LEAD THE. SEMINAR B workbook. February 16-17, 2018 Delaware-Maryland Synod

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1 THE LEAD SEMINAR B workbook February 16-17, 2018 Delaware-Maryland Synod Spiritual leadership with practice for listening to God in the noise of daily life.

2 Permission to Reproduce This guide may be reproduced for use in the Delaware-Maryland Synod with covenanted congregations that are part of the LEAD Journey. All other reproduction is a violation of LEAD s intellectual property. 2

3 THE LEAD Learning Seminar B February 16-17, 2018 Welcome to the LEAD Journey Learning Seminar. This seminar will include time with your congregational team, your cohort, and the whole community. We are looking forward to three cohorts meeting together. Time Cohort 1, Seminar D Cohort 2, Seminar B Cohort 3, Seminar A Friday 5:30p Welcome & Intros Welcome & Intros Welcome & Intros 6:00 Dinner Together Dinner Together Dinner Together 6:45 1. Three R s of Leadership 1. Three R s of Leadership 1. Three R s of Leadership 7:45 Break Break Break 8:00 2. Learning Together 2. Learning Together 2. Intro to The Tune In Process 9:00 Spiritual Pilgrims Spiritual Pilgrims Spiritual Pilgrims 9:15 Network, Relax, Rest Network, Relax, Rest Network, Relax, Rest Saturday 9:00a Spiritual Pilgrims Spiritual Pilgrims Spiritual Pilgrims 9:30 3. Three Types of Core Values 3. Spiritual Types 3. Tune In, Steps 1-4 Break 10:45 4. Purpose, Goals, Alignment 4. Tuning in, Steps Becoming a Storyteller 12:00p Lunch Lunch Lunch 1:15 5. Making an Action Plan 5. Meeting the Neighbors 5. Team Dynamics 1:45 6. Trouble Shooting Action Plan 6. Going Viral 6. Commitments & Expectations Break Break Break 2:30 Making a Plan including staff and council Making a Plan get out of the church, 3 weeks, Making a Plan get out of the church, 3 weeks, 3:00 Spiritual Pilgrims Spiritual Pilgrims Spiritual Pilgrims 3:30 Buen Camino Buen Camino Buen Camino 3

4 LEAD Learning Seminar B Philip and the Ethiopian Eunuch Acts 8: Then an angel of the Lord said to Philip, Get up and go toward the south to the road that goes down from Jerusalem to Gaza. (This is a wilderness road.) 27 So he got up and went. Now there was an Ethiopian eunuch, a court official of the Candace, queen of the Ethiopians, in charge of her entire treasury. He had come to Jerusalem to worship 28 and was returning home; seated in his chariot, he was reading the prophet Isaiah. 29 Then the Spirit said to Philip, Go over to this chariot and join it. 30 So Philip ran up to it and heard him reading the prophet Isaiah. He asked, Do you understand what you are reading? 31 He replied, How can I, unless someone guides me? And he invited Philip to get in and sit beside him. 32 Now the passage of the scripture that he was reading was this: Like a sheep he was led to the slaughter, and like a lamb silent before its shearer, so he does not open his mouth. 33 In his humiliation justice was denied him. Who can describe his generation? For his life is taken away from the earth. 34 The eunuch asked Philip, About whom, may I ask you, does the prophet say this, about himself or about someone else? 35 Then Philip began to speak, and starting with this scripture, he proclaimed to him the good news about Jesus. 36 As they were going along the road, they came to some water; and the eunuch said, Look, here is water! What is to prevent me from being baptized? 38 He commanded the chariot to stop, and both of them, Philip and the eunuch, went down into the water, and Philip baptized him. 39 When they came up out of the water, the Spirit of the Lord snatched Philip away; the eunuch saw him no more, and went on his way rejoicing. 40 But Philip found himself at Azotus, and as he was passing through the region, he proclaimed the good news to all the towns until he came to Caesarea. Peter and Cornelius Acts 10:1-36 In Caesarea there was a man named Cornelius, a centurion of the Italian Cohort, as it was called. 2 He was a devout man who feared God with all his household; he gave alms generously to the people and prayed constantly to God. 3 One afternoon at about three o clock he had a vision in which he clearly saw an angel of God coming in and saying to him, Cornelius. 4 He stared at him in terror and said, What is it, Lord? He answered, Your prayers and your alms have ascended as a memorial before God. 5 Now send men to Joppa for a certain Simon who is called Peter; 6 he is lodging with Simon, a tanner, whose house is by the seaside. 7 When the angel who spoke to him had left, he called two of his slaves and a devout soldier from the ranks of those who served him, 8 and after telling them everything, he sent them to Joppa. 9 About noon the next day, as they were on their journey and approaching the city, Peter went up on the roof to pray. 10 He became hungry and wanted something to eat; and while it was being prepared, he fell into a trance. 11 He saw the heaven opened 4

5 and something like a large sheet coming down, being lowered to the ground by its four corners. 12 In it were all kinds of four-footed creatures and reptiles and birds of the air. 13 Then he heard a voice saying, Get up, Peter; kill and eat. 14 But Peter said, By no means, Lord; for I have never eaten anything that is profane or unclean. 15 The voice said to him again, a second time, What God has made clean, you must not call profane. 16 This happened three times, and the thing was suddenly taken up to heaven. 17 Now while Peter was greatly puzzled about what to make of the vision that he had seen, suddenly the men sent by Cornelius appeared. They were asking for Simon s house and were standing by the gate. 18 They called out to ask whether Simon, who was called Peter, was staying there. 19 While Peter was still thinking about the vision, the Spirit said to him, Look, three men are searching for you. 20 Now get up, go down, and go with them without hesitation; for I have sent them. 21 So Peter went down to the men and said, I am the one you are looking for; what is the reason for your coming? not call anyone profane or unclean. 29 So when I was sent for, I came without objection. Now may I ask why you sent for me? 30 Cornelius replied, Four days ago at this very hour, at three o clock, I was praying in my house when suddenly a man in dazzling clothes stood before me. 31 He said, Cornelius, your prayer has been heard and your alms have been remembered before God. 32 Send therefore to Joppa and ask for Simon, who is called Peter; he is staying in the home of Simon, a tanner, by the sea. 33 Therefore I sent for you immediately, and you have been kind enough to come. So now all of us are here in the presence of God to listen to all that the Lord has commanded you to say. 34 Then Peter began to speak to them: I truly understand that God shows no partiality, 35 but in every nation anyone who fears him and does what is right is acceptable to him. 36 You know the message he sent to the people of Israel, preaching peace by Jesus Christ he is Lord of all. 22 They answered, Cornelius, a centurion, an upright and God-fearing man, who is well spoken of by the whole Jewish nation, was directed by a holy angel to send for you to come to his house and to hear what you have to say. 23 So Peter invited them in and gave them lodging. The next day he got up and went with them, and some of the believers from Joppa accompanied him. 24 The following day they came to Caesarea. Cornelius was expecting them and had called together his relatives and close friends. 25 On Peter s arrival Cornelius met him, and falling at his feet, worshiped him. 26 But Peter made him get up, saying, Stand up; I am only a mortal. 27 And as he talked with him, he went in and found that many had assembled; 28 and he said to them, You yourselves know that it is unlawful for a Jew to associate with or to visit a Gentile; but God has shown me that I should 5

6 R Resistance Relationships Remarkable Session 1: Three R s of Leadership Resistance, from The War on Art (no page #) by Steven Pressfield Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance. Resistance is the most toxic force on the planet. It is the root of more unhappiness than poverty, disease, and erectile dysfunction. To yield to Resistance, deforms our spirit. It stunts us and makes us less than we are and were born to be. If you believe in God (and I do), you must declare Resistance evil, for it prevents us from achieving the life God intended when God endowed each of us with our own unique genius. Genius is a Latin word; the Romans used it to denote an inner spirit, holy and inviolable, which watches over us, guiding us to our calling. A writer writes with his genius; an artist paints with hers; everyone who creates operates from this sacramental center. It is our soul s seat, the vessel that holds our being-in-potential, our star s beacon and Polaris. There are two ways to deal with resistance, from Linchpin (pp ) by Seth Godin The first approach: seek reassurance. If you are worried about something, indulge the worry by asking people to prove that everything is going to be okay. Check in constantly, measure and repeat. Is everything okay? Reward the anxiety with reassurance and positive feedback. Of course, this just leads to more anxiety, because everyone likes reassurance and positive feedback. The second approach is to sit with the anxiety, don t run from it. Acknowledge it, befriend it. It s there, you re used to it, move on. No rewards for worriers. No water to put out this particular fire. The problem with reassurance is that it creates a cycle that never ends. Reassure me about one issue and you can bet I ll find something else to worry about. Reassurance doesn't address the issue of anxiety; in fact, it exacerbates it. You have an itch and you scratch it. The itch is a bother, the scratch feels good, and so you repeat it forever, until you are bleeding. The idea of sitting with your anxiety appears to be ludicrous, at least at first. To sit with something so uncomfortable isn t natural. The more you sit, the worse it gets. Without water, the fire rages. Throughout, you remain placid. The anxiety is there, it s real, but you merely acknowledge it. You don t flatter it with rationalization or even adrenaline. It just is, and you embrace it, like a hot day at the beach (or a cold day in Minnesota). Then an interesting thing happens. It burns itself out. The anxiety can t sustain itself forever, especially when morning comes and your house hasn't been invaded, when the speech is over and you haven t been laughed at, when the review is complete and you haven t been fired. Reality is the best reassurance of all. Over time the cycle is broken. The resistance knows that the anxiety trick doesn t work anymore, especially if you re friendly to the anxiety. Pretty quickly, the anxiety cycles start to diminish and eventually peters themselves out. Don t ask me to tell you that everything is going to be all right. I have no idea, for starters. And my palliative option actually will make your anxiety worse in the long run. 6

7 Notes and Ref lections: Session 1: Three R s of Leadership 7

8 The most important one, answered Jesus, is this: Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these. - Mark 12: NIV LEAD s Four Growth Indicators for Vital Behaviors The Three-Year Journey Each LEAD Journey has a ten-step process that may be accompanied by a professional coach to successfully take on new behaviors for growth in discipleship and to join in God s mission. Loving God with all of our heart calls us to listen The Tune In Process Listen to God in scripture, in prayer, in the congregation, and in the neighborhood Shift from inward to outward focus Launch experiments with new learnings and partners Loving God with all of our soul calls us to center The Wake Up Process Clarify congregational purpose and values Align congregation for mission Articulate congregational identity Loving God with all our mind calls us to explore The Dig Down Process Deepen Christian frame and theology through Bible Study Streamline systems for strategic ministry, includes staffing and governance Increase commitment and generosity Loving God with all of our strength calls us to connect The Work Out Process Create trust to extend hospitality with openness for diversity Expand comfort zone through strong relational connections Tell the congregation s story through effective communication 8

9 Session 2: Learning Together Notes: Things I am hearing or learning that I don t want to forget 9

10 Ref lections from the day: Spiritual Pilgrims 10

11 Session 3: Spiritual Types Heart (καρδίας in Greek) Heart spiritual types are people who are moved by action, doing things, and justice concerns. This type relies upon their passion for their spiritual energy. Soul (ψυχῆς in Greek) Soul spiritual types are people who value relationship, oneness, and mystical union. This type relies upon felt experience and connection for their spiritual energy. Suggested spiritual practices: going on pilgrimage, Ignatian Examen (Praying Over Daily Life), volunteering, advocacy Suggested spiritual practices: centering prayer, stations of the cross, walking a labyrinth Strength (ἰσχύος in Greek) Strength spiritual types are people who get the most meaning out of doing something with their bodies. This type relies upon activity or bodily movement for their spiritual energy. Mind (διανοίας in Greek) Mind spiritual types are people who connect using their intellect and the verbal or written word. This type relies upon beautiful language and sound belief for their spiritual energy. Suggested spiritual practices: yoga, coloring, walking a labyrinth, being in nature, using prayer beads Suggested spiritual practices: liturgical worship, Lectio Divina, journaling, Ignatian Contemplation, meditating on hymn lyrics or psalms Spiritual Types Index and Research is the work of Reverend Richard Nelson and used with permission. 11

12 Loving God with all my heart calls me to listen to my passions and gifts as the Holy Spirit moves in my life. Loving God with all my soul calls me to be centered with faith practices that wake me up to the Holy Spirit. Loving God with all my strength calls me to deepen my relationship with a more diverse group of people and to expand my capacity to love my neighbor as myself. Loving God with all my mind calls me to ask important questions, wrestle with my theology, explore the way I do things (systems), and to live a life of gratitude. 12

13 Ref lection: Your Spiritual Type Session 3: Spiritual Types How did the Spiritual Type Index affirm what I know about myself? What surprised me about my Spiritual Type? What are my hopes for my own spiritual life as I live in Christ? As a Christian leader? 13

14 Session 4: Tuning into the Congregation - Steps 5-7 Notes and Ref lections: 14

15 Session 5: Meeting the Neighbors - Steps 8-10 What do we know about these people? List general demographics like age, culture, language, socio-economic reality...etc. Inner: Middle: Outer: What are their values? Draw on your best thinking about this group of people. Inner: Middle: What are their resources? What are their needs? Draw on your best thinking about this group of people. Inner: Middle: Outer: What is their current relationship to your congregation? Inner: Middle: Outer: Outer: Congregation s Property Inner Ring of Relationships Middle Ring of Relationships Outer Ring of Relationships 15

16 Ref lection: Observations, questions, and notes Session 5: Meeting the Neighbors - Steps

17 Ref lection: Observations, questions, and notes Session 6: Going Viral 17

18 Make a Plan Month / Season March 2018 Already on the Map LEAD Journey Communication April 2018 May 2018 June 2018 July 2018 August 2018 September 2018 October 2018 November 2018 December 2018 January 2019 February 2019 March 2019 April

19 Make a Plan Week of Action Plan 19

20 Make a Plan Congregational Messaging Checklist Check all methods that are available for use in your congregation. Put an * by the methods you use with excellence and circle the places that could be expanded. Prayers Monthly council updates Month Core Messages Methods March April May Face to face space for authentic conversation Sermons June Video screens in worship Worship bulletins Newsletter for members for new people E-newsletter weekly beyond members Bulletin boards July August Temple talks Website up to date for members our front door love it Facebook for: Other social media Sept. Oct. Blogs for: Special meetings for: Nov. Adult forums or classes for: Interior signs for: Exterior signs for: Local newspaper stories: Strategic thank you notes Dec. Jan. Strategic letters, post-cards or other mailings for: Feb. Other Other Other March 20

21 Next Steps wit h your LEAD C oach and Notes Make a Plan 21

22 Next Steps wit h your LEAD Coach and Notes Resources to Check Out: 1. Your LEAD Webpage is located at Go to the synod tab, click on your synod s name and use your password to access all the resources from this seminar and other tools to support your leadership. Your password is: demd 2. For your personal devotions, we recommend daily posts from the Center for Action and Contemplation written by Fr. Richard Rohr. 3. For your personal, family and staff reflection, we recommend using the practice of Dwelling in the Word or Daily Gratitude. 22

23 Learning Scripture Prayer Worship Spirituality of Leadership Personal and Group Reflection Christian leadership is not rooted in management techniques, marketing tools, or administrative skills. Christian leadership is rooted in our faith. As we lead the congregations we serve, we are called to grow in faith tending to the life of our spirit. Are you worshiping regularly? When is the last time you invited someone to worship? How does your leadership team worship together? What are your personal prayer practices? Your family prayer practices? When is the last time you asked someone to help you pray? How does your leadership team pray together? How do you make space for reading, praying, studying the Bible in your life? What would have to shift for you to spend 5 more minutes each day reading the Bible? How does your leadership team engage the Bible together? What have you read recently that has fed your spirit? When is the last time you asked someone to teach you about a topic or skill that you were unsure of? How does your leadership team learn together? 23

24 LEAD Growing leaders with deep, bold, consequential faith in Jesus Christ Empowering Christian Leaders, Transforming Faith Communities, Influencing the World 24