Intimacy of Living The End of Life Matters Quote Book Trypheyna McShane
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CONTENTS Introduction Dreams Courage Failure Perspective Excuses Death & Dying As a well spent day brings happy sleep, so a life well used brings happy death Leonardo da Vinci 3
Dearest Reader As author of a book called The Intimacy of Death and Dying www.intimacyofdeathanddying.com I have learnt the value of making friends with death. Just as we understand there can be no light without dark, or cold without warmth, or joy without sadness, so it is that there can be no life without death. As you would plan for anything of value in your life so it will serve you to, discover insights about and, plan for death. I trust these quotes will help you to follow your own unique calling in every step of your life and death. With love Trypheyna DREAMS 4
Without them the future tastes bland. The greatest achievements were at first and for a time dreams. The oak sleeps in the acorn. ~James Allen 5
All of humanity s amazing accomplishments were once the seeds of someone s dreams. 6
Dreams are today's answers to tomorrow's questions. ~Edgar Cayce Someone once dreamed a day might come when they could gaze upon the earth from the vantage point of the moon. 7
Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly. ~Langston Hughes If we give up on our dreams we give up that which differentiates us from all other creatures and life becomes condensed to only survival. 8
There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve; the fear of failure. ~Paulo Coelho Most of what stands in the way of our dreams is us. Dare to get out of your own way. 9
Dare to live the life you have dreamed for yourself. Go forward and make your dreams come true. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson You are the engine that fuels your dreams into reality your participation is paramount. 10
If you can dream it, you can do it. Always remember that this whole thing was started with a dream and a mouse. ~Walt Disney Your mouse is more advanced than Walt s mouse! His didn t even have the internet. 11
A dream plus a deadline equals a goal achieved. ~Donna Kozik If you want your dreams to come true you have to create a space for them to exist. When you give yourself a deadline you invite your dreams into the real world. 12
Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. ~Johann Van Goeth Your actions propel your dreams into reality. 13
COURAGE It s not for the faint of heart. 14
It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that things are difficult. ~Seneca Courage expressed has a way of changing obstacles into hurdles. 15
There is the risk you cannot afford to take, and there is the risk you cannot afford not to take. ~Peter Drucker Isn t it better to regret the things you did than the things you didn t? 16
Trust that still, small voice that says, This might work and I'll try it. ~Diane Mariechild Make friends with that voice. It knows things. 17
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. ~Ambrose Redmoon When your fear of failure is less important than your need to try, courage has a place to breathe. 18
Courage doesn t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, I will try again tomorrow. ~Mary Anne Radmacher Spend a few minutes watching a toddler who is learning to walk that s courage in motion. 19
Fear and courage are brothers. ~Proverb While fear knows nothing of courage, courage knows fear intimately. 20
If you have the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed. ~David Viscott You don t fall up a mountain. You reach the summit by taking one step after another. 21
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one s courage. ~Anais Nin Facing and learning about the one thing we will all do die gifts you true courage. 22
FAILURE The mother of success. 23
I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. ~Thomas Edison Your perception of the efforts you make on the journey of your life make a big difference in your ultimate outcome. 24
Fall down seven times. Stand up eight. ~Chinese Proverb Tap into your inner toddler. 25
Failure is an event, never a person. ~William D. Brown You are unique and invaluable to this life, and you will continue to be so until the very last breath you take. 26
Those who try to do something and fail are infinitely better than those who try to do nothing and succeed. ~Lloyd Jones The only way to really avoid the possibility of failure do nothing also ensures you won t have to deal with success. 27
Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat. ~F. Scott Fitzgerald Embrace your failures. There is much to learn from them about what doesn t work. 28
Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor. ~Truman Capote If success was the only possible outcome, what would motivate us to be anything but complacent? 29
Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly. ~Robert F. Kennedy If you want to be a trapeze artist, you ve got to risk falling on your face. 30
If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment. ~Henry David Thoreau There is often much more to be learned from our failed attempts at anything in life rather than there are from our successes. 31
PERSPECTIVE Use it or lose it. 32
There is no burnt rice to a hungry person. ~Philippine Proverb Your powers of perception are the most important tools you have to navigate your way through life. Use them wisely. 33
We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses. ~Abraham Lincoln How you see the world directly impacts how the world sees you. If you don t like how you are perceived, change the way you look at things. 34
It is a narrow mind which cannot look at subjects from various points of view. ~George Elliot When you take the time to look at things from many angles you not only expand your awareness, you multiply your opportunities. 35
Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms to choose one s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one s own way. ~Viktor E. Frankl Attitude and perspective are intertwined. Whether you are mindful of your perspective or not, your attitude will reflect it. 36
What we see mainly depends on what we look for. ~John Lubbuck Challenge yourself to see something or someone differently and watch what happens. 37
What you see and hear depends a good deal on where you are standing; it also depends on what sort of person you are. ~C.S. Lewis No amount of prodding can make a grumpy person congenial. Only we can decide how we see the world. 38
Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world. ~Wayne Dyer Every parent knows a teenager looking for trouble will surely find it. What are you looking for in your life? 39
Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it. ~Irving Berlin It s not really about what shows up in your world as much as it is about what you decide to do what turns up and how you chose to value it. 40
And those who were seen dancing, were thought to be crazy, by those who could not hear the music. ~Friedrich Nietzsche Your perception of what someone else may be trying to achieve may not accurately reflect their reality. 41
EXCUSES They re rather unbecoming. 42
The person who really wants to do something finds a way; the other person finds an excuse. ~Author Unknown No one really believes the dogs ate the homework anyway why bother with such silliness? 43
Never ruin an apology with an excuse. ~Kimberly Johnson Sometimes it is better to be excused than to excuse oneself. 44
It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one. ~George Washington If there is no excuse for what you have or haven t done there s no point in compounding the situation. 45
It is wise to direct your anger towards problems not people, to focus your energies on answers not excuses. ~William Arthur Ward Every minute spent constructing or elaborating an excuse costs you sixty seconds of solution finding. 46
I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took an excuse. ~Florence Nightingale Never offer an excuse you wouldn t accept. 47
If you don't want to do something, one excuse is as good as another. ~Yiddish Proverb Why waste time making excuses for what you don t want to do instead of making progress with what you do want to do? 48
Excuses are the tools with which persons with no purpose in view build for themselves great monuments of nothing. ~Stephen Grayhm No one makes excuses for getting things done. 49
No one ever excused his way to success. ~Dave Del Dotto You cannot attain excellence in anything by making excuses for mediocre results. 50
Death & Dying Death is the destination we all share 51
To fear death, gentlemen, is no other than to think oneself wise when one is not, to think one knows what one does not know. No one knows whether death may not be the greatest of all blessings for a man, yet men fear it as if they knew that it is the greatest of evils. And surely it is the most blameworthy ignorance to believe that one knows what one does not know. ~ Plato Choose, in this moment, to undertake your own research about death & dying rather than be forced to do it in a crash course when there is neither time nor choice to do otherwise. 52
Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again. ~Og Mandino Understanding that life is impermanent helps us to extend greater compassion to all daily. 53
Death may be the greatest of all human blessings ~Socrates As with everything in life things only have the meaning that we give them. Hence one person can see joy in the rain while another bemoans it. We can choose to allow death to gift us wisdom rather than it be a fearful tormentor. 54
Every man goes down to his death bearing in his hands only that which he has given away The Dalai Lama says: Love and Compassion are necessities, they are not luxuries 55
While I thought that I was learning how to live, I have been learning how to die ~Leonardo da Vinci Every day we are gifted with reminders of how precious life is. So let s not to take it for granted. 56
"You matter because you are you, and you matter till the last moment of your life" ~Dame Cicely Saunders It is said: "Everyone has a covenant and a purpose which is special, and if you do not fulfill it, there is no one else who will" 57
The tragedy of Life is not Death but what we let die inside of us while we live ~Norman Cousins The world needs what only you can gift to it. Just as your fingerprint is unique so is all else about you and the world needs what only you can offer. 58
Perhaps the whole root of our trouble, the human trouble, is that we will sacrifice all the beauty of our lives... in order to deny the fact of death, which is the only fact we have. ~James Baldwin To be at one with something means to be completely comfortable with (something) / to understand (something) so profoundly that you feel that there are no barriers between you and it. The usual usage is at one with the Universe / at one with the world. It is time to learn to be at one with death 59
One of the most powerful things I have learnt in my life is that when we dare to make friends with Death which after all is an inevitable part of Life we cannot do anything but Live Life with More Passion and inevitably live more On Purpose. My dream for you is that you chose right now to start your journey of learning about Dying, the one thing every single one of us must do, so that any Fear you might be grappling with can gradually show itself as False Expectations Appearing Real. With Love and Light - Trypheyna Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions Trypheyna@amazions.com.au 60