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1 Four Complete Women ( كامالت (نساء Day 1 Introduction In Islam, Allah (swt) gave the woman a position because there is an entire surah called An Nisa a (The Women),(النساء) you don t find a surah called Ar Rijjal (The Men).(الرجال) Surah An Nisa a is also one of the longer surahs in the Quran. Women are not half or quarter of the society but they are the whole of society because they are taking care of the children and the husbands. A house will be paradise when the woman is righteous and a house is hell when the woman is not, and this shows the stability of the house is dependent on the woman, subhan Allah. (الكمال المطلق هلل وحده ( alone Absolute completeness belongs to Allah (swt) Only Allah (swt) is complete in all aspects and attributes. Surah Al Ikhlas: () )٤ ق ل ه و ٱ ه لل أ ح د )١( ٱ ه لل ٱل هصم د )٢( ل م ي ل د و ل م ي ول د )٣( و ل م ي ك ن لهه ۥ ڪ ف و ا أ ح د ) (Say O) Muhammad [Allâh the Self-Sufficient (السيد الذي يصمد إليه في الحاجات ( "Allâh-us-Samad "He is Allâh, (the) One. (1) :((ﷺ) Master, Whom all creatures need, (He neither eats nor drinks)]. (2) "He begets not, nor was He begotten; (3) "And there is none co-equal or comparable unto Him." (4)) Allah (swt) is unique, He is the Self-Sufficient Master, He doesn t have a son and He is not a father to anyone. And no one is like Him. Surah Ash Shura 11: ( س ك م ثل ه ۦ ش ى ء و ه و ٱل هسم ي ع ٱل ب ص ي ر (ل ي (There is nothing like Him, and He is the All-Hearer, the All-Seer.) There is no one like Allah (swt) and no one resembles Him in His perfection. He is the All-Seer and All-Hearer. Surah Ar Room 27: ( و ل ه ٱل م ث ل ٱ ل ع ل ى ف ى ٱل هسم و ٲ ت و ٱ ل ر ض ) (His is the highest description (i.e. none has the right to be worshipped but He, and there is nothing comparable unto Him) in the heavens and in the earth) The highest example belongs to Allah (swt), for example when we talk about mercy, there is mercy of a human, but there is nothing like the mercy of Allah (swt) He has the highest example and description from all aspects. That s why you ( اله اال هللا (ال is an important foundation to have before learning about the complete women. For a woman to be complete, it is different from a man being complete. And when we talk about completeness, we think it s perfection with no faults, but absolute perfection belongs only to Allah (swt). (الكمال البشري ( perfection Human Page 1

2 Humans are different in their creation and their character. Some humans are beautiful, some are ugly, some can see, and some are blind, some can hear, and some are deaf. So there are differences between people in creation. You can find people with good manners, some with bad, some who talk good and some who talk bad. Even if you see a person born blind, this blindness is perfection for him. Whatever features or character a person is born with, this is perfection for him. But other people would say, poor him, he s disabled, etc. Their fault is their way to perfection and we need to believe this. From all of mankind, the most perfect of creation are the prophets and messengers. Allah (swt) looked at all of creation, and chose the messengers and prophets to be the best of creation. He gave them the perfect image and character. They are perfect in their creation and character and we need to believe this. Surah Al An am 124: ( ه لل أ ع ل م ح ي ث ي ج ع ل ر س ال ت ه (ٱ (Allâh knows best with whom to place His Message) One of the scholars said the best images and characters belong to the messengers and prophets. And if anyone accuses any of the messengers to have faults in his image, then as if he s harming that messenger, istaghfar Allah. Similar to Musa (as) who would bathe covered so the people accused him of having a defect, then Allah (swt) willed to have his clothing blown away and others ﷺ that ي أ ي ہ ا ٱلهذ ي ن ء ام ن وا ال ت ك ون وا ك ٱلهذ ي ن ء اذ و ا م وس ى ف ب هرأ ه ٱ ه لل م هما ( :69 he was perfect in his creation Surah Al Ahzab (you who believe! Be not like those who annoyed Mûsa (Moses), but Allâh (ق ال وا و ك ا ن ع ن د ٱ ه لل و ج يہ ا cleared him of that which they alleged, and he was honourable before Allâh) The messengers are perfect in their behavior. Allah (swt) told the Prophet (ﷺ) in Surah Al Qalam of) are on an exalted (standard (ﷺ (And verily, you (O Muhammad ) و إ هنك ل ع ل ى خ ل ق ع ظ يم ( 4: character) They are the best in their lineage and come from the best families because they will then speak to the people. We know that the most honorable among you with Allah (swt) are the ones with the most taqwa, but for the messengers they came from noble lineages. و م ا ( 7: All of the messengers are men, it doesn t suit a woman to be a messenger. Surah Al Anbiya هال ر ج اال ن وح ى إ ل ي ہ م but men to whom We (ﷺ (And We sent not before you (O Muhammad ) أ ر س لن ا ق ب ل ك إ revealed) One of the perfection for men is to be messengers, the messengers need to be dedicated 24 hours. Women have responsibilities, they can get emotional, they think many things at the same time, while men just think straight. It s not the perfection of a woman to be a messenger, but Allah (swt) gave women other ways to be perfect. ع ن أ ن س رضى هللا عنه أ هن ال هنب هي صلى هللا عليه وسلم ق ا ل " ح سب ك م ن ن س ا ء الع ال م ي ن م ري م ابن ة ع مر ا ن و خ د يج ة ب ن ت خ و يل د ( Hadith: (ﷺ) (Narrated Anas [may Allah be pleased with him]: that the Prophet ) و ف اط م ة ب ن ت م ح همد و آس ي ة امر أ ة ف رع و ن said: "Sufficient for you among the women of mankind are Mariam bint 'Imran, Khadijah bint Khuwailid, Fatimah bint Muhammad and Asiyah the wife of Fir'awn.") At Tirmidhi Book 49, Hadith 4252 Many men are messengers who are complete, but there are four complete women Asiya wife of.(ﷺ) Firaoun, Khadija bin Khuwailid (ra), Maryam bint Imran, Fatima bint Mohammed Page 2

3 They are the best women in the world. Nowadays women are being used as objects to promote products and a women is measured according to how she looks. But alhamdulliah with Islam, the woman is honored like a preserved pearl. That s why the rulings in Islam for women are to protect the lady because she is precious. It is important to know what these women did to deserve to be the complete women. And no one will be more complete than them until the Day of Judgement. And in paradise they are the best of women, subhan Allah. May Allah (swt) admit us to paradise to see them. Ameen. It s a regret to know about other ladies while not knowing about the four complete women, subhan Allah. The examples of these four women are collective of all situations of all ladies all over the world. Women are either married or not, and either they re married to someone righteous or not. The Four Complete Women Asiya is righteous while her husband is Firaoun the greatest of tyrants. If a lady is righteous and her husband is not, how will she be complete in her case? Many women complain about their husbands, but no one has a husband like Firaoun. It is important to know how Asiya overcame her husband. Many people have issues in their marriage regarding this case so it s important to follow her example. Khadija is an example of a righteous women, but she is wife to best of mankind, so how did she reach perfection? Subhan Allah. Maryam bin Imran was not married, so how was she complete? Fatima bint Mohammed (ﷺ) has has many roles she is wife of Ali bin Abi Talib (ra), mother of Al Hasan and Al Hussein, and daughter of the Prophet.(ﷺ) She is an example of a righteous mother, righteous wife, and righteous daughter, subhan Allah. (آسية امرأة فرعون ( Firaoun Asiya bint Muzahim wife of Asiya bint Muzahim is the wife of Firaoun, the greatest tyrant ever. He would kill babies and oppress others. Since she is the wife of Firaoun, the ruler of Egypt, she is living a life of luxury. She also has a say in making Firaoun listen to her. This happened when Musa (as) reached Firaoun s palace as a baby. When he was found, he was taken to Asiya, but she fell in love with this baby. They wanted to و ق ال ت ٱم ر أ ت ف ر ع و ن ق هر ت ع ي ن ل ى و ل ك ال ت قت ل وه ع س ى أ ن ي نف ع ن ا أ و ن هتخ ذ ه ۥ ( :9 kill him, but she said Surah Al Qasas you. (And the wife of Fir'aun (Pharaoh) said: "A comfort of the eye for me and for ) و ل د ا و ه م ال ي ش ع ر و ن Kill him not, perhaps he may be of benefit to us, or we may adopt him as a son." And they perceive not (the result of that).). Though this baby is the very one who will destroy Firaoun, but Firaoun melted and listened to her. This shows that Asiya has a position with Firaoun, she is not a wife that is ignored by her husband. While she was taking care of Musa (as), she accepted Islam without anyone knowing. And the hairdresser of the Firaoun household also accepted Islam without anyone knowing. Once her comb fell on the floor, and she said Bism Allah. When this was heard, it angered Firaoun that a Muslim would be in his household. Firaoun took boiling oil, and placed her four children one by one in the boiling oil and made her see this, she didn t give up on her deen and was then placed as well. She Page 3

4 remained firm on her deen, and the Prophet (ﷺ) said when he went in Isra a and Mi raj, he said he could hear them laughing in paradise, subhan Allah. They died as martyrs. When Asiya saw this incident and how her servant was so strong in her faith, she thought, I am a queen, so why should I be scared? She declared ( اله اال هللا (ال to all she knew Firaoun is not your great lord. Don t give away your deen for anyone, and no one can torture you how Firaoun tortured his wife. When he knew she embraced Islam, he tortured her like no other. She left her luxury, her palace, and servants all for the sake of Allah (swt) and she wasn t scared of Firaoun. She left her life for ( اله اال هللا (ال she didn t do so many worships, but perfection is to hold on firm to your faith. Being a slave to Allah (swt) is what makes you complete, it s not because of your beauty, or who is your husband, or your house, or your family background. Some women think perfection is how their body looks, but perfection is your obedience to Allah (swt). Allah (swt) mentioned to us her last statement before she died, and this shows she was being tortured until she died. This last statement made her complete. و ض ر ب ٱ ه لل م ث ال ل لهذ ين ء ام ن وا ٱم ر أ ت ف ر ع و ن إ ذ ق ال ت ر ب ٱب ن ل ى ع ند ك ب ي ت ا ف ى ٱلج هنة و ن ج ن ى م ن ف ر ع و ن ( :11 Surah At Tahreem (And Allâh has set forth an example for those who believe; the wife of Fir'aun (و ع م ل ه ۦ و ن ج ن ى م ن ٱل ق و م ٱل هظل م ين (Pharaoh), when she said: "My Lord! Build for me a home with You in Paradise, and save me from Fir'aun (Pharaoh) and his work, and save me from the people who are Zâlimûn (polytheists, wrong-doers and disbelievers in Allâh).) Asiya had treasures, authority and a palace before but that didn t make her complete. Her submission and devotion to Allah (swt) made her complete. This is an advice to all women who went through oppression with their husbands, and no one went what Asiya went through. Her patience and her dua a made her complete. Allah (swt) gave an example to the believers about the wife of Firaoun and it s mentioned that she is the wife of Firaoun, so did she die as divorcing Firaoun? No. She took care of Musa (as) and Allah (swt) appreciated this act, and she stopped others from killing him, so Allah (swt) did not allow her to die as a disbeliever, subhan Allah. Firaoun was the closest one to her, but she didn t remind him and say, remember us before, etc, - she went to her Rabb. Firaoun said about himself I am your great rabb ( ربكم ا لعلى. (أنا She knows her husband is not a rabb, but she knows that Allah (swt) is her Rabb. When you know Allah (swt), then it makes you very strong. She is not a messenger, but all of the messengers would begin their dua a with Rabb. So flee to your Rabb, not your mother, or sister or friends. When a wife goes through oppression, she goes to her mother, but this only makes it worse. Imagine your daughter has a problem, you as a mother will feel more pain because you re not there. Asiya didn t turn to anyone but her Rabb because only He knows about her. 1. So when you go through oppression flee only to your Rabb because this is what makes you complete, subhan Allah. People complain that their husband doesn t speak to them, but when you see what Asiya went through, then you will say alhamdulliah. When someone is oppressed, the shaitan will make the person discouraged, but you need to go to your Rabb to make you complete. Page 4

5 Oppression from a husband is very uncomfortable and it makes life difficult, but what makes it easy? ("My Lord! Build for me a home with You in Paradise ) her dua a is very (ر ب ٱب ن ل ى ع ند ك ب ي ت ا ف ى ٱلج هنة ( specific. What is the most important thing for a woman? To have a house, this is the women s kingdom. Asiya has a palace but her companion is Firaoun and this is like hell. That s why her dua a is build for me, she doesn t have any interest in her palace or her belongings. She left everything for ( اله اال هللا,(ال and her saying build for me a house in paradise shows she had great belief in the Last Day and in paradise. She wants Allah (swt) to build for her, not Firaoun to build for her. She has no interest in Firaoun. And she wants it for her, and where does she want it? (عندك) with Allah (swt). She chose the neighborhood before the house, subhan Allah. She chose the neighborhood of Allah (swt). Anyone who goes through oppression needs to have hope in paradise. A person needs to believe when they leave anything for Allah (swt) then for sure Allah (swt) will give them better. People think, what will happen if I become Muslim, my work, etc. but you need to be certain that Allah (swt) will give better. When you make dua a to Allah (swt), make your dua a very high, with great expectations from Allah (swt). There is no comparison between a house next to Allah (swt) and a palace with Firaoun. Everything in the duniya is cheap compared to the akhira, so don t be deceived by the duniya be firm on the deen. 2. Yaqeen absolute certainty in the akhira overcomes all feelings of the duniya. She didn t say, I want to go back to my palace, she wanted a house next to Allah (swt) in paradise. Her feelings were cut off from the duniya. The duniya is there but she it has no value with her. And Asiya is someone who has seen everything, yet she gave it up for Allah (swt). Her belief in the akhira overpowered her; she s not heedless. When your concern is the akhira, then you won t magnify your problems in the duniya. You don t think, why is he on the phone, why doesn t he take me out, why doesn t he buy me jewerlry, etc. And notice Asiya didn t make dua a against Firaoun, she didn t even curse him, subhan Allah. She s very noble in her character. The Quran talks much about the akhira in order to make your goals high and to make your problems low. There is a story of lady who complained about her husband and the husband complained about her, the lady was told one day you will die and one day your husband will die, so enjoy your life. You will be both under the grave, you will be resurrected and each will turn away from the other, and if both are in paradise, then you will be the best to each other. After this it hit her hard and didn t complain again. When a person is heedless of Allah (swt) and the Last Day, then it makes the person feel the oppression more. Asiya had so much yaqeen in Allah (swt), in the Last Day, in paradise, and homes in paradise next to Allah (swt). Surah Saad 46: ( هنا أ خل ص ن ه م ب خ ال ص ة ذ ڪ ر ى ٱل هدا ر (إ (Verily, We did choose them by granting them (a good thing, i.e.) the remembrance of the home [in the Hereafter]) One of the favors of Allah (swt) to His messengers and complete people is to remember the akhira. The akhira is always in front of their eyes. They see a house in this life, and they remember the house in akhira. When you are always remembering the akhira, then this is a favor from Allah (swt) Page 5

6 ا which He favored with those who are complete. When we think of the akhira, then it makes us react balanced. But when think of the duniya, then it makes us overreact, scream, act with desire, etc. If you are seeking a happy and beautiful house, then you will find it in paradise by your devotion. She didn t curse her husband or make dua a against him. You fill find women with so much hatred towards their husband, but look at her heart. She s worried about herself, if her husband chose misguidance and she chose guidance, she doesn t want to be affected by the deeds of Firaoun. For this reason her dua a was ( ن ج ن ى م ن ف ر ع و ن و ع م ل ه (و (and save me from Fir'aun (Pharaoh) and his work). After asking for a house in paradise, she is asked to be saved. Those who go through oppression, wish to die quickly so they can be done with the oppression or to leave this world. Did Asiya ask Allah (swt) to make her die or to destroy Firaoun? No, because she knows it s not up to her, but up to Allah (swt). Rather she said save me and this shows so much optimism and hope. She didn t ask Allah (swt) to exit from this life, but may Allah (swt) save me. This is the dua a of those who are complete, they didn t ask for their life to end, but to be saved, and to be alive is a great blessing. 3. Hope in Allah (swt) to be saved, she s not depending on her self ( حول و ال قوة اال باهلل (ال there is no might or power except with Allah. With faith it makes you positive, nothing can break you. She is so strong, stronger than Firaoun. (ٱل هنار ي ع ر ض و ن ع ل ي ہ ا غ د و ا و ع ش ي و ي و م ت ق و م ٱل هساع ة أ د خ ل و ا ء ا ل ف ر ع و ن أ ش هد ٱل ع ذ ا ب ( :46 Where is Firaoun? Surah Ghafir (The Fire; they are exposed to it, morning and afternoon, and on the Day when the Hour will be established (it will be said to the angels): "Cause Fir'aun's (Pharaoh) people to enter the severest torment!") and where is she? In paradise, subhan Allah. She wants to be saved from Firaoun who can influence her. A husband can have a lot of influence because he s close. She wants to be saved from Firaoun and his evil actions She also wants to be saved from anyone who can change her mind ( ن ج ن ى م ن ٱل ق و م ٱل هظل م ين (و (and save me from the people who are Zâlimûn). Her dua a was so beautiful that Allah (swt) mentioned it in the Quran. It is said that before Aisya died, Allah (swt) made her see her house above and then she died, subhan Allah. So what made her complete? o Fleeing to your Rabb, fleeing to people will make you weak and they don t know what you re going through. When you flee to Allah (swt), He will bring the right people to advise you. o Yaqeen in the akhira o There is no might and power except with Allah ( حول و ال قوة اال با لل (ال and sufficient is Allah for (حسبي هللا و نعم الوكيل ( trustee me and He is the best Whatever happens in your life, be patient, flee to your Rabb, have yaqeen in the akhira, and there is no might or power except with Allah (swt). May Allah (swt) increase in yaqeen and help us apply what we learned. Ameen. Page 6