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Miracles happen everyday, change your perception of what a miracle is and you ll see them all around you. Jon Bon Jovi How do you define a miracle? Most people immediately think of Jesus walking on water and turning water into wine: mystical magic tricks, the stuff of legends. But actually, a miracle is something much more subtle. A miracle is simply a shift in perception. When you change the way you see things, that is a miracle. Miracles happen every single day, and they range from teeny-tiny to enormous. This might surprise you, but as they say in A Course In Miracles, there is no order of difficulty in miracles. 1 There are no miracles that are too big, they are all the same! There is nothing that is too difficult, too impossible. You can create and have and feel whatever you want. The easiest way to make miracles and manifest blessings is to be in a state of love. Being in a state of love means doing your best, extending help to others, and acting in a conscious way. Love is our true nature, but we often find ourselves plagued with fearful thoughts. This is the ego run amok. Between the ages of two and six, we each heard the word No at least 60,000 times. This is where the ego springs up. The ego is a defense mechanism: it jumped in between your real self and all those times you heard no to protect you. The problem is that most of us never drop the ego and we allow our psychological armour to dictate the terms of our life to us. 2 Dr Wayne Dyer says that the ego is nothing more than an idea that each of us has about ourselves. He also says that allowing the ego-illusion to become your identity prevents you from ever knowing your true self. 3 This makes perfect sense. If your life is being dictated by your fears, you will never be able to discover who you really are. You will be too afraid of being embarrassed, too fearful of failure, too scared of being GALADARLING.COM RADICAL SELF LOVE BOOTCAMP WEEK 6 3
singled out. When we live within the confines of our ego, it s like living in an enormous, ugly dress that is five sizes too big. However, when you can overrule your ego by choosing love over fear, it s like throwing off that ugly dress and running naked and free! When you are plagued by fear, you will block your miracles. Your thoughts won t change, so you will never change, and your life will remain the same! The good news is that we ve spoken a lot about fear over the past six weeks, and I ve dished on a whole lot of techniques to help you get unstuck, overcome your fears, and stride confidently forward into the life you have always dreamed of! You re already halfway there, my love! Miracles are everywhere, and they re available to everyone. I have experienced many miracles and they are not rare occurrences: they happen to me all the time. I d like to tell you the story of one that stands out in my mind. My friend Gabby Bernstein knows a lot about miracles, and you ll hear from her this Friday in the final Bootcamp interview. When she invited me to go with her to see Amma, I gave her a blank look. She s the hugging saint, Gabby explained. She goes around the world giving hugs. It s great. This sounded completely bizarre to me, so of course I wanted to go! The week before we went to see her, I did some reading on the mysterious Amma. The words saint and guru were used a lot. I discovered that Amma had hugged over 33 million people in the 30 years that she had been giving hugs as her form of darshan! 4 A lot of people said that getting a hug from Amma was blissful, transcendent, life-changing. High praise, for sure! When arrived at The Javits Center, an enormous conference hall in NYC, the room was packed with attendees, and almost everyone was wearing white. (I didn t even own anything white, and stood out like a sore thumb!) People had been sitting there all day, meditating, singing and chatting as they waited for their hug. GALADARLING.COM RADICAL SELF LOVE BOOTCAMP WEEK 6 4
The hug itself was simple. It didn t feel earth-shattering. Amma smelled like roses, pulled me close to her and said, My daughter, my daughter, my daughter as she embraced me. It didn t feel transcendent, and I almost felt guilty for being underwhelmed. I had been hoping for something huge, and instead, it felt very real, grounded, of the earth. I chalked it up to an interesting experience and went on with my day. A couple of days later, I found that I couldn t stop thinking about the fact that Amma had devoted her entire life to hugging others. That s not all she does, either: Amma has a network of charity organisations in 40 countries across the world, which (among many other things) provides help for the homeless and victims of domestic abuse, and raised $1 million in aid for people who were displaced by Hurricane Katrina. 5 I was overwhelmed and moved by her commitment to helping people she had never met, giving selflessly, and allowing herself to be love. Being in the presence of her vast compassion shifted something inside me, and as I walked through a park, I had a miracle of my own: I moved out of anger and into forgiveness. Years prior, I had been involved (dated is too strong a word!) with this guy who I thought was incredible. Our relationship, if you can even call it that, was complicated from the very beginning. We lived in different cities, and we were both constantly travelling. Looking back, it was clearly a disaster waiting to happen. The last time I saw him, he totally rejected me after months of what felt like him stringing me along. It was one of the most painful romantic experiences of my life, and so much worse than any break-up I had ever gone through. After that, I totally cut contact with him. I didn t know how else to deal with it. I had been angry at him ever since: I felt hurt, snubbed and insignificant, but worst of all, I took it personally. I couldn t help thinking, What s wrong with me? Why didn t he want me? What did I do wrong? How could I have made him love me? What could I have done differently? Even though shortly after our almost-relationship ended, I had met, fallen in love with, and married GALADARLING.COM RADICAL SELF LOVE BOOTCAMP WEEK 6 5
my now husband, I still carried that hurt with me. I didn t really know how to resolve it, except for try to forget it had ever happened. The only way to get over something -- and I mean really and truly get over something -- is to forgive whoever was involved. As I walked through this park, thinking about Amma, I realised that this guy was only human. It dawned on me that, no matter how hurt I had been by his actions, he was doing the best he could with what he knew. He wasn t trying to upset me, he was just trying to fix a very difficult situation. I miraculously forgave him. Through the process of meeting Amma and seeing her utter selflessness, and experiencing the way in which she is the very personification of love, I was able to create a miracle in my own life. That was one of my miracles: I was able to heal an old hurt and personal pain through changing my perception of the event. u u u I read an interview with Guy Ritchie, Madonna s ex-husband, where he said that Madonna had the ability to manifest anything she wanted. The truth is that we can all be master manifestors, but we need to get super-clear first! I believe that we attract people and experiences into our lives based on the energy we put out into the world. This might sound a little esoteric, but it can be simplified like this: when you feel good, you attract good things, and when you feel bad, you attract more of the same. Mike Dooley who writes Notes From The Universe is an old friend of mine. He s a very interesting man: a former accountant turned philosophical entrepreneur, who was one of the teachers in The Secret. One of Mike s favourite sayings is Thoughts become things Choose the good ones! That quote really tells you everything you need to know about manifesting. Whatever we think about will come to fruition, and GALADARLING.COM RADICAL SELF LOVE BOOTCAMP WEEK 6 6
it doesn t matter whether our thoughts are good or bad: the universe doesn t discriminate! Our minds are immensely powerful, and they create our circumstances. Don t be surprised when that worry, thought or suspicion comes true. It s not that you were right : you simply created it with your mind. Worried that no one will buy your product? Guess what: on launch day, you won t have any customers. Obsessed with the fact that your boyfriend will cheat on you? You got it, mama! Fretting about not having any friends? They ll simply start to fade away. Now, I understand that this is quite a far-out concept, and it might be one that you feel a lot of resistance to, but it s something that I see happening time and time again. If you can grasp the idea that whatever we think becomes our reality, you ll quickly realise how important it is that we do whatever it takes to make us feel good. In fact, prioritising feeling good is one of the best things we can do for ourselves. This is one of the reasons why in Radical Self Love Bible School I emphasise the act of making a happy list. It s imperative that we can learn how to pull ourselves out of a bad mood or a funk, because after all, the longer we dwell in that space, the more of it we attract! Here are some other things that will really help you to attract miracles and manifest blessings in your life. Focus on the inside When it comes to manifesting, it s a rookie mistake to want stuff : a new car, a wardrobe full of designer clothes, a fabulous navy blue velvet couch. Now, let s be honest: stuff can be wonderful! Who wouldn t want a fantastic couch or a row of beautiful dresses to choose from in the morning? However, the problem here is that manifesting is all about energy, and it s hard to be an energetic match with silk chiffon! If your initial impulse is to say, Yes, I want a new car!, stop and ask yourself: what is it about that new car that is so appealing to you? Do GALADARLING.COM RADICAL SELF LOVE BOOTCAMP WEEK 6 7
you want the freedom of going anywhere and doing anything, anytime? Do you want a new car so you can show other people that you are successful? Be really honest with yourself about what that new car, great couch, or designer closet represents to you, and then go back to the drawing board. Maybe it s not that you need to be decked out head-to-toe in Chanel, but that you want to feel successful. Perhaps you don t need a new couch: maybe what you really want is a warm, comfortable, happy home. We think that we will feel better if we get this item or that thing, and the reverse is true. When we feel better, we will become an energetic match for those things that we want! So when it comes to thinking about what you want to create in your life, focus on how you want to FEEL, rather than the external, superficial stuff. (This is not to say there is no beautiful velvet couch in your future, either. My point is simply that getting the couch won t change your life in any real way, whereas feeling good will!) Figure out what you want I don t want my business to fail, I don t want to end up like my dad, I don t want to be stuck in a dead-end relationship. I hear people talking about what they don t want all the time. However, as I was saying earlier, thoughts become things. The more you think it, and the more you feel those feelings, the faster you ll attract those things to you. So instead of obsessing over what you don t want in life, think about what you DO want. Flip your complaint around 180 degrees and it will show you what you really wish for. If we flip those complaints around, we get I want my business to flourish and succeed, I want to be a kind and loving father, I want to be in a relationship full of laughter and mutual respect. Once you know what you want, get really clear about it and be unapologetic! For example, if you want a new job, write a list that includes what you want your salary to be, how much autonomy you want, even what your co-workers are like. Be sure to include how you want to feel when you go in to work in the morning, and as you write the list, feel GALADARLING.COM RADICAL SELF LOVE BOOTCAMP WEEK 6 8
that feeling! The faster you can feel it, the faster it will manifest in your life. Feeling the feelings is crucial. It doesn t matter how many vision boards you make if you feel nothing when you look at them! I have a list of my goals written in hot pink marker just above my desk, and when I look at them, I get so excited! This is essential. If your list doesn t excite you, come up with new dreams! Make space in your life We can only have so much in our lives: so many hobbies, so many friends, so many lovers, so many businesses. After a certain point, we begin to feel exhausted, tapped out, and we simply do not have the capacity to give attention to all of these things. Your energy is a finite resource, and it s up to you as to how you use it. It s important to energetically clear space in your life so that you have room for what you truly want to show up. So many of us hoard things, ideas and people, never wanting to let them go because of some scarcity mindset, but one of our greatest lessons as humans is to let it go. Give your ideas away for free, donate your stuff to the needy, and don t pursue or sustain relationships that are dead in the water. In order to feel successful, you might have to change your circle of friends, quit your job, or stop spending so much time refreshing Instagram! In order to have a happy home, you might have to create boundaries, or cut certain people off. In order to have a loving relationship, you might have to delete Tinder off your phone and only go on dates with people you feel a true connection with. There is always some element of sacrifice when it comes to getting what we truly want. Some people who are unwilling to do this stay trapped in the same cycle forever, and then wonder why nothing has changed for them. Making sacrifices can be difficult, and it can press a lot of our buttons But sometimes you have to quit the distractions so you can make your dreams come true. GALADARLING.COM RADICAL SELF LOVE BOOTCAMP WEEK 6 9
Make manifesting part of your daily life There s no point in writing a list or making a vision board if you re going to put it in a drawer and never look at it again. Put your desires somewhere you ll see them all the time, like next to your bed, on the back of your front door, or beside your bathroom mirror. Every time you see them, close your eyes and focus on the feeling of attaining that dream. Feel it from your toes to the top of your head. If you ve struggled with meditation in the past, why not try meditating on what you want to manifest? It helps give you something to focus on, and it also zoom your desires into the present moment. Again, as you close your eyes and meditate on what you want, feel the feelings that you will feel when your dream comes true! Relax, mama! When you really, really want something, it s pretty normal to think about it a lot. In fact, some of us can get a little obsessive! Unfortunately, this doesn t help you create what you want. You have to really and truly let go of the desire, and trust that the universe has your back. Trust that what you want is coming to you. Surrender your hopes, and have faith that whatever you want is on its way. Play your part I think of manifesting as a game of baseball between myself and the universe. Essentially, I envision myself pitching balls to the universe, and every now and again, the universe will hit them back with an almighty THWACK! I know that my energy is clear and my vibe is high when the universe hits a whole lot of balls back in a row. Synchronicity is a sign that things are working, and that you are in step with the magic of the universe. So, how do you pitch those balls? You have to get off your butt and do things. You have to take action. Get clear on what you want, make space and then get to work. Make those phone-calls, create that website, go and see that person, reach out to a potential mentor, take that risk. The universe rewards you every single time that you take a step towards what you want! GALADARLING.COM RADICAL SELF LOVE BOOTCAMP WEEK 6 10
I promise that you re not going to get what you want by sitting around, refreshing Pinterest. Get out in the world, make your presence felt, keep your chin up, and do whatever it takes to feel good in every moment! Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives. Louise L. Hay GALADARLING.COM RADICAL SELF LOVE BOOTCAMP WEEK 6 11
ENDNOTES [1] The Meaning and Principles of Miracles [2] The Ego Is Made Of Fear, Rob White [3] The Ego Illusion, Wayne Dyer [4] Wikipedia [5] Wikipedia GALADARLING.COM RADICAL SELF LOVE BOOTCAMP WEEK 6 12
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