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2 PROVERBS 18:21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love to talk will have to eat their own words. 2. JAMES 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. 3.

3 4. They sat at the table, polite conversation Avoiding the issue at hand Then he made the coffee and she did the dishes And sat down at the table again She waited a moment hoping he would speak first Though it never had happened before He sat there in silence expecting the worst Til she couldn't wait anymore 5.

4 She said "I'm mad" He heard "I'm leaving" She said "I need your attention" He heard "I want you to crawl" She said "I'm sad" He heard "It's all your fault" There is no translation Emotions don't fit into words There's so much between what she said And what he heard 6. She said "I love you" that's not the problem And I know how much you care But for too long now we've been Walking on eggshells I just had to clear the air He looked at her like she was speaking chinese With some of the letters left out Try as he may he just didn't know What she was talking about 7.

5 She said "I'm mad" He heard "I'm leaving" She said "I need your attention" He heard "I want you to crawl" She said "I'm sad" He heard "It's all your fault" There is no translation Emotions don't fit into words There's so much between what she said And what he heard 8. 9.

6 JAMES 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. 10. I. QUICK TO LISTEN 11.

7 Communication is the most important skill in life. We spend most of our waking hours communicating. But consider this: "You've spent years learning how to read and write, years learning how to speak. But what about listening? What training or education have you had that enables you to listen so that you really, deeply understand another human being from that individual's own frame of reference? - Steven Covey The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People 12. To listen to another s soul may be almost the greatest service that any human being ever performs for another. - Douglas Steere 13.

8 I. QUICK TO LISTEN 1) Withhold Your Response Until You Are Sure of What is Being Said 14. PROVERBS 18:2 A fool does not find joy in understanding but only in expressing his own opinion. PROVERBS 18:13 Whoever gives an answer before he listens is stupid and shameful. PROVERBS 18:15 The mind of a person who has understanding acquires knowledge. The ears of wise people seek knowledge. 15.

9 Listen to understand, not to reply. 16. I. QUICK TO LISTEN 1) Withhold Your Response Until You Are Sure of What is Being Said 2) Be An Active Listener 17.

10 I. QUICK TO LISTEN 1) Withhold Your Response Until You Are Sure of What is Being Said 2) Be An Active Listener a) Give the speaker cues that you're engaged 18. I. QUICK TO LISTEN 1) Withhold Your Response Until You Are Sure of What is Being Said 2) Be An Active Listener a) Give the speaker cues that you're engaged b) Listen beyond the words for the deeper heart and meaning 19.

11 c) Make sure you've understood them before responding Curiosity Clarity Commentary or Critique 20. II. SLOW TO SPEAK 21.

12 PROVERBS 21:23 Watch your words and hold your tongue; you ll save yourself a lot of grief. PSALMS 141:3 Set a guard over my mouth, LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips. 22. II. SLOW TO SPEAK 1) Do Everything in Love (Ascribing Worth to the Other) I Cor 16:14 23.

13 EPHESIANS 4:15, 29 Speak the truth to one another in love Don t say anything that would hurt another person. Instead, speak only what is good so that you can give help wherever it is needed. That way, what you say will help those who hear you. 24. PROVERBS 15:1-2 A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness. 25.

14 II. SLOW TO SPEAK 1) Do Everything in Love (Ascribing Worth to the Other) I Cor 16: II. SLOW TO SPEAK 1) Do Everything in Love (Ascribing Worth to the Other) I Cor 16:14 2) Remember Our Real Struggle 27.

15 EPHESIANS 6:12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 28.