Discovering & Leveraging Your Own Brand of Fearlessness EWTG Mini Course 5-11-11 Patti DeNucci patti@intentionalnetworker.com
I didn t plan to be Fearless
My Aha! Moment Then I realized how fearless I had always been and can choose to be.
Your Aha! Moment Now it s your turn.
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Why be more fearless? What attracted you to this topic? Why are you here today? Set your intentions.
Why be more fearless? Life is short Stir things up Challenge can be exhilarating Confidence More success & fulfillment Impact Fewer regrets
God / The Universe: Don t play small Think big; have BHAGs Live & work w/ purpose Be all you can be Make an impact
Truth: Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, [but] that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. - Marianne Williamson
Be more than your job Even as you tend to the details Have big, fearless dreams for your life & work. Choose, work & live accordingly.
Fearless Prerequisite: Desire, willingness and commitment to step beyond your comfort zone Choose or don t. - Arthur Samuel Joseph, M.A.
The Big Question: Are you ready?
Step One #1 Understanding Fears
Different kinds of fear True fear Potential fear Faux fear Other clinical fears
True Fear Survival instinct Fight or flight Signals true danger
Potential Fear Something s amiss Intuition / gut reaction Read: The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker www.gavindebecker.com
Faux Fear Discomfort Anxiety Inconvenience Laziness Obstinance Imagination Fear of failure Fear of success Fear of the unknown Fear of change Fear of losing control Fear of not being perfect
What does Faux Fear do to us? Fear keeps ordinary people from doing extraordinary things. Kyle Lacy Unhappiness / Depression Boredom Paralysis / Stagnation Regret
Other fears Phobias & other issues Get professional help
The true definition of Fearless Not the absence of fear Fearing LESS Courageous = the French coeur which means heart
Why be Fearless? If your life is ever going to get better, you ll have to take risks. There is simply no way you can grow without taking chances. - David Viscott, psychologist, author
Exercise #1 Discover how fearless you already are List things you do every day that you or others consider fearless Why do you do these? Hint: Driving / riding in a car is 69x more dangerous than being in an airplane. - National Transportation Safety Board (NTSB), 2006 data
Exercise #2 Celebrate Your Fearlessness Let s share & celebrate!
Exercise #3: Inventory your fears List fears that are dragging you down Identify what kind they are True fear (T) Potential fear (P) Faux fear (Fx) Other (O) Pick three you want to change
Exercise #4: Why? How? When? For each fear you ve chosen write down: A benefit you ll enjoy if you face it What your next step is to conquer it Who/ what could help to you When you plan to get started
A word to the wise The subconscious mind (88%) does not understand I will try Instead write or say: I will I can I want to I choose to There is no try. - Yoda
Now for some How-To s Secrets, ideas, techniques and tips for Discovering & Leveraging Your Own Brand of Fearless
Fearless Secret #1 Gain perspective. (a.k.a. Get a grip!!) Look back in history Look at the statistics & data Look at what how well off you are Sort out what s Fear, what s not What s the worst that can happen? Be more aware of your feelings and reactions Ask: What s my deal with that?
Fearless Secret #2 Find & embrace your Purpose & Passion Why are you here? What are your gifts? What do believe in fiercely? What were you meant to do for the world? How will you impact others? How will you be remembered? What s your mission?
Fearless Homework Assignment Create a Mission Statement Read The Path by Laurie Beth Jones Passion can help you jump off cliffs and grow wings on the way down - Ray Bradbury
My mission / purpose To empower others to be more purpose-driven, connected, successful, fearless, and fulfilled. How I do this is: By example Through my words: writing, speaking Via consulting & coaching With discerning connections & referrals
Fearless Secret #3 Discover the power of Clarity Focus on what you want. Release/ say no to what you don t. Stand your ground. Know your why
Fearless Secret #4 Raise your standards. Be particular. -Jill Connor Browne, The Sweet Potato Queens Book of Love
Don t settle for less The trick with courage is realizing that it isn t so much about overcoming fear, as it is about not settling for less. And then, it comes effortlessly as a midsummer s night breeze. - Mike Dooley, Notes from the Universe (www.tut.com)
Fearless Secret #5 Stop the self-sabotage. Get out of your own way. Be mindful of your words & self talk Put your Doubter in her/his place. Read The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
Fearless Tip #6 Practice thinking bigger. Bust out of the box. Remember your BHAGs What do dreams know of boundaries? Amelia Earhart
More on thinking bigger The speed with which any dream may be realized is always a function of how small the miracles have to be in order to not freak out the dreamer. Mike Dooley, Notes from the Universe, tut.com
Fearless Secret #7 Factor fear in. You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face Do one thing each day that scares you. - Eleanor Roosevelt
Fearless Secret #8 Never stop learning. Be mindful, observant & curious. If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves. - Albert Einstein
Fearless Secret #9 Build your support system. Colleagues & peers Coaches / Advisors / Mentors Identify role models Create your Virtual Board of Directors Collect helpful people & resources Find your Major supporters
Fearless Communities / Projects Kicking Fear s ss Project: Free e-book Todd Schnick, Intrepid Marketing http://intrepid-llc.com Fearless Women, Fearless Wisdom http://www.fearlesswomenmag.com www.dreamuniversity.com
Fearless Secret #10 Ditch /ignore these people: Drama Queens Drainers Negative Nellies Anyone who drags you down
Fearless Secret #11 Have Faith In yourself In God / The Universe In Divine Timing & Synchronicity See setbacks as lessons.
Faith & fear quote When you come to the edge are are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: there will be something to stand on, or you will be taught how to fly. - Barbara J. Winter www.barbarawinter.com
Fearless Secret #12 Practice gratitude daily Thank you notes and messages Gratitude journal Wall of gratitude
Your Final Fearless Secret Love, Respect, Honor and take care of YOU Self care is not optional
The Reward? A more fearless life that is: Well-lived With minimal regret On purpose Full of passion, joy & fun Rewarding Framed by success Positively impacting others A legacy that lives on
Commit to being more Fearless Start a Fearless Journal Live & work with more heart Say yes to what feels right Say no to what doesn t Practice being more Fearless each day Help others be more Fearless
Final Fearless Thought Being fearless means facing, and then accepting in your heart and soul, who you are and who you are called to be. - Patti DeNucci Fearless Women, Fearless Wisdom
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