Taking the Journey from Victimhood to Victory manual

Taking the Journey from Victimhood to Victory manual

Map Index Vehicle to Victory Exercise 1: Freeway to Facing Fear Exercise 2: Avenue to Awareness Exercise 3: Highway to Healing Exercise 4: Street to Success Arrived at Your Destination Virtues for Empowerment

Vehicle to Victory It is a fact that there is no one on this planet who has not felt or been victimized at one point or another. However, there are different degrees to which one has been victimized. No matter, each time a person is hurt or harmed, it leaves a scar and wound that must be addressed. It takes our full attention, patience and determination. To leave a problem too quickly is to ensure its return. Emotional and spiritual injuries are no different than physical wounds. They need to be cleansed and tended. However, a physical wound requires medical attention from outside ourselves, whereas an emotional or spiritual wound must be healed from inside ourselves. The purpose of this manual is to take us on a journey of self-discovery and self-healing. The road may be bumpy and detours may have to be taken, but in the end, we can indeed reach our destined place that we set out to travel to. What is victory? Victory is the feeling of empowerment. Someone who is empowered believes that good can win over evil. It is someone who embraces truth and reject lies. It is someone who is willing to stand up for fairness and justice for themselves and others. It is someone who fights back and says; I am NOT what happened to me, I am someone who survived what happened to me.and I did not just survive, I thrived. Within each one of us, there is a hidden strength that can transmute a horrific situation and build a wonder-filled life. Look at holocaust survivors, who lost their whole families, nearly died themselves and yet went to a new country and created good lives for themselves and others. Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Gandhi and so many more who were imprisoned, beaten and starved, and yet came out stronger than ever to meet their honorable, incredible destiny with a force to be reckoned with. Though we cannot change the past, we can change the present, which holds the potential of a totally different future. May the road to recovery be an inspired, exciting and determined one. No brakes petal to the metal! 1

Exercise 1 Freeway to Facing Fear

Exercise 1 Freeway to Facing Fear Anything that causes us to feel victimized, causes us to have fear. We need to recognize the power of fear in order to overpower the pitfalls of it. The following 25 wisdoms can help with this process... 1. Fear is an emotion that must be handled before a new life can occur. 2. For those who do not feel fear, cannot feel brave. 3. Though fear can be difficult, it can also be a wisdom 4. To be tall, one must be willing to fall. If small, be willing to stand tall. 5. The road to success is paved with failures. 6. Studying our fears leads to our courage. 7. Bravery is not the absence of fear, but the ability to master it. 8. Do not be afraid to be unyielding when you know something is right. 9. Fear of failing is ridiculous. 10. Fear not to eliminate things that could cause resentment. 11. Most things worth doing have been said to be impossible. 12. Never wait for the ship to come in go swim to get it. 13. Fear is the foundation of foresight and forethought. 14. Fear is meant to analyze, not paralyze. 15. Fear can be the mother of safety. 16. Believing in oneself is the sharpest sword against fear. 17. Fear dissipates through healing. 18. Do not be afraid to say no to anything that will not benefit your destiny. 19. Success favors the bold. 20. Fear can be a benefit or a burden. 21. The greater the healing the grander the reward. 22. Each and every dream comes from daring to begin. 23. Healing is maintained through determination. 24. Life is what we think it will be so think victoriously. 25. To be or not to be..all depends on how we handle our fears. 3

1. Study the wisdoms and write the ones that mean the most to you and why. 2. Study the wisdoms and write the five that seem to be the hardest for you and why. 4

3. Write a plan of action as to how you are going to utilize ten of these wisdoms, with whom and where. 5

Exercise 2 Avenue to Awareness

Exercise 2 Avenue to Awareness Being aware is the foundation to intelligence and intelligence is an avenue to a better way of life. Awareness creates safety and security. It is a protection against anything that will not benefit our lives. The following 25 wisdoms can help with this process... 1. Always know the intention of someone challenging you. 2. Do not create rash action - it will lead to wrong decisions. 3. Be prudent, perseverant and protective. 4. Preserve your energy and power. 5. Team with like-minded people. 6. Handle your resentment or it will man handle you. 7. Do not allow yourself to become enraged. 8. Make decisions with respect and honor for yourself. 9. Use only your integrity to attain what you want. 10. Act strongly when you know something is wrong. 11. Move on good opportunities fearlessly. 12. Respond in an emotional intelligent way. 13. Do not allow others to take you off your knowing. 14. Be well versed in inferior elements. 15. Do not let humiliation penetrate your inner being. 16. Always consider the harm others can do to you before you act. 17. Watch out and curtail your negative thought forms. 18. Stay calm and avoid drama. 19. To overcome challenges, one must not be overcome by them. 20. Learn from your old challenges that you may be a teacher to others. 21. If you do not discern, you will find yourself in situation wishing you would have discerned. 22. Think before you act. 23. Be smart as you walk among barbarians. 24. Study and hear all evidence, then select what is worthy and good for you. 25. Remember heroes may be brave, but not all of those who act bravely are heroes. 7

1. Study the wisdoms and write the ones that mean the most to you and why. 2. Study the wisdoms and write the five that seem to be the hardest for you and why. 8

3. Write a plan of action as to how you are going to utilize ten of these wisdoms, with whom and where. 9

Exercise 3 Highway to Healing

Exercise 3 Highway to Healing There are emotions that weaken our power equally, and there are emotions that strengthen our power. The more we handle our weak emotions, the more empowered we feel. It takes strength because we must be willing to go through the problem to get out of the problem. Emotional intelligence leads us to a happier life, filled with a healthier and more respectful relationship with ourselves and others. Instructions Study the emotions and number them 1-5. 5 means you are the most concerned about and 1 means you are the least concerned about. Emotions that Weaken our Power 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Feeling enraged Feeling resentful Feeling jealous Feeling fearful Feeling hopeless Feeling cruel Feeling controlling Feeling worthless Feeling judgmental 10. Feeling close-minded 11. Feeling confused 12. Feeling hateful 13. Feeling helpless 11

Pick three emotions you feel are the most important to work on and make a plan of action to transmute them. 1. 2. 3. 12

Instructions Study the emotions and number them 1-5. 1 being the lowest and 5 being the highest. Pick three of the lowest that you are going to work on and how. Emotions that Strengthen our Power 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Feeling peaceful Feeling forgiving Feeling grateful Feeling brave Feeling optimistic Feeling kind Feeling empowered Feeling safe Feeling precious 10. Feeling compassionate 11. Feeling open-minded 12. Feeling certain 13. Feeling loving 13

Pick three emotions you feel are the lowest that you are going to work on and how. 1. 2. 3. 14

Exercise 3 Street to Success

Exercise 4 Street to Success Do not be fooled or fall into the trap of thinking you are small or insignificant. Each and every one of us is important. It is not what we do that has the significance, it is how we think and feel that makes the difference. We have the power to transform sadness to joy, hate to love, victimhood to victory and failure to success. To be or not to be is totally up to ourselves. Because we cannot escape problems, the most powerful thing we can do is learn how to deal with them effectively and powerfully. Now that s the definition of success! Instructions 1. Read through the 25 Success Wisdoms. 2. Choose ten that mean the most to you and why. 3. Choose five that you need to work on and how you will do this. 16

25 Success Wisdoms 1. The reward of success is not what we receive from it, but in what we become by it. 2. Victory is won through certainty and lost through uncertainty. 3. If we try to escape problems, we escape growth. 4. The denial of a problem infuses it with power. 5. Any fault recognized is already on its way to be corrected. 6. Mistakes are inroads to our intelligence. 7. Never flatter anyone who does not merit it. 8. It s all personal but do not take it personally. 9. Dispel darkness by bringing it to the light. 10. Fear is the spark to our intuition. 11. Forgiveness and gratitude are essential for peace of mind. 12. Repair corruption with authority. 13. Lines between black and white can be clouded by instant of unconsciousness. 14. Overcome obstacles by understanding the reasoning behind them. 15. Move away from inferior elements without feeling superior. 16. Realize that our personal problems are usually a result of our declined humanity. 17. Be the truth, regardless of popularity. 18. Do not think a legitimate excuse is the same as a clear conscience. 19. Without remorse, change cannot happen. 20. Problems can be opportunities for more peaceful times to come. 21. Sincere criticism is far more important than insincere compliments. 22. Only through commitment can success be realized. 23. Never confuse charm with character. 24. Be the change you want to see for yourself, others and the world. 25. Think of self..self-empowerment, self-respect, self-esteem, self-discipline and self-confidence, and all else will flourish. 17

1. Which ten Success Wisdoms mean the most to you and why? 2. Which five Success Wisdoms do you need to work on and how will you do this? 18

You Have Arrived at Your Destination Congratulations a new life has finally begun Now is the time for some great fun. Don t let the past get in your way This is a beautiful, new exciting day. Seize it with joy, happiness and wonder No storm or rain, just lightning and thunder. You have worked so hard to get where you are Nothing in your way, near or far. Be in love with yourself, others and life No more victimhood or challenging strife. Power, success, light and love Fly like an eagle or maybe a dove. Remember everyone has suffered some But held the hope of better days were to come. Faith, love, forgiveness and gratitude Are the feelings you must not exclude. Thank you very much for taking this ride Remember from this day forth, you have nothing to hide. You ve healed it well, but more will appear And now you know how to take it on with little fear. Bravo to you and please honor your being For listening, learning, studying and seeing All the wounds that needed to be healed From this day forth, victory is your playing field. Blessings upon you for being so very brave You are ready for the next trip and a new road to pave. Happy travelling!!!!! 19

Virtues for Empowerment Our virtues are our victories over ourselves. Our attributes are our contribution to the wellness of the world. Being aware of our virtues is the most significant step to self empowerment. Most of the time, we are not conscious of how wonderful we are. We tend to spend more time thinking about our faults rather than our gifts, what is wrong with us instead of what is right. All of us dream of life being different, of the world being a safer place and of having more love in our lives. These golden dreams are birthed from and dependent upon our ability to feel and live our virtues. Because the road to happiness is paved with the power of what is good in us, we have devised the Virtues for Empowerment. If we all put an intention on developing these virtues, we will indeed manifest a more harmonious and peaceful existence. The world will change if each one of us change. Onionhead s goal is to help transform negative thought forms into positive thought forms, thereby co-creating a new loving, wondrous garden for us all to thrive in. Gratitude - the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Contentment. I feel grateful therefore I am content. It is unfortunate that as humans, we think more of what we do not have rather than what we do have. If we are to know and experience happiness, we must cultivate our ability to feel grateful. Being conscious of our gratefulness is what makes us feel connected, alive and in love. Focusing on gratitude is the best weapon against depression and despair. Feeling grateful holds within it the mastery of forgiveness and grace. Remember: The virtue of gratitude is an attitude of high altitude. Acceptance the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Calmness. I feel accepting therefore I am calm. There are things that happen in our lives that are in our control; however there are more things that happen in our lives that are not in our control. Therefore, the wisest thing we can do is put our attention on what we can make right. Then, with a full breath of life, trust that the universe will take care of the rest. Acceptance is the most important nutrient for the survival of our spirit, as it is an expression of our holiness and our wisdom. Remember: The virtue of acceptance is our courage to feel en-couraged instead of dis-couraged. Respect the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Consciousness. I feel respectful therefore I am conscious. Respect holds within it the highest degree of mastery. It is the one virtue that can transform darkness to light, hate to love and corruption to purity. When we hold ourselves accountable for our own self respect, free from what others think, we find a freedom that knows no boundaries. By the same token, when we show that same respect to others, we become the heart and hand of an angel. Mastery is developed through the resonance of respect. Remember: The virtue of respect elevates us from a human presence to an angelic performance. 20

Determination the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Commitment. I feel determined therefore I am committed. This world is simple yet not easy. Therefore, the road to having a successful life is paved with determination. Feeling determined is birthed from courage, conviction and confidence. When we know we are right, we cannot go wrong. That does not mean that nothing can go wrong. Yet, when we are determined, we stay centered, focused and sure. Our determination is indeed our promise to our purpose and a proclamation to our path. Remember: The virtue of determination is not letting ourselves be deterred or undermined. Empathy the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Compassion. I feel empathetic therefore I am compassionate. Empathy is the first movement to love in action. It is a heartfelt understanding of what another feels. With all the bad news being thrown our way today, we as a race have become terribly desensitized. This leads to a cold detachment that can and does result in violence and separation. Empathy is the antibiotic that can cure this emotional virus because it is steeped with compassion and warmth. The feeling of empathy holds within it the silent knowing of all that is right. Remember: The virtue of empathy is a deepened sense of sympathy, sincerity and sensitivity whose gifts are humility, humbleness and honesty. Nobleness the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Credibility. I feel noble therefore I am credible. Feeling noble comes from being high-minded and high-principled. It is a statement of our honorable values and commitment to our integrity. With all the confusion and deception in our world, our nobleness is invaluable for movement towards global transformation. We become the pillar of sterling truth, whereby we stand up for what is right and fair. Nobleness is a melding of harmony, honor and honesty, whereby agreements are notably sealed with a handshake. Remember: The virtue of nobleness comes from the redeeming qualities of reverence and righteousness. Optimism - the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Confidence. I feel optimistic therefore I am confident. Feeling optimistic feeds us life. It is an expression of our positivity. Now, more than ever, with the incredible amount of negative news, we need all the optimism we can muster. We see the light not the dark, the certainty not the doubt, the clarity not the confusion and the good not the evil. When we opt to view things from a place of possibilities, we are truly showing our commitment to our bliss. This in itself, births opportunities and the energy to marvelously manifest them. Remember: The virtue of optimism is the ability to be fueled with excitement and exhilaration which leads to the feeling of ecstasy. 21

Faith the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Connection. I feel faithful therefore I am connected. Faith is the one attribute that can carry us through any difficult situation. It holds within it the pulse of the Universe and the promise of the Heavens. When we walk in faith, we walk in spirit. Faith lets us glimpse the bigger picture and taste the sweet song of a better tomorrow. Feeling faith is feeling a connection to something higher than ourselves. This leads us to a celestial sense of sincerity and serenity. Faith is the constant reminder that there is a union between ourselves and the universal realm. Remember: The virtue of faith is a belief that needs no evidence. Enlightenment the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Character. I feel enlightened therefore I have character. Enlightenment is birthed through the knowledge of light, laws and love. It is an awareness that one cannot work without the other. To reach enlightenment, we must develop the ability to contemplate and concentrate. Things are rarely what they seem and many times illusions permeate our space. This creates darkness and confusion. Feeling enlightened comes from discernment, discipline and devotion. It is through these intentions that the correct direction appears, enlightening us to a higher elevation. Remember: The virtue of enlightenment is a state of mind enlivened with luminous thought forms. Decisiveness the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Certainty. I feel decisive therefore I am certain. Decisiveness is a proclamation of our clearness and clarity. Clear thinking leads to correct action. Acting decisively is being sharp as a razor s edge. It cuts to the chase, not wasting valuable time and energy. A good leader spends much time developing this invaluable gift. Decisiveness comes from the competence to commit, study and then start. These three steps are the keys to success, whereby the concept of defeat is defeated. Remember: The virtue of decisiveness comes from being precise and concise. Enthusiasm the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Charisma. I feel enthusiastic therefore I am charismatic. Enthusiasm is the cheerleader for every situation. It is a fire that says, I refuse to be extinguished. When we feel enthusiastic about something, we are injecting our divine ppark into it, lighting the way for ourselves and others. When we feel defeated about something, yet stay enthusiastic, more often than not, triumph is right around the corner. We carry the matchstick for the still undeveloped potential. Enthusiasm is the chariot keeping us in flight, while waiting for the inspirational forces to land. Remember: The virtue of enthusiasm comes from being inspired, passionately wired and definitely not tired. Nurturance the virtue that leads us to the attribute of Caring. I feel nurturing therefore I am caring. To nurture another is loving; to nurture ourselves is to be loved. Love is the most important aspect of living and nurturing is the action of love. Nurturing is our commitment to act kindly, with an open heart and a generous hand. Our world is crying out for our human nature to unite with our heavenly nature. Through this union, we nurture the delivery of a magnificent future. Everything becomes like a heavenly marriage and everyone is treated like a precious jewel to be treasured. Remember: The virtue of nurturance is an art that ensures a canvas of life filled with splendorous beauty. 22

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