Explanation of the 3 Linked Chain Hadith of Imam Ad- Darami [255H] PT 2 Explanation of the 3 Linked Chain Hadith of Imam Ad-Darami [255H] بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم أ خ ب ر ن ا ي ز يد ب ن ه ار ون أ ن ب ا ن ا ح م ي د, ع ن أ ن س أ ن ر س ول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ق ال : إ ن ال ع ب د إ ذ ا ص ل ى ف ا ن م ا ي ن اج ي ر ب ه أ و ر ب ه ب ي ن ه و ب ي ن ال ق ب ل ة ف ا ذ ا ب ز ق أ ح د ك م ف ل ي ب ز ق ع ن ي س ار ه أ و ت ح ت ق د م ه The Prophet (ﷺ) said: When the servant is praying he is having a discussion with his Lord, or his Lord is between him and the Qiblah. Therefore if any of you need to spit then he must spit on his left side or under his your feet This is the 2 nd of the three chained hadith in Sunnan Ad- Darami. The total amount of 3 chained narrations in his collection is 15. This hadith was collected by Imam Ad-Darami and placed in the book of Salah under chapter number 116: It s disliked to spit in the Masjid.
The Men in Isnad The 3 men between Imam Ad-Darami and the Prophet are; Yazid ibn Haroon Humayd Anas ibn Malik 1. Anas ibn Malik:[ الله عنه Died [رضي in 93H after living a 100+ years His name is Anas ibn Malik ibn An-Nadr. He was an Imam, a Mufti and Recitor and major narrator of Sunnah. Narrations from: The Prophet,[ﷺ] Abu Bakr, Umar,Uthman, Abu Hurayrah and others. Narrators from him: Hasan Al-Basri, Ibn Sireen, Abu Qilabah, Umar ibn Abdil Aziz, Az-Zuhri and others. Anas ibn Malik served the Prophet for 9 years. The ulema differ on the his age at the time of his death. Some say he was 103 or 107 at the time of his death. He narrated about 2286 hadith and among those collected in Bukhari in and in Muslim are a total of 180, a Al-Bukhari alone has 80 narrations and that Imam Muslim didn t report and Imam Muslim has 90 that Imam Al-Bukhari didn t report. Abu الله عنه] Hurayrah [رضي said: No one s prayer resembled
the Prophet s like Anas s. The Prophet made dua for Allah to grant him wealth may children and a long life. He had wealth, lived a long life and had 106 children.[1] 2. Humayd ibn Abee Humayd At-Taweel : [ narrations in the 6 books ] died 142H Narrations from: Anas ibn Malik and Hasan Narrators from him: Shu bah and Al-Qathan Imam Ath-Thahabbi said [ 1244 # ثقوه و يدلس] in Al-Kashif Humayd is known as At-Taweel due to his height. He died while standing up praying.the scholars said he heard 24 hadith directly from Anas and the other narrations that he conveyed from Anas were through Thabit.[2] 3. Yazid ibn Haroon :[narrations in the 6 books] died in 206H Narrations from: Sufyan At-Thowri,Rabee ibn Muslim, Malik ibn Anas. Narrators from him: Ishaq ibn Rawhoowiya, Ahmed ibn Hanbal, Yahya ibn Ma een and many others. He was so respected in the field of hadith that when he went to Baghdad the scholars of hadith came out and throw him a party. His hadith circle used to have 70,000 scholars present. He was known to offer 16 Rakah for Duha prayer. Moreover, he was known for praying long prayers at night and during the day.[3] Some scholars like Imam Abu Hatim said: He was an Iman, one
that people shouldn t ask about. Yahya ibn Ma een and Ali ibn Al-Madeeni both said he was trustworthy.[4] The status of the Hadith The isnad of this hadith is weak since Humayd At-Taweel was known for Tadlees, however, in another 3 chained narration collected by Abdur Razzaq in his Musnaf, Humayd mentioned that he directly heard the hadith from Anas. The Hadith is Sahih as it s been collected by Imam Al-Bukhari (412) and by his student Imam Muslim(1224). Issues derived from the Hadith Vocabulary The word بزق] ] is used here in this hadith and in some narrations, the word بصق] ] is mentioned. They are synonyms and mean to spit. Social interactions It s impolite to spit in front of people. If you need to spit you should turn away from them The general meaning of the hadith implies the spitting on the right during Salah.[5] Methodology Issues The majority of the scholars consider the prohibition of spitting on the right during prayer Haraam, but view
it permissible outside the prayer. This hadith about spitting on the left during prayer refers to the one not in the masjid. If a person is in the masjid and needs to spit then he should do so in a napkin or on his shirt. If a person is praying in place where there is carpet then he must avoid spitting on his left or under his foot. This includes not only masjid, but also a Musalla. The Masjids must be maintained The Masjids must be respected. Based on the hadith in Al-Bukhari # 415, which doesn t mention spitting on the right only during the prayer, then it s better to leave it off outside the prayer as well.[6] Prepared by Abu Aaliyah Abdullah ibn Dwight Battle Academic / Khateeb for Qatar Religious Endowment [1] Siyr 4/189-193 [2] Tahtheebul Kamaal, by Imam Mizi
[3] Siyr Imam Ath-Thahabbi #1420 is the bio number. [4] Tahtheebul Kamaal, Imam Mizi [5] Ta leeqat Al-Bazzeyah ala Sahih Al-Bukhari vol1,pg 131 [6] Refer to the explantion of Sahih Al-Bukhari by Al-Alamah Abdul Aziz Ar-Rajhi. Vol 1, pg 799-801 The Ideal Approach to Inform your Wife You are getting Married بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم The Ideal Approach to Inform your Wife You are getting married By: Al-Alamah Shaykh Abdul Aziz ibn Abdillah Ar-Rajhi All praises belong to Allah alone. We ask His peace and blessing to forever fall on His final and last Messenger Muhammad. In reality this subject is rarely addressed, so I hope to talk about it in a clear and easy manner, yet I don t think this topic needs any introduction for the women, spouses or polygnists; so for that reason I am not going to give it a prelude. This discussion is directed to help those in the community
involved in plural marriages. My intention is to raise the awareness among the Muslims; as polgyny is acknowledged from the Quran, the Sunnah and the consensus of Islamic jurists, so there s no purpose to mention the texts that establish this practice. The reason for writing this expose is to address some of the havoc from the first wife after the husband remarries. This includes outbreaks of crying and discontent! I asked some of the women why the all the uproar? You are aware that polgyny is a legislated practice in Islam. Their responses were, We don t reject Allah s Legislation, but it s the way the husbands go about it, or the way the husbands informs us. A large number of men desiring to have a 2 nd wife prefer that marriage remains unknown to the first wife, or among the people; and today this is commonly known as a Msyar Marriage. The husbands choose this way afraid their wives will destroy their homes. The Sunnah of polygyny is a publicly practiced Sunnah among the men and women paying attention to it, and they have made it easy. There are some women who accept plural marriages with open arms, while few will help their husbands find a 2 nd,3 rd, or 4 th wife acknowledging the fact that it is an order from Allah. On the other hand, there are some who prefer their husbands death instead of him remarrying again, and these women are the minority. Moreover,other women will go as far as to make their husbands promise they won t take another wife after them, even after their deaths! Strangely enough, some women are aware that their husbands have a mistress, but remain quiet out of fear that he might marry that lady. A true story: One person said about polygyny that the woman has the right to be a newlywed bride for five years before her husband looks
for another wife, then after that phase he can start to search. There s a woman I know and I informed her about my friends speech and this is what happened: I asked her: If Allah allowed you to have more than one husband would you? She replied: I swear to Allah, if Allah allowed this act for me to practice I wouldn t wait five years. In fact, from the first year I d remarry without thinking twice. I asked her: Can you accept your husband having another wife? She said: No! I could never accept that, and if my husband took another wife I d make his life a living hell. I said: Glory belongs to Allah! This is a contradiction. She said: No it isn t. Look, Allah has allowed me to change friends and I did. He has allowed me to change clothes and I do. The Most High has permitted me to exchange a lot things and I have. I am a human-being that gets bored with routine, so If Allah made it permissible to have more than one husband I would get married every year; however I won t agree to my man marrying another woman. Following this she said: You should be aware that there are a lot women that if they were allowed to have multi husbands they would. I said to myself: Where are the men who think like this? My dear brothers in faith if you want to get married again on your first wife you need to be clever about telling her by means of an appropriate approach. Don t worry! If it s done correctly it s easy, and each one of us knows how to communicate with our spouse.
I will state some of the methods I am aware of that actually took place. The man directly tells his wife after or shortly before he gets married again. He does this verbally face to face or via telephone inside or outside the house. Example: The man tells his wife, baby tomorrow I m getting married to my second wife, but before he tells her he does something special for his first wife. The man informs his wife s mother so that she can help him remedy the situation. Example: The husband goes and visits his wife s mother and brings along with him a nice gift,and then informs her about the issue. The man lets his wife know shortly after he gets married; seeing that the matter is easy for his circumstances. Example: After the marriage the man tells his friends and
close relatives that he s taken a 2 nd wife.thus he asks them to make dua for him. This approach allows the 1 st wife to be the last person to know and this is the most detested way for the women. The husband writes a letter to his first wife explaining to her that he got married and now he s with the cowife. He leaves her by herself with the news, and maybe something bad will happen as a result of her being left alone. True story : Um Mu adh said: I know a honorable brother and I don t praise anyone over Allah. He slides his wife a letter under the door informing her that he remarried. That night he slept outside with his new bride while the 1 st wife nearly went insane. He requested me to go and visit her to calm her down. When I arrived at the house I found her hair disheveled and I was worried that she was going to lose her mind. So what I did was I began to remind her of Allah s Commands until she calmed down. When her husband returned home she went to his office in their home and ripped up some papers and cut some his clothes. That was a dark night and it could have been worse, if Allah wouldn t have helped them. The man finds a Muslim lady to help him. Explaining to her that a man is about to take on another wife. Example: He asks her, What is the best approach to inform the 1 st wife that he s getting married again. He tells her to bear in mind that he is concerned about his first wife emotions and her well-being. So based on the opinions of the women he consulted he ll find out the best way to inform his wife of his marriage. Those women that were asked will be able to conceptualize the situation. The strange thing is most men and women prefer this way as opposed to others. Nonetheless, there are some women who can never accept their husbands remarrying, so reject their views and opinions.
The husband brings smalls things in the house as indicators that he s about to get married. Example: He purchases some small pamphlets and Cds for her bearing in mind her feelings. All women respond differently to the sensitivity of this topic. The husband opens this discussion up with his wife before he looks for co-wife. He mentions things from the Quran and the Sunnah reminding her that Allah has made it permissible. He then informs his wife that he has the intention to remarry one day. Example: The husband teaches the wife about the wisdom of polgyny. He educates her to know that if she is patient she will be successful in this life and in the next. And if she acts rash and reckless, she could possibly destroy their home and break up their family up for no just reason. The husband chooses a close female relative to help him inform his wife about his decision. It s important to note that the woman he picked has to be respected and loved by his wife. Example: He contacts his friend whose wife is close with his and asks him to assist, or he contacts someone in the family that has a good relationship with his wife and asks for help. The man takes his 1 st wife on a vacation and informs her about his choice, or perhaps he takes her to Umrah and tells her while they are making Tawaf that he s getting married again. The husband buys his wife some gifts then tells her
about his marriage. Spoiling the 1 st wife with gifts will help the times of sadness pass by with ease. The husband displays some signs that there is another woman in is his life. Example: He places something red on his lips and wipes it with his shirt so that his wife can have some doubt about him. The husband claims that his new wife was gift to him from a noble brother, so he couldn t refuse her. And he only tells her this at the beginning, and as time goes on, he informs her of the situation completely in order to maintain the honor of the 2 nd The husband tells his 1 st wife that their co-wife is for business purposes and tells his wife that he is pleased with her. The husband tells the 1 st that he isn t looking to carry any extra burdens and the reason he took on this responsibility was for business purposes in order to get some land or a piece of property. The husband prepares a survey about polgyny and gives it to his first wife in order to introduce her to the. Be mindful brothers that your intention for having a 2 nd,3 rd, or 4 th wife is to have more children, so don t worry. Be confident
that Allah will help you and grant you success. Ask Him for the good of this life and the good in the next. Don t let poverty or your wife s emotions stop you. Always remember to be just among your wives. Don t make your intention of taking another wife be revenge against your 1 st wife,or a means to earn her respect, or a tool of punishment, with something Allah has made lawful. Moreover, don t allow your intentions for doing it be a means to get people to say he s brave and a hero! He s took a 2 nd wife in an era when people don t do it. Be on alert! Satan tries to destroy your deeds. Brothers tell your wife that your new marriage won t have any impact on your relationship and you sustaining her. In fact this new marriage will allow you to be more mindful of her; as she is your first and your capital. Talking to her like this with will help her mind have ease. There are many benefits for the 1 st wife when you remarry, but we won t mention them here. My Muslim brothers before you decide to marry again you need to study your financial situation and your ability in order to safeguard everyone s rights. Some of the issues that run through men s minds about carrying more than one wife: A: Are you poor? Get married and Allah will make you rich. B: Your wife will leave you if you remarry? Get married and she will change. C: Your wife can t have any children. Get married D: Your first wife doesn t have any faults and doesn t fall short in giving you your rights. Get married and seek Allah s Blessings. E: You want to revive the Sunnah and increase the size of the
Ummah.- Get married F: It troubles you to see so many spinsters, widows and divorced women and you want to do some good for humanity. Get married and help solve some of the problems. G: You want to encourage the bachelors to marry. Get married and you will encourage them Brother s be mindful that polgyny breaks the women s backs, so when she acts up don t respond to her the way the same way she is acting. It s possible that she might be acting in a state of hysteria. Don t be hasty and control yourself. There are some women who threaten their husbands saying things like, If you get married again I ll kill you, or others who promise to leave them and their children and then return back to their parents home. Don t pay attention to this kind of speech. It s only words of anger and they will stop. As time goes on you ll notice her speech will change and her attitude will change once she s able to think more clearly. This is the sunnah of Allah with His creation. There s a parable that says: All things start off small and grow big, except calamities. They start off big and grow small. My Muslim sisters fear Allah! Don t place road blocks in your husband s path to polgyny. By doing this he might fall into Allah s prohibitions while you are unaware. My sisters in Islam think about your Muslim sisters who are spinsters, divorced and widowed and want a man and some men don t want them. What should we do with this problem in our society?! Think about the positive results and outcomes of polgyny May Allah help us and guide us to what s right for humanity. Translated by Abu Aaliyah Abdullah ibn Dwight Lamont Battle
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