Broken Relationships and the Radical Grace of Forgiveness
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1 Cape Bible Chapel October 15, 2017 Broken Relationships and the Radical Grace of Forgiveness Eric C. Coher Matthew 6:12, The story is told of two monks walking through the countryside on their way to another village to help bring in the crops. As they walked, they noticed an old woman sitting at the edge of a river. She was upset because there was no bridge, and she could not get across on her own. The first monk kindly offered, We will carry you across if you would like. Thank you, she said gratefully, accepting their help. So the two men joined hands, lifted her between them and carried her across the river. When they got to the other side, they set her down, and she went on her way. After they had walked another mile or so, the second monk began to complain. Look at my clothes, he said. They are filthy from carrying that woman across the river. And my back still hurts from lifting her. I can feel it getting stiff. The first monk just smiled and nodded his head. A few more miles up the road, the second monk griped again, My back is hurting me so badly, and it is all because we had to carry that silly woman across the river! I cannot go any farther because of the pain. The first monk looked down at his partner, now lying on the ground, and asked, Have you wondered why I am not complaining? Your back hurts because you are still carrying the woman. But I set her down five miles ago. That is what many of us are like when it comes to conflict in our relationships. We are the second monk who can t let issues go. We hold onto the pain of those who have hurt us in some way. Furthermore, we hold the past over our offender s head, and even remind them from time to time of the burden we still carry because of something they did in the past. 1 Stepping on any toes yet? This is an all too familiar picture of many of our relationships. But yet, Jesus tells us in the disciples prayer that we are to be actively praying for a forgiving spirit. That we would forgive the debts of others against us just as God, in Christ, has forgiven the incalculable debt of sin that every believer has committed against Him. Let s turn our attention to our text for this morning. We ll read verses 9-15 in their entirety, but our study this morning will be confined to verses 12, Let me encourage you to stand, if you have the ability, as we read our text. Matthew, recording Jesus teaching, under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, pens the following words: 1 Dr. Anthony T. Evans, Guiding Your Family in a Misguided World.
2 Pray then like this: Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Matthew 6:9 15 Brothers and sisters, the grass withers and the flower fades, but the word of our God stands forever. I. AS LONG AS SIN REMAINS, THERE WILL BE BROKENNESS IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS (v.12a) Forgive us our debts, This morning I want us to look at what God s Word says about radical forgiveness, but before we get there I think it is important that we understand what God s Word has to say about the connection between our hearts and the conflicts that we often find ourselves in. THE ROOT CAUSE OF ALL BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS RESIDES WITHIN OUR HEART In order to grow in being peacemaker, which Jesus highlighted in the Beatitudes as a defining characteristic of every true believer, we need to understand what lurks behind our broken relationships and why we react to it the way we do when we are sinned against. You see, when we are faced with conflict, we have a strong tendency to focus passionately on how someone else has wronged us and what they should do to make things right. But in the midst of our broken relationships, God s Word always calls us to focus primarily not on what is going on outside of us, but rather what is going on inside of us. The root cause of all of our conflict lies right within our sinful hearts. Jesus said, For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander Matthew 15:19. Turn in your Bible to James 4:1-3 for a moment. James vividly explains the heart s central role in our broken relationships. He writes, What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions James 4:1-3. James asks the question, What is it that causes broken peace among you? What is the cause of your tiffs, spats, squabbles, disagreements, feuds, disputes, falling outs, altercations and arguments? And then he answers the question with profound wisdom. He says, Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. James tells us that the cause of all of our conflict is warring passions and desires within our hearts. He encourages us to look inward for
3 the cause of conflict instead of looking outward. But that s not our natural propensity, is it? Our natural propensity is to blame our frustrations on our circumstances or people. But James doesn t let us look outward, he turns our attention to our hearts and then points us specifically to our desires. Paul Tripp says that, Beneath our relational conflict there is an even more fundamental war that rages. It is the war over the desires of our hearts. Notice also that James didn t say evil desires. He just said desires. To desire is one of the ways in which we were made in the image of God. God is a God of purpose and desire. James focus in this text is not necessarily evil desires, rather, it is inordinate desires. It is not necessarily what I want, but that I want it too much. Whatever rules your heart will rule your behavior. Jesus said that in Matthew 6:21, which we ll study in depth in a few weeks, He said, Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Another way to say that is: You do what you do because you want what you want. Either our selfish desires will control our hearts or the desire to please God will control our hearts. Herein lies the connection to our broken relationships. Let me illustrate it for you: A heart that is ruled by a particular desire can only respond to another person in one of two ways: If you are helping me get what I want, then I will he happy with you. If you are not helping me get what I want, you are an obstacle and subsequently the target of my frustration. THE CONNECTION BETWEEN YOUR SIGNIFICANCE AND YOUR RESPONSE TO SIN In order for us to respond in a Christlike way when we are wronged, our significance has to be rooted in Christ. When others offend us in some way and we implode (crumble) or explode (anger) it exposes misplaced significance. Our significance needs to be rooted in our position in Christ. Who are you in Christ? You are adopted, redeemed, justified, a Child of God, ransomed, loved, reconciled, a Citizen of Heaven, Heir with Christ, elect, chosen by God, new creation, forgiven, the Bride of Christ, sealed with the Spirit, etc. If you get that right, it keeps you from getting all bent out of shape when someone sins against you. You see, the reason we get turned upside down when someone sins against us is because we think this is our position: victim, entitled to, imposed on, rights were infringed, exposed, inconvenienced, ridiculed, marginalized, etc. But that s not what the gospel says about you if you are in Christ.
4 II. AS LONG AS BROKENNESS IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS REMAIN, THERE WILL BE A NEED FOR THE RADICAL GRACE OF FORGIVENESS (v.12b) As we have also forgiven our debtors. What is forgiveness? How would you define it? Consider this: forgiveness is giving up my right to hurt you for hurting me. It means that when I am sinned against, I absorb the blow and refuse to return fire. Let s talk for a moment about what forgiveness isn t. WHAT FORGIVENESS ISN T A. Feeling Forgiveness has nothing to do with our feelings. If we are waiting to feel something before we extend forgiveness, we will hardly ever forgive anyone. Feelings aren t a prerequisite for forgiveness. Feelings are finicky and fleeting. These are subjective. How do you know what you have to feel to be ready to forgive? What does the needle on the forgiveness gauge have to read before you ll forgive? This is oftentimes an excuse that we use to nurture our hurt. Forgiveness isn t about feelings, it s about dealing with the facts Biblically. B. Forgetting Forgiveness isn t forgetting how you have been sinned against. Forgetting is passive. It counts on the hurt fading from memory simply because hours, days, months, or years have passed. Forgiveness is active. It pursues the problem with a conscious choice and a deliberate action. Consider this: when God says that He remembers your sins no more (cf. Isaiah 43:25), He isn t saying that He literally can t remember our sins. That would be impossible; He s omniscient. Rather, He is promising that He won t charge us with them. When God forgives our sin, He chooses never to mull over them again or hold them over our head. C. Faking Forgiveness doesn t mean pretending that you were never hurt. If forgiveness is to be genuine, it must, by definition, acknowledge the wound that sin created. To pretend that sin doesn t hurt isn t spiritual. At times, we pretend to no longer hold people s sins against them, but our actions communicate that we want to stay far away from those who hurt us. We fake forgiveness and peace on the outside, all the while continuing to burn on the inside. That kind of fake forgiveness can never bring about real relationship repair. 2 2 Ken Sande, The Peacemaker: Student Edition (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2008), 140.
5 WHAT REAL FORGIVENESS LOOKS LIKE A. It s a declaration. To forgive, (ajfi hmi - aphiemi) means to send away, dismiss, let go, or release. B. It s a promise not to rehearse. C. It s giving up your right for revenge or repayment and instead, returning good for evil, D. Repeating the process as many times as necessary. TAKING PAYMENTS OR MAKING PAYMENTS When someone sins against you, you stand at a critical decision-making fork in the road. As you come to the fork, you notice a sign that indicates the name of each road ahead. The road to the left is called Taking Payments. The road to the right is called Making Payments. This is the choice you are faced with every time you are sinned against. You can either take payments on your offender s debt or you can make payments on your offender s debt. We take payments on a debt in a myriad of ways. We withhold forgiveness, smolder over the wrong done to us, put up relational walls and keep those who hurt us at a distance, slander, gossip, and even seek to make others feel something of the pain they inflicted upon us. Because sin is sadistic, taking payments on a debt may make us feel good for a moment, but it demands a high price. It s been said, Unforgiveness is the poison we drink hoping others will die. When we refuse to send away, dismiss, let go, or release someone of the sin committed against us, you become the prisoner. One of the ways that monkeys are caught in other countries is to place a treat of some sort in a glass jar that is tethered to a tree. The monkey with a loose hand can reach into the jar, but as he grasps the treat and balls his fist, he cannot remove his hand for the jar. When we are insistent on taking payments from our offender and refuse to let go or release the offense, we imprison ourselves. The better road is the road to the right, the road of Making Payments. You make payments of the sin debt of another by freeing them from the penalties they might rightly deserve. In other words, you absorb the blow of the sin and refuse to counter-attack. Making payments means you might have to deal with the effects of another s sin against you for a long time. It means you refuse to rehearse the wrong over and over in your mind until the ember of anger is again fanned into full flame. It means speaking kingly and graciously even wen you are tempted to be short and sharp. 3 Jesus illustrated making payments in Matthew 18:21-22 when Peter came up to Him and said, Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times? Jesus said to him, I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times. Jesus wasn t trying to give Peter a lesson in mathematics. He wasn t saying that Peter only had to forgive 490 times. Instead Jesus was illustrating the principle of making payments by continued forgiveness. 3 Ken Sande, 142.
6 NEVER LOSE SIGHT OF HOW MUCH YOU HAVE BEEN FORGIVEN There is always a high cost involved in forgiveness. You might be at a place in a particular relationship where you feel tapped out, like making payments has left you with a zero balance and nothing left to give. What do you do in these moments? While you may feel like your forgiveness account is empty, Jesus has a grace account that can never be out spent. When He went to the cross, He paid off the ultimate debt of your sin. It is when we forget the magnitude of the forgiveness that has been given to us that we find it difficult to extend forgiveness to others. Not only did Jesus pay your and my sin debt in full, but He established a limitless account of grace and made you the owner of the account. But we must access the account and draw upon that grace each and every day. When we do, we will find that that account contains not only enough to pay the debt of our own sins, but enough to make payments of forgiveness for anyone else who wrongs you no matter the size of the offense. 4 THE CONSEQUENCES OF WITHHOLDING FORGIVENESS A. If you withhold forgiveness, you are revealing that you don t understand the magnitude of your own sin. The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant (cf. Matthew 18:23-35). Each one of us is the servant in this parable who had a debt so large that he couldn t repay it lest it be forgiven. Aren t we the ones who, though we have been released of our debt, withhold mercy and forgiveness and hold others to repay their infinitely smaller debts to us? When we reflect on how great a salvation we have been given and how infinite a forgiveness we have been lavished with, it ought to humble us to the core. The offensiveness of sin that is committed against us doesn t even compare to offensiveness of sin to a holy God. If Jesus can forgive the iniquity of treason each of us were guilty of that hung Him, the God-man, on the cross, what sin is there that is so monstrous that you can t forgive? When we refuse to forgive others, we, like the servant in the parable, are acting as if we never had any debt. Here is a good way to get a clearer picture of the magnitude of our sin: stop comparing yourself to the standard of this world and begin comparing your life to the standard of the cross. This will make us conscious of how short we fall of the glory of God. The most gracious forgivers are those who have been most acutely convicted of their own sin. When we realize how short we fall and how in need of grace we are ourselves, it is much easier to pardon the offense of another. 4 Ken Sande,
7 B. If you withhold forgiveness, you are treating others as if they are your enemy. Jesus said, You have heard that it was said, You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you Matthew 5: Likewise, John wrote, If anyone says, I love God, and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen 1 John 4:20. If you can t forgive, then you don t really love, so unforgiveness, at its core, is display of hatred. C. If you withhold forgiveness, you prevent the worship of God that He infinitely deserves. Bitterness, resentment, irritation, annoyance, and anger, at their core, are most often rooted in selfworship. And we can t worship ourselves and also worship God. God takes this very seriously. As a matter of fact, He says don t even come to worship until you have reconciled your grievances with your brother. Jesus said, So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift Matthew 5: D. If you withhold forgiveness, you are hindering the fruitfulness that abiding in Christ bears. In John 15:5 Jesus said, I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. You can t simultaneously abide in Christ and harbor bitterness and unforgiveness. There is an incompatibility there. E. If you withhold forgiveness, you are bringing a charge against God s sovereignty. God ordains all things. While He is not the author of sin He is sovereign over the thoughts, motives, and deeds of every man. This means when you refuse to forgive someone who sins against you, you are not only holding that person in contempt, but you are also holding the sovereignty of God in contempt who allowed the circumstance to come to pass. God didn t make a mistake in allowing the sinful circumstance to take place. In His goodness, He will even use the sin committed against you for your good if you ll be humbly submissive. Refusal to grant forgiveness charges both the offender as well as the sovereignty of God. F. If you withhold forgiveness, you are setting yourself up as the highest authority. In Jeremiah 33:8, God said of Himself, I will cleanse them from all the guilt of their sin against me, and I will forgive all the guilt of their sin and rebellion against me. Therefore, to withhold forgiveness is to set yourself up as an autonomous authority higher than God. This is the epitome of pride.
8 GRANTED FORGIVENESS IS ONLY POSSIBLE IN RESPONSE TO REPENTANCE What are you to do when a person who has sinned against you hasn t asked for your forgiveness? They may have dug their feet in the ground and be too proud to ask for it or it s possible they may be unaware that they even sinned against you. Sin is blinding. In these cases we should approach forgiveness as a two-step process. We must first begin with an attitude of forgiveness. This is unconditional. It flows from a heart that longs to please Christ. During this time, you treat your offender with mercy and grace. You refuse to let bitterness take root and grow by not dwelling on the offense. You pray for the person who has offended you. It s interesting to note that God often grows our hearts for the people we pray for. It s hard to hold committed prayer for an individual in one hand and bitterness in the other. Granting forgiveness, on the other hand, is dependent upon the repentance of the offender. Let me draw your attention to Jesus words in Luke 17:3-4. He said, Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, I repent, you must forgive him. Forgiveness in this sense is transactional. Once the person who has sinned against you repents, then you can transact forgiveness and the matter can be closed forever. God demonstrated both steps of forgiveness. When Christ died on Calvary s Cross, He did so with an attitude of love and mercy toward those who crucified Him that s you and me. But God grants forgiveness when we repent of our sin. It is then that we are justified and declared righteous or without fault. Regardless, if your offender ever asks for forgiveness, you are responsible to maintain an attitude of forgiveness and a spirit that is willing and ready to forgive when and if it s requested. THREE-FOLD PROMISE OF FORGIVENESS 1. I won t bring the offense up to that person again. If you are using an offense as a weapon there is no forgiveness. 2. I won t bring the offense up to anyone else. If you are using an offense as a complaint there is no forgiveness. 3. I will choose not to remember the offense myself. If you are continually dwelling on an offense there is no forgiveness.
9 III. WHEN THE RADICAL GRACE OF FORGIVENESS IS PRACTICED, OUR RELATIONSHIPS WILL REFLECT THE GOSPEL AS THEY WERE INTENDED. The hope of the gospel is that forgiven sinners can be radical forgivers! CLOSING BENEDICTION Hear this benediction from Ephesians 4:32 as we bring our corporate worship to a close Paul writes, Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. And all God s people said, Amen! Go in peace.
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