Harnessing the Heart brain connection to Enhance Relationships Prof. Dr. Beena Rani Goel MDS
Relationship problems have a deep impact on the quality of one s life Broken relationships are on an all time high now
Mysteries of the Heart Research explains how the heart plays an extraordinary role in our lives, far beyond what is commonly known
The Heart is 100 times electrically stronger and up to 5,000 times magnetically stronger than the Brain
In many cultures throughout history, the heart has been considered the source of emotions, passion and wisdom. However, scientists emphasized the role of the brain in the head as being responsible for such experiences.
Interestingly, recent studies have explored physiological mechanisms by which the heart communicates with the brain, thereby influencing information processing, perceptions, emotions and health. These studies provide the scientific basis to explain how and why the heart affects mental clarity, creativity and emotional balance.
It is only with the heart that one sees rightly. What is essential is usually invisible to the eye ( Quote : Antoine de Saint- Exupery)
Before you make any kind of final judgment about something, it's helpful to remember that how something appears is always a matter of perspective and each one of us has our own unique perspective of the entire universe...
Consider a common situation: The wife has cooked her husband s favorite meal. He returns late from the office, and he had dinner already. Scene 1 The wife is in tears when the husband returns, she accuses him of not giving importance to her emotions and efforts. He becomes defensive and tells things that hurt her more. In the end both of them spend a sleepless night.
Scene 2 The wife makes some tea when the husband returns, and over the tea she has a loving conversation with him and finds out the situation in the office that made him come late.
Relationship is affected by the spoken words and behavior
Heart always tries to guide, but its messages are subtle and gets drowned in the chatter from the brain This chatter comes from the beliefs and conditionings one has accumulated over the years and past lives. If the heart s guidance can influence the brain before it initiates the response, it can lead to a harmonious relationship.
How to make the Heart Brain connection powerful? We can use imagination to initiate this process As PLR therapists, we know the power of imagination The power of imagination makes us Infinite John Muir
(Brain) The principle is to imagine the Universal energy, Activate the energy center in the palm, Channel this energy to the heart, and Establish the connection to the brain
Why do we use the palms? According to Frank Wilson, a neurologist at the University of California School of Medicine, if we were to draw the human body with each body part in proportion to the territory of the human brain connected to that body part, this is the picture we would get:
Once the Heart brain connection is firmly established, The eyes, ears and tongue are brought in connection with this newly established energy stream Because we want to improvise the way things are seen, heard, and responded by talking
Finally, the attention is brought back to the heart and centered
What does this session do? A very personal response is seen in cases. Examples: Case 1: A 55 year old lady came with depression and remorse from a recent argument with her son-inlaw. During a 20 minute session, she felt what the son-inlaw was feeling at the time of argument. She could feel his emotions that made him speak what he had spoken.
This was a revelation to her, an aspect that did not cross her mind. Knowing this, she could forgive her son-in-law and she was much relieved.
Case 2: A 32 year old lady came to me with a sad expression. Her husband had snubbed her in front of a friend. She felt that her opinion did not have any value to her husband and her self esteem took a plunge. In a 15 minute session, she saw the incidence in its true sense, she understood her mistake during the conversation and realized that her husband s reaction was just normal. She looked so relieved and was beaming once the session was over.
Conducting the session Lead the client to a relaxed state (even a light trance is sufficient) Lead the client through a recent traumatic encounter with another person. Let him/her recall and experience all the details vividly. Give time to feel the emotions.
Conducting the session. Imagine a ball of healing light above your left palm. Feel the ball of light gently dropping into the centre of your left palm Gently touch the centre of the client s left palm with an acupressure wooden gadget. Feel the vibration in the centre of your left palm
Conducting the session Give a few moments of silence Now imagine the healing light turning into a shimmering green light Imagine it flowing through your left arm, through the elbow, through the fore arm into the heart centre Imagine this vibrant green light brightening up your heart centre, expanding it. Feel the heart centre absorbing this healing energy Feel the vibrations in your heart centre
Conducting the session Give a few moments of silence Now imagine a stream of blue light traveling upwards from the heart center, to the brain Imagine this blue light reaching the top of your head Imagine this blue light expanding and filling up your brain Feel the vibrations in your brain
Conducting the session Give a few moments of silence Now imagine this blue healing light becoming a dazzling white healing light Imagine this white healing light flooding your eyes Imagine this healing light removing all the beliefs and conditionings that act as a veil in front of your eyes Now onwards you will see whatever your eyes see, in the true spirit, in tune with Nature
Conducting the session Take a deep breath. Are you ready to integrate this knowledge into your psyche? Get the affirmation
Conducting the session Now imagine the white healing light flooding your ears Imagine this healing light removing all the beliefs and conditionings that color the words that your hear Now onwards you will hear whatever your ears hear, in its true essence, in tune with Nature
Conducting the session Take a deep breath. Are you ready to integrate this knowledge into your psyche? Get the affirmation
Conducting the session Now imagine this white healing light flowing through your tongue Imagine this healing light removing the beliefs and conditionings that modify the words that you speak From now on you will speak only what is conducive for a healthy and happy relationship
Conducting the session Take a deep breath. Are you ready to integrate this knowledge into your psyche? Get the affirmation Take three deep breaths, breathing from your heart centre
Conducting the session Give a few moments of silence Now go back to the beginning of the same incident that you recalled at the start of the session. Just be an observer and watch what unfolds. Notice the difference in what is being seen, heard and spoken
Conducting the session Give a few minutes of silence Whenever you are ready, you can come back to the present and now.
Advantages of this technique It is a great transformative experience It is a powerful add on to the basic PLRT in relationship issues It can be used as a short session before the actual long PLR session appointment to increase the client s confidence in PLRT
Advantages of this technique Though it is great for relationship issues, it is also helpful in other problem areas Enhancing heart brain connection will improve correct decision making, leading to success in life We can also use it on ourselves
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