Are You a puddle or an Ocean? Creating ripples in our lives 1
When we are born The book of our lives is new and unwritten. Young minds are like sponges: 0 8 Programming 8 12 Hero 12 20 Peer 2
The puddle A small pool of water, usually a few inches in depth. Limitations of influence on its surroundings. Puddle = minimal 3
The Ocean A vast body of water that covers three quarters (71%) of the earth's surface. Apparently limitless in quantity or volume. Ocean = limitless 4
Understanding Influence Influence is the direct or indirect effect on actions. We all have influence over those around us. Learned response how do we influence others? 5
What drives you as a leader? Open Direct Tell People Task Ask Indirect Self Contained
What do our followers need? Directing Coaching Supporting Delegating
Which is more productive? Forceful or collaborative? Research shows 83% of leaders are collaborative Skills of effective leadership can be taught Don t betray your natural leadership style
Ripple effect Nothing happens by accident Newton s third law law of reciprocal actions 10
Ripple effect cont Each time a man stands up for an ideal or acts to improve the lot of others or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring, those ripples build a current that can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance. - Robert F. Kennedy 11
Ripple effect... What ripple are we creating? Remember 13
Cause and Effect We create the conditions in our lives and must start to identify cause and effect Blaming others for what happens Giving away the power... Ripples can be simple or complex motion is a law 14
Cause and Effect Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. - Mother Teresa 15
No such thing as luck We create names to explain what we don t understand. There is no such thing as good luck or bad luck ripples are a direct result for success or failure. 16
No such thing as luck I trust that everything happens for a reason, even when we re not wise enough to see it. - Oprah Winfrey 17 I feel that luck is preparation meeting opportunity. - Oprah Winfrey
The Golden Rule is it new? We can see the idea of the Golden Rule in our faiths. Epictetus, Kant, Plato, Socrates, Seneca the great philosophers understood. 18
Golden Rule Self-sacrifice is never entirely unselfish, for the giver never fails to receive. - Dolores McGuire It comes to four simple words: Do The Right Thing -- DTRT 19
Golden Rule You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want. - Zig Ziglar 20
Oceans in the movies We can see examples from Hollywood George Bailey in It s a Wonderful Life Glenn Holland in Mr. Holland s Opus 21
Strange, isn t it? Each man s life touches so many other lives. When he isn t around he leaves an awful hole, doesn t he? - Clarence in It s a Wonderful Life 22
Oceans past and present The ripple we create or influence we have can be ether positive or negative. Whose life is an ocean? Think about Irena Sendler... 23
Oceans past and present Because of Irena over 22,500 people are here today. Talk about a ripple. 24 The world can be better if there s love, tolerance and humility. - Irena Sendler
Responsibility Who me? What responsibility do we assume for our actions? Responsibility is a duty, obligation, or burden 25 Embrace the chance to influence someone else s life.
Responsibility Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will his personal responsibility. - Albert Einstein 26 Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do. - Johann Von Goethe
Responsibility We choose to accept responsibility (obligation) or not No alibi will save you from accepting the responsibility. - Napoleon Hill 27
Make a Choice Choice the mental process of thinking involved with the process of judging the merits of multiple options and selecting one of them for action. 28
Make a Choice cont Only you can determine puddle or ocean We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them. - Kahlil Gibran 29
Make a Choice cont It s choice not chance that determines your destiny. - Jean Nidetch 30 There are two primary choices in life; to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. - Denis Waitley
Make a Choice cont Each choice we make causes a ripple effect in our lives. When things happen to us, it is the reaction we choose that can create the difference between the sorrows of our past and the joy in our future. -Chelle Thompson 31
Final thought - We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do. - Mother Teresa 32