MODULE 13: AWAKENED RELATIONSHIPS

MODULE 13: AWAKENED RELATIONSHIPS

Module 13: Awakened Relationships Awakened Relationships Introduction Have you ever been in a relationship that just clicked: where you and the other person were like life-long friends. Or, have you never had that experience. Why? Did you ever stop to think that maybe you were to blame for not having such an experience? Remember the adage, to have a friend, you have to be a friend. Joe Vitale s This module is designed to help you awaken relationships with yourself and with others. If you want true, loving relationships, you must stop being a victim, love yourself, and awaken yourself to the Divine. Objectives After studying this module, you should be able to accomplish the following: Describe four steps to awaken relationships. Identify negative parts of your current and past relationships, which have been holding you back. Define what it is to be and have true friends. Identify and clear the negative, whiny, victim within you. Identify and gravitate towards true circles of support. Explain the key to lasting, loving relationships and for staying mentally healthy. Make peace with your ego. Forgive yourself and others. Clear past grudges and move to a new levels of awakening; thus, attracting new, more awakened relationships. Pre-Assessment To assess your current level of understanding about the topics in this module, please answer the following questions. (A Success Journal is available for you to write in, at the end of module 16.) 1. How would you describe an awakened relationship? 2. What would you say is the key to lasting, loving relationships? Copyright Achieve Today, LLC & Hypnotic Marketing 2014 v3.0 Forgiving yourself and forgiving others are the most powerful things you can do to free your energy, to attract and retain the positive. When you haven t fully forgiven yourself or others, you are still car-rying around the past. Joe Vitale Page 79

Joe Vitale s MIRACLES COACHING Course Curriculum Volume 2: Manifesting We can help others in the world more by making the most of yourself than in any other way. Earl Nightingale 3. In what ways could you start creating a greater sense of awakening in yourself, to help your relationships take on a new level of awakening? 4. Have you ever truly forgiven yourself and/or others? If so, describe the experience. Relationships and the Four Steps of Awakening Joe Vitale s Page 80 Copyright Achieve Today, LLC & Hypnotic Marketing 2014 v3.0 An awakened relationship is completely based on love. Now, let s briefly discuss the four steps of awakening. Step One: Victimhood There is a difference between being a victim of circumstances (or of experiences), as compared to having a victim consciousness. You may have had difficult experiences in your life; however, you shouldn t hold on to them and let them hold power over you for the rest of your life this is victim consciousness. It is important that you understand the difference. Your early programming may have led you to believe that you are a victim. And often, you may see yourself as a victim and don t even know it. To help you recognize yourself as a victim, notice what (or whom) you complain about (the system, the government, the President, terrorists, neighbors, friends, family, the economy, the boss, etc.). Step Two: Empowerment Empowerment is where you understand that an event occurred and that you had a hand in making it happen (consciously or unconsciously). As you reach the stage of empowerment, you start to feel fed-up with being a victim. You decide that you ve had enough and that you are going to do whatever you can to change. This is when you realize that things could be better, and the only way they will be better is if YOU make it happen! Step Three: Surrender Surrender is where you overcome the pitfalls that occur from empowerment (step two). For example, when people start to feel empowered, they often overstep their boundaries. They try to take control of everything and anything, if only just to prove to themselves that they can.

Module 13: Awakened Relationships However, surrender is realizing that there is something out there that is greater than yourself (such as the Divine); and that the Divine has a plan for you, which can be for your greater good that s the Divine s intention! When you surrender to that, you will have the means to become fully awakened. Step Four: Awakening Now, once you ve surrendered to the Divine, you have explored something worthy and you ve made the dare. You re on the road to doing it. You are not your body, thoughts, or feelings you are simply experiencing them. You are the witness and a part of the Divine that has chosen to come to this world in human form. When you are awakened, your energy and efforts need to be aligned with the Divine s purpose. As you learn to recognize the Divine and the its purpose, you begin to open up to a state of constant progression, development, and awakening. The awakened state is more a state of operation than a destination. And because we are only human, we have to strive for greater awareness, greater clearness, and greater energy. You know, when everybody starts to live from their heart, and go for what they want, they don t go for the same things. That s the beauty of this. We don t all want BMWs. We don t all want the same person. We don t all want the same experiences. We don t all want the same clothing. We don t all want [fill in the blank]. Joe Vitale So how do these four steps relate to awakened relationships? Let me summarize this concept with the following; then, I will elaborate more about relationships with the remainder of this module: The first step is victimhood. In the second stage of awakening, people feel empowered; therefore, relationships can be very strong, very challenging, and very growth-oriented. A relationship should sooner or later evolve into the third stage: surrender. However, you don t surrender to another person; but rather, you surrender to the Divine. You surrender to a higher power. In the fourth stage, you become awake. An awakened relationship evolves from love. You are, in fact, loved, and the other person is coming from love. In an awakened relationship, you see only love, and the other person sees only love. If the other person is coming from an awakened relationship, then they too are seeing only love. Love is both the nature and the description of an awakened relationship. Copyright Achieve Today, LLC & Hypnotic Marketing 2014 v3.0 Joe Vitale s Page 81

Joe Vitale s MIRACLES COACHING Course Curriculum Volume 2: Manifesting If someone has a circle of friends that keeps them feeling that they can t have much more in their lives, they won t attempt to have any more. Joe Vitale Real/True Friends Unfortunately, it s a sad truth that many people in this world don t have what I call true friends. One definition of a true friend, that I subscribe to, is a friend that would do everything in their power to break you out of a prison in a third world country if by some dark twist of fate you found yourself there. Who would stop everything and run to rescue a friend on the other side of the world? Who would take on that kind of risk? A true friend would. By that definition, most of us don t have true friends we have acquaintances. We have coworkers. We have neighbors. We have people that we see from time to time and people that we just enjoy hanging around with. But having someone who has your utmost well-being in mind, including your entire life, is relatively rare. If you are coming from an awakened relationship, then you re more likely to attract that kind of person because you come from a place of love from a place of truly loving yourself; therefore, you are more likely to attract true, loving friends. My full definition of a true friend is someone who totally supports you, who encourages you to take healthy risks, backs you up when you need help, can speak from a place of ruthless honesty without hurting your feelings, and has your utmost well being at heart. And please note that this HAS to be a two-way relationship! Negative People Joe Vitale s Page 82 Copyright Achieve Today, LLC & Hypnotic Marketing 2014 v3.0 Depending on the stage of awakening you are in, you will at times drag into your life negative, whiny, and victim-oriented people. This is only because they represent a part of you they are the shadow-side of you! The person you complain about the person that is negative, whiny, and acts like a victim actually represents that part of you that feels the exact same way. In a very real way, the relationships you attract are the relationships that exist within you. So, to begin the healing and awakening in your relationships, you have to do the same thing within you. You have to heal your own relationships within yourself that s where you have to start. To do so, you have to take complete responsibility and examine the negative, whiny victim inside of you. As you own it, as you release it, and as you become more awakened and empowered, those negative people in your life will either change or they will leave, because the energy within you no longer attracts them.

Module 13: Awakened Relationships Ying Yang Relationships Relationships are usually mutually beneficial or they end. If you re not getting something from the other person, and that person isn t getting something from you, then the party is over. Sometimes relationships may start a little bumpy. But, as two people get to know each other and clean up their unconscious beliefs about relationships, friendships, love, deservingness, etc., then things begin to smooth out. Generally, people can then have a nice time together. However, if at any time, at any point, in either person, if they feel that there is no longer any benefit to the relationship, then most likely they will stop the music and move on. The number one way to stay mentally healthy is to have no secrets. Dr. Sigmund Freud Circles of Support If people have circles of friends, which keeps them feeling that they can t have more in their life, they won t attempt to have more. Their immediate support groups will support them to stay right where they are! For example, when I was in college, most of my friends felt that the only way to increase their income was to get a better job. Everyone I talked to felt the same way. That s because my circle was thinking the same way. We all believed the same thing, and we supported each other in being stuck. Most people are in the first stage of life: victimhood. They feel stuck; they attract people that feel the same way; and so their state of victimhood continues because it s simply reinforced. For example, I saw an old friend in Ohio. He told me he could never have the life I have. When I asked why, he basically said it wasn t possible for him. Now, I could talk to him for hours about new realities and new possibilities; or, I could have him read one of my books or learn about the Law of Attraction. But when I left, he would turn to his current family and friends, or to his coworkers, ask them what they think, and they would reinforce his original belief that it wasn t possible for him. He would then shrug his shoulders and say, See? It isn t possible for me. But you can change! The right story can awaken in you the next stage; and that s why I tell so many stories in my programs, books, and audios to help you awaken from the trance of limitations. But a faster and more permanent way to change is to attract people who support your dreams. Today, my circle of friends generally believes that nothing is impossible. We don t know what our limits are, don t pay too much attention to current reality, and we try for whatever we want. My circle supports that thought process, so it s easier to move forward with even the big- Copyright Achieve Today, LLC & Hypnotic Marketing 2014 v3.0 Joe Vitale s Page 83

Joe Vitale s MIRACLES COACHING Course Curriculum Volume 2: Manifesting Your ego is not to be demolished. You need it to get through life. Joe Vitale gest dreams and goals. For example, I m planning a movement to end homelessness. No one in my circle thinks that I m nuts; instead, they encourage me. However, if I talk to the homeless, they feel that THEY ARE STUCK. When they talk to their circle, they agree that they are stuck. But when I talk to them, I introduce a new reality one that supports their advancement. If they listen to me, and if they or I create a new circle of support for them, they can and will change. And here s how magic happens, once you make a decision and take action. If you are stuck, most likely you have a circle of friends and family that help you to stay there. They most likely aren t doing it on purpose; nor are they purposely trying to hold you down. However, you are participating with them by allowing it to happen. This has to change, for you to change. There s no one to blame here. You don t need to fire your family or friends. (Then again, maybe you do.) But you do need to take responsibility for where you are and make new decisions to change what you don t like. You need an encouraging support team. So does anyone trying to overcome any challenge. The Key to Lasting, Loving Relationships Not surprisingly, the key to having long-lasting, loving, intimate relationships is love. So what is love? Love is a mutual understanding: the total non-judgmental acceptance of the another person and yourself. Love has no bounds. Love has no judgment. Love comes from clarity, from light, from peace, and from happiness. In order to have this kind of ideal relationship, whether at work or at home, you have to see love in other people. And, you have to see love within you. An awakened relationship is based on, and is itself, love. Joe Vitale s Little Secrets Page 84 Copyright Achieve Today, LLC & Hypnotic Marketing 2014 v3.0 The famed psychologist, Sigmund Freud, once said, The number one way to stay mentally healthy is to have no secrets. I think there is a profound truth in that statement, as there is profound healing that comes from having no secrets between two people. I believe that having complete honesty with another person, and with yourself, is the number one key to having an awakened relationship in your life and in all areas of it. Additionally, when people are ruthlessly honest with themselves (about their past, about forgiveness, about what they want), they bring peace into their lives and into their relationships. Having no secrets is a key and a direct path to awakened relationships.

Module 13: Awakened Relationships Making Peace with Your Ego The ego is your friend. Your ego exists to help you survive. None of us can be here without an ego; however, you do not want your ego to control your life. In other words, you don t want your ego to drive the bus of your life namely because it will hit walls and other buses. Your ego will have accidents. However, your ego is not to be demolished. You need it to get through life. It needs to be your friend. The best way for your ego to function healthily is when it serves the Divine. The Divine should be driving the bus, steering the ship, propelling the plane; therefore, you and your ego should be a servant to the Divine. The Ego Trap Unconditional love is about clearing everything to the point that nothing triggers you, nothing creates an anger or frustration in you, and there s compassion in every response. When you are able to accept everything around you with love and you have no judgment, you have reached the ultimate, awakened place. Joe Vitale The more you work on yourself, the more you will attract change in the world around you. If you want world peace, you begin by finding peace within you. As you work on yourself, your life-partners will change or leave, your friends will change or leave, and your colleagues, work acquaintances, etc. will change or you may leave. It all rearranges itself, compared to what s within you. So thinking, far too many people make these two fundamental mistakes, concerning their egos. Having All the Power What an ego trip. You DO NOT have total control. You aren t God. You can t just think something and manifest it. You have to take action, too. And you have to clear yourself of anything in the way of your deserving what you want. You have more power than you ever imagined, but you don t run the show; you barely run the projector. Joe Vitale s Having No Power at All This is worse. It s where you blame the President, terrorists, your family, your past, the neighbors, and anyone other than yourself for what occurs. I m sad that so many people dismiss the Law of Attraction and Art of Manifestation because they feel powerless or look at the news and feel depressed. Right behind despondency, blame is the worst mistake of all. And when you think the outer world proves that you have no power, then you ve attracted exactly that: no power! Copyright Achieve Today, LLC & Hypnotic Marketing 2014 v3.0 Page 85

Joe Vitale s MIRACLES COACHING Course Curriculum Volume 2: Manifesting Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. Albert Schweitzer Unconditional Love You have far more control than what you can ever imagine. You learn this as you become more and more awakened. Your ultimate goal is to reach a point of unconditional love: the most awakened place. Unconditional love is about clearing everything to the point that nothing triggers you, nothing creates anger or frustration, and there s compassion your every response. When you are able to accept everything around you with love and you have no judgment, you have reached the ultimate, awakened place. The Power of Forgiveness Joe Vitale s Page 86 Copyright Achieve Today, LLC & Hypnotic Marketing 2014 v3.0 There is a natural human reluctance to forgive; however, forgiveness is the most powerful clearing and cleansing technique that there is. If you have a block anywhere in your life, then you have probably not forgiven yourself or someone involved who may have contributed to that block. Very often, we have done things in the past that we regret (we said something, did something, etc.), and many of these things are part of youthful mistakes. Most of us have a tough time giving those up. Consequently, we unconsciously beat ourselves up. Forgiving yourself and others are two of the most powerful things you can do to free your energy and to attract and retain positive energy. If you are not in the current moment, then you are in the past or the future. For example, if you haven t forgiven someone including yourself then you are still in the past. You re carrying around the charge (the energy) associated with that negative experience. To fully clear, to forgive yourself and others, is the most significant step in the process of becoming awakened of being able to attract, recognize, and create miracles. When you get to the mindset that nothing bad happened (that events have contributed to your current state of transformation), that is radical forgiveness. This state will open up all sorts of miracles and enable you to attract the most ideal, awakened relationships. Post-Assessment Use the following questions to evaluate what you have learned from this module. (A Success Journal is available for you to write in, at the end of module 16.) 1. Now, how do you describe awakened relationships?

Module 13: Awakened Relationships 2. What is the key to lasting, loving relationships? 3. In what ways could you start creating a greater sense of awakening in yourself, to help your relationships take on a levels of awakening? Assignments Trying to change the outer is like seeing your unclean or unshaven face in the mirror and trying to shave or clean the mirror. Joe Vitale Review this module and write down any questions you may have for your coach. Complete these exercises (on the pages that follow): Clear the Past: Think back on any event (or events) in which you still carry even the tiniest inkling of a grudge. List any and all of them, and describe each event(s) in detail. Be Responsible: Using the events you described in each instance(s) from the previous exercise, list the ways in which you can take responsibility for the outcomes. Clearing Grudges: With the help of your coach, use Ho oponopono to clear each grudge (event) and record your feelings for each instance. Clearing Control: Go through the clearing process with your coach on each of the items you listed in the previous exercise. Joe Vitale s Copyright Achieve Today, LLC & Hypnotic Marketing 2014 v3.0 Page 87

Clear the Past EXERCISES Take some time to think back on any event (or events) in which you still carry even the tiniest inkling of a grudge. To begin, list any and all of them. Page 88

EXERCISES Clear the Past (cont.) Now describe each event(s) in detail, by describing them and the circumstances that led up to you holding a grudge, being angry, and never wanting to forgive. Be sure to list the key participants who were part of the event(s). Page 89

Be Responsible EXERCISES Using the events you described in each instance(s) from the previous exercise, list the ways in which you can take responsibility for the outcomes. Be sure to use ruthless honesty! Page 90

EXERCISES Be Responsible (cont.) Page 91

EXERCISES Clearing Grudges Now, with the help of your coach, use Ho oponopono to clear each grudge (event) and record your feelings for each instance. Page 92

EXERCISES Clearing Grudges (cont.) Page 93

EXERCISES Clearing Controls Go through the clearing process with your coach on each of the items you listed in the previous exercise. Note anything related to each issue and continue clearing for the next 30 days. Page 94

EXERCISES Clearing Controls (cont.) Page 95