1. Faith, Love, and Hope Colossians 1:1-8 Gnosticism Colossians 1 1 Paul, an apostle of Jesus Christ by the will of God, and Timothy our brother, 2 To the saints and faithful brethren in Christ who are at Colossae: Grace to you and peace from God our Father. 3 We give thanks to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, praying always for you, 4 since we heard of your faith in Christ Jesus and the love which you have for all the saints; 5 because of the hope laid up for you in heaven, of which you previously heard in the word of truth, the gospel 6 which has come to you, just as in all the world also it is constantly bearing fruit and increasing, even as it has been doing in you also since the day you heard of it and understood the grace of God in truth; 7 just as you learned it from Epaphras, our beloved fellow bond-servant, who is a faithful servant of Christ on our behalf, 8 and he also informed us of your love in the Spirit. Entry level fruit vss. 1-8 - faith in Jesus Christ - love for the saints - hope laid up in heaven You heard of all of these in conjunction with the Gospel the word of truth reality. It came to you and to the whole world. It is constantly bearing fruit and increasing. It s doing the same in you since you heard it and understand grace Epaphras started the cvhurch ministered to Paul
2. Intercession Colossians 1:9-12 9 For this reason also, since the day we heard of it, we have not ceased to pray for you and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, 10 so that you will walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; 11 strengthened with all power, according to His glorious might, for the attaining of all steadfastness and patience; joyously 12 giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified us to share in the inheritance of the saints in Light. My prayer that you be filled with the knowledge of God s will So that... 1. You ll have a worthy walk 2. You ll please Him in every way 3. You ll bear fruit in every good work 4. You ll increase in the knowledge of God 5. You ll be strengthened with all power according to His glorious might for the attaining of steadfastness and patience 6. You ll give joyous thanks to the Father
3. Jesus Manifest Diety Colossians 1:13-23 13 For He rescued us from the domain of darkness, and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son, 14 in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins. 15 He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation. 16 For by Him all things were created, both in the heavens and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities all things have been created through Him and for Him. 17 He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together. 18 He is also head of the body, the church; and He is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, so that He Himself will come to have first place in everything. 19 For it was the Father s good pleasure for all the fullness to dwell in Him, Jesus Is... the image of the invisible God the firstborn of all creation the Creator of everything in heaven on earth visible or invisible thrones, dominions, rulers, authorities all created through Him and for Him before all things who holds everything together the Head of the body firstborn from the dead coming to have first place in every thing having all the fullness in Him 20 and through Him to reconcile all things to Himself, having made peace through the blood of His cross; through Him, I say, whether things on earth or things in heaven.
4. Jesus Your Manifest Destiny Colossians 1:13-23 13 For He rescued us from the domain of darkness, and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son, 1. He is your manifest destiny vss. 13, 14, 21-23 Manifest Destiny is a phrase that expressed the belief that the United States had a mission to expand, spreading its form of democracy and freedom. Advocates of Manifest Destiny believed that expansion was not only good, but that it was obvious ( manifest ) and certain ( destiny ). Originally a political catch phrase of the 19th century, Manifest Destiny eventually became a standard historical term, often used as a synonym for the territorial expansion of the United States across North America towards the Pacific Ocean. - rescue from the domain of chaos into the domain of beneficent rule by Jesus Christ 14 in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins. - redemption through Jesus blood this means forgiveness of our sins 15 He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation. 16 For by Him all things were created, both in the heavens and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities all things have been created through Him and for Him. 17 He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together. 18 He is also head of the body, the church; and He is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, so that He Himself will come to have first place in everything. 19 For it was the Father s good pleasure for all the fullness to dwell in Him, 20 and through Him to reconcile all things to Himself, having made peace through the blood of His cross; through Him, I say, whether things on earth or things in heaven. 21 And although you were formerly alienated and hostile in mind, engaged in evil deeds, 22 yet He has now reconciled you in His fleshly body through death, in order to present you before Him holy and blameless and beyond reproach 23 if indeed you continue in the faith firmly established and steadfast, and not moved away from the hope of the gospel that you have heard, which was proclaimed in all creation under heaven, and of which I, Paul, was made a minister. - reconciliation in spite of the past with its sins and failures in His fleshly body Jesus did this by His death this is committed to a future
Power In a seminary missions class, Herbert Jackson told how, as a new missionary, he was assigned a car that would not start without a push. After pondering his problem, he devised a plan. He went to the school near his home, got permission to take some children out of class, and had them push his car off. As he made his rounds, he would either park on a hill or leave the engine running. He used this ingenious procedure for two years. Ill health forced the Jackson family to leave, and a new missionary came to that station. When Jackson proudly began to explain his arrangement for getting the car started, the new man began looking under the hood. Before the explanation was complete, the new missionary interrupted, Why, Dr. Jackson, I believe the only trouble is this loose cable. He gave the cable a twist, stepped into the car, pushed the switch, and to Jackson s astonishment, the engine roared to life. For two years needless trouble had become routine. The power was there all the time. Only a loose connection kept Jackson from putting that power to work. J.B. Phillips paraphrases Ephesians l:19-20, How tremendous is the power available to us who believe in God. When we make firm our connection with God, his life and power flow through us. One New Year s Day, in the Tournament of Roses parade, a beautiful float suddenly sputtered and quit. It was out of gas. The whole parade was held up until someone could get a can of gas. The amusing thing was this float represented the Standard Oil Company. With its vast oil resources, its truck was out of gas. Tom carried his new boat to the edge of the river. He carefully placed it in the water and slowly let out the string. How smoothly the boat sailed! Tom sat in the warm sunshine, admiring the little boat that he had built. Suddenly a strong current caught the boat. Tom tried to pull it back to shore, but the string broke. The little boat raced downstream. Tom ran along the sandy shore as fast as he could. But his little boat soon slipped out of sight. All afternoon he searched for the boat. Finally, when it was too dark to look any longer, Tom sadly went home. A few days later, on the way home from school, Tom spotted a boat just like his in a store window. When he got closer, he could see sure enough it was his! Tom hurried to the store manager: Sir, that s my boat in your window! I made it! Sorry, son, but someone else brought it in this morning. If you want it, you ll have to buy it for one dollar. Tom ran home and counted all his money. Exactly one dollar! When he reached the store, he rushed to the counter. Here s the money for my boat. As he left the store, Tom hugged his boat and said, Now you re twice mine. First, I made you and now I bought you. A gathering of friends at an English estate nearly turned to tragedy when one of the children strayed into deep water. The gardener heard the cries for help, plunged in, and rescued the drowning child. That youngster s name was Winston Churchill. His grateful parents asked the gardener what they could do to reward him. He hesitated, then said, I wish my son could go to college someday and become a doctor. We ll see to it, Churchill s parents promised. Years later, while Sir Winston was prime minister of England, he was stricken with pneumonia. The country s best physician was summoned. His name was Dr. Alexander Fleming, the man who discovered and developed penicillin. He was also the son of that gardener who had saved young Winston from drowning. Later Churchill remarked, Rarely has one man owed his life twice to the same person. Not long before she died in 1988, in a moment of surprising candor in television, Marghanita Laski, one of our bestknown secular humanists and novelists, said, What I envy most about you Christians is your forgiveness; I have nobody to forgive me.
5. The Mystery Christ in You, the Hope Of Glory Colossians 1:24-29 Colossians 1 24 Now I rejoice in my sufferings for your sake, and in my flesh I do my share on behalf of His body, which is the church, in filling up what is lacking in Christ s afflictions. 25 Of this church I was made a minister according to the stewardship from God bestowed on me for your benefit, so that I might fully carry out the preaching of the word of God, 26 that is, the mystery which has been hidden from the past ages and generations, but has now been manifested to His saints, 27 to whom God willed to make known what is the riches of the glory of this mystery among the Gentiles, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory. 28 We proclaim Him, admonishing every man and teaching every man with all wisdom, so that we may present every man complete in Christ. 29 For this purpose also I labor, striving according to His power, which mightily works within me. 2 Corinthians 4:7-11 But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, so that the surpassing greatness of the power will be of God and not from ourselves; we are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not despairing; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying about in the body the dying of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our body. For we who live are constantly being delivered over to death for Jesus sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh. 1. The ministry is difficult vs. 24 Jesus suffered to start it For Christ also died for sins once for all, the just for the unjust, so that He might bring us to God, having been put to death in the flesh, but made alive in the spirit 1 Peter 3:18 subsequent ministers are invovled in His suffering it s all for the Church 2. The ministry is defined vss. 25-29 it s of the Church (no one is an island) a stewardship given for the benefit of others done by fully preaching the word of God it s the constant unveiling of a mystery (accomplished through preaching) now manifest to the saints the rich glory is among the Gentiles it s simply Christ in you (He is your hope of glory) it s making people complete in Christ by proclaiming Chirst admonishing teaching laboring, striving according to His power mightily working in you 15-18 For all things are for your sakes, so that the grace which is spreading to more and more people may cause the giving of thanks to abound to the glory of God. Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day. For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison, while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.
6. Faith or Philosophy Colossians 2:1-10,a Colossians 2 1 For I want you to know how great a struggle I have on your behalf and for those who are at Laodicea, and for all those who have not personally seen my face, 2 that their hearts may be encouraged, having been knit together in love, and attaining to all the wealth that comes from the full assurance of understanding, resulting in a true knowledge of God s mystery, that is, Christ Himself, 3 in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge. 9 For in Him all the fullness of Deity dwells in bodily form, 10 and in Him you have been made complete, 1. The supremacy of Christ vss. 2,3,9,10 He is God s mystery 2 In Him are all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge 3 In Him the fullness of deity dwells in bodily form 9 In Him believers have been made complete 10 4 I say this so that no one will delude you with persuasive argument. 8 See to it that no one takes you captive through philosophy and empty deception, according to the tradition of men, according to the elementary principles of the world, rather than according to Christ. 2. The threat of philosophy vss. 4,8 People trying to delude with persuasive arguments 4 The threat is being taken captive 8 Philosophy is part of empty deception, tradition of men, elementary principles of the world all of which are contrary to Christ 8 5 For even though I am absent in body, nevertheless I am with you in spirit, rejoicing to see your good discipline and the stability of your faith in Christ. 6 Therefore as you have received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in Him, 7 having been firmly rooted and now being built up in Him and established in your faith, just as you were instructed, and overflowing with gratitude. 3. The Christ life vss. 2,5-7 encouraged hearts, knit together in love, attaining to all the wealth that comes from the full assurance of understanding, resulting in a true knowledge of Christ 2 good discipline and stability of faith in Christ 5 walk in Christ the same way you received Him 6 keep firmly rooted, be built up in Him, be established in your faith, and overflow with gratitude 7
7. Faith s Strength Colossians 2:11-15 Colossians 2 10,b and He is the head over all rule and authority; 11 and in Him you were also circumcised with a circumcision made without hands, in the removal of the body of the flesh by the circumcision of Christ; 12 having been buried with Him in baptism, in which you were also raised up with Him through faith in the working of God, who raised Him from the dead. 13 When you were dead in your transgressions and the uncircumcision of your flesh, He made you alive together with Him, having forgiven us all our transgressions, 14 having canceled out the certificate of debt consisting of decrees against us, which was hostile to us; and He has taken it out of the way, having nailed it to the cross. 15 When He had disarmed the rulers and authorities, He made a public display of them, having triumphed over them through Him. 1. Rests in Christ 10,b He is the head over all rule and authority 1 Corinthians 15:25-27 For He must reign until He has put all His enemies under His feet. The last enemy that will be abolished is death. For He has put all things in subjection under His feet. Hebrews 10:11-14 Every priest stands daily ministering and offering time after time the same sacrifices, which can never take away sins; but He, having offered one sacrifice for sins for all time, sat down at the right hand of God, waiting from that time onward until His enemies be made a foot stool for His feet. For by one offering He has perfected for all time those who are sanctified. 4. Rests in His complete victory 15 God personally disarmed all the rulers and authorities 1 Corinthians 2:6-8 Yet we do speak wisdom among those who are mature; a wisdom, however, not of this age nor of the rulers of this age, who are passing away; but we speak God s wisdom in a mystery, the hidden wisdom which God predestined before the ages to our glory; the wisdom which none of the rulers of this age has understood; for if they had understood it they would not have crucified the Lord of glory. God made a public display of them God triumphed over them through Jesus Christ 2. Rests in our identity with Christ 11-13b in Him we were spiritually circumcised 11 it s the removal of the body of the flesh we are baptized into His burial 12 baptized into His resurrection 12, 13b this when dead in transgressions 13a 3. Rests in our complete forgiveness 13c,14 all our transgressions are included in the forgiveness 13c a certificate of death with decrees against us that was hostile to us was cancelled 14 He nailed all this indictment to His cross
8. Philosophy s Weakness Colossians 2:16-23 Colossians 2 16 Therefore no one is to act as your judge in regard to food or drink or in respect to a festival or a new moon or a Sabbath day 18 Let no one keep defrauding you of your prize by delighting in selfabasement and the worship of the angels, taking his stand on visions he has seen, inflated without cause by his fleshly mind, 17 things which are a mere shadow of what is to come; but the substance belongs to Christ. 19 and not holding fast to the head, from whom the entire body, being supplied and held together by the joints and ligaments, grows with a growth which is from God. 1. It involves judging vss. 16,18 judging always relates to pride and control Romans 2:1 judging is always a trap if you judge you ll be judged Matthew 7:1,2 judging pertains to external performance judging has nothing to do with Jesus John 3:17; 12:47 if you accept the rules and join in you lose your prize vs. 18 2. It s elements are mere shadows of truth vs. 17 God gave His Law to reveal Himself and bring people to Himself Galatians 3:18-25 People turned the Law into religion and made its observance the test (Nehemiah s day) they should have loved the Law and let it bring them to God the elements of the Law all looked forward to the real thing the true substance is Christ 3. It turns people away from Christ vs. 19 you can t do both legalism and Christ in Christ everyone makes a contribution to the whole body when the contribution is made God causes the body to grow 20 If you have died with Christ to the elementary principles of the world, why, as if you were living in the world, do you submit yourself to decrees, such as, 21 Do not handle, do not taste, do not touch! 22 (which all refer to things destined to perish with use) in accordance with the commandments and teachings of men? 23 These are matters which have, to be sure, the appearance of wisdom in selfmade religion and self-abasement and severe treatment of the body, but are of no value against fleshly indulgence. 4. It denies reality vs. 20 in Christ you are dead to legalism you are freed to live in freedom don t opt for subjection to worldly principles 5. It subjects people to pointless rules vss. 21-23 rules about actions and days it all may look good, but it s a hollow sham no real benefit is ever derived from external performance Galatians 5:16
9. Christ Our Life Colossians 3:1-4 1 Therefore if you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 3 For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God. 1. Identifying with His cross vss. 1a,3 - since you have been raised (resurrection) - you have died with Jesus (death & burial) - your life is hidden with Christ in God 2 Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. 2. Identifying with His values vss.1b,2 - habitually keep seeking heavenly things - set your mind on heavenly things - this is where Christ is - do not allow focus on earthly things 4 When Christ, who is our life, is revealed, then you also will be revealed with Him in glory. phaneroo make apparent, show openly Colossians 3:4 3. Identifying with His revealing vs. 4 - Christ IS your life now - when He is revealed, you ll be revealed with Him - this is the culmination of redemption man is one with God because of Christ epipháneia appearing, manifestation, brightness 1 Timothy 6:14-1st Advent apokálupsis reveal, uncover also reveal the interpretation of the object 1 Peter 1:7-2nd Advent much more glorious than epiphaneia parousía coming, presence 2 Thessalonians 2:1 doxa glory, therefore, is the true apprehension of God or things. The glory of God must mean His unchanging essence.
10. Matters of Life and Death Colossians 3:5-7 Colossians 3 5 Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which amounts to idolatry. 1. Kill off the old evil desires vs. 5 - immorality fornication, lewdness, or any sexual sin - impurity moral uncleanness, lewdness - passion sensual appetite - these are lusts that dishonor those who indulge in them. This can be cultivated. - evil desire the unholy desires which are fixed on sensual objects like pleasures, profits, honors - greed idolatry We need to get a far away from these things as possible, rather than staying as close without getting trapped. 6 For it is because of these things that the wrath of God will come upon the sons of disobedience, 7 and in them you also once walked, when you were living in them. 2. It only makes sense vss. 6,7 - these are the things that bring the wrath of God on people of disobedience - these are the things God saved you out of
Romans 6 1 What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin so that grace may increase? 2 May it never be! How shall we who died to sin still live in it? 3 Or do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus have been baptized into His death? 4 Therefore we have been buried with Him through baptism into death, so that as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, so we too might walk in newness of life. 5 For if we have become united with Him in the likeness of His death, certainly we shall also be in the likeness of His resurrection, 6 knowing this, that our old self was crucified with Him, in order that our body of sin might be done away with, so that we would no longer be slaves to sin; 7 for he who has died is freed from sin. 8 Now if we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him, 9 knowing that Christ, having been raised from the dead, is never to die again; death no longer is master over Him. 10 For the death that He died, He died to sin once for all; but the life that He lives, He lives to God. 3. Sorting life and death Romans 6:1-23 1. Bondage and defeat aren t necessary 1-3 2. A new life is available 4-7 3. Jesus makes it all possible 8-10 4. Possess your possessions 11 5. You decide who s going to control you 12,13 6. Don t cop out 14-16 7. Obedience means having a new master 17,18 8. Live the ever-increasing life cycle 19-22 9. Summary: sin means death God s gift is eternal life 23 11 Even so consider yourselves to be dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus. 12 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts, 13 and do not go on presenting the members of your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves to God as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. 14 For sin shall not be master over you, for you are not under law but under grace. 15 What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? May it never be! 16 Do you not know that when you present yourselves to someone as slaves for obedience, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin resulting in death, or of obedience resulting in righteousness? 17 But thanks be to God that though you were slaves of sin, you became obedient from the heart to that form of teaching to which you were committed, 18 and having been freed from sin, you became slaves of righteousness. 19 I am speaking in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh. For just as you presented your members as slaves to impurity and to lawlessness, resulting in further lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves to righteousness, resulting in sanctification. 20 For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness. 21 Therefore what benefit were you then deriving from the things of which you are now ashamed? For the outcome of those things is death. 22 But now having been freed from sin and enslaved to God, you derive your benefit, resulting in sanctification, and the outcome, eternal life. 23 For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
11. Getting Along With God s Family Colossians 3:8-14 Colossians 3 8 But now you also, put them all aside: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth. 9 Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices, 10 and have put on the new self who is being renewed to a true knowledge according to the image of the One who created him 11 a renewal in which there is no distinction between Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave and freeman, but Christ is all, and in all. 12 So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; 1. Private preparation vss. 8-12 - put some things off anger wrath James 1:19 But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; 20 for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God. malice slander abusive speech the old man with his evil practices - put some things on the new man with his renewal into true knowledge according to Christ heart of compassion kindness humility gentleness patience 9 Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices, 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. 2. Public interaction vss. 9,13,14 - don t lie to each other - bear with each other - forgive each other - wrap everything in love 14 Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity.
12. You Can Know God s Will Colossians 3:15-17 Colossians 3 15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful. Ephesians 5:17 So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. 18 And do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit, 19 speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord. 16 Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God. Romans 12:1 Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart. 1. Let the peace of Christ rule in your heart vs. 15 - rule = umpire - your call related to the body of Christ Ephesians 5:17,18 2. Be thankful vs. 15 - the only attitude to have as you live in peace 1 Thessalonians 5:18 3. Let the word of Christ richly dwell in you vs. 16 - it wants to, so agree with it Romans 12:1,2 - it s an investment that takes great effort Hebrews 4:12 4. Teach and admonish with all wisdom vs. 16 - use psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to do it Ephesians 5:19 - this is going to say a lot about your music, isn t it? 5. Sing with thanksgiving vs. 16 - the right music plus the right teaching equals the right attitude 17 Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father. 6. Do everything you do in Jesus name vs. 17 - words and deeds endorsed by Him - if you can t do it in Jesus name - don t do it - all of it wrapped in thanksgiving to God
Eight Steps to Total Intimacy In Marriage
13. Foundation for Total Intimacy In Marriage Colossians 3:18, 19 Colossians 3 18 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them. Ephesians 5 18 And do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit, 19 speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord; 20 always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God, even the Father; 21 and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ. Be Sure To Invite Jesus Years ago, when Johnny Carson was the host of The Tonight Show, he interviewed an eight-year-old boy. The young man was asked to appear because he had rescued two friends in a coalmine outside his hometown in West Virginia. As Johnny questioned the boy, it became apparent to him and the audience that the young man was a Christian. So Johnny asked him if he attended Sunday school. When the boy said he did Johnny inquired, What are you learning in Sunday school? Last week, came his reply, our lesson was about when Jesus went to a wedding and turned water into wine. The audience roared, but Johnny tried to keep a straight face. Then he said, And what did you learn from that story? The boy squirmed in his chair. It was apparent he hadn t thought about this. But suddenly he lifted up his face and said, If you re going to have a wedding, make sure you invite Jesus! 1. Walking in the Spirit - Surrender to the Holy Spirit - Ask Him to fill/control your soul - Lay down your soul life - See how your life now originates in spirit - Maintain purity in dating and engagement - Call on the Holy Spirit for ability to obey 22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. 2. Assuming Personal Responsibility - The Love/Respect Cycle - Wives submit or respect Meek and Fearless inner person - Husbands love As Christ loved the church Laid down His life Protect her purity Put wife ahead of his birth family As he loves himself 33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.
14. 3 Keys to Maintaining Total Intimacy In Marriage Colossians 3:18, 19 18 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them. 1. Guard Your Heart - Be faithful in the Word Proverbs 4:20-27 - Watch your speech Ephesians 4:29-31 - Watch your eyes Job 31:1 & Matthew 5:27,28 & 1 Thessalonians 4:3-7 - Watch your path - no casual time with someone - Watch out for distractions - anything that compromises intimacy 2. Don t Get Bitter - Put your hope in God and expectations only on Him Psalm 62:5-8 - Pour out your pain and struggles to Him - Put forgiveness in the place of bitterness Ephesians 4:32 - Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them. 3. Communicate 4 Keys: 1. 5 Commitments - to Christ - to Church - to each other - to kindness - to forgiveness 2. Loyalty 3. Hope 4. Motivation - Wrapped in Acceptance & Respect Romans 1:11,2 & 15:5-7 - Respect is expressed by: Listening. Taking time Admitting mistakes
Proverbs 4:20 My son, give attention to my words; incline your ear to my sayings. 21 Do not let them depart from your sight; keep them in th midst of your heart. 22 For they are life to those who find them, and health to all their whole body. 23 Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life. 24 Put away from you a deceitful mouth, and put devious lips far from you. 25 Let your eyes look directly ahead, and let your gaze be fixed straight in front of you. 26 Watch the path of your feet, and all your ways will be established. 27 Do not turn to the right nor to the left; turn your foot from evil. Ephesians 4:29 Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Job 31:1 I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze (lustfully) at a virgin? Matthew 5:27 You have heard that it was said, You shall not commit adultery ; 28 but I say to you, that everyone who looks on a woman to lust for her has committed adultery with her already in his heart. 1Thessalonians 4:3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you. 7 For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. Psalm 62:5 My soul, wait in silence for God only, for my hope is from Him. 6 He only is my rock and my salvation, my stronghold; I shall not be shaken. 7 On God my salvation and my glory rest; the rock of my strength, my refuge is in God. 8 Trust in Him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us. Selah. Ephesians 4:32 And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. Romans 1:11 For I long to see you so that I may impart some spiritual gift to you, that you may be established; 12 that is, that I may be encouraged together with you while among you, each of us by the other s faith, both yours and mine. Romans 15:5 Now may the God who gives perseverance and encouragement grant you to be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus, 6 so that with one accord you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. 7 Therefore, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to the glory of God. Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband. 1 Peter 3:1 In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, 2 as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. 3 Your adornment must not be merely external--braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; 4 but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; 6 just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear. 7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
15. Godly Children Colossians 3:20, 21 Colossians 3 20 Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart. 1. God gave you your family because He loves you Psalm 139:13-16 - you have a book in heaven - you have DNA plus your days are planned - don t compare - surrender to God grace vs. bitterness - thank God for His love and creativity Psalm139:13 For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother s womb. 14 I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. 15 My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. 16 Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there were none of them. 2 Corinthians 10:12 For we are not bold to class or compare ourselves with some of those who commend themselves; but when they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are without understanding. 2. Your parents are tools in God s hands to shape you into a beautiful gem Malachi 3:16,17 - God is in the jewel making business - heat and pressure make the best diamonds - be obedient, it pleases God - receive the Word - Proverbs every day - COOPERATE 3. Find every way you can to honor and obey your parents and do it Exodus 20:12 Exodus 20:12 Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the Lord your God gives you. Ephesians 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise: 3 that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth. Hebrews 12:15 See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled; 16 that there be no immoral or godless person like Esau, who sold his own birthright for a single meal. 17 For you know that even afterwards, when he desired to inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no place for repentance, though he sought for it with tears. Malachi 3:16 Then those who feared the LORD spoke to one another, and the LORD listened and heard them; so a book of remembrance was written before Him for those who fear the LORD and who meditate on His name. 17 They shall be Mine, says the LORD of hosts, On the day that I make them My jewels. and I will spare them as a man spares his own son who serves him. (NKJV)
Proverbs 12:1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid. 13:18 Poverty and shame will come to him who neglects discipline, but he who regards reproof will be honored. 13:24 He who withholds his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently. 19:18 Discipline your son while there is hope, and do not desire his death. 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it. 22:15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of discipline will remove it far from him. 23:13 Do not hold back discipline from the child, although you strike him with the rod, he will not die. 23:14 You shall strike him with the rod and rescue his soul from Sheol. 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.
16. Godly Parenting Colossians 3:20, 21 Colossians 3 20 Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart. 1. Determine your purpose Colossians 1:28,29 that my children may know God and walk with Him for life 2. Determine your goals 0-6 capture the will 7-12 build character 13-18 independent dependence on Christ 3. Understand authority issues the greatest gift of a true education is learning the ability to joyfully accept NO Proverbs 12:1, 13:18 - power based compliance - position based obedience -expertise based conformity 4. Balance love and control be a model Ephesians 6:1-4 - always bless your children - clearly state the rules - clearly state the consequences - the place for corporal correction Proverbs verses - always carry out the consequences - always make a way back 5. Discipline God s way Hebrews 12:5-11 for correction, not punishment vs. 5 to prove love vs. 6 to prove relationship vss. 7,8 for the good of the child vss.9,10 no fear no anger to bring the child from point A to point B vs. 11 6. The basics completely rely on Jesus walk in the Spirit keep your marriage first keep the big picture bless your children be committed to Church Colossians 3:21 Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children [do not be hard on them or harass them], lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated. [Do not break their spirit.] (AMP) Colossians 1:28 We proclaim Him, admonishing every man and teaching every man with all wisdom, so that we may present every man complete in Christ. 29 For this purpose also I labor, striving according to His power, which mightily works within me. Ephesians 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3 so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth. 4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Hebrews 12:5 And you have forgotten the exhortation which is addressed to you as sons, My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor faint when you are reproved by Him; 6 for those whom the Lord loves He disciplines, and He scourges every son whome He receives. 7 It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 But if you are without discipline, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. 9 Furthermore, we had earthly fathers to discipline us, and we respected them; shall we not much rather be subject to the Father of spirits, and live? 10 For they disciplined us for a short time as seemed best to them, but He disciplines us for our good, so that we may share His holiness. 11 All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.
17. Jesus On The Job Colossians 3:22-4:1 Colossians 3 22 Slaves, in all things obey those who are your masters on earth, not with external service, as those who merely please men, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. 23 Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, 24 knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve. 25 For he who does wrong will receive the consequences of the wrong which he has done, and that without partiality. 4:1 Masters, grant to your slaves justice and fairness, knowing that you too have a Master in heaven. 1. Perspective 22 - command: totally obey in all things not merely external but with a sincere heart - reason: because you fear the Lord reverence for Him yields this sincere expression of devotion to Him 2. Performance 23,24 - command: do every bit of your work heartily - reason: it s for the Lord not for men - assurance: you will receive the reward of the inheritance - reason: you are serving the Lord Christ 3. Protection 25,4:1 - anyone who does wrong will receive the appropriate consequences - there will be no partiality -command: bosses, deal in justice and fairness - reason: you have a Boss in heaven The sign in the store window read: NO HELP WANTED. As two men passed by, one said to the other, You should apply you d be great. 1 Corinthians 15:58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your toil is not in vain in the Lord. John 6:27 Do not work for the food which perishes, but for the food which endures to eternal life, which the Son of Man will give to you, for on Him the Father, God, has set His seal. 28 Therefore they said to Him, What shall we do, so that we may work the works of God? 29 Jesus answered and said to them, This is the work of God, that you believe in Him whom He has sent.
18. Evangelistic Prayer Colossians 4:2-4 Colossians 4 2 Devote yourselves to prayer, keeping alert in it with an attitude of thanksgiving; 1. Priority vs. 2 Devoted To tarry, remain somewhere (Mark 3:9); to continue steadfastly with someone (Acts 8:13); to cleave faithfully to someone (Acts10:7); referring to those who continually insist on something or stay close to someone (Acts 2:46; Romans 13:6); used metaphorically of steadfastness and faithfulness in the outgoings of the Christian life, especially in prayer. Keeping alert To watch, to refrain from sleep. It was transferred in meaning from the physical to the moral religious sphere (Matthew 26:38, 26:40-41). It denotes attention (Mark 13:34) to God s revelation or to the knowledge of salvation (1 Thessalonians 5:6); a mindfulness of threatening dangers which, with conscious earnestness and an alert mind, keeps it from all drowsiness and all slackening in the energy of faith and conduct. - Devote - Keep alert - With thanksgiving 3 praying at the same time for us as well, that God will open up to us a door for the word, so that we may speak forth the mystery of Christ, for which I have also been imprisoned; 2. Purpose vs. 3 - Accomplishing evangelism OPPORTUNITY - That God will open a door for the Word BOLD EFFECTIVENESS - So that we will speak forth the mystery of Christ 4 that I may make it clear in the way I ought to speak. 3. Precision vs. 4 - That I may make it clear - Speaking as I ought to speak
Answered Prayer In his book Sit, Walk, Stand, Watchman Nee describes a preaching mission to an island off the South China coast. There were seven in the ministering group, including a sixteen-year-old new convert whom he calls Brother Wu. The island was fairly large, containing about 6,000 homes. Nee had a contact there, an old schoolmate of his who was headmaster of the village school. But he refused to house the group when he discovered they had come to preach the Gospel. Finally, they found lodging with a Chinese herbalist, who became their first convert. Preaching seemed quite fruitless on the island, and Nee discovered it was because of the dedication of the people there to an idol they called Ta-wang. They were convinced of his power because on the day of his festival and parade each year the weather was always near perfect. When is the procession this year? young Wu asked a group that had gathered to hear them preach. It is fixed for January 11th at 8 in the morning, was the reply. Then, said the new convert, I promise you that it will certainly rain on the 11th. At that there was an outburst of cries from the crowd: That is enough! We don t want to hear any more preaching. If there is rain on the 11th, then your God is God! Watchman Nee had been elsewhere in the village when this confrontation had taken place. Upon being informed about it, he saw that the situation was serious and called the group to prayer. On the morning of the 11th, there was not a cloud in the sky, but during grace for breakfast, sprinkles began to fall and these were followed by heavy rain. Worshipers of the idol Ta-wang were so upset that they placed it in a sedan chair and carried it outdoors, hoping this would stop the rain. Then the rain increased. After only a short distance, the carriers of the idol stumbled and fell, dropping the idol and fracturing its jaw and left arm. A number of young people turned to Christ as a result of the rain coming in answer to prayer, but the elders of the village made divination and said that the wrong day had been chosen. The proper day of the procession, they said, should have been the 14th. When Nee and his friends heard this, they again went to prayer, asking for rain on the 14th and for clear days for preaching until then. That afternoon the sky cleared and on the good days that followed there were thirty converts. Of the crucial test day, Nee says: The 14th broke, another perfect day, and we had good meetings. As the evening approached we met again at the appointed hour. We quietly brought the matter to the Lord s remembrance. Not a minute late, His answer came with torrential rain and floods as before. The power of the idol over the islanders was broken; the enemy was defeated. Believing prayer had brought a great victory. Conversions followed. And the impact upon the servants of God who had witnessed His power would continue to enrich their Christian service from that time on. While crossing the Atlantic on an oceanliner, F.B. Meyer was asked to address the first class passengers. At the captain s request he spoke on Answered Prayer. An agnostic who was present at the service was asked by his friends, What did you think of Dr. Meyer s sermon? He answered, I didn t believe a word of it. That afternoon Meyer went to speak to the steerage passengers. Many of the listeners at his morning address went along, including the agnostic, who claimed he just wanted to hear what the babbler had to say. Before starting for the service, the agnostic put two oranges in his pocket. On his way he passed an elderly woman sitting in her deck chair fast asleep. Her hands were open. In the spirit of fun, the agnostic put the two oranges in her outstretched palms. After the meeting, he saw the old lady happily eating one of the pieces of fruit. You seem to be enjoying that orange, he remarked with a smile. Yes, sir, she replied, My Father is very good to me. Your father? Surely your father can t be still alive! Praise God, she replied, He is very much alive. What do you mean? pressed the agnostic. She explained, I ll tell you, sir. I have been seasick for days. I was asking God somehow to send me an orange. I suppose I fell asleep while I was praying. When I awoke, I found He had not only sent me one orange but two! The agnostic was speechless. Later he was converted to Christ. While Josh McDowell was attending seminary in California, his father went Home to be with the Lord. His mother had died years earlier, but Josh was not sure of her salvation. He became depressed, thinking that she might be lost. Was she a Christian or not? The thought obsessed him. Lord, he prayed, somehow give me the answer so I can get back to normal. I ve just got to know. It seemed like an impossible request. Two days later, Josh drove out to the ocean. He walked to the end of a pier to be alone. There sat an old woman in a lawnchair, fishing. Where s your home originally? she asked. Michigan -- Union City, Josh replied. Nobody s heard of it. I tell people it s a suburb of -- Battle Creek, interrupted the woman. I had a cousin from there. Did you know the McDowell family? Stunned, Josh responded, Yes, I m Josh McDowell! I can t believe it, said the woman. I m a cousin to your mother. Do you remember anything at all about my mother s spiritual life? asked Josh. Why sure -- your mom and I were just girls -- teenagers -- when a tent revival came to town. It was the fourth night -- we both went forward to accept Christ.