthians 6:3-13 b. II Corinthians 12:9-10 c. II Corinthians 4:7-12 C. HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED REJECTION IN YOUR LIFE? 1. Who in your life has rejected or hurt you the most? 2. How has the rejection of others affected your opinion of yourself? D. ACCEPTANCE IS AN ISSUE OF SIGNIFICANCE Significance - what is it? 1. Worth 2. Value 3. Purpose 4. Meaning 5. Belonging 6. Fitting In 7. Importance

8. Status 9. Validity 10. Acceptance Significance...an identity issue E. WHY ARE WE SO PRONE TO BELIEVE THAT WE ARE REJECTED AND UNLOVED? We tend to look to the wrong source for our personal significance (identity). 1. Others, especially significant others 2. Ourselves 3. What we think or feel 4. Circumstances F. HOW TO BE FREE FROM THE ARROW OF REJECTION 1. See: Processing The Issues Of The Heart a. Leading to forgiving others b. Experiencing a release from a false identity 2. Exchange the identity lie that you are rejected for the identity truth that you are accepted in the Beloved. Ephesians 1:6 See: What Is Your New Identity? 3. Break The Rejection Cycle! a. Reject Rejection! b. Receive the Truth Of Who You Are In Christ! 4. Renew Your Mind in your true identity in Christ. a. Romans 12:1-2 b. II Corinthians 10:3-5 c. See: The Christian s Identity In Christ

5. Give Thanks. a. I Thessalonians 5:18 b. Ephesians 5:20 c. Genesis 50:19-20 6. Submit to God and Resist the Devil. James 4:7 7. Put on the Armor of God daily. Ephesians 6:10-18

II. APPLICATION A. What has been your most painful experience of feeling insignificant OR rejected? B. Who was/were the person(s) involved? C. In light of your answers to the above, please answer the following: 1. How have you been affected? 2. How has your relationship with others been affected? 3. How has your relationship with the Lord been affected? Please be thorough in answering these questions and use additional paper if necessary. GOD S ANTIDOTE FOR THE ARROW OF REJECTION: REJECT REJECTION AND RECEIVE YOUR ACCEPTANCE IN JESUS CHRIST!

Becoming Fully Alive! PART 2 - SESSION 6 FREE FROM THE ARROW OF ANGER Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity. Ephesians 4:26-27 (NASB)

I. FREE FROM THE ARROW OF ANGER A. ANGER AN ISSUE OF SUBMISSION 1. Genesis 4:3-8 2. James 4:1-10 3. Romans 8:28-29 4. James 1:19-20 B. AN EXAMPLE OF RIGHTEOUS ANGER 1. John 2:13-16 2. Mark 11:15-17 3. John 5:17-20, 30 4. John 14:31 C. AN EXAMPLE OF UNRIGHTEOUS ANGER I Samuel 18:6-11 D. HOW ANGER CAN GO BAD Ephesians 4:26-31 E. TAKING YOUR ANGER INVENTORY 1. When, in your life, have you been the most angry? What happened? 2. When was the last time you were angry? What happened?

3. Circle from the following what you have experienced in your heart during the last 30 days: a. Frustration b. Irritation c. Impatience d. Resentment e. Anger f. Bitterness g. Hatred h. Rage i. Malice j. Murder 4. Would you say you have a problem with anger? 5. Would those who know you best say you have a problem with anger? F. HOW TO BE FREE FROM THE ARROW OF ANGER 1. See: Processing The Issues Of The Heart Result: Ephesians 4:32 2. At this time please review your answers to the application questions in the previous sessions related to pride, shame, fear, and rejection. 3. Identify and Process the Arrows that are contributing to your anger. a. Pride b. Shame c. Fear d. Rejection

4. Submit to the Sovereign Will and Purposes of God. a. Daniel 4:34-37 b. Romans 8:28-29 c. James 1:2-4 G. ANGER ADMONITIONS 1. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry... Ephesians 4:26 2. Do not give the Devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:27 3. See...that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. Hebrews 12:15 4. Forgive...in order that Satan might not outwit us. II Corinthians 2:10-11 5. Above all else, guard your heart... Proverbs 4:23

II. APPLICATION A. Referring to Part E, #3 of this session, (Taking Your Anger Inventory), which level of anger can you identify with? (Please circle) B. Think of an issue that you have been angry about C. In light of your answers in Part E of this session (Taking Your Anger Inventory), please answer the following: 1. How have you been affected? 2. How has your relationship with others been affected? 3. How has your relationship with the Lord been affected? Please be thorough in answering these questions and use additional paper if necessary. GOD S ANTIDOTE FOR THE ARROW OF ANGER: SUBMIT TO THE SOVEREIGN WILL AND PURPOSES OF GOD!

Becoming Fully Alive! PART 2 - SESSION 7 FREE FROM THE ARROW OF DEPRESSION Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God... Psalm 42:5 (NIV)

I. FREE FROM THE ARROW OF DEPRESSION A. DEPRESSION AN ISSUE OF HOPE Psalm 42:5 B. DESCRIPTIVE WORDS WHICH CHARACTERIZE DEPRESSION 1. Feeling Blue 2. Heavy-hearted 3. Downcast 4. Despondent 5. Dread 6. Despair 7. Hopelessness C. WHAT ARE SOME CAUSES OR CONTRIBUTORS TO DEPRESSION? 1. The Physical Factor a. Insufficient sleep/rest b. Sickness/disease c. Hormonal or chemical deficiency or imbalance d. The ingestion (especially in excess) of certain food/drink products e. Side effects of certain medications 2. The Soul Factor a. What you think about or focus upon b. What you believe c. Significant events, losses, high stress issues, prolonged conflict, prolonged sickness (self or significant other ) d. The attack of our Adversary

D. DEPRESSION CAN RESULT WHEN: 1. You Have Not Resolved Your Past a. Offenses and unforgiveness b. Grief over losses c. The Message Of The Arrows 1) Pride 2) Shame 3) Fear 4) Rejection 5) Anger 2. You Are Not Allowing Jesus Christ To Be Your Sufficiency a. Pursuit of happiness rather than the pursuit of relational wholeness b. Focus on people and/or circumstances c. Trying to control life 3. You Are Not Putting Your Hope In God For Your Future a. Believing in yourself instead of believing in Him b. Basing your identity on your life s experiences instead of allowing Him to define you E. HOW TO BE FREE FROM THE ARROW OF DEPRESSION 1. Resolve Your Past. a. Repent, believe, receive. 1) Luke 13:3 2) Acts 16:31 3) John 1:12 b. Forgive others. See: Processing The Issues Of The Heart

c. Resolve the grief of losses. See: Processing The Issues Of The Heart d. Free yourself from The Message Of The Arrows. 1) Pride - Agree with God about yourself and make Jesus the reason. 2) Shame - You are not the sum total of your life s experiences or some defining part thereof; you are who God says you are! 3) Fear - Receive God s perfect love and allow Him to take care of you! 4) Rejection - Reject rejection and receive your acceptance in Jesus Christ! 5) Anger - Fully submit to the Sovereign Will and Purposes of God. 2. Allow Christ To Be Sufficient In The Present. a. Make Jesus Your Goal. Philippians 3:7-14 b. Give thanks in and for all things. 1) I Thessalonians 5:18 2) Ephesians 5:20 3) Romans 8:28-29 4) Psalm 50:14-15, 23 3. Put Your Hope In God For The Future. a. Believe and obey His word. 1) John 8:31-32 2) John 14:21 3) Jeremiah 29:11-13

b. Identify with His LIFE. Galatians 2:20 c. Practice His Presence. 1) Isaiah 26:3 2) I Thessalonians 5:17 3) Philippians 4:4-7

II. APPLICATION A. Referring to Part B of this session, (Descriptive Words Which Characterize Depression), which word(s) best describe the level of depression that you are feeling now? (Please circle) B. In light of your answer to the above, please answer the following: 1. How have you been affected? 2. How has your relationship with others been affected? 3. How has your relationship with the Lord been affected? Please be thorough in answering these questions and use additional paper if necessary. GOD S ANTIDOTE FOR THE ARROW OF DEPRESSION: PUT YOUR HOPE IN GOD!