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Blake Ursch Ethics Essay Due Date: 4/16/13 Urschb@gmail.com I ve never even seen a copy of Janet Malcom s The Journalist and the Murderer, but almost every text I ve been assigned for my journalism education has cited its opening passage: Every journalist who is not too stupid or too full of himself to notice what is going on knows that what he does is morally indefensible. He is a kind of confidence man, preying on people s vanity, ignorance, or loneliness, gaining their trust and betraying them without remorse. I dismissed this quote the first time I read it as a junior undergraduate in Jacqui Banaszynski s intermediate writing class. Over-the-top cynicism, I thought. What kind of reporter would actually treat people this way? I, of course, genuinely liked the sources I d interviewed and the people I d profiled in my less-than-a-year-old reporting career. I would never lie to them or betray them without remorse. But months later, Malcom s words would echo in my brain as I reported a story for my internship at The Kansas City Star in the summer of 2012. I d spent most of the summer writing soft pieces stories that were almost impossible to screw up. I d written about a father-daughter singing duo who had recently been featured on America s Got Talent and about how the local pest bat population was responding to the summer heat. I had yet to come up against an actual challenge during my reporting. Helen Gray edited the Sunday Faith section, and she was adamant that I would write a religion story for her before my internship was over. She came by my desk one day in early July with a scrap of paper bearing a name and phone number for a man named Brian Ellison. Ellison had been the pastor at Parkville Presbyterian Church in Parkville, Mo., a suburb of Kansas City for the last 13 years. A month earlier, he had mailed a letter of resignation to his

congregation. In this letter, he came out to them as being gay, and he told them that he had been in a committed relationship with another man for nine years. Maybe it was overconfidence, maybe it was ignorance, but for whatever reason, I didn t think the story would be as challenging as it turned out to be. And besides, I wasn t in any position to turn down assignments. I discussed it with Helen and the editor above her, Darryl Levings, who would act as my editor for the assignment. The news hook for the story was that Ellison was due to start his new job as head of the Covenant Network of Presbyterians, an advocacy group for LGBT members in the Presbyterian Church, in a week. But we all agreed that the real story was about Ellison and the letter how he came to write it, why he kept his life a secret from his congregation for so long and how the congregation reacted to it. I picked up the phone and punched in Ellison s number. The line connected, and suddenly, my stomach turned. I realized that I had never written a story as personal, and potentially unflattering, as this one would be. I had no idea how to explain to this guy what I was planning to do. What was I going to say? Ellison answered. I was vague. I told him we knew about the letter and his new position at the Covenant Network and wanted to write a story about him. He was polite and sounded friendly. We made plans to meet up for an interview at a coffee shop in Parkville the next day. We hung up. That wasn t so bad, I thought. He called back a few minutes later. I just want to make sure that this story is going to focus on the work I ll be doing with the Covenant Network, he said. I ll be really disappointed if it ends up focusing on me as a gay minister. I just really don t think that s a story.

I knew what he wanted fluff. He wanted me to paint a rosy picture of his last month at Parkville and spend the bulk of the story trumping up publicity for the organization he was now responsible for. I froze. As a feature writer, I d never had someone try to take control of a story (to my knowledge). I skirted around it. I ll talk to my editors, I said. But I don t think that should be a problem. I d lied to him. I knew the story wasn t going to be about his new job no editor would publish something like that. I d misled him about my intentions, and I felt like I was gaining his trust in anticipation of a betrayal. I had given him the idea that he was in control. Maybe he was. I explained the situation to Darryl. His advice was curt: I knew what the story was, he said, and I needed to ask him the right questions to get that story done. Whether or not he answered them was his decision, but it was my problem. I didn t disagree with Darryl in my mind, writing any other story than the one about the letter and the congregation would have been akin to a cover-up. But Ellison had agreed to let us do the story; he wasn t being forced into it. Didn t he deserve some measure of control over what was written about him? This was the question I struggled with as I walked into the coffee shop the next morning. Ellison was a likable, intelligent guy, if maybe a little guarded. I asked him about his journey to become a minister, how he ended up in Parkville, how he liked working there and what the congregation was like. It was all fine, even when I started asking him the questions I knew he didn t want to answer. I told him that obviously, we couldn t ignore the situation with the resignation letter; that would be a disservice to the story. He agreed. So I asked him when he realized he was gay, how long ago he d met his partner, and if he thought anyone in the congregation had any suspicions

over the years. I asked him why he d decided to keep it a secret from them, and what it was like hiding it for so many years. He answered my questions, but he rarely elaborated. I didn t ask him to. I knew he was uncomfortable, and that made me uncomfortable. I d never conducted an interview with someone who actively didn t want to be talking to me. It was clear that Ellison was only answering them to be polite. He was a nice guy who didn t want to scare away the nervous intern sitting across from him. Finally, I asked him if, after he mailed the letter, he d heard of anyone in the congregation who felt upset or betrayed. He clammed up. Yes, he said, maybe a few people. But he reiterated over and over that the overwhelming response from the congregation was just sadness that he was leaving. His sexuality was hardly an issue. I left the interview without pushing back. I didn t ask him to elaborate on what kind of negative response he d gotten, and I didn t ask him to name any names. I also hadn t gotten specific details of his relationship that I knew Darryl would want me to know whether or not he lived with his partner, and whether his partner had been okay with Ellison staying, at least to some degree, in the closet. I asked Ellison to put me in touch with some members of his congregation that would be willing to talk to me. They all said the same thing: Brian was an excellent pastor, his sermons were insightful and eloquent, and, as far as they knew, the overwhelming response to his letter had been positive. They all seemed reluctant to talk about anyone who may have felt lied to, and they flat-out refused to put me in touch with those people. I sent the first draft to Darryl and, like a good editor should, he called me out on everything that was missing. He called the story a love letter to Ellison. There were no

dissenting voices, no one who felt like their trusted minister had kept things from them while they had borne their hearts and souls to him. I didn t even mention whether or not Ellison had been living with his partner all this time. He told me to get the guy on the phone again. I did. Ellison was mad. Yes, he lived with his partner, he said. But why was that any of my business? He said he was worried. I agreed to do this story because I thought you would write about my position with the Covenant Network, he said. I apologized, told him it was his life and I wasn t trying to screw it up, and hung up. I stared at my desk for a while, trying to figure out what was worse that I d misled Ellison in the first place, or that my guilt and nerves had caused me to give him control of the story. I wasn t doing the story justice because I felt like I was prying into his life. I m still conflicted on how I feel about the article that ended up running. On the one hand, I pushed harder than I d ever pushed on a story before. After phone calls with Ellison, and apologies on both sides, I got some of the information that Darryl wanted. I talked to his partner and learned more about their lives keeping their relationship a secret from the congregation. I mentioned that some church members felt hurt or betrayed, but their voices aren t in the text. It s full of quotes about how great of a minister Ellison was, how sad his congregation is to see him go, and how excited the Covenant Network is for him to start his new job. Darryl ended up being okay with it. Rosy, he said, but well written. Ellison was happy with it too. I don t know how I feel about that. If I d doggedly pursued the best, fullest version of the story, I doubt he would ve been. For me, this situation boils down to two ethical questions: How transparent should we be with sources? And how much we should let those sources be in control of their public persona?

I ve gotten the same answer to these questions from every text I ve read and every professor I ve talked to: it depends. Yes, it s usually in a reporter s best interest to keep his or her cards close to their chest in the case of a hard-hitting investigative piece. But in the case of feature stories, where do we draw the line? At what point does it become unethical to publish a story that could damage somebody s reputation? And at what point does polite compromise cross the line into forced acquiescence? There are no definitive answers to these questions, but since the experience with Ellison, I ve come up with a system to minimize the amount of uncertainty they can cause. I m always up front with all of my sources about why I m talking to them. If I m looking for contextual information on a certain topic, I tell them that. If I m looking for a couple of quotes, I tell them that. If I want to write a whole story about them, I tell them. If they have questions for me, I answer them. The issue of how much slack a source should be given in controlling a story is a little murkier. I ve always believed that people have the right to a reputation, especially in the case of feature stories. But how would journalism differ from public relations if we gave them the right to spin the story any way they wanted? After the experience with Ellison, I m more inclined to believe that people can exercise the right to preserve the public image by not talking to the press. Once they agree to be the subject of a story, it s our job to tell their story as completely as possible. If that means going places they don t want to go, getting the information from elsewhere is fair game.

I realize this isn t a foolproof explanation. There will always be exceptions. But so far, it s worked for me. It s kept me from feeling like a confidence man, and it s kept me from feeling like a liar.