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The Diocese of Fargo Reconciliation Handbook for Parents

The Diocese of Fargo Reconciliation Handbook for Parents Acknowledgements: Family Circus cartoons used with permission FAMILY CIRCUS Copyright 2007 Bil Keane, Inc. Dist. By King Features Synd Other Artwork: Paintings by James Tissot: The Lord s Prayer, Healing of the Lepers at Capernaum, The Pharisee and the Publican, Detail of The Repentant Magdalene, Jesus and the Little Child, Jesus Tempted in the Wilderness, Jesus Sits by the Seashore and Preaches Copyright 2013 Diocese of Fargo, Fargo, North Dakota

Table of Contents The Invitation Letter to Parents from Bishop Folda...5 Parent Responsibilities for Sacramental Preparation...7 The Invitation...9 Our Relationship with God...9 The Sacrament of Reconciliation What is the Sacrament of Reconciliation... 10 God s Mercy and Healing... 11 Steps of the Sacrament of Reconciliation A Brief Run-down... 12 A Deeper Look at the Steps Examination of Conscience and Forgiveness... 13 Forming the Habit of a Daily Examination of Conscience... 14 Confession, Contrition and Firm Amendment... 15 Spiritual Counsel and Penance... 16 Act of Contrition... 17 Absolution... 18 A Deeper Look at Sin Temptation s Three Sources... 19 Remedy to Sin... 20 Forming our Consciences... 20 Importance of Regular Reconciliation... 21 Activities and Resources Children s Basic Examination of Conscience... 23 Prayers for the 2 nd Grade... 24 Sin and the Sacrament of Reconciliation in the Catechism of the Catholic Church... 25

September 23, 2013

Parent Responsibilities for Sacramental Preparation The Diocese of Fargo calls upon parents to help suitably prepare their children for reception of the sacraments. The home is where the faith is developed and lived out. Each parent models to their child what the life of faith looks like. The following will help you to properly assist your child in this time of sacramental preparation. Attend Sunday Mass and Holy Days of Obligation with your children. Provide proof of Baptism to the parish. Attend parent sessions. Have your child attend the sacramental retreat. Attend the Interview. Prior to the celebration of each of the sacraments, the parish priest or designated catechist will interview your child to assess his or her readiness and intention for receiving the sacrament. Ideally, both parents are to be present during the interview so that you can help your child in their final preparations and show your support. Do home lessons and tasks with your child to foster love and understanding for the Faith. Make sure your child attends the religious education sessions offered by your parish and does any assigned homework. At home, work on memorizing prayers. Explain the meaning of the prayers to your child. Have family prayer time together daily. Have a Bible and a Catechism of the Catholic Church, as well as religious articles such as a crucifix, holy water and sacred images in the home. Go to Reconciliation on a regular basis. Parents model this by their personal participation in the sacrament. We recommend that once your child has made their First Reconciliation, that your family go back and receive this grace and forgiveness at least once a month. 7

The Invitation The Invitation We begin by recognizing that we have a desire for God written in our human hearts. God calls us and draws us to Himself. By grace we respond freely to choose Him and to be in communion with Him. In this is our true peace and happiness. In Baptism we are given the gift to be partakers of divine life as the Holy Trinity comes to dwell in each of us and His gifts are poured forth. In this we form an intimate relationship with the Blessed Trinity that deepens as we nourish our spiritual life through all that the Church has to offer. The desire for God is written in the human heart, because man is created by God and for God; and God never ceases to draw man to himself. Catechism of the Catholic Church, no. 27 Our Relationship with God Just like in any relationship, there are going to be things said and done that cause harm in the relationship. In our relationship with God, we are the ones who offend, and sometimes even depart from Him. Despite this, He prompts us to come back to Him. He waits for us to return as He pours out His mercy on us. When we offend or hurt someone we are taught from a young age to say the word sorry directly to the person we have offended. This is the same for our loving Father. Through our sins we offend Him and can even cut off our relationship with Him, so we need to be able to say the words of apology and ask for forgiveness. Just as we don t say I m sorry once or twice a year to people we love as catch all for everything we have done for this would certainly harm our close relationships even more the same is true for our heavenly Father. This is why the sacrament of Reconciliation is so important. It not only restores our relationship to God, but also strengthens it. 9

The Sacrament of Reconciliation What is the sacrament of Reconciliation? Reconciliation is the sacrament by which sins committed after Baptism are forgiven. Mortal sin kills the life of Christ in our soul. Venial sin makes our soul sick. Reconciliation is like medicine. It cures sick souls. It is much stronger than any medicine for the body. It even gives life to dead souls (forgiving mortal sin). This sacrament helps us to be good afterwards (gives grace = God s help). Our sins may be big. Our sins may be many. But Our Lord always forgives us if we are sorry. God is never angry with us. He loves us. This is why He gave us the sacrament of Reconciliation. God sent His Son, Jesus, to die for our sins and restore us to life. What must you do to receive the sacrament of Reconciliation worthily? To receive the sacrament of Reconciliation worthily I must: a. Know my sins (examination of conscience) b. Be sorry for my sins (repentance) c. Make up my mind not to sin again (firm amendment) d. Tell my sins to the priest (confession) e. Do the penance the priest gives me (restitution) What is the best way to do these five things? The best way to do these five things is to: a. Pray to the Holy Spirit to show me my sins. b. Think of Jesus sufferings and death. Think of how much He loves me. c. Do an examination of conscience to find out my sins. Bless me Father for I have sinned. This is my first confession. 10

God s Mercy for us and Healing The sacrament of Reconciliation is the sacrament of God s mercy for our healing. Sins weigh us down and keep us from growing in holiness and in our relationship with each person of the Holy Trinity! This is why it is essential that parents cultivate this relationship that God has with their children by bringing them to the sacrament of Reconciliation on a regular basis. It is impossible to grow in holiness when this sacrament is offered and we refuse to come. It is Our Lord who is inviting us. We come to confess our sins to the priest in the confessional; the priest stands in the person of Jesus Christ, so when we hear those words of forgiveness it is God who forgives us. Sacraments: God s Touch Out of love, Jesus died on the cross to save us. Out of love, He instituted the Church to save us. Through the Church, He gave us seven concrete ways to help us share in His life; these are the seven sacraments of the Catholic Church: Baptism, Reconciliation, Confirmation, Eucharist, Anointing of the Sick, Holy Orders and Marriage. Pope Francis once talked about Jesus touching us by taking flesh and living among us. The pope said that Jesus continues to touch us even today through the sacraments. Pope Francis is not referring to just a simple tap on the shoulder, but rather through the sacraments God s touch reaches into our hearts and souls. It is His life within us that actually transforms us. We will become different. We will change; all from this touch of God. The sacrament of Reconciliation is referred to as a sacrament of healing. This is because God s touch in this sacrament heals us from our sins. Jesus, have mercy on me. Instituted by Christ The sacraments are part of God s plan of salvation and have been entrusted to the Church to safeguard and hand on. Jesus Christ established the sacraments. If we say that the sacraments were instituted by Christ, does this mean He set in place during His life on earth each of the seven sacraments in their present form as we have them today? (Not exactly.) If not, are the sacraments just inventions of the institutional Church? (No.) The Church teaches us to steer clear of these two extreme views. The truth is that the sacraments truly come from Christ by the power of the Holy Spirit. They developed into their present form over time in the life of the Church beginning with the apostolic traditions. The Church has carefully discerned over the centuries how to properly dispense the sacraments under the guidance of the Holy Spirit (see Catechism of the Catholic Church [CCC] 1116-1117). 11

Steps of the Sacrament of Reconciliation How do you make your confession? A brief run-down I make my confession in this way: a. I go into the confessional and either kneel (behind a screen) or sit (face to face). b. These words can be helpful when starting. I make the Sign of the Cross as I say, Bless me Father for I have sinned. It has been (state how long) since my last confession. or This is my first confession. c. I confess my sins. At the end I say, For these and all my sins I am truly sorry. d. I listen to what the priest tells me and pay attention when he says, For your penance because this is the part I need to do on my own after I leave the confessional. e. I say the Act of Contrition loud enough for the priest to hear me. Such as: O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended You. I detest all my sins because of Your just punishments, but most of all because they offend You, my God, Who are all-good and deserving of all my love. I firmly resolve, with the help of Your grace, to sin no more and to avoid the near occasions of sin. Amen. f. The priest then prays the prayer of absolution; he says: God, the Father of mercies, through the death and resurrection of His Son has reconciled the world to Himself and sent the Holy Spirit among us for the forgiveness of sins; through the ministry of the Church may God give you pardon and peace, and I absolve you from your sins in the name of the Father, and of the Son, + and of the Holy Spirit. g. I make the sign of the cross as the priests says in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Respond by saying, Amen. h. I leave and do my penance. Things to Remember: Remember you are talking to Jesus, Our Lord. The priest is standing in Jesus place, because Jesus asked the priest to do so. Do not be afraid. Tell the truth. You are required to confess all your mortal sins. If you don t tell all your mortal sins on purpose, you commit another mortal sin. Listen carefully to the priest. Say your Act of Contrition from your heart; really mean what you are saying. 12

A Deeper Look at the Steps Examination of Conscience and Forgiveness Jesus told a parable about two men who went to the temple to pray (Luke 18:9-14). One man prayed, I thank you, Lord that I am not like the rest of humanity greedy, dishonest, adulterous or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and pay tithes on my whole income. The other man stood at a distance and would not even raise his eyes to heaven. He had a different attitude, Oh God, be merciful to me a sinner. How often are we really like the first one justifying our sin especially when we sugar coat it so it does not seem that bad? Our pride and self esteem get in the way of us seeing ourselves as sinners. We need to work on the attitude of needing God s mercy and coming before Him and saying, Oh God be merciful to me a sinner. The first step is to be honest with ourselves and to examine our conscience for the times we have sinned. You can assist your child in taking this first step by teaching them what is right and what is wrong. This is how you can gradually form your child s conscience. Our conscience is the power of our mind to judge the morality of an act, whether the things we do are truly good or evil. You can help your children see when they are not loving toward one another, when they hurt someone, when they hold a grudge or when they don t tell the truth. You do this already, but now you can help them to understand how their sin also hurts God and they need to also tell Him they are sorry. The way Jesus has asked us to do this is through the Church. Jesus says to Apostles after the Resurrection. Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained. (John 20:23) This is the power of the Church who, through the priest, forgives sins. It is not the priest who is forgiving the sin but Jesus acting through the priest. 13

I dunno did it Parent tip Children tend to transfer blame from themselves to inanimate objects. Such as, The ball broke the window. If you know what your child did, it is best not to force a confession out of them. The point is for them to take responsibility for their actions and admit their fault. Chances are if you ask directly, Did you break the window your child will say no. You can just state the fact that the window is broken from a ball being thrown and wait for them to respond. If there is no response, you can begin an inquiry by asking if they know anything about it and continue from there until the child admits their own mistake of throwing balls in the house, or whatever the case may be. Parent: There is crayon on the wall? Child: It wasn t me, it was my hand that did it. Parent: Well, you need to control your hand. Next time you will get a punishment. Child: Ok I will tell my hand that. Forming the Habit of a Daily Examination of Conscience It can be hard to remember all the sins we have committed if we try to think of all of them right before we go to confession. That is why it is important to do an examination of conscience on a daily basis. We begin this exercise by asking the Holy Spirit to enlighten us and help us see how we have offended God in our thoughts, words and actions. There are many printed aids, resources on the internet and even smart phone apps that can help us jog our memory of the sins we have committed, even the ones in the past that often get forgotten. At the end of this handbook you will find a children s examination of conscience. 14

Parent tip How do I know my sins? Each night parents should be teaching their children to pray bed time prayers. The child begins by thanking Jesus for the good things that happened in the day. You can pray next to your child and form them by saying, Now we are going to take some time in silence and ask the Holy Spirit to help us to think of the things that we did that hurt other people. Perhaps by something we said that hurt someone s feelings or a lie we told. Maybe we hurt someone by hitting or punching or pushing. After a few days of prompting your child using different examples in their life, you can then simply move to just saying, Now we are going to think about the sins we have committed this day and ask for Jesus to forgive us. The child should not say the sins aloud, just as you would not say your sins aloud in front of the child. Confession and Contrition sorrow for our sins The first step of the sacrament of Reconciliation is to confess our sins. This is the reason this sacrament is also called Confession. The reason we confess our sins should be because we are sorry for our sins, even if the sorrow is small or even if we only confess the sin because we fear going to hell. We call that imperfect contrition, but this is sufficient. Firm Amendment to try not to sin again Contrition has two parts, the first is sorrow for the sin and the second is the resolution not to sin again. We cannot confess a sin that we plan to keep doing. For example, I cannot confess lying but then make no resolve to stop it. This does not mean that I will not fall and do that particular sin again, but I must have a firm amendment that I will try my best with the help of grace not to do that sin again. Knowing that we receive God s grace in the sacrament of Reconciliation should give us hope that we will have the power to resist the sin in the future. 15

Parent tip But mom, they deserved it! Children often struggle with justifying the sin. Such as, my brother deserved to get hit over the head with a shovel because he teased me or it was my turn to play with the toy, so I took it out of my sister s room. It might be hard for a child to feel sorry for the sin when they feel their action justified the means and they certainly intend to do it again if they feel the need. When a child fails to see the sin in their action, parents should help them see that they made a wrong choice in dealing with a difficult situation and that the choice was a sin. So instead of getting angry and hitting the sibling with a shovel, they should have told the sibling to stop teasing them and walk away. Or if it was their turn to play with the toy, they should just ask because it is in the room of someone else, therefore permission is needed. If the situation can be broken down and better choices are presented to the child, they will come to see that their bad choice hurt others and therefore they hurt God as well. Spiritual Counsel After we confess our sins to the priest he may have a few words to say about how we can avoid the sin we confessed in the future. We refer to this as the priest giving us counsel and can be most fruitful if we are open to the grace of the sacrament. Although, this is not an essential part of the sacrament, therefore it is not required, but if time allows the priest will often share words of wisdom or whatever he is inspired by the Holy Spirit to say. Sometimes this can really be a light bulb moment, especially if the priest can see patterns of behavior or underlying causes that we have never realized contributed to the sin. Satisfaction Penance The Catechism of the Catholic Church refers to satisfaction as doing what is possible to repair the harm done. Absolution takes away sin, but it does not fix all the disorders sin had caused. (CCC 1459) Therefore something must be done to make amends for the sin. We call this penance. Penance should correspond with the gravity and nature of the sin committed. It usually consists of prayer, an offering, works of mercy, service of neighbor, voluntary self-denial or sacrifices. (CCC 1460) All of these acts configure us more and more to Christ. However, the priest must give a penance that can be done. In other words, he cannot ask the penitent to do something beyond their means to do or something that will inhibit their daily duty of work or family. 16

Father gave me three Hail Mary s for my Penance Parent tip In movies this seems to be the most common penance. However, if children have not memorized prayers, then this might be a bit difficult for them. One thing you can do to help your child prepare for the sacraments is help them to memorize their prayers. Each night during bed time prayer work on helping your child memorize a prayer, line by line until they have it all memorized. Then move on to the next prayer. You can also make this a contest with other siblings, or add a prayer after the meal time grace. There is a list of basic prayers to learn in the resources section of this book. Act of Contrition After the priest gives the penance he will ask the penitent to make an act of contrition. This can be done in one s own words or using one of the formal prayers. The Act of Contrition is usually associated with the sacrament of Reconciliation, but Catholics should also pray it every day as part of their normal prayer life. In it, we acknowledge our sins, ask God for forgiveness, and express our desire to repent. One version of the Act of Contrition your child can memorize is: O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended You. I detest all my sins because of Your just punishments, but most of all because they offend You, my God, Who are all-good and deserving of all my love. I firmly resolve, with the help of Your grace, to sin no more and to avoid the near occasions of sin. Amen. 17

Absolution The priest will then raise his hands over you and pray the prayer of Absolution. He says the words, "God, the Father of mercies, through the death and resurrection of His Son has reconciled the world to Himself and sent the Holy Spirit among us for the forgiveness of sins; through the ministry of the Church may God give you pardon and peace, and I absolve you from your sins in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit." You make the sign of the cross as the priests says in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Respond by saying, Amen. Even though we hear the priest say the words, it is actually the words of Jesus as He forgives us. At this point our sins are gone and we start anew! Let the little children come to me 18

The devil made me do it. A Deeper Look at Sin God created us with the ability to choose to love Him. We sometimes choose our own ways and ignore His ways. By using our ability to choose against God, we sin. We turn away from God. (cf. CCC 398) The truth is that evil exists and we live in a fallen world due to Original Sin. (CCC 396) That is why we are in need of God s mercy. We have been given free will to choose to love God and follow Him. When we freely choose not to love and follow God, we sin. This sin wounds our relationship with both God and mankind. (CCC 1487) Temptation s Three Sources: the world, flesh and devil Temptation is an attraction either from outside oneself or from within, to act contrary to right reason and the commandments of God. Jesus experienced temptation and was victorious in overcoming it. He is our help in the battle against temptation. The three sources of temptation are the world, the flesh and the devil. Temptation from the world is attractiveness of bad example and the psychological pressure or manipulation to conform. We live in the world but are not to be of the world. Temptation from the flesh, also called concupiscence, is the interior inclination to evil, whether carnal or spiritual, as a result of the fall of Adam and Eve. It is a wound of Original Sin and attracts us to the seven capital sins (pride, avarice or greed, envy, wrath, lust, gluttony and sloth). The common phrase we have all heard sums up this reality of concupiscence: The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. (Mk. 14:38) St. Paul s letter to the Galatians lists some of the works of the flesh: fornication, impurity, licentiousness, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, anger, selfishness, dissension, factions, envy, drunkenness, carousing, and the like. (Gal. 5:19-21) Daily we must resist the urge to give into temptations of concupiscence. (CCC 405, 1707) Temptation from the devil, also called Satan, is based on lies. Jesus said that the devil is the father of lies. (Jn. 8:44) He tries to tempt mankind into believing his lies are for our best interest. The devil s method is to encourage every form of greed or selfishness, in order to lead one to pride, and through pride to all other sins. When we are tempted we should remember, submit yourselves to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. (James 4:7-8) 19

Parents know what is tempting to their child and what is not. Putting the cookie jar in a place where the child is not tempted to take the cookies is almost a natural instinct or at least something learned from experience. Temptation in itself is not a sin but it can easily lead you to sin. You should teach your children to identify temptation and the ways they can avoid sin. Steps of moving from temptation to sin: 1. Draw near to what is forbidden. 2. Listen to the desire. 3. Give into that desire and fall into sin. The Remedy to Sin Only God forgives sins. Jesus gave His authority to priests to act on His behalf to forgive sins. There is great hope because we can be forgiven! God s mercy and reconciliation is perfect. (CCC 1441, 1431) Forming our Conscience Every person is created with a conscience within his innermost being where the voice of God calls him to love, to do what is good and to avoid evil. (CCC 1776,1795) Conscience is the voice of God speaking to the human heart. Every person is created with a conscience and free will. The Church helps form our conscience and teaches us to discern right from wrong, good from evil. As we grow up, our consciences can be malformed or uninformed in understanding the love to which God is calling us to. A good conscience requires lifelong formation. We are responsible for sharpening our knowledge of right from wrong deliberately choosing to do the good and avoid evil. 20

Forming a Conscience Parent tip As a parent you are the primary example of what your child will see as doing the good and avoiding the evil. What your child does not see is how you come to that conclusion. Dinner time conversations about daily activities and how decisions are made in light of the 10 Commandments can be a good witness as to having a well formed conscience. We need a conscience that is formed by the teachings of Jesus which are stable and true not the world which is unstable and subjective. One example of a good conversation to have with children is about bullying. Do they ever see it happening at school or in their neighborhood and how do they react to it? What is their conscience telling them to do? The Importance of Regular Reconciliation Through Reconciliation, Jesus acts as the physician of our souls. (CCC 1421) The sooner those wounded by sin come to Jesus the easier the healing process will be. In addition to receiving the forgiveness of God, regular confession is like preventative medical care. Fortunately, when First Reconciliation is celebrated, there is an opportunity to assist your child in developing a habit of regular confession. The saints speak about going often to Reconciliation, and we are called to be saints! The law of the church says that we are bound to confess graves sins at least once a year. (CCC 2042) However, the Catechism of the Catholic Church goes on to say that, without being strictly necessary, confession of everyday faults (venial sins) is nevertheless strongly recommended by the Church. Indeed the regular confession of our venial sins helps us form our conscience, fight against evil tendencies, let ourselves be healed by Christ and progress in the life of the Spirit. (CCC 1458) Conclusion Parents set the example for their children. When a child sees mom and dad going to confession and how that sacrament changes them to be more patient, less angry, more helpful, more loving, etc. they will desire the sacrament as well. This is a way parents help their children grow in holiness, by becoming saints themselves. 21

Activities & Resources The resources on the following pages are some ways of helping you teach your child about the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

Children s Examination of Conscience Responsibilities to God Do I try to pray, even when I found it hard to do so? Do I always show respect to God, my family and friends by the words I use? Have I gone to Mass every Sunday or asked an adult to take me to Mass? Do I have a good attitude about attending Mass? Have I been good in Church? Have I asked the Holy Spirit to help me whenever I have been tempted to sin or do bad things? Responsibilities to others Have I ever been disobedient or disrespectful to my parents? Have I talked back to parents, teachers or others? Have I been selfish toward my parents, siblings, teachers or friends? Have I lied or been deceitful to my parents or to others? Have I been arrogant, stubborn or rebellious? Have I pouted and been moody? Have I gotten angry and lost my temper? Have I held grudges or not forgiven others? Have I hit or shoved anyone? Have I made fun of others and called them names? Have I said mean things about another behind their back? Have I used bad language? Have I stolen anything? Have I returned it? Have I skipped my household chores when I was supposed to do them? Have I skipped my homework when I was supposed to do it? Have I ever copied another person s answers on a test or assignment? Have I destroyed or damaged someone s property? Have I ever been jealous about what other people have? Have I ever been jealous about what other people get to do? 23

Prayers for Second Grade Here are some of the prayers parents should help their child to learn. Sign of the Cross In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Amen. Our Father Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil. Amen. Hail Mary Hail Mary, full of grace! the Lord is with thee; blessed are thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen. Glory Be Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit. As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end. Amen. Act of Contrition (your parish may suggest a different one) Oh my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended You, and I detest all my sins, because of Your just punishments, but most of all, because they offend You, my God, Who are all good and deserving of all my love. I firmly resolve, with the help of Your grace, to sin no more and to avoid the near occasions of sin. Amen. Prayer Before Reconciliation Come, Holy Spirit, give me Your light to see my sins, and give me Your help to be sorry for them and show me why I sin. Help me never again to sin on purpose. Prayer After Reconciliation My Jesus, I thank You for washing away my sins in Your Precious Blood. Help me to accept my cross each day and not to hurt You or anyone else. I love Your with my whole heart and soul. Morning Prayer God, our Father, I offer you today all that I think and do and say. I offer it with what was done on earth by Jesus Christ, Your Son. Amen. Prayer to the Guardian Angel Angel of God, my guardian dear, to whom God s love commits me here; ever this day be at my side, to light and guard, to rule and guide. Amen. Grace Before Meals Bless us, O Lord, and these thy gifts which we are about to receive from thy bounty, through Christ our Lord. Amen. 24

Sin and the Sacrament of Reconciliation in the Catechism of the Catholic Church The Catechism of the Catholic Church is a great gift to help us gain a deeper knowledge of the teachings of the Faith. The following sections can give you a greater understanding of sin and the sacrament of Reconciliation. Original Sin and Personal Sin Paragraph Numbers THE FALL I. Where Sin Abounded, Grace Abounded All the More... 386-390 II. The Fall of the Angels... 391-395 III. Original Sin... 396-409 IV. "You Did Not Abandon Him to the Power of Death"... 410-412 In Brief (summary)... 413-421 SIN I. Mercy and Sin... 1846-1848 II. The Definition of Sin... 1849-1851 III. The Different Kinds of Sins... 1852-1853 IV. The Gravity of Sin: Mortal and Venial Sin... 1854-1864 V. The Proliferation of Sin... 1865-1869 In Brief (summary)... 1870-1876 The Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation Paragraph Numbers I. What is the Sacrament called?... 1422-1424 II. Why a Sacrament of Reconciliation after Baptism... 1425-1426 III. The Conversion of the Baptized... 1427-1429 IV. Interior Penance... 1430-1433 V. The Many Forms of Penance in Christian Life... 1434-1439 VI. The Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation... 1440 Only God Forgives Sin... 1441-1442 Reconciliation with the Church... 1443-1445 The Sacrament of Forgiveness... 1446-1449 VII. The Acts of the Penitent... 1450 Contrition... 1451-1454 The Confession of Sins... 1455-1458 Satisfaction... 1459-1460 VIII. The Minister of the Sacrament... 1461-1467 IX. The Effects of this Sacrament... 1468-1470 X. Indulgences... 1471-1479 XI. The Celebration of the Sacrament of Penance... 1480-1484 In Brief (summary)... 1485-1498 25

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