Clearing Our Resentments 7-15-2010 When we have been treated in an abusive manner and fail to clear our negative feelings about the person or the incident, we will most certainly form a resentment. It is a natural reaction to be angry with someone who has harmed us, and to nurse our wounds. What we don t think about in the heat of the moment or thereafter, is the damaging effects our anger, resentment, and indignation has on us. A resentment, if left unchecked, can trigger addictive behavior, cause health or emotional problems, and keep us disconnected from Source. A serious resentment could eventually kill us. When we have been hurt, we feel justifiably offended. We don t always to know how to handle ourselves, so we stew about what we could have done to protect ourselves. We usually run the abusive situation over and over in our heads in a futile attempt to gain some insight. We may also try to get a sympathetic response from trusted friends, or we may attempt to drown our sorrows for awhile. Some of us can even form a resentment as a result of a slight glance or a frown from someone, because we choose to believe the gesture was negative. Without knowing the actual facts, we can imagine negative circumstances where they do not exist. If our basic self-esteem has been previously damaged, the misinterpretation of other people s words and actions will be a common occurrence for us. Resentments can be created from mildly abusive situations, all the way to violent physical and emotional attacks. They can be recent or have been formed in our childhood years and have now spanned an entire lifetime, or they could be carry-over from a past lifetime. If they were formed in a past lifetime and are surfacing again, you will have an opportunity to finally clear them. The only way to know if they are from a past life is to visit a professional intuitive or use a pendulum and test for your self. A resentment is caused by our simple inability to release our anger and our pain. Sometimes we don t feel ready to release it, because we want to suffer with it a little longer, or perhaps we just don t now how to let it go. An unresolved resentment could put us on dangerous ground and give us an excuse for revenge. Any effort to get back at the person who hurt us will only cause us negative karma, which we will most certainly have to live through at some point in our future. We have to ask ourselves if revenge is really worth it? When someone harms us, we are left with the negative memories and energy while they may seem oblivious to the damage they have done. It is good for us to remember that we only will hurt ourselves more if we hold a grudge. Nelson Mandela once said, To not forgive is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It is our judgment of a situation that determines whether we view it as negative or positive. Throughout each day we are continuously making conscious and unconscious assessments of all our experiences. Each experience is automatically run through our primal survival programming to determine if it is beneficial or detrimental to our well being. Simultaneously, each experience is also run through our conditioned self. If our conditioned self if full of negative imprinting which creates low self esteem, we will tend to view our experiences in a self- deprecating manner.
Religious imprinting teaches us to turn the other cheek, but this is a very difficult teaching to follow without proper instruction. Turning the other cheek involves getting a new perspective; one that is balanced and nonjudgmental. To get a new perspective, we must first become willing to let our resentment go for our own good. We accept that the nasty event did indeed happen, and that we may never understand exactly what conditions caused it. We can t control the people involved, but we can control our own experience. Choosing to release our negative feelings, regardless of whether or not the other person receives justice, is the highest decision we could make for ourselves. When we make this conscious decision to release ourselves from negativity, the Universe supports us and we begin to heal immediately. In the following exercise, we will first use statements that will clear our feelings of resentment, and then we will use statements that will affirm our value and heal our wounding. In the first exercise we will go through each of the following negative statements with our pendulum (See the newsletter on The Pendulum) to see if we have any of them in our subconscious mind. Check mark each one that you need to clear, so you can go back later and clear them with your magnet. When you have completed the list of the statements that need to be cleared, take your magnet and run your magnet from the top of your forehead, back over the top of your head, then down to the bottom of your neck on your back. Each time you run the magnet, you will be saying out loud or in your head, I resent for harming me. or simply keep the intention of clearing the resentment in your attention, and simply say the word resentment while you use the magnet. Do this process for each negative statement you wish to clear. (If you have any brief questions about this process, please write me at amara12@q.com.) (You can also use EFT The Emotional Freedom Technique to clear your negative patterning. If you don t know about EFT, check it out on the Internet. http://www.emofree.com/) After 10 repetitions with the magnet, dowse with your pendulum to see if you have cleared the resentment or negative statement. If it is not yet clear, just repeat the magnet work in repetitions of 10 until you clear it. (This magnet work has been gleaned from the work of Dr. Bradley Nelson. See the newsletter on The Emotion Code for further information.) As you run your magnet over your head as explained above using the statement I resent, you are actually clearing it from your system. There is a large energy channel that runs over the top and back of our head, and the magnet works to permanently release the negativity from our system. Clearing Neediness Questionnaire I resent, for harming me. (Insert different names and pendulum each one of them to see which people/resentments need to be cleared.) I hurt because of what did to me.
I hurt because of what said to me. I am angry at for harming me. I am angry at for embarrassing me. I want revenge. I can t let this go. I never saw it coming. I feel like a fool. What makes him/her think they can get away with it? How dare they do this to me. I hope drops dead. I hope they pay for what they have done to me. (Thoughts of vengeance are natural and can be released just like any other negative pattern.) I would like to harm in return. I hope gets punished. I hope gets punished by Karma right away and I get to see it. He/She had no right to hurt me. I will never forgive for what they did to me. I was betrayed by. I feel so ashamed and embarrassed by what did to me. I can t believe that did this to me. I trusted. I did not deserve to be treated badly by. I can t let go of my hurt feelings about. I will never forget what did to me. I will hold this resentment about forever. I don t care if holding this resentment hurts me. I just can t let this awful memory go. I have a right to be upset about what did to me. I am ashamed that I let take advantage of me. I can t get over what did to me. I don t understand why hurt me. How could do this to me? How can I forgive my husband/wife, sister/brother, mother/father, and so forth. I thought loved me. I cannot believe this happened to me. I will never be the same again. I have lost hope for humanity. I am ruined. I will never heal from this. Once you have used your pendulum and found out which of the above statements need to be cleared, just use your magnet and clear each one of them.
Positive Statements Use your magnet as explained above, while repeating each positive statement 10 times. I have value. I am ok just as I am. I am safe. I am perfect in every way. I Am that I AM. did not realize the harm he/she caused me. I allow myself to feel compassion for. Even though hurt me, I am willing to heal. I allow the loving light of Spirit to heal me. Even though I don t understand, I let this go. I let go of. (The situation or the person.) I love myself enough to let this situation go. I am helping myself heal by letting this situation go. It is ok for me to take this to court if I choose. I let go of my shame about. I forgive. I forgive myself. I am not a victim. I let go of my anger about. I am love. I let go of my need for retribution about. I am kind to myself. I am kind to others. I am at peace. I allow myself to heal. I let go of my resentments from past lives. I let go of the past. Please feel free to add your own positive statements to this list. Perhaps we will never figure out what motivated the person who has harmed us or a loved one. Multitudes of people are facing survival issues on a deep primal level, and are acting out these fears. The human condition has never been easy to understand, or to cope with. When people feel threatened on a conscious or subconscious level, they respond in a negative manner that under normal circumstances they would never consider. None of us are exempt from being hurt by others. It is therefore up to the ones who are attempting to wake up, to come from a place of compassionate understanding with those who are not yet working on themselves. When we clear our resentments we access a new level of freedom, and we make this world a better place by raising our energetic vibration. By viewing our life and our world in a positive manner, we begin to feel the sweetness of life. Many blessings,
Amara (Universal Copyright: Any manuscript on this site can be copied and distributed as long as credit is given to Amara Mahdhuri of www.bluestarbornhealer.com )