Calm, Clear, and Loving Soothing the Distressed Mind, Healing the Wounded Heart Mitchell D. Ginsberg, Ph.D. Second revised, updated, & corrected Edition Wisdom Moon Publishing 2012
CALM, CLEAR, AND LOVING: SOOTHING THE DISTRESSED MIND, HEALING THE WOUNDED HEART Second revised, updated, & corrected Edition, 2012 Copyright 2010, 2012 Mitchell D. Ginsberg All rights reserved. Tous droits réservés. No part of this work may be copied, reproduced, recorded, stored, or translated, in any form, or transmitted by any means electronic, mechanical, or other, whether by photocopy, fax, email, internet group postings, or otherwise, without written permission from the copyright holder, except for brief quotations in reviews for a magazine, journal, newspaper, broadcast, podcast, etc., or in scholarly or academic papers, when quoted with a full citation to this work. Published by Wisdom Moon Publishing LLC San Diego, CA, USA Wisdom Moon, the Wisdom Moon logo, Wisdom Moon Publishing, and WMP are trademarks of Wisdom Moon Publishing LLC. www.wisdommoonpublishing.com ISBN 978-1-938459-12-2 (hardcover, alk. paper) ISBN 978-1-938459-14-6 (softcover, alk. paper) ISBN 978-1-938459-18-4 (ebook) LCCN 2012938123 Front cover photo by Tania Ginsberg. Back cover photo by Anatole Ginsberg. Front cover concept by Tania Ginsberg and Etienne Jambou. Frontispiece: Computer-created image, Lotus Fully Opening to the Sun (original, 1974, New Haven); yìnzhāng (seal or chop) imprint, with characters hand-chiseled by Zhāng Chūnshēng, 2009, Beijing. 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
TABLE OF CONTENTS Dedication page Frontispiece Preface to the Second Edition i Introduction to the Second Edition v For RCS: The Passionate Robert C. Solomon Memorial Conference Foreword by Kathleen M. Higgins, Ph.D. xv Foreword by Claudio Naranjo, M.D., Ed.D. xix Foreword by Audrey Rachel Stevenson xxii Acknowledgments xxix Epigraphs Frontispiece ix ORIENTATIONS (AND APPLICATIONS) 1 The Concept of Love and its Logic 1 An early paper in the philosophy of emotions, with background and updated applications to broader issues in related fields of interest 2 Action and Communication & Schizophrenogenesis 26 A paper on miscommunication in ward environments, applying a logical theory of schizophrenia-encouraging interactions 3 Nietzschean Psychiatry Revisited 59 Nietzsche on the healing of the mind and soul, with attention to the larger context of the issues he addressed 4 Individual Therapy and Family Therapy (à la française) 103 Understanding families as more than a group of individuals 5 Commentary on Nietzsche s HAH 379: Survival of the Parents 108 On the implications of the idea that our parents have a particular impact on our suffering, and what to do about that (focusing on Nietzsche & Cyrulnik) 6 Pierre Janet: Misleading Concepts and Integration 117 On misreading unfamiliar theories, with a fresh look at the writings of French philosopher-psychiatrist Pierre Janet, and at his appreciation of personal integration
APPLICATIONS (AND ORIENTATIONS) 7 Pathologizing Distress 145 On the theoretical shift from seeing the difficulties of the human condition to seeing sickness and the need for treatment and cure 8 From Psychotherapy to Psychospirituality 149 Comparing two models of personal transformation 9 Before the First Step 1 54 On the psychology of not yet being able to contemplate facts about ourselves without being judgmental 10 The Liberating Power of Mindfulness 164 The basic principles of an ancient and modern practice that is radically more than a stress-management program 11 Inter-Personal Mindfulness Practice (IPMP) 174 Applications of this mindfulness practice to our interpersonal world of human connectedness 12 The Pivot of the Dao 184 On Daoist tradition and its understanding of deeper wisdom 13 The Second Transformation: Our Third Nature & Recalibration 211 From nature, to second nature, to freedom 14 The Transmission of Mind 215 On the transformation of heart-mind through the teacher-student relationship, and alternative models of our inspiring human inter-connectedness 15 After the Death of Mahāmāyā 223 Life without mother for the boy later known as the Buddha, with possible implications for our own lives 16 Shame Hiding 228 The consciousness and experience (phenomenology) of shame 17 Remorse Wrestling 243 The consciousness and experience (phenomenology) of remorse 18 Forgive and Remember 247 Orientation for those who feel they have been wronged 19 Life, Death, and Survival 258 On life and mortality, ancestor worship, mourning, existential appreciation, and survival 20 Can t I Do Anything Right, Daddy? 261 A child s understanding 21 Yearning for Transformation: Psychospirituality 262 On the transformation of consciousness
22 We Know the Path 264 On delicate power 23 When You Yell At Me 265 On violent speech, its impact, and our grounded options 24 Reaching Out 266 On the difficult but rewarding path forward 25 If Only I Could, I Would 267 On the possible and the wished-for 26 Options When Overwhelmed 268 Considerations to take with us, for application if appropriate 27 Being Hopeful, Being Fearful 270 On mind-set and facing the world 28 An Enigma No More 271 On appreciating our enigmatic thinking and behavior 29 We are Creatures 272 On our complexity and simplicity 30 Love 273 On love, in poetry 31 Full Circle Transformation 274 On an inclusive and visionary appreciation of our lives Appendix: Pinyin/Wade-Giles and Kanji Transcriptions 276 Bibliography 283 Preliminary Index 315 Reviews and an Invitation About the Author