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HOW TO IDENTIFY YOUR SPIRITUAL GIFTS (The Motivational Approach) Prepared by: Rev. Dr. Arthur B. Stratton Senior Pastor May 2008 Updated September 2008 Updated February 2011 1

Contents Preface... 4 Chapter I - Understanding Spiritual Gifts... 5 A. There is a Need to Make a Distinction Between God s Graces and God s Gifts... 5 B. Know the Difference Between Gifts and Talents... 5 C. The Distribution of Spiritual Gifts Involves the Entire Godhead... 5 D. Facts About the Distribution of Gifts... 5 E. The Reasons For the Gifts... 6 F. Spiritual Gifts are Given for The Profit of Others... 6 G. Gifts Are Distributed Through The Holy Spirit... 6 H. When and By Whom are The Gifts Distributed... 6 I. There are Two Extremes to Avoid... 6 J. The Spiritual Gifts of Scripture... 7 Chapter II - Definition of Spiritual Gifts... 8 A. Prophecy... 8 B. Pastor... 8 C. Teaching... 8 D. Wisdom... 8 E. Knowledge... 8 F. Exhortation... 8 G. Discerning of Spirits... 8 H. Giving... 8 I. Mercy... 8 J. Evangelist... 9 K. Hospitality... 9 L. Faith... 9 M. Leadership of Ruling... 9 N. Administration... 9 O. Miracles... 9 P. Healing... 9 Q. Tongues... 10 R. Interpretation... 10 2

S. Apostle... 10 T. Celibacy or Singleness... 10 U. Service or Helping... 10 Chapter III - The Motivational Approach to Identify Spiritual Gifts... 11 A. What Are The Purposes of Spiritual Gifts?... 11 B. Are There Different Categories of Gifts?... 11 C. How Many Gifts Does Each Christian Have?... 11 D. How Can We Discover Our Spiritual Gift?... 12 Chapter VI - The Characteristics and Illustrations of The Use and Misuse of Seven (7) Spiritual Gifts... 14 A. Characteristics of the Gift of Prophecy Illustrated From the Life of Peter... 14 B. Characteristics of The Gift of Serving Illustrated From the Life of Timothy... 15 C. Characteristics of The Gift of Teaching Illustrated From the Life of Luke... 15 D. Characteristics of The Gift of Exhortation Illustrated From the Life of Paul... 16 E. Characteristics of The Gift of Giving Illustrated From the Life of Matthew... 17 F. Characteristics of The Gift of Administration Illustrated From the Life of Nehemiah... 18 G. Characteristics of The Gift of Mercy Illustrated From the Life of John... 19 H. How Prophets Can Misuse Their Gift... 20 I. How Servers Can Misuse Their Gift... 21 J. How Teachers Can Misuse their Gift... 22 K. How Exhorters Can Misuse Their Gift... 23 L. How Givers Can Misuse Their Gift... 24 M. How Administrators Can Misuse Their Gift... 24 N. How Those Gifted With Mercy Can Misuse Their Gift... 25 Chapter V - Conclusion... 27 3

Preface The topic of spiritual gifts is an exciting one! To know how one has been gifted by the Holy Spirit to serve one another in the local church is extremely rewarding. There are a number of ways to determine one s spiritual gifts. Some think the trial and error approach is sufficient. Others encourage believers in the Lord Jesus Christ to use a questionnaire method available in Christian book stores. Finding one s motivational gift is another way. This approach defines many, but not all of the spiritual gifts given in the Bible. Seven of them are in the New Testament Book of Romans, chapter 12. Looking at the use and misuse of these seven gifts, one is encouraged to consider their motivational gifting. All the spiritual gifts in Scripture are important to a healthy church. Nevertheless, each believer is encouraged to search the Scriptures to come to his or her own conclusion on the miraculous gifts of tongues, healing, prophecy, etc. Let us study to show ourselves approved of God as we seek to identify our spiritual gifts under the leading of the Holy Spirit. 4

Chapter I - Understanding Spiritual Gifts A. There is a Need to Make a Distinction Between God s Graces and God s Gifts 1. The Graces of the Holy Spirit refer to the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22, 23) which are the qualities of Christian character the Holy Spirit desires to produce in our lives. 2. Gifts are a divine endowment of a special ability for service upon a member of the body of Christ. Gifts enable a person to function effectively and significantly in a particular service as a member of God s body. B. Know the Difference Between Gifts and Talents Talents are given by God to every person to benefit mankind on the natural level. Spiritual gifts are given by God to every believer for service in the body of Christ, the Church. Natural Talents Spiritual Gifts Source From God through parents From God independent of parents Possessed From Birth Probably from conversion Purpose To benefit mankind on the natural level To benefit mankind on the spiritual level Process Must be recognized, developed and exercised Must be recognized, developed and exercised Function Dedicated by believer to God for His use and glory 5 Ought to be used by believer for God s glory C. The Distribution of Spiritual Gifts Involves the Entire Godhead 1. The Scriptures teach spiritual gifts are given according to the measure of faith which God has assigned each believer. All these are inspired by the one and same Spirit who apportions to each one individually as He wills. (Romans 12:3; 1 Corinthians 12:11; Ephesians 4:7) D. Facts About the Distribution of Gifts 1. You have at least one spiritual gift. 2. You may have more than one spiritual gift (an example would be the apostle Paul). 3. You do not have all gifts; that is why there is need for all the members of the body. (1 Corinthians 12:15-21) 4. Your gift is essential to the efficient functioning of the body of Christ. Each member of the body is needed. (1 Corinthians 12:14-18)

5. According to the gift or gifts one possesses and according to the degree of their development, believers may be viewed as having a capacity for ministry. E. The Reasons For the Gifts 1. Gifts are given for the profit of others. 1 Corinthians 12:7 teaches that each believer is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good. Gifts are not for selfedification but are for the edification of others. 2. Question: What about 1 Corinthians 14:4? He who speaks in a tongue, edifies himself. The general theme of the verse is the edification of the Church. For example, speaking in tongues, unless interpreted, misses the main objective and is not carrying out the purpose. Self-edification is only a by-product. This is true for any gift. Selfedification is not the purpose of the gift. Self-edification is not a valid Christian goal. For example, 1 Corinthians 13:4, 5 Love seeketh not the things of itself. F. Spiritual Gifts are Given for The Profit of Others 1. Failure to use your gifts will impoverish the body. 2. Others will be poorer if we don t exercise our gifts. 3. Only selfishness withholds what God has designed for use for the profit of others. 4. It is by use of gifts that we will be a blessing to others. G. Gifts Are Distributed Through The Holy Spirit 1. 1 Corinthians 12:11 says, One and the same Spirit works all these things, distributing to each one individually just as He wills. 2. Why has He chosen to give you a particular gift? Because, the particular gift fits you most perfectly for His plan and purpose for your life. There are few things more important for a Christian than knowing what one s gift is. 3. Spiritual gifts are often a signpost of God s will for our lives. Spiritual gifts can show us our ministry. Grasping the sovereignty of God in this area of our lives will deliver us from a complaining spirit. H. When and By Whom are The Gifts Distributed 1. Given by the Holy Spirit. 2. At spiritual birth. We may receive additional gifts at a later date also. I. There are Two Extremes to Avoid 1. Pride in having a gift. There is no room to brag or feel special. It is only God s grace that we have spiritual gifts. 2. False humility. a. Thinks it presumptuous to claim to have a spiritual gift or be able to identify it. b. Denies what God has said He has done for us. 6

J. The Spiritual Gifts of Scripture Romans 12:6-8 Ephesians 4:11 1 Peter 4:11 Prophesying Ministering (Serving) Teaching Exhorting Giving Ruling Showing Mercy Apostleship Prophesying Evangelizing Pastor-Teacher Speaking Ministering 1 Corinthians 12:6-10 1 Corinthians 2:28 1 Corinthians 12:29 Word of Wisdom Word of Knowledge Faith Healing Miracles Prophesying Discerning of Spirits Tongues Interpretation of Tongues Apostleship Prophesying Teaching Miracles Healing Administering Tongues Apostleship Prophesying Teaching Miracles Healing Tongues Interpretation of Tongues 1 Corinthians 7:7 1 Peter 4:11 Celibacy Hospitality 7

A. Prophecy Chapter II - Definition of Spiritual Gifts The special ability to receive and communicate messages from God to his people.(when a person is God s mouthpiece on earth) Note: Foretelling revealing future events; foretelling explaining the scriptures. i.e. expository preaching. (1 Corinthians 12:10, 28; Romans 12:6; Ephesians 4:11) B. Pastor The special ability to assume a long-term personal responsibility for the spiritual welfare of a group of believers. (Who is sometimes called the Shepherd of a flock) (Ephesians 4:11; 1 Timothy 3:1-7; 1 Peter 5:1-3) C. Teaching The special ability to communicate information relevant to the health and ministry of the body and its members in such a way that others will learn. (1 Corinthians 12:28; Romans 12:7; Ephesians 4:11-14; Acts 18:24-28; Acts 20:20-21) D. Wisdom The special ability to know the mind of the Holy Spirit in such a way as to receive insight into how given knowledge may best be applied to specific needs arising in the body of Christ. (1 Corinthians 12:8; Acts 6:3, 10; 2 Peter 3:15) E. Knowledge The special ability to discover, accumulate, analyze and clarify information and ideas which are pertinent to the growth and well-being of the body. (1 Corinthians 12:8; 1 Corinthians 2:14) F. Exhortation The special ability to minister words of comfort, consolation, encouragement and counsel to other members of the body in such a way that they feel helped and healed. (Romans 12:8; 1 Timothy 4:13; Acts 14:22) G. Discerning of Spirits The special ability to know with assurance whether certain behavior purported to be of God is in reality divine, human or Satanic. (1 Corinthians 12:10; Acts 16:16-18; 1 John 4:1-6) H. Giving The special ability to contribute their material resources to the work of the Lord cheerfully, consistently, sacrificially and with liberality. (Romans 12:8; 2 Corinthians 8:1-7; 2 Corinthians 9:2, 6 8) I. Mercy The special ability to feel genuine empathy and compassion for individuals, both Christian and non-christian, who suffer distressing physical, mental or emotional problems, and to translate 8

that compassion into cheerfully-done deeds which reflect Christ s love and alleviate the suffering. (Romans 12:8; Luke 10:33-35; Mark 9:41) J. Evangelist The special ability to share the Gospel with unbelievers in such a way that men and women become Jesus disciples and responsible members of the body of Christ.(Ephesians 4:11; Acts 8:5-6; Act 8:26-40; 2 Timothy 4:5) K. Hospitality The special ability to provide an open home and a warm welcome for those in need of food and lodging. (Romans 12:9-13; Hebrews 13:1-2; Acts 16:15; Romans 16:23) L. Faith The special ability to discern with extraordinary confidence the will and purposes of God for the future of his work. (1 Corinthians 12:9; Acts 27:21-25; Romans 4:18-21; Hebrews 11) M. Leadership of Ruling The special ability to set goals in accordance with God s purpose for the future and to communicate these goals to others in such a way that they voluntarily and harmoniously work together to accomplish those goals for the glory of God, i.e. Elder. (Romans 12:8; 1 Timothy 5:17; Hebrews 13:17; 1 Timothy 3:1-7) N. Administration The special ability to understand clearly the immediate and long-range goals of a particular unit of the body of Christ and to organize and execute detailed plans for the accomplishment of these goals. (1 Corinthians 12:28; Book of Nehemiah) O. Miracles The special ability to serve as human intermediaries through whom it pleases God to perform powerful acts that are perceived by overseers to have altered the ordinary course of nature. (1 Corinthians 12:10; Acts 19:11-20; Romans 15:18-19; Acts 9:36-42) P. Healing The special ability to serve as human intermediaries through whom it pleases God to cure illness and restore health apart from the use of natural means. (1 Corinthians 12:9, 28; Acts 5:12-16; Acts 9:32-25) 9

Q. Tongues The special ability (1) to speak to God in a language they have never learned, i.e. public exercise of tongues and/or (2) to speak to God in a private prayer language. (1 Corinthians 12:10, 28; 1 Corinthians 14:13-19; Acts 2:1-13; Acts 19:1-7; Acts 10:44-46) R. Interpretation The special ability to make known in the vernacular the message of one who speaks in tongues. (1 Corinthians 12:10, 30; 1 Corinthians 14:13, 26-28) S. Apostle The special ability to assume and exercise general leadership over a number of churches with an extraordinary authority in spiritual matters which are spontaneously recognized and appreciated by those churches. (Messenger or sent one) Note: There is a difference between the twelve apostles in the primary sense and apostles in the secondary sense. (1 Corinthians 12:28; Ephesians 4:1; 2 Corinthians 12:12; Ephesians 3:1-9) T. Celibacy or Singleness The special ability to remain single and enjoy it to be unmarried and not suffer undue sexual temptations. (1 Corinthians 7:7-8; Matthew 19:10-12) U. Service or Helping The special ability to identify the unmet needs involved in a task related to God s work and to make use of available resources to meet those needs and help accomplish the desired goals. (Romans 12:7; Acts 6:1-7; Romans 16:1; 1 Corinthians 12:28) NOTE: The previous definitions and scriptural references are not meant to be dogmatic or a final list. This partial list has been compiled from: 1. Bridge, Donald and Phypers, David. Spiritual Gifts and the Church, Downers Grove, IL: Inter-Varsity Press, 1974. 2. Department of Church Growth, Fuller Evangelistic Association. Spiritual Gifts and Church Growth. P.O. Box 989 Pasadena, CA 91102: Fuller Evangelistic Association, 1978. 10

Chapter III - The Motivational Approach to Identify Spiritual Gifts A. What Are The Purposes of Spiritual Gifts? Spiritual gifts are given so every Christian can experience the joy and fulfillment of God working through them and ultimately benefit the Church. (1 Corinthians 12:7) B. Are There Different Categories of Gifts? There are various ways to divide or catalog gifts. There are ministry, motivational and manifestation gifts. 1. Ministry gifts. ( Diversities of administrations DIAKONÍA) (1 Corinthians 12:5)Ministry gifts provide opportunities for recognized Christian service through the Church. These gifts are confirmed by pastors, teachers, church workers, etc. 2. Motivational gifts ( Diversities of operations ENERGEMA) (1 Corinthians 12:6) Motivational gifts are the unique energizings of the Holy Spirit within a believer which give that believer the desire and the power to concentrate on a particular aspect of spiritual concern. They are given by the Holy Spirit in order to carry out the ministry. Every Christian has one of the seven motivational gifts listed in Romans 12:6-8. Every Christian then views other Christians and circumstances through their motivational gift. Christians with the gift of ruling look at things through the eyes of an administrator. Christians with the gift of teaching look at things through the eyes of a teacher. The same is true for those with the gift of prophecy, serving, exhortation, giving and mercy. 3. Manifestation gifts ( But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to every man to profit withal PHANEROSIS) (1 Corinthians 12:7) Manifestation gifts are supernatural results of the Holy Spirit s work in our lives and also the lives of those to whom we minister. These gifts can come and go. As we develop and use our manifestation gift through our given ministry, God causes supernatural results to occur. The Holy Spirit may give one person to whom we minister the gift of wisdom, another may receive the gift of discerning of spirits and still another may be given the manifestation gift of faith. (1 Corinthians 12:8-10) C. How Many Gifts Does Each Christian Have? Every Christian has one motivational gift. However, every Christian can also have one or more ministry gifts and any number of manifestation gifts. The ministry gifts are confirmed through the Church and the manifestation gifts are determined by God through the Holy Spirit. 11

D. How Can We Discover Our Spiritual Gift? There are several important steps in discovering our motivational spiritual gift. 1. Make sure you are a Christian Our spiritual gift is given to us when we become a Christian. When we are born physically, we are endowed with physical abilities. Similarly, when we are born again, we are endowed with spiritual abilities. 2. Break sin s power Root sins of pride, bitterness, temporal values and moral impurity grieve the Holy Spirit and quench his power in our lives. Since it is the Holy Spirit who makes known his gift to us and then works through that gift, it is quite obvious that sin will hinder us from discovering our spiritual gift. 3. Concentrate on others The purpose of our spiritual gift is to give God s love to others. If we are not involved in the lives of others, there will be no basis or purpose for discovering what our spiritual gift is. The more we concentrate on the needs of those around us, the more the Holy Spirit will be free to work through our spiritual gift to meet those needs. 4. Discern your motives Each spiritual gift prompts its possessor to view others from a different perspective. A prophet, for example, will be aware of needs in the lives of others that a server may not even notice. Meanwhile, a server will notice needs that a prophet may overlook entirely. By asking yourself why you really want to help others, you can narrow your choices in identifying your spiritual gift. 5. Examine your irritations. Every Christian will view people and circumstances from the viewpoint of their own spiritual gift. Each one will see needs which will not be seen by those with different gifts. The tendency is to assume everyone else sees the things you see. This will result in being irritated with others for not being sensitive to needs or concerned about them. 6. Find your characteristics Each spiritual gift exhibits specific characteristics. Those who have the same gift will tend to emphasize and illustrate certain characteristics more than those who have other spiritual gifts. The precise characteristics of each gift are explained in this manual. The list that most describes you is a good indicator of your spiritual gift. 7. Give adequate time Not everyone can identify their spiritual gift right away. Sometimes it takes more time to discern which one it really is. Often, the choice will be narrowed down to two possibilities. At this point, it is wise to select one and begin to concentrate on it. In due time, you will know whether it is your gift by the joy and fruitfulness you will receive from exercising it. 12

8. Humble your heart The discovery and exercise of spiritual gifts is accomplished by the grace of God, not by our own desire and power. (Romans 12:6) The more grace a Christian receives, the more confident and effective that Christian will be with his or her gift. 13

Chapter VI - The Characteristics and Illustrations of The Use and Misuse of Seven (7) Spiritual Gifts A. Characteristics of the Gift of Prophecy Illustrated From the Life of Peter Characteristics 1. The need to express thoughts and ideas verbally, especially regarding right and wrong. 2. The tendency to make quick judgments on what is seen and heard and to speak up quickly. 3. An amazing ability to sense when someone or something is not what it appears to be and to react harshly to dishonesty. 4. A desire to reject those who offend so justice will be done and others will be warned. 5. An openness about personal faults and failures and an honesty about himself as well as others. 6. A tendency to be impulsive in actions and to be wholeheartedly involved in whatever is done. 7. A tendency to be painfully direct when correcting friends. 8. A desire to give open evidence of loyalty and total commitment. 9. A willingness to suffer for doing what is right. 10. An ability to be very persuasive in defining what is right and what is wrong. Illustrations Peter spoke more often than any other disciple in the Gospels and became the spokes-man of the early Church. (Acts 2:4; 3:12) Peter spoke first more than any other disciple. (Matthew 14:28; 15:15; 16:16; 17:4; 19:27; 26:33; John 6:68; 13:6) Peter s condemnation of the deception of Ananias and Sapphira resulted in their death. (Acts 5:3-10) Peter was reluctant to forgive his offender and asked how long he had to put up with him. (Matthew 18:21) Peter fell at Jesus knees and said, Depart from me, for I am a sinful man, O Lord. (Luke 5:8) Peter was eager to walk on water. (Matthew 14:28) He forbad Jesus to wash his feet, then wanted Jesus to wash his hands and head. (John 13:6-10) Peter rebuked Jesus for a course of action which Peter did not think was right for Him to take. (Mark 8:31-33) Peter assured Jesus he would never deny Him, and he defended Jesus by cutting off the ear of the high priest s servant. (Matthew 26:33; John 18:10) Peter rejoiced in being counted worthy to suffer shame for Jesus when he was beaten for obeying God rather than man. (Acts 5:29-42) God brought conviction to thousands as Peter pointed out, ye have taken [Jesus], and by wicked hands have crucified and slain [Him] (Acts 2:14-47) 14

B. Characteristics of The Gift of Serving Illustrated From the Life of Timothy Characteristics 1. The ability to see practical needs and a desire to meet them. 2. A joy in serving when it frees others to do more important things, not just to keep busy. 3. A tendency to disregard personal health and comfort in serving others. 4. A difficulty in saying no resulting in a variety of involvements and a tendency to get sidetracked. 5. A special enjoyment in providing for physical needs and comforts. An ability to remember likes and dislikes. 6. A need for appreciation to confirm service is necessary and satisfactory. A desire for clear instructions (without time limits). 7. A strong desire to be with others, thus providing more serving opportunities. 8. An enjoyment of short-range projects and a tendency to become frustrated with long-range responsibilities. 9. A tendency to feel inadequate and unqualified for spiritual leadership. Illustrations Timothy s desire to meet needs is confirmed by Paul: For I have no man like-minded, who will naturally care for your state. (Philippians 2:20) Timothy served Paul so Paul could carry out his ministry. He served Paul as a son with his father. (Philippians 2:22) Timothy s physical ailments were revealed when Paul wrote: Drink no longer water, but use a little wine for thy stomach s sake and thine often infirmities. (1 Timothy 5:23) Timothy was told twice by Paul not to get sidetracked: Do thy diligence to come shortly unto me Do thy diligence to come before winter. (2 Timothy 4:9, 21) Timothy was instructed to bring Paul his cloak, books and especially the parchments. (2 Timothy 4:13) Timothy was given more instruction and praise by Paul than any other assistant. (1 & 2 Timothy) Timothy was almost always working with others. (Acts 16:2; 17:14-15; 18:5; 19:22; 20:4) Timothy was urged to maintain the endurance of a soldier and to continue in the calling he was given. (1 Timothy 4:16; 2 Timothy 2:3) Timothy was reassured by Paul that he was qualified by his ordination and by the train-ing of his mother, grandmother and Paul. (1 Timothy 4:14; 2 Timothy 1:5; 3:10-14) C. Characteristics of The Gift of Teaching Illustrated From the Life of Luke Characteristics 1. The need to validate truth, to certify statements which have been made by others. Illustrations Luke s purpose in writing was, That thou mightest know the certainty of those things, wherein thou has been instructed. (Luke 1:4) 15

Characteristics 2. The tendency to validate new truth by established systems of truth. 3. The prompting to give teaching credentials before speaking and to get them from others before listening. 4. The desire to present truth in a systematic sequence. 5. A delight in researching and reporting as many facts on a subject as possible. 6. An emphasis on the importance and accuracy of reporting. 7. An alertness to factual details which are not noticed or mentioned by others. 8. A tendency to remain silent until information has been heard, observed and discussed. 9. A need to exercise diligence and endurance. Illustrations Luke not only relates Christ s words to Old Testament prophecies, but relates his writings to other Gospel accounts. (Luke 1:1-3) Luke emphasized he was an eyewitness, a qualified minister and had perfect understanding of all things from the very first. (Luke 1:2-3) Luke emphasized his chronological approach: to set forth in order from the beginning to write unto thee in order. (Luke 1:1-3) Luke s Gospel is the longest Gospel. It includes material left out of other Gospels. He emphasizes the completeness of his work. (Acts 1:1) Luke gives precise descriptions of events, conversations, circumstances and physical conditions, such as noting a great fever not just a fever. (Luke 4:38) Luke s account is filled with more details of names, offices, cities, dates, events and side points than the other Gospels. Luke is conspicuous in the Gospel by his silence; none of his statements are recorded. Luke demonstrated his faithful determination by remaining with Paul in prison until the end - Only Luke is with me. (2 Timothy 4:10-11) D. Characteristics of The Gift of Exhortation Illustrated From the Life of Paul Characteristics 1. A motivation to urge people to their full spiritual maturity in Christ. 2. An ability to discern where a person is in spiritual growth and to speak on that level. 3. A desire to give precise steps of action in urging people toward spiritual maturity. Illustrations Paul s goal was to present every man perfect in Christ Jesus. (Colossians 1:28-29) Paul saw the Corinthians as spiritual infants And I, brethren, could not speak unto you as unto spiritual, but as unto carnal, even as unto babes in Christ. (1 Corinthians 3:1) Paul s writings are filled with practical counsel and precise steps of action on how to grow spiritually. 16

Characteristics 4. A drive to explain truth with logical reasoning in order to make it accepted. 5. An ability to visualize spiritual achievement for people and to use this to motivate them to action. 6. A desire for face to face discussion in order to determine and insure a positive response. 7. An ability to identify with people of different types and backgrounds in order to gain a wider hearing. 8. A motivation to bring harmony between diverse groups of Christians and an awareness that harmony is basic to spiritual maturity. 9. An ability to welcome personal tribulation as a chief motivator of spiritual growth. Illustrations Paul s writings on the resurrection in 1 Corinthians 15 are classic in logical thinking. Reasoning was his basic method when dealing with the Jews, the Greeks, King Agrippa and others. (Acts 18:4, 26:28) Paul was a master in picturing spiritual goals for his workers and his churches. He reinforced goals by the example of his own life. (Philippians 3:17) Paul s longing to see his fellow believers was constantly reaffirmed. (1 Thessalonians 2:17; 3:10; 2 Timothy 1:4) He used personal conferences extensively. (1 Thessalonians 2:11-12) Paul explained, I have become all things to all men so that I might by all means save some. (1 Corinthians 9:19-23) Paul worked constantly to resolve conflicts and divisions between individuals, churches and groups. (1 Corinthians 3:3, 4; Philippians 2:2) The money he raised united Jews and Gentiles. (2 Corinthians 9:12-14) Paul gloried in his infirmities, because he saw they brought Christ s power and a far greater weight of glory. ( 2 Corinthians 1:5; 4:17, 12:9) E. Characteristics of The Gift of Giving Illustrated From the Life of Matthew Characteristics 1. A keen ability to discern wise investments in order to have more money available to give away. 2. A desire to give quietly without public notice. 3. A motivation to give as unto the Lord as His promptings, not at man s appeals. 4. A desire to give gifts which are of high quality. 17 Illustrations Matthew included more counsel on the wise use of money than any other Gospel writer.(matthew 6:19-20; 25:14-30) Matthew is the only Gospel writer who empha-sizes a person should give secretly so God can reward him openly. (Matthew 6:1-4) Matthew notes that when we give to the needs of fellow Christians, which God reveals, we give to Christ. (Matthew 25:35-46) Matthew records in greater detail the costly gifts given to Jesus gold,

Characteristics 5. An ability to test faithfulness and wisdom by how people handle funds. 6. A tendency to practice personal frugality. An ability to be content with the basic necessities of life. 7. An alertness to see what other people do with their money. 8. An ability to see financial needs which others tend to overlook. 9. A desire to use giving as a way to motivate others to give. Illustrations frankincense, myrrh, new sepulcher and precious ointment. (Matthew 2:11; 26:6-13; 27:57-60) Matthew reveals the foolishness and rebellion of those who misused what they were given. (Matthew 21:33-34; 25:14-30) Matthew had wealth and wealthy friends, however, he left all to follow Jesus. (Luke 5:27-32) Matthew is the only Gospel writer to explain what the religious leaders did with Judas thirty pieces of silver and also how they paid the soldiers to lie. (Matthew 27:3-8; 28:11-15) Matthew records Christ s condemnation of the Pharisees for not supporting their aged parents. (Matthew 15:3-7) He also details the fairness of paying all the laborers the same wage. (Matthew 20:1-16) Matthew was a tax collector. His job was to motivate people to give. (Luke 5:29) His is the only Gospel to record Christ s condemnation of the man who was forgiven much but refused to forgive another who owed him little. (Matthew 18:23-35) F. Characteristics of The Gift of Administration Illustrated From the Life of Nehemiah Characteristics 1. An ability to visualize the final result of a major undertaking. 2. An ability to break down major goals into smaller, achievable tasks. 3. An ability to know what resources are available and needed to reach a goal. 4. A tendency to remove himself from distracting details in order to focus on the ultimate goal. 18 Illustrations Nehemiah visualized the goal of removing the great affliction and reproach of God s people by rebuilding the walls. (Nehemiah 1:2-3; 2:5) Nehemiah accomplished the huge task of rebuilding the walls by having many groups working on smaller sections. (Nehemiah 3:1-32) Nehemiah requested from the king resources needed to rebuild the walls a certain time, letters of introduction and timber. (Nehemiah 2:6-8) Nehemiah did not get involved in the building itself but removed obstacles which would hinder the workers, such as

Characteristics 5. A willingness to endure reaction from insiders and outsiders in order to reach an ultimate goal. 6. A need for loyalty and confidence from those who are being directed and served. 7. An ability to know what he should and should not delegate to others. 8. An ability to inspire and encourage workers by cheerfulness, approval, praise and challenges. 9. A joy and fulfillment in seeing all the parts come together in a finished product. Illustrations removing financial pressures. (Nehemiah 5:1-13) Nehemiah had opposition from within and without in his efforts to rebuild the walls. (Nehemiah 4:8-18) Nehemiah brought a great assembly of people against the nobles and rulers who discouraged the people. He required oaths of cooperation from them. (Nehemiah 5:1-13) Nehemiah delegated the work on the walls, but he retained the responsibility of dealing with the enemies and guarding the walls. (Nehemiah 4:13) Nehemiah had a cheerful spirit. (Nehemiah 2:1) He was skillful in challenging and encouraging his workers. (Nehemiah 4:14) Nehemiah expressed his joy in the completed task by appointing singers and uniting the people in a revival and celebration. (Nehemiah 7:1-2; 8:1-18) G. Characteristics of The Gift of Mercy Illustrated From the Life of John Characteristics 1. An ability to sense genuine love a greater vulnerability to deeper and more frequent hurts from the lack of love. 2. A need for deep friendships in which there is mutual commitment. 3. A tendency to react harshly when intimate friends are rejected. 4. A greater concern over mental joy or distress than physical concerns. Illustrations John s teachings and personal relationships illustrate that his primary focus was on love. He uses the word love more than any other disciple. (Gospel of John; Epistles of John) John established a very close relationship with Christ and with Peter. He often refers to himself as the disciple whom Jesus loved. (John 13:23; 19:26; 20:2; 21:7; 21:20) John and James asked Christ if they should call down fire from heaven and consume the Samaritans who rejected Christ. (Luke 9:54) John wrote to give his readers joy, hope, fellowship, confidence and to cast out fear and torment. (1 John 1:3, 4; 3:2; 4:18; 5:13-14) Meeting physical needs proves love. (1 John 3:17) 19

Characteristics 5. A tendency to attract people who are having mental and emotional distress. 6. A need to measure acceptance by physical closeness and quality time together. 7. A desire to remove the causes of hurts rather than to look for benefits from them. 8. A tendency to avoid decisions and firmness unless they will eliminate greater hurts. 9. A tendency to be attracted to those with the spiritual gift of prophecy. Illustrations John s deep understanding, love and acceptance made it easy to understand why others would confide in him as Christ did during the last supper. (John 13:23-26) John sought out the closest place to Christ Now there was leaning on Jesus bosom one of his disciples (John 13:23) His need for closeness may have prompted his request to sit next to Christ in glory. (Mark 10:35-37) John s message was to get Christians to stop hating and hurting each other. (1 John 3:11, 15) John was a follower until it came to denying Jesus; then he was bold and decisive. (Acts 4:13; 19-20) John spent more time with Peter than with any other disciple. (Luke 22:8; Acts 3:1-11; 4:13-19; 8:14 H. How Prophets Can Misuse Their Gift 1. Correcting people who are not their responsibility. Prophets often feel they are responsible for everyone. It is extra hard for them to hold back when they see things that are wrong. 2. Jumping to conclusions about words, actions and motives. Prophets tend to draw conclusions on a few known facts. Based on these and a built-in sense of right and wrong, they may draw hasty conclusions. 3. Reinforcing a condemning spirit. Once a hasty conclusion has been made, prophets tend to look for confirming evidence. This can result in taking words and actions of the accused out of context in order to prove a point. 4. Judging and exposing an offender rather than restoring the offender. To judge a Christian brother is to pass sentence on him based on the evidence at hand and not to be concerned about helping him overcome his problem. Prophets tend to point out the problems but not see the solutions to them. 5. Cutting-off a person who has failed. Once a person has failed, prophets tend to cut-off fellowship with that person and persuade others to do the same. Friends will even be cutoff in favor of being true to a cause. 6. Dwelling on the negative rather than the positive. Prophets are more sensitive to evil and deception than others are. This often results in their being against more things than they are for, or at least it may appear that way to others. If something is partly right and partly wrong, prophets tend to see it as all wrong. They view things in extremes of either all right or all wrong. 20

7. Lacking cautiousness and tactfulness in expressing opinions. Driven by the desire to be totally open and honest, prophets often share opinions which would have been better left unsaid. 8. Demanding a positive response to a harsh rebuke. Prophets tend to expect immediate repentance regardless of whether their rebuke was in love or fully accurate. They tend to magnify failures in order to promote repentance. 9. Condemning themselves when they fail. The harsh judgments which prophets have for others, they also have for themselves. They tend to be extremely self-critical and feel worthless when they fail. 10. Accusing others of deception if they don t fully reveal faults. If prophets sell a used car or appliance to someone, they will tend to tell all the weaknesses and faults of the item. They expect others to do the same with them and will probably accuse them of dishonesty or deception if they don t. I. How Servers Can Misuse Their Gift 1. Neglecting home responsibilities to help others. Servers tend to disregard their own comforts in order to help others. Other reasons may also cause this an inability to say no to others and the need for sincere gratefulness from those whom they help (which they may not get at home). This attitude may extend to their own families. 2. Accepting too many jobs at one time. It is difficult for servers to say no to needs; this causes them to get involved in too many projects at the same time. 3. Wearing themselves out physically. In order to assist others, servers will often disregard their own physical limitations. This, in itself, will cause physical exhaustion. However, servers tend to add a further dimension to the problem when they take on more responsibility than they can handle inner tension which may result in ailments, especially with their stomachs. 4. Being too persistent in giving unrequested help to others. Servers are able to detect needs before others are even aware of them. They get their joy and fulfillment for meeting these needs. Because of this, they may persist in trying to meet a particular need which they see. 5. Going around proper authorities in order to get jobs done. The proper channels of people and committees may look like unnecessary red tape to servers who want to get jobs done as soon as possible. They will even use personal funds in order to avoid delays in meeting needs; usually they can t afford the money they spend. 6. Excluding others from helping on a job. Unlike administrators, servers find it extremely difficult to delegate jobs to others. They tend to want to do the jobs themselves. 7. Interfering with God s discipline by premature help. If servers see a need in the life of another person, their first impulse is to meet it; however, it may be that the need is designed by God to bring that person to repentance. The needs of the prodigal son in the pig sty would illustrate this point. Meeting his physical needs might have hindered his repentance and return to his father. 8. Becoming hurt by the ungratefulness of those who were helped. Servers do not usually desire public recognition. However, they deeply desire sincere appreciation from the ones 21

whom they serve. This may cause them to work for the approval of people more than the approval of God. 9. Getting sidetracked while working on an assignment. It is very easy for servers to stop what they are doing and give a helping hand to another need which they see. This may cause the ones under whom they serve to become frustrated with them because the assigned tasks are not com-pleted as fast as they should be. The server should refer all others to his boss and get directions only from him. J. How Teachers Can Misuse their Gift 1. Becoming proud of their knowledge. It would be easy for teachers to develop an attitude of pride as a result of all their learning. Knowledge puffeth up, but love edifieth. 1 2. Despising practical wisdom of uneducated people. A teacher may tend to discount any learning which does not take place in the classroom. And the Jews marveled saying, How knoweth this man letters, having never learned? 2 3. Communicating skepticism toward their teachers. The attitude of a teacher can easily be, It isn t right until I check it out and say it is right. A teacher may communicate the impression they are the only source of truth. 4. Criticizing sound teaching because of technical flaws. It is difficult for a teacher to endorse the teaching of others if he is able to spot little factual errors. Teachers may, in this case, give a general criticism of the entire teaching. 5. Depending on human reasoning rather than the Holy Spirit s teaching. The primary tool of teachers is their mind, yet God warns that we are not to lean on our own understanding 3 because our thoughts are not His thoughts, 4 and there is a way which seems right to a man s mind, but it leads to death. 5 Actually, the reasonings of man are foolishness with God. 6 Morality is essential for spiritual understanding. 7 True understanding is essentially a spiritual matter not a mental matter. God s truth is spiritually discerned. 8 6. Giving information which lacks practical application. The purpose of all teaching must be to exalt Christ and to promote conformity to His image. 9 Teachers tend to avoid wider applications beyond the actual wording of the text. This limits the use of Scripture as a daily lamp to our feet and light to our path. 7. Boring listeners with details of research. The great delight of teachers is their research. What they enjoy, they assume others will enjoy. Teachers may give extensive background details to validate a point or to display their research ability and knowledge. In most cases, however, it is not as important to the listeners as it is to them. Sometimes, it wearies the listeners to the point where they miss the purpose of the teaching. 8. Retreating into their own world of books. Teachers not only enjoy research but they see it as the basis of their effectiveness as a teacher. They assume the more knowledgeable they are in their field, the more prepared they are to evaluate new ideas and refute error. Research is very consuming of time and concentration. This may cause them to shut themselves up in their own world and close out those who are around them. 1 1 Corinthians 8:1 2 John 7:15 6 1 Corinthians 1:20 7 2 Thessalonians 2:10-11 22

3 Proverbs 3:5 4 Isaiah 55:8 5 Proverbs 14:12 8 1 Corinthians 2:14 9 Romans 8:29 K. How Exhorters Can Misuse Their Gift 1. Raising the expectations of others prematurely. Exhorters can visualize long-range projects and goals for people. These are often explained without reference to the amount of time that will be required to work them out. The people involved are led to assume these projects and goals will be reached much sooner than they can be. 2. Taking family time to counsel others. The delight of exhorters is helping people with problems. Exhorters are willing to give whatever time is required to achieve results. All too often this time cuts into family responsibilities. Exhorters assume their families will understand until they learn differently. 3. Treating family and friends as projects rather than persons. Because exhorters put confidence in steps of action which have proven effective, they are usually ready to share these steps with others, including family and friends. Rather than making them feel like special people, the exhorter may give the impression friends and family are just more counseling projects. 4. Sharing private illustrations without permission. The importance and effectiveness of personal illustrations explain how to exhorters. Illustrations explain how to apply steps of action and also motivate the listener to take them. Exhorters tend to use recent illustrations which are either premature or without permission. 5. Jumping into new projects without finishing existing ones. Projects are often used by exhorters to reach ultimate goals. Exhorters tend to motivate others to get involved in a project and then abandon it for a better project. This often disillusions those who were involved in the first project. 6. Encouraging others to depend on them rather than God and their authorities. People who receive help by following counsel that is given by exhorters tend to rely on those who gave it. Exhorters tend to encourage this because of their joy in being around those who are growing spiritually. 7. Trusting visible results rather than a true change of heart. Exhorters tend to communicate acceptance and approval when those they are trying to help respond to the steps of action which are given. This can encourage outward conformity without an actual change of heart within. 8. Neglecting proper emphasis on basic Bible doctrines. Any teaching which neglects practical application tends to be minimized by exhorters. Because doctrinal teaching has been (wrongly) separated from its moral applications, exhorters have neglected it in favor of life related teachings. 9. Giving counsel before discerning the type of person or problem. Exhorters tend to categorize the problem in their mind before hearing all the important facts. This results in the shame of answering a matter before fully hearing it. Exhorters also tend to have more confidence in their own counsel than in God s warnings on whom not to give counsel to. 23

L. How Givers Can Misuse Their Gift 1. Giving too sparingly to their own family. Givers are very aware of the potential of money to corrupt people. They understand the need for those in their own family to work for money and to appreciate its value. In attempting to achieve these balances, givers may be too frugal with their own family. 2. Causing family to resent gifts to others. If givers are too frugal with their own families and then give large gifts to others, they can cause their families to resent those to whom gifts are given. To avoid this, it is essential for givers to have their marriage partners confirm the amount a gift should be. 3. Listening to unscriptural counsel on money management. When givers exercise their ability to increase funds and give away money, they tend to attract people with wrong motives and unscriptural counsel. Unless givers are firmly grounded in God s principles of finances, they can be deceived by these people or their methods. 4. Putting pressure on people who have less to give. One of the motivations of givers is to encourage others to give. Various methods may be used to accomplish this, such as matching gifts or fund-raising programs. In the counsel of doing this, givers may put excessive pressure on others to give. 5. Failing to discern God s promptings for a gift. It is God who gives Christians power to get wealth. It is also God who will prompt givers when to give, how to give and how much to give. If givers are not responsive or obedient to these promptings, Satan is given admittance into their financial dealings. 6. Judging those who misuse funds rather than advising them. Givers are very alert to how people use funds and how funds are misused. In the course of discerning where their own funds should go, givers can overlook the valuable ministry they could have in advising Christians in the use of their money. 7. Controlling people or ministries by gifts. In an attempt to make sure their gifts are wisely invested, givers may sponsor projects or buy items which are not in God s plan for a ministry. 8. Corrupting people by giving too much. Givers will always run the risk of corrupting people with funds. Those who receive them can too easily begin looking to givers rather than to God and doing things with easily gotten money which is contrary to God s will. 9. Investing in projects which do not benefit the lives of people. Givers tend to be more attracted to projects than they are to the daily needs of Christians. Sometimes, these projects build an organization but not the people in the organization or those reached through the organization. M. How Administrators Can Misuse Their Gift 1. Viewing people as human resources rather than human beings. Administrators need to know people and materials are available to them in order to accomplish a task. It is easy for them to overlook the individual needs of the workers and simply view them as resources for the job. 24

2. Using people to accomplish personal ambitions. When administrators have people, money and materials at their disposal to accomplish group goals, it is all too easy to divert these resources to accomplish personal goals or ambitions. 3. Showing favoritism to those who appear to be more loyal. The single most important quality to administrators is loyalty. They need to know whom they can count on to get jobs done. They want to know where they stand with each person who works for them. At the same time administrators must be fair and impartial. Rewarding loyalty without favoritism is a special challenge for administrators. 4. 4. Taking charge of projects which were not God s direction. Ordinarily, administrators will stay on the side lines until they are asked to be in charge of a project. There is a reason for this they need to have the full support of those who appoint them. It is difficult, however, for administrators to stand by and watch mismanagement and inefficiency, and they can take charge prematurely. 5. Delegating too much work to others. The chief talent of administrators is knowing how to delegate jobs to others. This leaves administrators free to focus on the overall projects and to see how all the parts are fitting together. However, if administrators delegate too much work to others and are not sensitive to their personal needs and schedules, the workers will become resentful and feel like they are doing all the work. 6. Overlooking serious character faults in valuable workers. The primary objective of administrators is to coordinate everyone s effort in order to see a project completed. In the process, they may be willing to overlook major character faults in the lives of those who are useful in reaching their goals. 7. Being unresponsive to suggestions and appeals. Administrators have the ability to withstand much reaction in order to get a job done. However, they can carry this too far and become closed to valid suggestions and complaints of those who are working with them. 8. Failing to give proper explanations and praise to workers. Workers want to feel like they are a part of the overall project by learning how their jobs fit into the final goal and by receiving proper praise and encouragement as the work is being done. N. How Those Gifted With Mercy Can Misuse Their Gift 1. Failing to be firm and decisive when necessary. Those with the gift of mercy find it hard to be firm and decisive because they do not want to hurt or offend other people. Very often, the lack of firmness or decisiveness only causes greater hurt and disappointment. 2. Taking up offenses for those who have been hurt. When those with the gift of mercy see or hear about someone hurting another person, they can feel the hurt as well. They will tend to take up offenses, especially if it is a friend who is being hurt. 3. Basing decisions on emotions rather than on reason. Because those with the gift of mercy have such strong emotions and feelings, they tend to base the decisions on which they make rather than on objective logic. 4. Promoting improper affections from those of the opposite sex. A person of the opposite sex tends to be drawn to those with the gift of mercy because of their ability to be sensitive, under-standing and responsive listeners. This must be considered in any 25