Dave & Sue Lunsford Executive Director

September 23, 2018 Rev. David Lunsford Executive Director Baptist Network Northwest

Followers of Christ can fall back into worldly ways of handling disagreements and find the human tools of manipulation to be very appealing as they seek to accomplish their desires rather than fully committing themselves to act like Christ while they work out their differences.

1) Honesty

1) Honesty I John 2:21, no lie is of the truth

1) Honesty I John 2:21, no lie is of the truth What are some things we substitute for the truth?

1) Honesty I John 2:21, no lie is of the truth What are some things we substitute for the truth? What we heard was true:

1) Honesty I John 2:21, no lie is of the truth What are some things we substitute for the truth? What we heard was true: assumption

1) Honesty I John 2:21, no lie is of the truth What are some things we substitute for the truth? What we heard was true: assumption What we think is truth:

1) Honesty I John 2:21, no lie is of the truth What are some things we substitute for the truth? What we heard was true: assumption What we think is truth: interpretation

1) Honesty I John 2:21, no lie is of the truth What are some things we substitute for the truth? What we heard was true: assumption What we think is truth: interpretation What we want to be true:

1) Honesty I John 2:21, no lie is of the truth What are some things we substitute for the truth? What we heard was true: assumption What we think is truth: interpretation What we want to be true: persuasion

1) Honesty 2) Tranquility

2) Tranquility What does the sinful expression of anger look like?

2) Tranquility What does the sinful expression of anger look like? Bitterness, to cut or to pierce

2) Tranquility What does the sinful expression of anger look like? Bitterness, to cut or to pierce Wrath, a boiling agitation of the feelings

2) Tranquility What does the sinful expression of anger look like? Bitterness, to cut or to pierce Wrath, a boiling agitation of the feelings Anger, the outward expression of anger.

2) Tranquility What does the sinful expression of anger look like? Bitterness, to cut or to pierce Wrath, a boiling agitation of the feelings Anger, the outward expression of anger. While God allows for the experience of anger, He does not allow for expressing anger according to our natural impulses.

2) Tranquility What does the sinful expression of anger look like? Bitterness, to cut or to pierce Wrath, a boiling agitation of the feelings Anger, the outward expression of anger. Clamor, literally yelling the expression of anger in loud words. Onomatopoeia, a word taken from a sound

2) Tranquility What does the sinful expression of anger look like? Bitterness, to cut or to pierce Wrath, a boiling agitation of the feelings Anger, the outward expression of anger. Clamor, literally yelling the expression of anger in loud words. Onomatopoeia, a word taken from a sound You don t want to be the church crow

2) Tranquility What does the sinful expression of anger look like? Bitterness, to cut or to pierce Wrath, a boiling agitation of the feelings Anger, the outward expression of anger. Clamor, literally yelling the expression of anger in loud words. Onomatopoeia, a word taken from a sound Evil speaking, purposefully hurtful communication

2) Tranquility What does the sinful expression of anger look like? Bitterness, to cut or to pierce Wrath, a boiling agitation of the feelings Anger, the outward expression of anger. Clamor, literally yelling the expression of anger in loud words. Onomatopoeia, a word taken from a sound Evil speaking, purposefully hurtful communication Malice, any kind of moral evil

1) Honesty 2) Tranquility 3) Sanctity

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God Resolving anger denies the devil access to our relationships

3) Sanctity Resolving anger denies the devil access to our relationships 2 Corinthians 2:10 Now whom you forgive anything, I also forgive. For if indeed I have forgiven anything, I have forgiven that one for your sakes in the presence of Christ, lest Satan should take advantage of us; for we are not ignorant of his devices.

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God Resolving anger denies the devil access to our relationships Resolving anger stops the spread of sin

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God Resolving anger stops the spread of sin Hebrews 12:14-15 makes it clear that allowing anger to become sinful impacts more people than just ourselves, Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled.

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God Resolving anger denies the devil access to our relationships Resolving anger stops the spread of sin Communication must build people up

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God Communication must build people up Jesus confronted sin

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God? Communication must build people up Jesus confronted sin Jesus rebuked hypocrisy

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God Communication must build people up Jesus confronted sin Jesus rebuked hypocrisy Jesus exhorted the sinful

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God Communication must build people up Jesus confronted sin Jesus rebuked hypocrisy Jesus exhorted the sinful Jesus challenged the materialistic

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God? Communication must build people up Jesus confronted sin Jesus rebuked hypocrisy Jesus exhorted the sinful Jesus challenged the materialistic BUT Jesus always did this in the best interest of the one to whom He was speaking.

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God Communication must build people up Say good

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God Communication must build people up Say good Do good

3) Sanctity Handling disagreements in a way that honors God Communication must build people up Say good Do good Pray good

3) Sanctity Are you handling your disagreements in a way that honors God? Communication must build people up Romans 12:17-19 Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay," says the Lord.

3) Sanctity Are you handling your disagreements in a way that honors God? Communication must build people up leave room for God s wrath.

3) Sanctity Communication must build people up I Samuel 24:16-20 So it was, when David had finished speaking these words to Saul, that Saul said, "Is this your voice, my son David?" And Saul lifted up his voice and wept. Then he said to David: "You are more righteous than I; for you have rewarded me with good, whereas I have rewarded you with evil. "And you have shown this day how you have dealt well with me; for when the LORD delivered me into your hand, you did not kill me.

3) Sanctity Communication must build people up I Samuel 24:16-20 For if a man finds his enemy, will he let him get away safely? Therefore, may the LORD reward you with good for what you have done to me this day. And now I know indeed that you shall surely be king, and that the kingdom of Israel shall be established in your hand. *

1) Honesty 2) Tranquility 3) Sanctity 4) Charity

4) Charity Kindness = undeserved nice treatment

4) Charity Kindness = undeserved nice treatment Matthew 5:45 that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.

4) Charity Kindness = undeserved nice treatment Tenderhearted, literal = organs compassion

4) Charity Kindness = undeserved nice treatment Tenderhearted, literal = organs compassion Forgiveness = to treat with graciousness

4) Charity Forgiveness = to treat with graciousness Matthew 18:21-32 Then Peter came to Him and said, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.

4) Charity Forgiveness = to treat with graciousness Matthew 18:21-32 Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. And when he had begun to settle accounts, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. But as he was not able to pay, his master commanded that he be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and that payment be made.

4) Charity Forgiveness = to treat with graciousness Matthew 18:21-32 The servant therefore fell down before him, saying, 'Master, have patience with me, and I will pay you all.' Then the master of that servant was moved with compassion, released him, and forgave him the debt.

4) Charity Forgiveness = to treat with graciousness Matthew 18:21-32 But that servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii; and he laid hands on him and took him by the throat, saying, 'Pay me what you owe!' So his fellow servant fell down at his feet and begged him, saying, 'Have patience with me, and I will pay you all.' And he would not, but went and threw him into prison till he should pay the debt.

4) Charity Forgiveness = to treat with graciousness Matthew 18:21-32 So when his fellow servants saw what had been done, they were very grieved, and came and told their master all that had been done. Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, 'You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?

4) Charity Forgiveness = to treat with graciousness Matthew 18:21-32 And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him. So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.