Family Life Ahadith of Masomeen asws Page 1 of 90
Table of Contents FAMILY LIFE AHADITH OF MASOMEEN ASWS... 1 Introduction:... 5 Adoring Women:... 5 Types of Nikah:... 6 Incentives of Nikah:... 6 Disadvantages of remaining un-married:... 8 For Men:... 8 For Women:... 9 Searching for a Wife to Be:... 10 Marry for Religion and not for wealth and beauty:... 11 Marry for Seeking Children:... 12 The Best Qualities of Women:... 13... 16 : ش ر ار الن س اء women The most evil of the Falling in Love is a Wrath of Allah azwj :... 17 Arranged/Love Marriages?... 18 Men:... 18 Women:... 18 Same Gender Marriages are Forbidden... 19 Responsibilities of a Wife:... 20 Children suffer from the mistakes of their parents:... 21 Never marry daughter to a wine Drinker... 21 Never Marry daughter to a Nasibi & a doubtful (in religion)... 22 Unfortunate Qualities of Ladies:... 27 Salat and Prayers Prior to Marriage:... 28 Page 2 of 90
Prayers for Marriage:... 29 Hadith For Getting Daughters and Sisters Married:... 31 Forbidden and Punishable Conditions for Nikah:... 32 The one who strives regarding the marriage... 33 Permission of Guardians is required for Girls:... 33 Unsuitable Time for Wedding:... 37 What is recommended from the marriage at night... 37 The dower today is whatever the people agree upon, be it little or more... 38 For Wining the Hearts and Getting Married:... 39 An Ideal Wife:... 40 Advice on Relationship:... 40 Be Tolerant with Ladies:... 44 Never Marry for Wealth or Beauty:... 44 Kuf and Compatibility:... 45 Marrying a Non-Muslim Lady:... 45 Marrying to a Nasabi or Shaqaq (Sunnis):... 46 Temporary Marriage (Mutah)... 47 Traditions of Masomeen asws on Mutah... 48 Who cannot perform Mutah:... 49 Miscellaneous Rules regarding Mutah:... 50 Upbringing Children:... 54 Ghayrat (Self Esteem)... 54 Walimah (Wedding Dinner by Groom)... 55 Husband-Wife Relationship:... 56 Page 3 of 90
Rights of a Wife upon her Husband:... 57 The young ones, when they are married off, would not be harmonising... 59 Divorce:... 60 A Syed Lady cannot Marry to a Non-Syed:... 61 Who are Syeds?... 61 The Kuff (Match) for the marriage:... 63 Reward and Punishment for Sadat s Deeds is Double:... 67 APPENDIX I:... 69 APPENDIX II:... 75 The Famous Debate of 8 th Imam-asws on the Merits of Sadat:... 75 Page 4 of 90
بسم اهلل الرحمن الرحيم الحمد هلل رب العالمين وصلى اهلل على سيدنا محمد وآله الطاهرين وسلم تسليما. In the Name of Allah azwj the Beneficent, the Merciful. The Praise is for Allah azwj Lord azwj of the Worlds, and Blessing be upon our Chief Muhammad saww and his saww Purified Progeny asws, and greetings with abundant greetings. ا لل ه م ص ل ع لى م م د و آل م م د و ع ج ل ف ر ج ه م و ال ع ن أ ع د ائ ه م ا ج ع ي Introduction: An earlier article Family Life [Nikah, Mutah, Relationship and Upbringing Children] which was compiled and uploaded in 2007, has been updated by adding more Ahadith with Arabic text. Adoring Women: ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن اب ن أ ب ع م ي ع ن ح ف ص ب ن ال ب خ ت ي ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ق ال ر س و ل الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) م ا أ ح ب م ن د ن ي اك م إ ل الن س اء و الط يب. Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Ibn Abu Umeyr, from Hafs Bin Al-Bakhtary, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: Rasool-Allah saww said: I asws don t love anything from your world except for the women and the perfume. 1 ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن ص ال ح ب ن الس ن د ي ع ن ج ع ف ر ب ن ب ش ي ع ن أ ب ان ع ن ع م ر ب ن ي ز يد ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال م ا أ ظ ن ر ج اال ي ز د اد ف ه ذ ا ا ل م ر خ ي ا إ ل از د اد ح ب اا ل لن س اء. Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Salih Bin Al Sandy, from Ja far Bin basher, from Aban, from Umar Bin Yazeed, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: I asws don t think a man can increase goodness in this matter (Wilayah) except if he increases (his) love for the women. 2 ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن أ ح د ب ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ال ب ر ق ي ع ن ا ل س ن ب ن أ ب ق ت اد ة ع ن ر ج ل ع ن ج يل ب ن د ر ا ق ال ق ال أ ب و ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) م ا ت ل ذ ذ الن اس ف الد ن ي ا و ا ل خ ر ة ب ل ذ ة أ ك ث ر ل م م ن ل ذ ة الن س اء و ه و ق و ل الل ه ع ز و ج ل ز ي ن ل لن اس ح ب الش ه وات م ن الن ساء و ال ب ن ي إ ل آخ ر ا ل ي ة 1 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 1 H 6 2 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 1 H 5 Page 5 of 90
A number of our companions, from Ahmad Bin Abu Abdullah Al Barqy, from Al Hassan Bin Abu Qatada, from a man, from Jameel Bin Darraj who said, Abu Abdullah asws said: The people cannot enjoy pleasure in the world and the Hereafter with anything more pleasurable for them than the pleasure of the women, and these are the Words of Allah azwj Mighty and Majestic: It has been adorned for the people, the love of desires, from the women and the sons [3:14] up to the end of the Verse. ث ق ال و إ ن أ ه ل ا ل ن ة م ا ي ت ل ذ ذ ون ب ش يء م ن ا ل ن ة أ ش ه ى ع ن د ه م م ن الن ك اح ل ط ع ام و ل ش ر اب. Then he asws said: And the people of the Paradise would not be enjoying with anything more desirous with them than the الن ك اح (marriage), neither the food nor the drink. 3 Types of Nikah: ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن الن و ف ل ي ع ن الس ك و ن ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ب ي اث و ن ك اح ب ال م ي اث و ن ك اح م ل ك ال ي م ي. ي ل ال ف ر ب ث ال ث ن ك ا ح Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Al Nowfaly, from Al Sakuny, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: The private parts (relationship with woman) are Made to be Permissible by three conditions a marriage by Nikah (inheritance), and a (temporary) marriage without inheritance (Mutah where inherence is not transferred), and a marriage by the possession of the right hand (slave girl). 4 We will cover the first two types, as the third one is not in practice in our time. Incentives of Nikah: وقد روى ا لسن بن علي بن أ ب حزة عن أ ب عبد اهلل عليه السالم قال: " قال رسول اهلل صلى اهلل عليه وآله: من تزو أحرز نصف دينه - و ف حديث آخر - فليتق اهلل ف النصف الباقي Hassan bin Ali bin Abi Hamzah narrates from Imam Jafar-e-Sadiq asws that Imam asws quoted from Rasool Allah saww He who got married has secured half of his Eman (belief), in another traditions it is recommended that a married person should fear Allah azwj for the protection of Deen s other half (religion). 5 3 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 1 H 10 4 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 37 H 1 5 Manlah Yahzar-ul-Faqih, Kitab-ul-Nikah, tradition no.4342 Page 6 of 90
م م د ب ن إ س اع يل ع ن ال ف ض ل ب ن ش اذ ان ع ن ص ف و ان ب ن ي ي ع ن أ ب ا ل س ن ع ل ي ب ن م وس ى الر ض ا ( عليه السالم ) ق ا ل م ا أ ف اد ع ب د ف ائ د ةا خ ي ا م ن ز و ج ة ص ا ل ة إ ذ ا ر آه ا س ر ت ه و إ ذ ا غ اب ع ن ه ا ح ف ظ ت ه ف ن ف س ه ا و مال ه. Muhammad Bin Ismail, from Al Fazl Bin ShAzaan, from Safwan Bin Yahya, (It has been narrated) from Abu Al-Hassan Ali asws Bin Musa Al-Reza asws having said: A slave will not benefit with a benefit better than a righteous wife. Whenever he looks at her she delights him, and whenever he is absent from her, she preserves him (his interests) with regards to herself and his wealth. 6 ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ]ع ن أ ب يه [ ع ن ص ال ح ب ن الس ن د ي ع ن ج ع ف ر ب ن ب ش ي ع ن ع ل ي ب ن أ ب ح ز ة ع ن أ ب ب ص ي ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال أ ت ى ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ش اب م ن ا ل ن ص ار ف ش ك ا إ ل ي ه ا ل اج ة ف ق ال ل ه ت ز و Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Salih Bin Al Sandy, from Ja far Bin Basheer, from Ali Bin Abu Hamza, from Abu Baseer, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: A youth from the Helpers came over to Rasool-Allah saww, so he complained to him of the destitution. So he saww said to him: Get married. ف ق ال الش اب إ ن ل س ت ح ي ي أ ن أ ع ود إ ل ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ف ل ح ق ه ر ج ل م ن ا ل ن ص ار ف ق ال إ ن ل ب ن تاا و س يم ةا ف ز و ج ه ا إ ي اه ق ال ف و س ع الل ه ع ل ي ه ]ق ال ] ف أ ت ى الش اب الن ب ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ف أ خ ب ر ه ف ق ال ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ي ا م ع ش ر الش ب اب ع ل ي ك م ب ال ب اه. So the youth said, I am too embarrassed that I should repeat to Rasool- Allah saww. So a man from the Helpers met him and said, I have a beautiful daughter. So he married her to him. So Allah azwj Expanded (sustenance) upon him. So the youth came over to the Prophet saww and informed him saww. So Rasool-Allah saww said: O group of youths! You must get married. 7 ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن اب ن أ ب ع م ي ع ن أ ب ان ب ن ع ث م ان ع ن ح ر يز ع ن و ل يد ب ن ص ب يح ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال م ن ت ر ك الت ز و يج م اف ة ال ع ي ل ة ف ق د أ س اء ب الل ه الظ ن. Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Ibn Abu Umeyr, from Aban Bin usman, from Hareyz, from Waleed Bin Sabeeh, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: The one who neglects the marriage fearing poverty so he has distrusted Allah azwj with the conjecture. 8 6 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 7 H 3 7 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 10 H 3 8 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 10 H 1 Page 7 of 90
ا ل س ي ب ن م م د ع ن م ع ل ى ب ن م م د ع ن م ن ص ور ب ن ال ع ب اس ع ن ش ع ي ب ب ن ج ن اح ع ن م ط ر م و ل م ع ن ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ث ال ث ة ل ل م ؤ م ن ف يه ا ر اح ة د ار و اس ع ة ت و ار ي ع و ر ت ه و س وء ح ال ه م ن الن اس و ام ر أ ة ص ا ل ة ت ع ين ه ع ل ى أ م ر الد ن ي ا و ا ل خ ر ة و اب ن ة ي ر ج ه ا إ م ا ب و ت أ و ب ت ز و يج. Al Husayn Bin Muhammad, from Moalla Bin Muhammad, from Mansour Bin Al Abbas, from Shuayb Bin Janah, from Matar, a slave of Ma an, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: There are three wherein is rest for the Believer a spacious house veiling his privacy and the evilness of his state from the people, and a righteous woman who supports him upon the affairs of the world and the Hereafter, and a daughter whom he brings out either due to death or her marriage. 9 Disadvantages of remaining un-married: For Men: ع ل ي ب ن م م د ب ن ب ن د ار و غ ي ر ه ع ن أ ح د ب ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ال ب ر ق ي ع ن اب ن ف ض ال و ج ع ف ر ب ن م م د ع ن اب ن ال ق د اح ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ج اء ر ج ل إ ل أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ف ق ال ل ه ه ل ل ك م ن ز و ج ة ف ق ال ل ف ق ا ل أ ب و م ا أ ح ب أ ن ل الد ن ي ا و م ا ف يه ا و أ ن ب ت ل ي ل ةا و ل ي س ت ل ز و ج ة Ali Bin Muhammad Bin Bundar and someone else, from Ahmad Bin Abu Abdullah Al Barqy, from Ibn Fazzal and Ja far Bin Muhammad, from Ibn Al Qaddah, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws, said, A man came over to Abu Abdullah asws so he asws said to him: Is there a wife for you? So he said, No. So he asws said: My asws father asws said: And I asws would not like it if the world and whatever is in it was to be for me asws, and I asws spend one night and there is no wife for me asws. ث ق ال الر ك ع ت ان ي ص ل يه م ا ر ج ل م ت ز و أ ف ض ل م ن ر ج ل أ ع ز ب ي ق وم ل ي ل ه و ي ص وم ن ه ار ه ث أ ع ط اه أ ب س ب ع ة د ن ان ي ث ق ا ل ل ه ت ز و ب ذ ه ث ق ال أ ب ق ال ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ا ت ذ وا ا ل ه ل ف إ ن ه أ ر ز ق ل ك م. Then he asws said: The two Cycles Prayed by a married man is superior than a celibate man (unmarried) who stands during the night (for Prayer) and Fasts during his day. Then he asws gave him seven Dinars, then said to him: Get married with these. Then he asws said: Rasool-Allah saww said: Take the wife, for there would be more sustenance for you. 10 وروي أن رسول اهلل صلى اهلل عليه وآله قال: " أكثر أهل النار العزاب" 9 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 7 H 6 10 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 9 H 6 Page 8 of 90
In another tradition, Rasool Allah saww, said, The unmarried would make a large proportion of the inhabitants of hell. 11 For Women: م م د ب ن ي ي ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ع ن اب ن م ب وب ع ن ع ل ي ب ن ر ئ اب ع ن اب ن أ ب ي ع ف ور ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ن ه ى ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) الن س اء أ ن ي ت ب ت ل ن و ي ع ط ل ن أ ن ف س ه ن م ن ا ل ز و ا. Muhammad Bin Yahya, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad, from Ibn Mahboub, from Ali Bin Raib, from Ibn Abu Yafour, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: Rasool-Allah saww forbade the women that they be celibates and delay themselves from the marriage. 12 ي ن ب ي ل ل م ر أ ة أ ن ت ع ط ل ء ع ن م م د ب ن م س ل م ع ن أ ب ج ع ف ر ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ل ن ف س ه ا و ل و اب ن م ب وب ع ن ال ع ال ت ع ل ق ف ع ن ق ه ا ق ال د ةا و ل ي ن ب ي أ ن ت د ع ي د ه ا م ن ا ل ض اب و ل و ت س ح ه ا م س حاا ب ا ل ن اء و إ ن ك ان ت م س ن ةا. Ibn Mahboub, from Al A ala, from Muhammad Bin Muslim, (It has been narrated) from Abu Ja far asws having said: It is not befitting for the woman that she neglects herself, even if she attaches a necklace in her neck, nor is it befitting that she leaves her hand from the dyeing even if she wipes it with a touch with henna, even if she was old. 13 ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن أ ح د ب ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ع ن ع ب د الص م د ب ن ب ش ي ق ال د خ ل ت ام ر أ ة ع ل ى أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه ع ن د ك ق ال ت ل أ ت ز و ق ال و ل ق ال ت أ ل ت م س ب ذ ل ك السالم ) ف ق ال ت أ ص ل ح ك الل ه إ ن ام ر أ ة م ت ب ت ل ة ف ق ال و م ا الت ب ت ل ال ف ض ل ف ق ال ان ص ر ف ف ل و ك ان ذ ل ك ف ض اال ل ك ان ت ف اط م ة ( عليه السالم ) أ ح ق ب ه م ن ك إ ن ه ل ي س أ ح د ي س ب ق ه ا إ ل ال ف ض ل. A number of our companions, from Ahmad Bin Abu Abdullah,from Abdul Samad Bin Basheer who said, A woman came over to Abu Abdullah asws, so she said, May Allah azwj Keep you asws well! I am a celibate woman. So he asws said: And what is the celibacy with you? She said, I do not get married. He asws said: And why (not)? She said, I seek the merit by that. He asws said: Leave! If that was meritorious, Fatima asws would have been more rightful with it than you, for there is no one who precedes her asws to the merit. 14 11 Manlah Yahzar-ul-Faqih, Kitab-ul-Nikah, tradition no.4349 12 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 146 H 1 13 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 146 H 2 14 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 146 H 3 Page 9 of 90
Searching for a Wife to Be: م م د ب ن ي ي ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ب ن ع يس ى ع ن م ال ك ب ن أ ش ي م ع ن ب ع ض ر ج ال ه ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ا ل ق ال أ م ي ال م ؤ م ن ي ( عليه السالم ) ت ز و ج وا س ر اء ع ي ن اء ع ج ز اء م ر ب وع ةا ف إ ن ك ر ه ت ه ا ف ع ل ي م ه ر ه ا. Muhammad Bin Yahya, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad Bin Isa, from Mallik Bin Asheym, from one of his men, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: Amir Al- Momineen asws said: Marry a brunette (nor very white nor too dark), of large eyes (and) buttocks, of a medium stature, so if you dislike her, then her dowry would be upon me asws. 15 م م د ب ن ي ي ع ن م م د ب ن أ ب ال ق اس م ع ن أ ب يه ر ف ع ه ع ن أ ب و ال م ر أ ة الس و ء اء ت ه ي ج ال م ر ة الس و د اء. ال ب ل م ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ال م ر أ ة ا ل م يل ة ت ق ط ع Muhammad Bin Yahya, from Muhammad Bin Abu Al Qasim, from his father, (It has been narrated) raising it from Abu Abdullah asws having said: The beautiful woman cuts the phlegm and the terrible woman stirs the black bile. 16 ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ع ن ع ث م ان ب ن ع يس ى ع ن ع ب د الل ه ب ن م س ك ان ع ن ب ع ض أ ص ح اب ه ق ال س ع ت أ ب ا ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ي ق ول إ ن ا ال م ر أ ة ق ال د ة ف ان ظ ر إ ل م ا ت ق ل د ه A number of our companions, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad, from Usman Bin Isa, from Abdullah Bin Muskan, from one of his companions who said, I heard Abu Abdullah asws saying: But rather, the woman is a necklace, therefore consider what you would be wearing. ه ي ي س خ ط ر ه ا الذ ه ب و ال ف ض ة ب ل ق ال و س ع ت ه ي ق ول ل ي س ل ل م ر أ ة خ ط ر ل ل ص ا ل ت ه ن و ل ل ط ا ل ت ه ن أ م ا ص ا ل ت ه ن ف ل خ ي ر م ن الذ ه ب و ال ف ض ة و أ م ا ط ا ل ت ه ن ف ل ي س الت ر اب خ ط ر ه ا ب ل الت ر اب خ ي ر م ن ه ا. He (the narrator) said, And I heard him asws saying: No value can be placed for the woman, neither a righteous one nor a wicked one. As for the righteous one, so her value is not the gold and the silver, but she is better than the gold and the silver; and as for the wicked one, so her value is not the dirt, but the dirt is better than her. 17 15 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 16 H 2 16 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 17 H 1 17 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 12 H 1 Page 10 of 90
ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن الن و ف ل ي ع ن الس ك و ن ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال وآله ) اخ ت ار وا ل ن ط ف ك م ف إ ن ا ل ال أ ح د الض ج يع ي. ق ال الن ب ( صلى اهلل عليه Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Al Nowfaly, from Al Sakuny, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: The Prophet saww said: Choose (a depository mother of your children) for your seed, for the maternal uncle is one of the two close associates. 18 و ب إ س ن اد ه ق ال ق ال ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) أ ن ك ح وا ا ل ك ف اء و ان ك ح وا ف يه م و اخ ت ار وا ل ن ط ف ك م. And by his chain, said: Rasool-Allah saww said: Marry the matches and marry among them, and choose for your seed (mother of your children). 19 He asws و ب إ س ن اد ه ق ال ق ام ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) خ ط يباا ف ق ال أ ي ه ا الن اس إ ي اك م و خ ض ر اء الد م ن ق يل ي ا ر س ول الل ه و م ا خ ض ر اء الد م ن ق ال ال م ر أ ة ا ل س ن اء ف م ن ب ت الس و ء. And by his chain, He asws said: Rasool-Allah saww stood up to address, so he saww said: O you people! Beware of the green (plant growing in) the dump (filth)! It was said, O Rasool-Allah saww! And what is the green (plant growing in) the dump (filth)? He saww said: The beautiful woman grown up in the evil (environment). 20 Marry for Religion and not for wealth and beauty: ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن س ه ل ب ن ز ي اد ع ن ع ل ي ب ن أ س ب اط ع ن ع م ه ي ع ق وب ب ن س ا ل ع ن م م د ب ن م س ل م ق ال ق ال أ ب و ج ع ف ر ( عليه السالم ) أ ت ى ر ج ل الن ب ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ي س ت أ م ر ه ف الن ك اح ف ق ال ل ه ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ان ك ح و ع ل ي ك ب ذ ات الد ين ت ر ب ت ي د اك. A number of our companions, from Sahl Bin Ziyad, form Ali Bin Asbaat, from his uncle Yaqoub Bin Salim, from Muhammad Bin Muslim who said, Abu Ja far asws said: A man came over to the Prophet saww for instructions regarding the marriage. So Rasool-Allah saww said: Marry, and upon you is to (marry the one with) the Religion, to be nourished by your hands. 21 18 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 12 H 2 19 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 12 H 3 20 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 12 H 4 21 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 13 H 1 Page 11 of 90
ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه و م م د ب ن إ س اع يل ع ن ال ف ض ل ب ن ش اذ ان ج يعاا ع ن اب ن أ ب ع م ي ع ن ه ش ا م ب ن ا ل ك م ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال إ ذ ا ت ز و الر ج ل ال م ر أ ة ل م ا ل ا أ و م ا ل ا و ك ل إ ل ذ ل ك و إ ذ ا ت ز و ج ه ا ل د ين ه ا ر ز ق ه الل ه ا ل م ال و ال م ال. Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father and Muhammad Bin Ismail, from AL Fazl Bin ShAzaan, altogether from Ibn Abu Umeyr, from Hisham Bin Al Hakam, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: When the man marries the woman due to her beauty, or her wealth, he would be left alone to those (without prosperity), and when he marries her for her Religion, Allah azwj will Grace to him the beauty (in his wife) as well as the wealth. 22 Marry for Seeking Children: ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د و س ه ل ب ن ز ي اد ج يعاا ع ن اب ن م ب وب ع ن ع ب د الل ه ب ن س ن ان ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ج اء ر ج ل إ ل ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ف ق ال ي ا ن ب الل ه إ ن ل اب ن ة ع م ق د ر ض يت ج ا ل ا و ح س ن ه ا و د ين ه ا و ل ك ن ه ا ع اق ر ف ق ال ل ت ز و ج ه ا إ ن ي وس ف ب ن ي ع ق وب ل ق ي أ خ اه ف ق ال ي ا أ خ ي ك ي ف اس ت ط ع ت أ ن ت ت ز و الن س اء ب ع د ي ف ق ال إ ن أ ب أ م ر ن و ق ال إ ن اس ت ط ع ت أ ن ت ك ون ل ك ذ ر ي ة ت ث ق ل ا ل ر ض ب الت س ب يح ف اف ع ل A number of our companions, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad and Sahl Bin Ziyad, altogether from Ibn Mahboub, from Abdullah Bin Sinan, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: A man came over to Rasool-Allah saww, so he said, O Prophet saww of Allah azwj! I have a daughter of an uncle whose beauty I am pleased with, and her gracefulness, and her Religion, but she is barren. So he saww said: Do not marry her. Yusuf as Bin Yaqoub as met his as brother, so he asws said, O my brother, how did you marry the women after me as? So he said, My father as instructed me and said: Try to the extent of your ability that there should be offspring for you who would make the earth heavy with the Glorification (of Allah azwj ) So I did. ق ال ف ج اء ر ج ل م ن ال د إ ل الن ب ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ف ق ال ل ه م ث ل ذ ل ك ف ق ال ل ه ت ز و س و ء اء و ل ودا ف إ ن م كاث ر ب ك م ا ل م م ي و م ال ق ي ام ة ق ال ف ق ل ت ل ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) م ا الس و ء اء ق ال ال ق ب يح ة. He asws said: A man came the next day to the Prophet saww, so he said similar to that. So he saww said to him: Marry the child-bearing unfamiliar one, for I saww would express pride with you all with the community on the Day of Judgement. So I said to Abu Abdullah asws, What is the terrible one? He asws said: The ugly one. 23 22 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 13 H 3 23 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 14 H 1 Page 12 of 90
ا ل س ن ب ن م ب وب ع ن ال ع ال ء ب ن ر ز ين ع ن م م د ب ن م س ل م ع ن أ ب ج ع ف ر ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ق ال ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ت ز و ج وا ب ك را و ل ودا و ل ت ز و ج وا ح س ن اء ج يل ةا ع اق را ف إ ن أ ب اه ي ب ك م ا ل م م ي و م ال ق ي ام ة. Al Hassan Bin Mahboub, from Al A ala Bin Razeyn, from Muhammad Bin Muslim, (It has been narrated) from Abu Ja far asws having said: Rasool-Allah saww said: Marry a virgin (or) a child-bearer, and do not marry for the looks, nor a barren, for I saww would be priding with you among the communities, on the Day of Judgement. 24 ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن س ه ل ب ن ز ي اد ع ن ع ل ي ب ن س ع يد الر ق ي ق ال ح د ث ن س ل ي م ان ب ن ج ع ف ر ا ل ع ف ر ي ع ن أ ب ا ل س ن الر ض ا ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ق ال ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ل ر ج ل ت ز و ج ه ا س و ء اء و ل ودا و ل ت ز و ج ه ا ح س ن اء ع اق را ف إ ن م ب اه ب ك م ا ل م م ي و م ال ق ي ام ة أ و م ا ع ل م ت أ ن ال و ل د ان ت ت ال ع ر ش ي س ت ف ر ون ل ب ائ ه م ي ض ن ه م إ ب ر اه يم و ت ر ب يه م س ار ة ف ج ب ل م ن م س ك و ع ن ب و ز ع ف ر ان. A number of our companions, from Sahl Bin Ziyad, from Ali Bin Saeed Al Raqqy, from Suleyman Bin Ja far Al Ja fary, (It has been narrated) from Abu Al-Hassan Al-Reza asws having said: Rasool- Allah saww said to a man: Marry ء اء س و the child-bearing one, but do not marry a good looking barren woman, for I saww would be priding with you all (among) the communities on the Day of Judgement; or do you not know that the children are seeking Forgiveness for their parents beneath the Throne. Ibrahim as is cuddling them and Sarah as is nourishing them in a mountain of Musk and Amber and Saffron. 25 The Best Qualities of Women: ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن س ه ل ب ن ز ي اد و أ ح د ب ن م م د ج يعاا ع ن اب ن م ب وب ع ن إ ب ر اه يم ال ك ر خ ي ق ال ق ل ت ل ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) إ ن ص اح ب ت ه ل ك ت و ك ان ت ل م و اف ق ةا و ق د ه م ت أ ن أ ت ز و ف ق ال ل ان ظ ر أ ي ن ت ض ع ن ف س ك و م ن ت ش ر ك ه ف م ال ك و ت ط ل ع ه ع ل ى د ين ك و س ر ك ف إ ن ك ن ت ل ب د ف اع اال ف ب ك را ت ن س ب إ ل ا ل ي و إ ل حس ن ا ل ل ق A number of our companions, from Sahl Bin Ziyad and Ahmad Bin Muhammad altogether, from Ibn Mahboub, from Ibrahim Al Karkhy who said, I said to Abu Abdullah asws, My female companion died and she was compatible for me and I have thought about getting married. So he asws said to me: Consider where you are placing yourself and the one you are associating in your wealth, and aspiring to be upon your Religion, and your secrets. So if it was inevitable to do, so (get married to) a virgin who has been linked to goodness, and to good mannerisms. 24 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 14 H 2 25 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 14 H 4 Page 13 of 90
و اع ل م أ ن ه ن ك م ا ق ال.أ ل إ ن الن س اء خ ل ق ن ش ت ف م ن ه ن ال ن يم ة و ال ر ام ف ل ي س ل ه ان ت ق ام و الظ ال م ف م ن ي ظ ف ر ب ص ا ل ه ن ي س ع د و م ن ي ب و م ن ه ن ا ل ال ل إ ذ ا ت ل ى ل ص اح ب ه و م ن ه ن And know that they (women) are as just as if has been said, Indeed! The women are of various etiquettes so from them is the beneficial, and the loss maker, and from them is the crescent shining for her companion, and from them is the darkness. So the one who succeeds with a righteous one would be fortunate, and the one who is cheated so it is not for him that he takes revenge. ه ن ث ال ث ف ام ر أ ة و ل ود و د ود ت ع ي ز و ج ه ا ع ل ى د ه ر ه ل د ن ي اه و آخ ر ت ه و ل ت ع ي الد ه ر ع ل ي ه و ام ر أ ة ع ق يم ة ل ذ ات ج ا ل و ل خ ل ق و ل ت ع ي ز و ج ه ا ع ل ى خ ي و ام ر أ ة ص خ اب ة و ل ج ة ه از ة ت س ت ق ل ال ك ث ي و ل ت ق ب ل ال ي س ي. They are three (types) A child bearing woman of cordiality and supportive of her husband all the time for his world and his Hereafter, and she does not spend time against him; and a sterile (barren) woman, not with any beauty nor manners, and she does not assist her husband upon goodness; and a vociferous (loud) woman, a fault-finder, belittling the lot, and not accepting the little. 26 ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن الن و ف ل ي ع ن الس ك و ن ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال عليه وآله ) أ ف ض ل ن س اء أ م ت أ ص ب ح ه ن و ج هاا و أ ق ل ه ن م ه را. ق ال ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Al Nowfaly, from Al Sakuny, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: Rasool-Allah saww said: The best woman of my saww community is the one who is with a beautiful face and of a small dowry. 27 ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ال ب ر ق ي ع ن إ س اع يل ب ن م ه ر ان ع ن س ل ي م ان ا ل ع ف ر ي ع ن أ ب ا ل س ن الر ض ا ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ق ال أ م ي ال م ؤ م ن ي ( عليه السالم ) خ ي ر ن س ائ ك م ا ل م س ق يل ي ا أ م ي ال م ؤ م ن ي و م ا ا ل م س ق ال ا ل ي ن ة الل ي ن ة ال م ؤ ات ي ة ال ت إ ذ ا غ ض ب ز و ج ه ا ل ت ك ت ح ل ب م ض ح ت ي ر ض ى و إ ذ ا غ اب ع ن ه ا ز و ج ه ا ح ف ظ ت ه ف غ ي ب ت ه ف ت ل ك ع ام ل م ن ع م ال الل ه و ع ام ل الل ه ل ي يب. A number of our companions, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad Al Barqy, from Ismail Bin Mihran, from Suleyman Al Ja fary, (It has been narrated) from Abu Al-Hassan Al-Reza asws having said: Amir Al- Momineen asws said: The best of your women have five (qualities). It was said, O Amir Al-Momineen asws! And what are the five? He asws said: The modest, the kind, the supportive, the one who when her husband is angered would not neglect him even for the blink of an eye until he is pleased, and when her husband is absent she would protect him (his interests) during his absence. 26 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 3 H 3 27 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 4 H 4 Page 14 of 90
Thus, that is a worker from the workers of Allah azwj, and a worker of Allah azwj will not fail. 28 ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن س ه ل ب ن ز ي اد ع ن ج ع ف ر ب ن م م د ا ل ش ع ر ي ع ن ع ب د الل ه ب ن م ي م ون ال ق د اح ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ع ن آب ائ ه ( عليهم السالم ) ق ال ق ال الن ب ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) م ا اس ت ف اد ام ر ؤ م س ل م ف ائ د ةا ب ع د ا ل س ال م أ ف ض ل م ن ز و ج ة م س ل م ة ت س ر ه إ ذ ا ن ظ ر إ ل ي ه ا و ت ط يع ه إ ذ ا أ م ر ه ا و ت ف ظ ه إ ذ ا غ اب ع ن ه ا ف ن ف س ه ا و م ال ه. A number of our companions, from Sahl Bin Ziyad, from Ja far Bin Muhammad Al Ashary, from Abdullah Bin Maymoun Al Qaddah, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws, from his forefathers asws having said: The Prophet saww said: A Muslim person did not benefit with a benefit after Al-Islam superior than a Muslim wife who delights him when he looks at her, and obeys him when he instructs her, and preserves him (his interests) when he is absent from her with regards to herself and his wealth. 29 ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن س ه ل ب ن ز ي اد و م م د ب ن ي ي ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ب ن ع يس ى و ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ج يعاا ع ن ا ل س ن ب ن م ب وب ع ن ع ل ي ب ن ر ئ اب ع ن أ ب ح ز ة ق ال س ع ت ج اب ر ب ن ع ب د الل ه ي ق ول ك ن ا ع ن د الن ب ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ف ق ال إ ن خ ي ر ن س ائ ك م ال و ل ود ال و د ود ال ع ف يف ة ال ع ز يز ة ف أ ه ل ه ا الذ ل يل ة م ع ب ع ل ه ا ال م ت ب ر ج ة م ع ز و ج ه ا ا ل ص ا ن ع ل ى غ ي ه ال ت ت س م ع ق و ل ه و ت ط يع أ م ر ه و إ ذ ا خ ال ب ا ب ذ ل ت ل ه م ا ي ر يد م ن ه ا و ل ت ب ذ ل ك ت ب ذ ل الر ج ل. A number of our companions, form Sahl Bin Ziyad and Muhammad Bin Yahya, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad Bin Isa, and Ali Bin Ibrahim, form his father, altogether from Al Hassan Bin Mahboub, form Ali Bin Raib, form Abu Hamza who said, I heard Jabir Bin Abdullah saying, We were in the presence of the Prophet saww, so he saww said: The best of your women are the child-bearing, the cordial, the chaste, the dear among her family, humble with her husband, the welcoming with her husband, the fortress upon others, one who listens to his words and obeys his instructions, and whenever he is alone with her she gives him whatever he wants from her, and she does not show vulgar manners as man does. 30 ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ب ن خ ال د ال ب ر ق ي ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ب ن أ ب ن ص ر ع ن ح اد ب ن ع ث م ان ع ن أ ب ب ص ي ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال خ ي ر ن س ائ ك م ال ت إ ذ ا خ ل ت م ع ز و ج ه ا خ ل ع ت ل ه د ر ع ا ل ي اء و إ ذ ا ل ب س ت ل ب س ت م ع ه د ر ع ا ل ي اء. A number of our companions, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad Bin Khalid Al barqy, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad Bin Abu Nasr, from Hammad Bin Usman, from Abu Baseer, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: The best of your women is the one who, when she is alone with her husband, puts off the 28 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 4 H 5 29 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 7 H 1 30 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 4 H 1 Page 15 of 90
shield of shyness, and when she dresses up, she dresses up for him a shield of shyness. 31 ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن الن و ف ل ي ع ن الس ك و ن ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال عليه وآله ) أ ف ض ل ن س اء أ م ت أ ص ب ح ه ن و ج هاا و أ ق ل ه ن م ه را. ق ال ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Al Nowfaly, from Al Sakuny, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: Rasool-Allah saww said: The best woman of my saww community is the one who is with a beautiful face and of a small dowry. 32 ح ي د ب ن ز ي اد ع ن ا ل س ن ب ن م وس ى ا ل ش اب ع ن ا ل س ن ب ن ع ل ي ب ن ي وس ف ب ن ب ق اح ع ن م ع اذ ا ل و ه ر ي ع ن ع م ر و ب ن ج ي ع ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ق ال ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) خ ي ر ن س ائ ك م الط ي ب ة الط ع ام الط ي ب ة الر يح ال ت إ ن أ ن ف ق ت أ ن ف ق ت ب ع ر وف و إ ن أ م س ك ت أ م س ك ت ب ع ر وف ف ت ل ك ع ام ل م ن ع م ال الل ه و ع ام ل الل ه ل ي يب. Humeyd Bin Ziyad, from Al Hassan Bin Musa Al Khashab, from Al Hassan Bin Ali Bin Yusuf Bin Baqa a, from Moaz Al Jowhary, from Amro Bin Jami e, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: Rasool-Allah saww said: The best of your women is the good cook, the aromatic with perfume; when she spends, spends with the moderation, and if she is silent, she is silent with moderation. Thus, that is a worker from the workers of Allah azwj, and a worker of Allah azwj will not fail. 33 : ش ر ار الن س اء women The most evil of the ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن الن و ف ل ي ع ن الس ك و ن ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ك ان م ن د ع اء ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) أ ع وذ ب ك م ن ام ر أ ة ت ش ي ب ن ق ب ل م ش يب. Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Al Nowfaly, from Al Sakuny, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: It was from the supplications of Rasool-Allah saww : I saww seek Refuge from a woman who ages me saww before my saww age. 34 31 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 4 H 2 32 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 4 H 4 33 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 4 H 7 34 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 5 H 3 Page 16 of 90
ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن س ه ل ب ن ز ي اد و م م د ب ن ي ي ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د و ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ج يعاا ع ن اب ن م ب وب ع ن ع ل ي ب ن ر ئ اب ع ن أ ب ح ز ة ع ن ج اب ر ب ن ع ب د الل ه ق ال س ع ت ه ي ق ول ق ال ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) أ ل أ خ ب ك م ب ش ر ار ن س ائ ك م الذ ل يل ة ف أ ه ل ه ا ال ع ز يز ة م ع ب ع ل ه ا ال ع ق يم ا ل ق ود ال ت ل ت و ر ع م ن ق ب يح ال م ت ب ر ج ة إ ذ ا غ اب عن ه ا ب ع ل ه ا ا ل ص ان م ع ه إ ذ ا ح ض ر ل ت س م ع ق و ل ه و ل ت ط يع أ م ر ه و إ ذ ا خ ال ب ا ب ع ل ه ا ت ن ع ت م ن ه ك م ا ت ن ع الص ع ب ة ع ن ر ك و ب ا ل ت ق ب ل م ن ه ع ذ را و ل ت ف ر ل ه ذ ن باا. A number of our companions, from Sahl Bin Ziyad and Muhammad Bin Yaha, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad and Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, altogether from Ibn Mahboub, form Ali Bin Raib, from Abu Hamza, from Jabir Bin Abdullah who said, I heard him asws saying: Rasool-Allah saww said: Shall I inform you all with the most evil of your women? (She is the one who is) the disgraced among her family, and (despite being) dear with her husband, she is the sterile, the vengeful, who does not have any qualms from ugliness, the welcoming (to others) whenever her husband is absent from her, the one who is reserved when she is with him; whenever he is present she does not listen to his words nor does she obey his instructions; and whenever he husband is alone with her she prevents him just like the stubborn animal prevents from being ridden, not accepting any excuses from him nor forgiving any of his mistakes. 35 Falling in Love is a Wrath of Allah azwj : حدثنا ممد بن على ماجيلويه رضى اهلل عنه قال: حدثنا عمي ممد بن أىب القاسم عن ممد بن علي الكو ف عن ممد بن سنان عن املفضل بن عمر قال: سألت أبا عبد اهلل جعفر بن ممد الصادق " ع " عن العشق فقال قلوب خلت من ذكر اهلل فاذاقها اهلل حب غ يه. Muhammad Bin Ali Majalawiya narrated to us, from an unlce of Muhammad Bin Abu Al Qasim, from Muhammad Bin Ali Al Kufy, from Muhammad Bin Sinan, from Al Mufazzal Bin Umar who said, Abu Abdullah Ja far asws Bin Muhammad asws was asked about the Al-Ishiq (falling in love with someone), so he asws said: The hearts which are empty from the Remembrance of Allah azwj, so Allah azwj (Punishes those by) Making them taste the love of other than Him azwj (so they suffer due to lack of sleep, being restless and unable to focus on Ibadah). 36 35 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 5 H 1 36 Al Illal Al Sharaie V 1 Ch 118 H 1 Page 17 of 90
Arranged/Love Marriages? Men: ح ي د ب ن ز ي اد ع ن ا ل س ن ب ن م م د ب ن س اع ة ع ن ع ل ي ب ن ا ل س ن ب ن ر ب اط ع ن ح ب يب ا ل ث ع م ي ع ن اب ن أ ب ي ع ف ور ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ق ل ت ل ه إ ن أ ر يد أ ن أ ت ز و ام ر أ ةا و إ ن أ ب و ي أ ر اد ا غ ي ر ه ا ق ال ت ز و ال ت ه و يت و د ع ال ت ي ه و ى أ ب و اك. Humeyd Bin Ziyad, from Al Hassan Bin Muhammad Bin Sama at, from Ali Bin Al Hassan Bin Rabaat, from Habeeb Al Khash amy, from Ibn Abu Yafour, Abu Abdullah asws, said, I said to him asws, I want to marry a woman, but my parents want (me to marry with) someone else. He asws said: Marry the one who (you) desire and leave the one whom your parent s desire. 37 Women: ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن س ه ل ب ن ز ي اد ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ب ن أ ب ن ص ر ع ن د او د ب ن س ر ح ان ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ف ر ج ل ي ر يد أ ن ي ز و أ خ ت ه ق ال ي ؤ ام ر ه ا ف إ ن س ك ت ت ف ه و إ ق ر ار ه ا و إ ن أ ب ت ل ي ز و ج ه ا و إ ن ق ال ت ز و ج ن ف ال ناا ف ل ي ز و ج ه ا م ن ت ر ض ى و ال ي ت يم ة ف ح ج ر الر ج ل ل ي ز و ج ه ا إ ل ب ر ض اه ا. A number of our companions, from Sahl Bin Ziyad, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad Bin Abu Nasr, from Dawood Bin Sirham, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws regarding a man who wants to get his sister married off. He asws said: He can permit it, so if she remains silent, so it is her agreement, but if she refuses, he cannot get her married; and if she says, Get me married to so and so, so let him get married to the one she is pleased with; and (as for) the orphan who is in the care of the man, he cannot get her married off except by her consent. 38 ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن اب ن أ ب ع م ي ع ن ح اد ب ن ع ث م ان ع ن ا ل ل ب ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ف ا ل ار ي ة ي ز و ج ه ا أ ب وه ا ب ي ر اضا م ن ه ا ق ال ل ي س ل ا م ع أ ب يه ا أ م ر إ ذ ا أ ن ك ح ه ا ج از ن ك اح ه و إ ن ك ان ت ك ار ه ةا Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Ibn Abu Umeyr, from Hammad Bin Usman, from Al Halby, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws regarding the girl getting married off by her father without her consent. He asws said: There is no command with her with her father. If he was to get her married off, the marriage would be allowed, even if she dislikes it. ق ال و س ئ ل ع ن ر ج ل ي ر يد أ ن ي ز و أ خ ت ه ق ال ي ؤ ام ر ه ا ف إ ن س ك ت ت ف ه و إ ق ر ار ه ا و إ ن أ ب ت ل ي ز و ج ه ا. 37 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 64 H 1 38 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 56 H 3 Page 18 of 90
He (the narrator) said, And he asws was asked about a man who wanted to get his sister married off. He asws said: He can permit her, and if she remains silent, so it is her agreement, but if she refuses, he cannot get her married. 39 Same Gender Marriages are Forbidden أ ح د ع ن ع ل ي ب ن أ س ب اط ع ن ب ع ض أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال م ا ك ان ف ش يع ت ن ا ف ل م ي ك ن ف يه م ث ال ث ة أ ش ي اء م ن ي س أ ل ف ك ف ه و ل ي ك ن ف يه م أ ز ر ق أ خ ض ر و ل ي ك ن ف يه م م ن ي ؤ ت ى ف د ب ر ه. Ahmad, from Ali Bin Asbaat, from one of our companions, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: Whatever there was among our asws Shias, but there will never come to be among them three things the one who begs in his hand; and there will never be among them a blue-eyed, a green-eyed; and they would not come to be among them the one who invites others to his behind. 40 ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ع ن ا ل س ي ب ن س ع يد و م م د ب ن ي ي ع ن م وس ى ب ن ا ل س ن ع ن ع م ر ب ن ع ل ي ع م ر ب ن ي ز يد ق ال ك ن ت ع ن د أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ب ن ع م ر ب ن ي ز يد ع ن م م د ب ن ع م ر ع ن أ خ يه ا ل س ي ع ن أ ب يه ) و ع ن د ه ر ج ل ف ق ال ل ه ج ع ل ت ف د اك إ ن أ ح ب الص ب ي ان ف ق ال ل ه أ ب و ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ف ت ص ن ع م ا ذ ا ق ا ل أ ح ل ه م ع ل ى ظ ه ر ي ف و ض ع أ ب و ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ي د ه ع ل ى ج ب ه ت ه و و ل و ج ه ه ع ن ه ف ب ك ى الر ج ل ف ن ظ ر إ ل ي ه أ ب و ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ك أ ن ه ر ح ه ف ق ال إ ذ ا أ ت ي ت ب ل د ك ف اش ت ج ز ورا س يناا و اع ق ل ه ع ق اا ل ش د يدا و خ ذ الس ي ف ف اض ر ب الس ن ام ض ر ب ةا ت ق ش ر ع ن ه ا ل ل د ة و اج ل س ع ل ي ه ب ر ار ت ه A number of our companions, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad, from Al Husayn Bin Saeed, and Muhammad Bin Yahya, from Musa Bin Al Hassan, from Umar Bin Ali Bin Umar Bin Yazeed, from Muhammad Bin Umar, from his brother Al Husayn, from his father Umar Bin Yazeed who said, I was in the presence of Abu Abdullah asws, and in his asws presence was a man who said to him asws, May I be sacrificed for you asws! I love the children. So Abu Abdullah asws said to him: So what is it that you do? He said, I carry them upon my back. So Abu Abdullah asws placed his asws hand upon his forehead and turned his asws face away from him. So the man wept, and Abu Abdullah asws looked at him as if he asws pitied him, and he asws said: When you go to your city, so buy a fat camel and tie it with an intense tying, and take the sword and strike the hump with a striking, taking off its skin, and sit upon it with its heat. ف ق ال ع م ر ف ق ال الر ج ل ف أ ت ي ت ب ل د ي ف اش ت ر ي ت ج ز ورا ف ع ق ل ت ه ع ق اا ل ش د يدا و أ خ ذ ت الس ي ف ف ض ر ب ت ب ه الس ن ام ض ر ب ةا و ق ش ر ت ع ن ه ا ل ل د و ج ل س ت ع ل ي ه ب ر ار ت ه ف س ق ط م ن ع ل ى ظ ه ر ال ب ع ي ش ب ه ال و ز غ أ ص ر م ن ال و ز غ و س ك ن م ا ب. 39 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 56 H 4 40 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 181 H 9 Page 19 of 90
So Umar (the narrator) said, So the man said (afterwards), I went to my city and bought a camel, and I tied it down with an intense tying, and took the sword, so I struck the hump with it with a strike, and then took the skin off it, and I sat upon it with its heat. So there dropped from me, upon the back of the camel, something resembling the lizard, being smaller than the lizard, and what was with me settled down. 41 Responsibilities of a Wife: م م د ب ن ي ي ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ع ن ع ل ي ب ن ا ل ك م ع ن م م د ب ن ال ف ض ي ل ع ن س ع د ب ن أ ب ع م ر و ا ل ال ب ق ال ق ا ل أ ب و ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) أ ي ا ام ر أ ة ب ات ت و ز و ج ه ا ع ل ي ه ا س اخ ط ف ح ق ل ت ق ب ل م ن ه ا ص ال ة ح ت ي ر ض ى ع ن ه ا و أ ي ا ام ر أ ة ت ط ي ب ت ل ي ز و ج ه ا ل ت ق ب ل م ن ه ا ص ال ة ح ت ت ت س ل م ن ط يب ه ا ك س ل ه ا م ن ج ن اب ت ه ا. Muhammad Bin Yahya, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad, from Ali Bin Al Hakam, from Muhammad Bin Al Fuzayl, from Sa ad Bin Abu Amro Al Jallab who said, Abu Abdullah asws said: ' whichever woman (a wife) spends a night and her husband is angered upon her regarding a right, her Salat would not be Accepted until she pleases him from it; and whichever woman perfumes herself for other than her husband, her Salat would not be Accepted from her until she bathes herself and removes that perfume (its) like she bathes from her sexual impurities. 42 ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن أ ب ا ل و ز اء ع ن ا ل س ي ب ن ع ل و ان ع ن س ع د ب ن ط ر يف ع ن ا ل ص ب غ ب ن ن ب ات ة ق ال ق ال أ م ي ال م ؤ م ن ي ع ك ت ب الل ه ا ل ه اد ع ل ى الر ج ال و الر ج ل ب ذ ل م ال ه و ن ف س ه ح ت ي ق ت ل الن س اء ف ج ه اد ف س ب يل الل ه و ج ه ا د ال م ر أ ة أ ن ت ص ب ع ل ى م ا ت ر ى م ن أ ذ ى ز و ج ه ا و غ ي ر ت ه و ف ح د يث آخ ر ج ه اد ال م ر أ ة ح س ن الت ب ع ل Ali ibn Ibrahim has narrated from his father, who from abu al-jawza' who from al-hussain ibn 'Ulwan, who from Sa'd ibn Tarif, who from al-asbagh ibn Nubatah who has said the following : "Amir-ul-Momineen asws has said, 'Allah azwj has Made Jihad obligatory upon men and women. Jihad of a man is making his wealth and soul available until he is killed in the way of Allah azwj. Jihad of a woman is exercising patience when facing hardships caused by her husband and because of his showing strong al-ghirah (protective feelings) for her. In another Hadith, it is said that Jihad of a woman is to maintain good marital relationship. 43 لتطيب املرأة لزوجها 41 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 181 H 6 42 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 144 H 2 43 Al-Kafi, vol. 5, pg.9 Page 20 of 90
(Amir-ul-Momineen asws said) Wives should beautify themselves for their husbands. 44 Children suffer from the mistakes of their parents: أ ب و ع ل ي ا ل ش ع ر ي ع ن م م د ب ن ح س ان ع ن ا ل س ي ب ن م م د الن و ف ل ي م ن و ل د ن و ف ل ب ن ع ب د ال م ط ل ب ق ال أ خ ب ر ن م م د ب ن ج ع ف ر ع ن م م د ب ن ع ل ي ب ن ع يس ى ع ن ع ب د الل ه ال ع م ر ي ع ن أ ب يه ع ن ج د ه ق ال ق ال أ م ي ال م ؤ م ن ي ( صلوات اهلل عليه ) ف ال م ر ض ي ص يب الص ب ف ق ال ك ف ار ة ل و ال د ي ه. Abu Ali Al Ashary, from Muhammad Bin Hassan, from Al Husayn Bin Muhammad Al Nowfaly, from a son of Nowfal Bin Abdul Muttalib, from Muhammad Bin Ja far, from Muhammad Bin Ali Bin Isa, from Abdullah Ao Umary, from his father, from his grandfather who said, Amir Al-Momineen asws said regarding the illness which hits the children, so he asws said: It is an expiation (Kufara) for its parent s (sins). 45 أ ب و ع ل ي ا ل ش ع ر ي ع ن ا ل س ن ب ن ع ل ي ب ن ع ب د الل ه ع ن ع ب ي س ب ن ه ش ام ع ن ر ج ل م ن أ ص ح اب ه ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ع ق ا ل د خ ل ع ل ي ه ر ج ل ي ب يع الد ق يق ف ق ال إ ي اك و ال ش ف إ ن م ن غ ش غ ش ف م ال ه ف إ ن ل ي ك ن ل ه م ال غ ش ف أ ه ل ه Abu Ali al-ash'ariy has narrated from al-hassan ibn Ali ibn 'Abd Allah from Ubays ibn Hisham from a man of his people who has said: Once, a man who sold flour came before Abu Abd Allah asws. The Imam asws said to him: Beware of cheating; one who cheats in matters of properties, cheating takes place in his properties, if he does not have any property cheating takes place in his family (wife). 46 Never marry daughter to a wine Drinker ع د ة م ن أ ص ح اب ن ا ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ر ف ع ه ق ال ق ال أ ب و ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) م ن ز و ك ر ي ت ه م ن ش ار ب ا ل م ر ف ق د ق ط ع ر ح ه ا. A number of our companions, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad, raising it, said, Abu Abdullah asws said: The one who marries his daughter to a drinker of the wine, so he has cut off his relationship. 47 44 400 golden sayings of Amir-ul-Momineen asws,الخصال ج : 2 ص : 611 45 Al Kafi V 6 The Book of Aqeeqa Ch 37 1 46 Al-Kafi, vol. 5, H. 8693, Ch. 60, h, 4 47 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 25 H 1 Page 21 of 90
ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن اب ن أ ب ع م ي ع ن ب ع ض أ ص ح اب ه ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ق ال ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) ش ار ب ا ل م ر ل ي ز و إ ذ ا خ ط ب. Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Ibn Abu Umeyr, from one of his companions, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: Rasool-Allah saww said: A drinker of the wine, do not marry to him when he proposes. 48 م م د ب ن ي ي ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ع ن ا ل س ن ب ن م ب وب ع ن خ ال د ب ن ج ر ير ع ن أ ب الر ب يع ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ق ال ر س ول الل ه ( صلى اهلل عليه وآله ) م ن ش ر ب ا ل م ر ب ع د م ا ح ر م ه ا الل ه ع ل ى ل س ا ن ف ل ي س ب أ ه ل أ ن ي ز و إ ذ ا خ ط ب. Muhammad Bin Yahya, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad, from Al Hassan Bin Mahboub, from Khalid Bin Jareer, from Abu Al Rabie, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: Rasool-Allah saww said: The one who drinks the wine after Allah azwj Prohibited it upon my saww tongue, so he is not with a right that he should be married to when he proposes (for a marriage). 49 Never Marry daughter to a Nasibi & a doubtful (in religion) م م د ب ن ي ي ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ع ن اب ن م ب وب ع ن ج يل ب ن ص ال ح ع ن ف ض ي ل ب ن ي س ار السالم ) ق ال ل ي ت ز و ال م ؤ م ن الن اص ب ة ال م ع ر وف ة ب ذ ل ك. ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه Muhammad Bin Yahya, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad, from Ibn Mahboub, from Jameel Bin Salih, from Fuzayl Bin Yasaar, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws having said: The Believer cannot marry a Hostile woman (Nasibi), the one (who is) well known with that. 50 م م د ب ن إ س اع يل ع ن ال ف ض ل ب ن ش اذ ان ع ن اب ن أ ب ع م ي ع ن ر ب ع ي ع ن ال ف ض ي ل ب ن ي س ار ع ن أ ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ق ال ق ال ل ه ال ف ض ي ل أ ت ز و الن اص ب ة ق ال ل و ل ك ر ام ة ق ل ت ج ع ل ت ف د اك و الل ه إ ن ل ق ول ل ك ه ذ ا و ل و ج اء ن ب ب ي ت م ل ن د ر اه م م ا ف ع ل ت. Muhammad Bin Ismail, from Al Fazl Bin ShAzaan, from Ibn Abu Umeyr, from Rabie, from Al Fuzayl Bin Yasaar, 48 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 25 H 2 49 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 25 H 3 50 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 26 H 3 Page 22 of 90
(It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah asws, said, Fuzayl said to him asws, Can I marry the Hostile woman (Nasibi)? He asws said: No, and there is no prestige. I said, May I be sacrificed for you asws! By Allah azwj, I am only saying this to you asws, and even if she comes to me with a house filled with Dirhams, I would not do it. 51 أ ح د ب ن م م د ع ن اب ن ف ض ال ع ن ع ل ي ب ن ي ع ق وب ع ن م ر و ان ب ن م س ل م ع ن ا ل س ي ب ن م وس ى ا ل ن اط ع ن ال ف ض ي ل ب ن ي س ار ق ال ق ل ت ل ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) إ ن ل م ر أ ت أ خ تاا ع ار ف ةا ع ل ى ر أ ي ن ا و ل ي س ع ل ى ر أ ي ن ا ب ال ب ص ر ة إ ل ق ل يل ف أ ز و ج ه ا م ن ل ي ر ى ر أ ي ه ا ق ال ل و ل ن ع م ة ]و ل ك ر ام ة [ إ ن الل ه ع ز و ج ل ي ق ول ف ال ت ر ج ع وه ن إ ل ال ك ف ار ل ه ن ح ل ل م و ل ه م ي ل ون ل ن. Ahmad Bin Muhammad, from Ibn Fazzal, from Ali Bin Yaqoub, from Marwan Bin Muslim, from Al Husayn Bin Musa Al Hannat, from Al Fuzayl Bin Yasaar who said, I said to Abu Abdullah asws, My wife has a sister who is known to be upon our view (Wilayah), and there are not upon our view in Al-Basra except for a few, so can I marry her to the one who does not agree with her view (faith)? He asws said: No, and there is neither a Blessing nor a prestige. Allah azwj Mighty and Majestic is Saying. [60:10] do not send them back to the unbelievers, neither are these (women) lawful for them, nor are those (men) lawful for them. 52 ع ل ي ب ن إ ب ر اه يم ع ن أ ب يه ع ن اب ن أ ب ع م ي ع ن ج يل ب ن د ر ا ع ن ز ر ار ة ق ال ق ل ت ل ب ج ع ف ر ( عليه السالم ) إ ن أ خ ش ى أ ن ل ي ل ل أ ن أ ت ز و م ن ل ي ك ن ع ل ى أ م ر ي ف ق ال م ا ي ن ع ك م ن ال ب ل ه م ن الن س اء ق ل ت و م ا ال ب ل ه ق ال ه ن ال م س ت ض ع ف ات م ن الال ت ل ي ن ص ب و ل ي ع ر ف ن م ا أ ن ت م ع ل ي ه. Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Ibn Abu Umeyr, from Jameel Bin Darraj, from Zurara who said, I said to Abu Ja far asws, I fear that it is not Permissible for me that I marry the one who does not happen to be upon my matter (Wilayah). So he asws said: What is preventing you from the simple ones from the women? I said, And what is the simple one? He asws said: They are the weak ones from those who are not establishing hostility (non Nasibis), and they do not recognise what you are upon. 53 م م د ب ن ي ي ع ن أ ح د ب ن م م د ع ن ع ب د الر ح ن ب ن أ ب ن ر ان ع ن ع ب د الل ه ب ن س ن ان ق ال س أ ل ت أ ب ا ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ع ن الن اص ب ال ذ ي ق د ع ر ف ن ص ب ه و ع د او ت ه ه ل ن ز و ج ه ال م ؤ م ن ة و ه و ق اد ر ع ل ى ر د ه و ه و ل ي ع ل م ب ر د ه ق ا ل ل ي ز و ال م ؤ م ن الن اص ب ة و ل ي ت ز و الن اص ب ال م ؤ م ن ة و ل ي ت ز و ال م س ت ض ع ف م ؤ م ن ةا. Muhammad Bin Yahya, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad, from Abdul Rahman Bin Abu Najran, from Abdullah Bin Sinan who said, 51 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 26 H 4 52 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 26 H 6 53 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 26 H 7 Page 23 of 90
I asked Abu Abdullah asws about the Hostile one (Nasibi) whose hostility is recognised, as well as his enmity. Can we get the Believing woman to marry him, and he (the guardian of the woman) is able to reject his proposal, and he (the Nasibi) cannot prove his righteous beliefs. He asws said: Neither can the Believer marry the hostile woman (Nasibi), nor can the hostile one (Nasibi) marry the believing woman, nor can the believing woman marry the weak ones. 54 أ ح د ب ن م م د ع ن ا ل س ن ب ن ع ل ي ب ن ف ض ال ع ن ي ون س ب ن ي ع ق وب ع ن ح ر ان ب ن أ ع ي ق ال ك ان ب ع ض أ ه ل ه ي ر ي د الت ز و يج ف ل م ي د ام ر أ ةا م س ل م ةا م و اف ق ةا ف ذ ك ر ت ذ ل ك ل ب ع ب د الل ه ( عليه السالم ) ف ق ال أ ي ن أ ن ت م ن ال ب ل ه ال ذ ين ل ي ع ر ف ون ش ي ئاا. Ahmad Bin Muhammad, from Al Hassan Bin Ali Bin Fazzal, from Yunus Bin Yaqoub, from Humran Bin Ayn who said, One of his family members wanted to get married but he could not find a compatible Muslim woman. So he mentioned that to Abu Abdullah asws, so he asws said: Where are you from the simple woman who is not understanding anything (about the Wilayah)? 55 ا ل س ي ب ن م م د ع ن م ع ل ى ب ن م م د ع ن ح س ن ب ن ع ل ي ال و ش اء ع ن ج يل ع ن ز ر ار ة ع ن أ ب ج ع ف ر ( عليه السالم ) ق ا ل ق ل ت ل ه أ ص ل ح ك الل ه إ ن أ خ اف أ ن ل ي ل ل أ ن أ ت ز و ي ع ن م ن ل ي ك ن ع ل ى أ م ر ه ق ال و م ا ي ن ع ك م ن ال ب ل ه م ن الن س اء و ق ال ه ن ال م س ت ض ع ف ات الال ت ل ي ن ص ب و ل ي ع ر ف ن م ا أ ن ت م ع ل ي ه. Al Husayn Bin Muhammad, from Moalla Bin Muhammad, from Hassan Bin Ali Al Washa, from Jameel, from Zurara, (It has been narrated) from Abu Ja far asws, said, I said to him asws, May Allah azwj Keep you asws well! I fear that it may to be Permissible for me that I marry, meaning from the one who do not happen to be upon his asws matter (Wilayah). He asws said: What prevents you from the simple ones from the women? And he asws said: They are the weak ones, those who are not establishing hostility (non-nasibi) nor do they understand what you all are upon. 56 ي سار ق ال س أ ل ت أ ب ا ع ب د الل ه ( ح ي د ب ن ز ي اد ع ن ا ل س ن ب ن م م د ع ن غ ي و اح د ع ن أ ب ان ب ن ع ث م ان ع ن ال ف ض ي ل ب ن عليه السالم ) ع ن ن ك اح الن اص ب ف ق ال ل و الل ه م ا ي ل Humeyd Bin Ziyad, from Al Hassan Bin Muhammad, from someone else, from Aban Bin Usman, from Al Fuzayl Bin Yasaar who said, I asked Abu Abdullah asws about marrying the Hostile one (Nasibi), so he asws said: No, by Allah azwj, not Permissible! 54 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 26 H 8 55 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 26 H 9 56 Al Kafi V 5 The Book of Marriage Ch 26 H 10 Page 24 of 90