The Importance of Mom and DAD Spiritual Emotional Psychological Social Physical

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1 The Importance of Mom and DAD Spiritual Emotional Psychological Social Physical 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Church of Christ 1

2 When a healthy mom and dad exist? There is a balance of Interaction among members Respects and privacy within the home Values are developed, appreciated and shared A time for the family to dine, converse, and laugh Time is appropriated for individual growth and development. Problems are acknowledged and help sought and provided 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Church of Christ 2

3 A Christian Dad and Mom become Godly Parents Relation w/christ & His Church (Daniel) Education (Jesus) Influence of the World (Moses) Materialism and Humanism (Paul) Sex, Drugs, Music, Alcohol (David) Wealth and Resources (Saul) 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Elder, Cypress Church of Christ 3

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5 Nine Things Every Parent of a Teenager Should Know Dot take your tees behavior personally Build rapport, not conquests Have a Child-Raising Plan in mind Some lessons are learned over time Let your adolescent have choices Network, network, network Example-setting works! Look for the warning signs Get help when necessary 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, 5

6 Emotional Stressors of Parents Anger Guilt Hurt Fear 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Church of Christ 6

7 Personal and Family Issues Physical Health Lifestyle Considerations Genetic Considerations a. Family of Origin b. History of Illness or diseases Emotional Health Stress Indifference 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Church of Christ 7

8 Biblical References 1 Samuel Chapter 2 Proverbs Chapters 3, 4, & 6 Luke Chapter 2: Corinthians Chapter 13 Philippians Chapter 4 1 Timothy 5:1-16 8/29/12 J.M. Trice,, Cypress Church of Christ 8

9 Parents of Our Day must cope Mental Disorders: Mood Disorders Addictions: Food, People Marriage and Family Changes: Isolation, Disillusion, Boundaries Violence and Abuse: Verbal, Withdrawal, Physical & Sexual Moral Degradation: Crime, Drug Abuse, Financial Abuse, 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, Cypress Church of Christ 9

10 Parental Styles Adapted by Mom and Dad Authoritative Democratic Permissive Perfectionist Wishey-Washy Guilt-Ladden Competitive Battle Laden 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, Cypress Church of Christ 10

11 Parental Tips for Parents of Strong Willed or Rebellious Children Boredom Is Dangerous to Energetic Teenagers. Keep them Moving, busy, and tired. Dot Rock the Boat, Choose your battles, Say yes when possible, so that when no comes, you can be firm. Maintain a Reserve Army Preserve your energy for times when you ll need it. The Desperate Need for Fathers to work with Mothers (Handle Crisis Drugs, Bullying, gangs, sex 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Elder, Cypress Church of Christ 11

12 The TRAUMA Of Raising Adolescents Noise Messes Complaints Arguments Sibling Rivalry Missed curfews Paced Floors The Wrecked car The Failed Test The jilted lover The wrong friends The busy telephone Pizza on the carpet The ripped new blouse The rebellion The slammed doors The mean words The Tears The Regretful Choices 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Church of Christ 12

13 Areas to Acquire tools for Today s Church Families Spiritual Jesus Christ Emotional Psychological Social Physical Self Ego Hospitable Healthy 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Church of Christ 13

14 Spiritual Solutions Personal Prayer Personal Scriptural Devotion Spousal Prayer Family Devotions/Study Family Rituals Family Fellowships/other families Spiritual Advisor/Counselor 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Elder, Cypress Church of Christ 14

15 Emotional Personal Stress Management Balance Family Schedules Schedule Positive Family Interaction Anger and Fear Inventory Outlet for Laughter and Tears 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Elder, Cypress Church of Christ 15

16 Psychological Honesty Self Evaluation Understanding and Observation of People Chronicle Experiences Coping and Conflict Skills Communication Development 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Elder, Cypress Church of Christ 16

17 Social Genuine Fellowship Wholesome Friendships Positive Family Gathering participation Practice wholesome activities: music, movies, events Areas for comfort and relaxation Communication and Listening Skills 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Elder, Cypress Church of Christ 17

18 Physical Solutions 1. Awareness of Family Health Issues 2. Research Medicines and side effects 3. Frequent Physical and Eye Examinations 4. Exercise Program 5. Reasonable diet desires and habits 6. Frequent Short-term Vacations 7. Comfortable Clothing and Footwear 8/29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Elder, Cypress Church of Christ 18

19 Family Resources San Francisco Bay Area churches of Christ Focus on the Family Colorado Springs, CO A complete family ministry and referral source all over the nation The National Clergy Support Network P. O. Box 52044, Raleigh, NC (919) Nationwide care and support ministries Area colleges and Universities TOUGHLOVE, P.O. Box 1069, Doylestown, PA 18901, /29/12 J.M. Trice, MFT, Elder, Cypress Church of Christ 19