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A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ As a Christian, you are inseparably joined to other people. Your welfare and your wisdom are connected to the welfare and wisdom of others in the body of Christ. You have an important role to play, both in giving and receiving help. The ministry of one-on-one conversations is part of God s vision for maturing his people. Ephesians 4 shows how God calls you and every believer to do your part by speaking helpful, constructive words to others. By expressing true need for God and for others By combining knowledge of people with knowledge of Scripture By praying in ways that connect actual human need to the promises of God By understanding the centrality of friendship in the Christian life By keeping a close watch on ourselves in pursuit of integrity By maturing together as each of us puts the Spirit s gifts to work so that we grow up into the likeness of Christ. Growing Together identifies key ingredients of humility, spiritual friendship, and spiritual vitality that are prerequisites for relationships that honor God and help people. This study shows how vital daily relationships benefit from a foundation of pastoral care and biblical counseling. This curriculum has been designed for individuals and groups who want to grow as care givers in the body of Christ. Pastors, elders, deacons, missionaries, youth workers, small group leaders, and all God s people who care about others will want to work through this study together. The vision the Spirit gives in Ephesians 4 can become a growing reality in your church. CCEF DVD Curriculum: Topical Studies for Individuals or Groups 978-1-938294-20-4 Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation ccef.org G R O W I N G T O G E T H E R A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ So where do you start? What does fruitful interpersonal ministry look like? This study explores six ways we grow together as the body of Christ. DVD Curriculum Series GROWING TOGETHER C C E F D V D C u r r i c u l u m : To p i c a l S t u d i e s f o r I n d i v i d u a l s o r G r o u p s GROWING TOGETHER A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ with David Powlison, Edward T. Welch, Michael Emlet, Aaron Sironi, and Steve Midgley

Growing Together A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ Copyright 2016, by Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation. All rights reserved. Speakers Edward T. Welch, MDiv, PhD David Powlison, MDiv, PhD Aaron Sironi, MS, LCPC Michael Emlet, MDiv, MD Steve Midgley, MA, MB BS, DipMin Curriculum Development Bruce E. Eaton, MDiv Rebecca Eaton, MA Permissions This workbook is intended for personal and group use. The Group Handouts may be reproduced or copied. Other parts of this workbook may not be reproduced or copied except with the prior written consent of the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation. Requests for additional permissions should be sent to: Customer Service 1803 East Willow Grove Avenue Glenside, PA 19038 customerservice@ccef.org Scripture quotations are from the ESV Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version ), copyright 2001 by Crossway and The Holy Bible: New International Version. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. All emphases in Scripture quotations have been added by the curriculum developers. ISBN: 978-1-938294-20-4 The Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation (CCEF) is a non-profit ministry founded in 1968. CCEF exists to restore Christ to counseling and counseling to the church by thinking biblically about the issues of living. We accomplish this mission through our teaching, writing, and counseling ministries. We are located in Glenside, PA. To learn more about our ministry, visit us at www.ccef.org.

GROWING TOGETHER A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ TABLE OF CONTENTS Getting Started 2 Our Neediness is God s Gift 5 Edward T. Welch How God Uses All of Us in the Lives of Others 19 Edward T. Welch Why We Pray and How We Pray 35 David Powlison Spiritual Friendship 53 Aaron Sironi Persevering in Ministry 71 Michael Emlet Helping Our Churches Become Communities of Change 87 Steve Midgley Group Handouts 102 About the Speakers 109 Copyright 2016, by the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation. All rights reserved.

Getting Started As a Christian, you are inseparably joined to other people. Your welfare and your wisdom are connected to the welfare and wisdom of others in the body of Christ. You have an important role to play, both in giving and receiving help. The ministry of one-on-one conversations is part of God s vision for maturing his people. Ephesians 4 shows how God calls you and every believer to do your part by speaking helpful, constructive words. So where do you start? What does fruitful interpersonal ministry look like? This study explores six ways we grow together as the body of Christ. By expressing true need for God and for others By combining knowledge of people with knowledge of Scripture By praying in ways that connect actual human need to the promises of God By understanding the centrality of friendship in the Christian life By keeping a close watch on ourselves in pursuit of integrity By maturing together as each of us puts the Spirit s gifts to work so that we grow up into the likeness of Christ Growing Together identifies key ingredients of humility, spiritual friendship, and spiritual vitality that are prerequisites for relationships that honor God and help people. This study shows how vital daily relationships benefit from a foundation of pastoral care and biblical counseling. This curriculum has been designed for individuals and groups who want to grow as care givers in the body of Christ. Pastors, elders, deacons, missionaries, youth workers, small group leaders, and all God s people who care about others will want to work through this study. The vision the Spirit gives in Ephesians 4 can become a growing reality in your church. About the Workbook Each section of the Workbook includes a Before You Begin activity. Immediately following is the Introduction which corresponds to the beginning of a video. Talks conclude with a Reflection Activity followed by Study Questions. 2

A Note For Groups This curriculum can be used at two different levels for group study. For an in-depth study, both leader and participants will purchase and use the Workbook. Participants will have the time (2 hours per week) and interest (study and reflection outside the group) for in-depth study. For an introductory study, the group leader can purchase and use the Workbook as preparation for facilitating group discussion in a small group setting or Sunday School class. The group leader will provide participants with copies of the Group Handouts. In this setting, we recommend selecting a few study questions or activities that can be discussed in your allotted time-frame that meet the particular interests of the group. 3

How is the church to grow together, as one body of Christ? By expressing true need for God and for others. By combining knowledge of people with knowledge of Scripture. By praying in ways that connect actual human need to the promises of God. By understanding the centrality of friendship in the Christian life. By keeping a close watch on ourselves in pursuit of integrity. By maturing together as each of us puts the Spirit s gifts to work so that we grow up into the likeness of Christ. 86

Helping Our Churches Become Communities of Change Steve Midgley BEFORE YOU BEGIN So where do we go from here? How do we grow together in the body of Christ? So far in this study we have looked at a variety of ways this happens: By expressing true need for God and for others By combining knowledge of people with knowledge of Scripture By praying in ways that connect actual human need to the promises of God By understanding the centrality of friendship in the Christian life By keeping a close watch on ourselves in pursuit of integrity How is God encouraging you through this study? What goals do you have for your participation in the life of your church? 87

INTRODUCTION We end this curriculum with this question: What are you taking home with you? If what you have studied has been beneficial for you, then you ought to take something home that will make a difference to your life in Christ and to your life with others in the church. Here is the concern: it is easy for pastors to take away good ideas from this study for their congregations, and for church members to take away good ideas for their pastors. Yet God never gives anyone the gift of having good ideas for other people. So the take-away from this study is this: What is it that God has in store for us? What is the change that he might have us accomplish in our own lives? Ephesians 4 helps answer that question. It is a wonderful place to discover what it means for us to minister side-by-side in the body of Christ. CHANGE BEGINS WITH US Ephesians 4 provides the turning point for Paul s letter. For three glorious chapters Paul has been setting out God s great vision for his people. God will bring all things together under Christ. God has made known to us the mystery of his will to bring unity to all things in heaven and on earth, under Christ. God is creating a new humanity. One new people out of two, who will be a dwelling place in which God lives by his Spirit. This new humanity will reveal even to the heavenly places the manifold wisdom of God himself. This is God s great plan; a glorious picture of everything that God will accomplish through his people. In Ephesians 4 Paul turns his gaze upon us, the church. What would Paul have us do? What would he have us be in order to fulfill this great vision that God has in mind? Paul begins in a way we might not expect in Ephesians 4:1 2. As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble. As Paul turns his gaze upon the church, his very first instruction is to be humble. That is where change begins. Consider how a pastor might cast a vision for his church. Steve recounts his own experience of needing to begin with humility and confession as he considered the vision for his church 88

throughout the following year. God led him to Revelation 3 and the letter to the church in Laodicea. So, because you are lukewarm neither hot nor cold I am about to spit you out of my mouth you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked So be earnest, and repent. (Revelation 3:15 19) God used this passage to make it clear to Steve that he needed to repent and be reconciled with another ministry leader in his church. God accomplished humility and repentance in a man who two days later would tell his church to beware of complacency, fear intensely the ability to be lukewarm, and to go before the Lord asking for forgiveness and restoration in the church. Steve was humbled in his own heart because God had arranged it that he should see his own sin and speak as one who recognized that he first needed the forgiveness of Christ. In humility and neediness is where the church is called to begin in side-by-side ministry. We are only ever sinners before a holy God and in need of his forgiveness. We begin with humility before we open our mouths to speak to others, before we counsel or preach, and before we seek to be the agent of change in the life of another person. We should be persuaded of our own need for grace, because change begins with us. Change begins with a heart that knows its need for forgiveness before Christ. CHANGE NEEDS EVERYONE If change begins with us, it doesn t end there. Paul, in Ephesians 4, shows us what he has in mind for the body of Christ. What we discover is that the change process for God s people is such a vast enterprise that it needs every single person to be involved. It was he who gave some to be apostles, some to be prophets, some to be evangelists, and some to be pastors and teachers, to prepare God s people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. (Ephesians 4:11 13) This sequence is intentional. But, perhaps, we miss it because we cut out the heart of it and miss the element of personal, one-another ministry that is central to Paul s message in Ephesians 4. We can wrongly believe that as long as sound preaching is coming from the pulpit and Bible reading is being done at home, then our churches will become mature. But according to the Apostle Paul, God intends for every single believer to be equipped to do the work of ministry; this is the point of sound Bible teaching. 89

Churches are often like a soccer match. A small group of people are up front and very busily playing the game (participating in ministry), and a vast number are in the stands, watching the ministry up front. The vision of Ephesians 4 is that everyone has a part to play in the ministry that God has for the church. It is a vision for every member ministry. If there is an analogy to sports, then Bible teachers are the coaches whose task it is to help all of the players (the saints) play well. Who, then, is up in the stands? In the stands is the watching, unbelieving world non- Christian family, friends, neighbors and colleagues. They watch, and God willing they see a community that has been transformed by grace and has been changed into the likeness of Christ. The hope is that they see something so profoundly attractive that they want to join in and play too. THE CHURCH IS TO GROW INTO THE LIKENESS OF CHRIST The Apostle Paul communicates God s vision for the body of Christ in Ephesians 4:16. From (Christ) the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work. God s vision is that each of us will play our part, growing together into Jesus likeness. How well prepared is your church for this vision of ministry? Let s look at a series of questions that help us assess your readiness and your church s readiness for this vision. Is your church ready to take risks? If we only involve our star players in the ministry of the church, we will never discover the hidden talent that exists within our team. There is a place for taking risks and involving people in ministry when you aren t entirely sure how it will work out. This is often how we discover the gifts God has given to his people, so that each part of the body can do its work. How does your church handle mistakes? If a church does take risks, sometimes things don t work well. How does your church handle the different mistakes that people make, whether they are minor or more serious? Do you cover up mistakes? Or do you find it valuable to highlight failings? 90

If we are embarrassed by our errors, what do we communicate? We communicate that the church is a place for perfect people, where errors are not tolerated, and where we will not accept anything less than excellence. Highlighting mistakes helps us recognize who we are as God s people a flawed people, finding our way, and by God s grace allowed to serve his people. This attitude about our mistakes communicates grace. The church is a hospital for sinners rather than a museum for saints. This phrase communicates that the church is a place where people receive medicine and not a place where people come to parade their excellence to one another. How does your church respond to new ideas? What happens when someone wants to try something completely new? Often the really good ideas, the ones that God has clearly blessed, come from the midst of the body of Christ. Who do you give responsibility to? If you lead a small group, who do you give responsibility to? Whose ideas do you run with? Do all the ideas come from the leadership, or do you make space for the gifts that God gives to the members of the small group? Who do you choose to speak up front? When choosing people to pray up front, who do you pick? Only the eloquent, or do you pick people who will pray from the heart? Who do you ask to give testimonies in your church? Do you ask people who are still in process, people who are still wrestling with the mess of their situation? Or do you only ask those who have emerged triumphant on the far side of their troubles? If we want to communicate that we are people in the process of change, then we need people up front who also talk about wrestling with change, and not only about the glorious triumphs they have won. How much do you talk about your constant need for change and growth? If a church isn t changing, it is either a church that has reached the unlikely state of sinless perfection, or it is a church that has forgotten that God intends it to keep growing into the likeness of Jesus Christ. 91

God s vision for us in our churches is to be transformed into the very likeness of Christ. As a body and as individuals we are to resemble him more in the way we speak, in the way we love, and in the way we respond to situations around us. CHANGE MEANS SPEAKING TRUTH God s desire for the church is to no longer be tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching (Ephesians 4:14). Instead, the church is where people speak the truth in love and grow to become in every respect the mature body of Christ (4:15). Speak the truth in love We are to speak the truth side-by-side. This verse does not mandate us to elevate ourselves to a position of pious superiority and land missiles of truth upon those inferior to us. Speaking the truth in love is not an excuse to get something off your chest, but it is one sinner speaking to another. We are not capable of speaking the truth in love well unless we begin with humility. Everything hinges on humility, on speaking from a humbled heart before God. Failing to speak the truth in love means we will not grow to become in every respect the mature body of Christ, but we persuade ourselves in many ways that there is no need for us to speak the truth in love. I couldn t possibly say that to them. What if they take it the wrong way? How could I talk to them about that? It s just too embarrassing. It is not convenient to get involved now. I can see that it will be really demanding. Someone else is bound to say something. There will be somebody who is closer to the situation than I am. I can t. I won t. I shouldn t. Once we have persuaded ourselves that we must speak, we must speak both truth and love. Some of us prefer to love without speaking hard truths. Others of us have no problem speaking hard truths, but we haven t yet mastered the art of speaking with love. Whichever of these two extremes you tend toward, understand that both are damaging. 92

If you are going to fulfill the vision of speaking the truth in love to one another, then this will require a shift in the way you do things, even a shift in the culture of your church. If the ministry that Ephesians 4 is describing is to become central in your church s ministry, then your church needs to be prepared before the change can occur. An Illustration Here is how Steve s church worked to embrace this vision. Provide an opportunity for people to learn how change happens. Steve s church began to run How People Change 1 courses. This choice came from a conviction that until people have experienced change in their own lives, it would be very hard to persuade them that change can occur in another person s life. The need is ongoing for people to experience God s work in their lives, to experience change as God s Spirit brings God s Word to bear upon their hearts and lives. Provide an opportunity for people to speak about God s work in their lives. In staff prayer meetings and in monthly church prayer meetings, time was made for people to talk about what the Lord was doing in their lives. The goal was to have people become comfortable describing God s work in their lives, hearing other people talk about a person s testimony, and making that a part of church culture. The staff of the church felt that until people were comfortable talking about the way that God was at work in them, they would be clumsy talking about the way God might be at work in the life of another person. Change your approach to fellowship. Having coffee after the Sunday service which seems like a trivial thing became as much a part of the church s ministry on Sundays as everything else. People were invited to stay and share their lives with one another, to rejoice with those who rejoice and to mourn with those who mourn (Romans 12:15). If God calls his people to be counter-cultural, then it means overcoming a natural sense of reserve to be willing to share their lives more openly and willingly with one another. This is essential so that the process of speaking the truth in love to one another can go on in the life of the church. 93

CONCLUSION The vision that Paul has for God s church in Ephesians 4 is spectacular. Do you feel the wonder of being called to be part of this vision, to be a part of the body of Christ? The biblical counseling agenda is no small thing: God has chosen to mature his people through the ministry of one-to-one conversations and one another ministry. This isn t a work that should be left for a minority of people. God calls each one of us to be partners in this work, speaking words that build others up. What will you take from this study? Will you take a confidence that God will build his church? That he will build us to maturity and to the stature of the fullness of Christ himself? Will you take home a conviction that you have a part to play in this? The Apostle Paul writes in Ephesians 3:16 19, I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. CLOSING PRAYER Gracious Father, we are people who so desperately and profoundly need to know the love that you have demonstrated to us in Christ. We need it because we are sinners, and we need Christ s redeeming love to draw us back from our sinful ways, to cover over our offenses and to make us a people that are holy in your sight. And Father God, we are people who need to know your love, that we would be persuaded and equipped to minister the love of Christ to others, to do so as people who are humbled by the way that you have loved us, and who are capable of speaking the truth in love, side-by-side with fellow believers, seeking to be agents to bring about your good purposes in their lives. Father, we are weak and feeble in so many ways. How gloriously you have loved us, how wondrously you have equipped us. Now, to you who are able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to the power that is at work within us. To you, be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen. 94

REFLECTION ACTIVITY Our temptation will be to take away many good ideas from this study for other people. Revisit these questions Steve asked at the beginning of his talk: 1. What will you take away from this study for yourself? 2. What have you learned that will make a difference to your life in Christ and to your life with others in the church? Read Matthew 7:1 5. Romans 12:3 8. Galatians 6:1 10. How can these passages help you to genuinely focus on how you can grow, even as you consider how change can be implemented in your church as a result of what you have learned through this curriculum? 95

STUDY QUESTIONS The following study questions are divided into three sections. Section 1 questions are introductory and allow for an opportunity to reflect on the lecture. Section 2 questions focus on the content of the lecture. Section 3 questions help you apply the material you have learned. Feel free to select a couple questions from each section for reflection. If you have time, answer each question. Section 1: Introduction Questions Steve asks a probing question in this talk: How much does your church talk about your constant need for change and growth? And then he says, If a church isn t changing, it is either a church that has reached the unlikely state of sinless perfection, or it is a church that has forgotten that God intends it to keep growing into the likeness of Jesus Christ. 1. How does this question and Steve s answer challenge and inspire your view of what church should be about? 2. In Ephesians 4:15 the Apostle Paul makes a direct connection between speaking the truth in love and growing up in every way into Christ. Is this a connection you have made before? Do you believe that Christ-like maturity in the body of Christ is dependent on every member speaking the truth in love to one another? Why or why not? Ephesians 4:2 focuses our attention on our need to be completely humble as we seek to help our churches become communities of spiritual change and communities filled with people who speak the truth in love to one another. 1. In addition to humility, what other character qualities does Paul identify in Ephesians 4:2 3? How do these character qualities provide you with goals for how you are to conduct yourself in relationships, even as you seek to help your church become a community of change? 2. Reflect back to lesson 4 of this study and Jesus command to love one another as he has loved us. How does spiritual friendship guide you as you consider how to grow in speaking the truth in love to others? How do spiritual friendship and humility help you to focus your energies on making the body grow so that it builds itself up in love (Ephesians 4:16)? 96

Read Ephesians 4:11 16 again. Take time to reflect on what you see at your church and in the ministries of your church. 1. Who do you see doing ministry? Why? Who else should you see doing ministry? Why? 2. What does your church need? And how can you be a part of meeting that need? 3. Read Philippians 4:8. What good things do you see in your church that you can be thankful for? How can you encourage others by identifying the good things? Section 2: Interacting with the Material Ephesians 4:14 tells us that God s vision is for a church that is no longer tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching. Instead, the church is meant to be the place where people speak the truth in love (4:15), so that every person can grow in every aspect into the mature body of Christ. Steve identifies three sin struggles that can keep the body of Christ in its infancy, instead of maturing and growing in the ability to speak the truth to one another. 1. Speaking truth is not a mandate to elevate yourself to a position of pious superiority and land missiles of truth upon those inferior to you. How can leaders combat the temptation to elevate themselves in ministry? 2. Speaking the truth in love is not an excuse to get something off your chest, but it is the activity of one sinner, in humility, speaking to another. What words of truth and encouragement can you offer someone who is often tempted to get something off their chest in regards to others in the body of Christ? 3. We can persuade ourselves in many ways that there is no need to speak the truth in love. But failing to speak the truth in love because of fear or indifference isn t love either. How can we resist the temptation to be afraid to speak the truth, preferring a false sense of peace over hard won unity? 97

Steve said he realized that if the vision of speaking the truth in love and growing together into maturity was to become central in his church s ministry, then the church needed to be prepared for that change to occur. Let s look below at the three things he shared that helped his church move toward this vision from Ephesians 4. #1 Provide an opportunity for people to learn how change happens. There is an ongoing need for people to experience God s work in their lives and to experience change as God brings his Word to bear on the hearts of his people. 1. How does your church provide opportunities for people to experience change and share what God is doing in their lives? 2. How do you envision broadening these opportunities for people to experience biblical change? 3. What barriers do you see (spiritual and practical) that keep your church from expanding this aspect of ministry? #2 Provide an opportunity for people to speak about God s work in their lives. In Steve s church this opportunity was first implemented in staff prayer meetings and monthly church prayer meetings. The goal was to have people become comfortable describing God s work in their lives and hearing others speak about God s work too. This was implemented with the hope that people would then become comfortable speaking about the way God might be at work in the life of another person. 1. Where do you envision giving people an opportunity to speak in this way with one another? 2. How can you encourage healthy self-disclosure in a group? 3. How can you model speaking into other people s lives and encouraging others to grow in this one another ministry? 98

#3 Change your approach to fellowship. In Steve s church this change was implemented in the way the church approached having coffee after church. 1. In what fellowship activity do you envision it would be beneficial to include this type of intentional one another ministry in your church? 2. How can you provide opportunities for people who want to develop their gifts of caring for others? How can you intentionally bring care givers together with people who would benefit from one another ministry? Section 3: Application Questions Reflect back on Ephesians 4. If our goal is to see our churches become communities of change, how does Scripture speak to this? 1. Read Ephesians 4:2. How do you want to grow in humility, gentleness, and patience? How do these fruits of the Spirit help you to bear with the resistance to change in other people? Or, how can it help you lessen your own resistance to change in your church? 2. Read Ephesians 4:16. What part has God called you to play in your local church? How can you grow in your ability to help make the body grow as a result of this lesson? 3. Read Ephesians 4:15. In your ministry, where do you struggle to speak the truth in love? Do you tend toward love without truth, or truth without love as you seek to work with others in your church? Steve said the biblical counseling agenda is no small thing. God has chosen to mature his people through the ministry of one-to-one conversations and one another ministry. This isn t a work that should be left for a minority of people. God calls each one of us to be partners in this work, speaking words that build others up. Taking these truths from Ephesians 4, how can we apply them and grow in skillfulness in relationships at church? 1. What does it look like to be a partner with everyone in your congregation growing together and maturing together as a people? 99

2. Do you struggle to embrace this vision to rely upon everyone in your church to be part of how God will mature you? 3. Revisit this diagram from lesson 2. How can you grow in your knowledge of people and your knowledge of God so you can be part of God maturing other people in your church? Fruitful Personal Ministry Knowledge of Person Knowledge of Scripture Take time to sit quietly before the Lord and ask God to speak into your heart and mind. After you have prayed to God, answer this question: What will you take away from this study? 1 How People Change is a book and group study published by New Growth Press. It was developed from Dynamics of Biblical Change, a course offered in CCEF s School of Biblical Counseling, taught by David Powlison. 100

A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ As a Christian, you are inseparably joined to other people. Your welfare and your wisdom are connected to the welfare and wisdom of others in the body of Christ. You have an important role to play, both in giving and receiving help. The ministry of one-on-one conversations is part of God s vision for maturing his people. Ephesians 4 shows how God calls you and every believer to do your part by speaking helpful, constructive words to others. By expressing true need for God and for others By combining knowledge of people with knowledge of Scripture By praying in ways that connect actual human need to the promises of God By understanding the centrality of friendship in the Christian life By keeping a close watch on ourselves in pursuit of integrity By maturing together as each of us puts the Spirit s gifts to work so that we grow up into the likeness of Christ. Growing Together identifies key ingredients of humility, spiritual friendship, and spiritual vitality that are prerequisites for relationships that honor God and help people. This study shows how vital daily relationships benefit from a foundation of pastoral care and biblical counseling. This curriculum has been designed for individuals and groups who want to grow as care givers in the body of Christ. Pastors, elders, deacons, missionaries, youth workers, small group leaders, and all God s people who care about others will want to work through this study together. The vision the Spirit gives in Ephesians 4 can become a growing reality in your church. CCEF DVD Curriculum: Topical Studies for Individuals or Groups 978-1-938294-20-4 Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation ccef.org G R O W I N G T O G E T H E R A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ So where do you start? What does fruitful interpersonal ministry look like? This study explores six ways we grow together as the body of Christ. DVD Curriculum Series GROWING TOGETHER C C E F D V D C u r r i c u l u m : To p i c a l S t u d i e s f o r I n d i v i d u a l s o r G r o u p s GROWING TOGETHER A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ with David Powlison, Edward T. Welch, Michael Emlet, Aaron Sironi, and Steve Midgley