Anger. (object focused) He is late again! Lower your expectations of earth. This isn t heaven, so don t expect it to be. How do you manage your anger?

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1 apttoteach.org Lower yor expectations of earth. This isn t heaven, so don t expect it to be. :25-31 Lesson #24 and 01/14/ How do yo manage yor? Broken people living in a broken world shold expect to have trobled feelings: That s not one of my problems. I repress it. Fr C (s on I bjec f si am t no foc on ts s r ed e! ) (ev stra e t I a nt foc ion m w se aitin d) g! I m not angry, 1I m jst intense. 1 I excse it. It shows me where to minister. I se it to cast blame and shame. 2 Three big isses that head Pal s list of walking in a manner worthy of or calling (Eph.4:1). Last two weeks 1. Managing or TONGUE. This week and next 2. Managing or TEMPER. 4 (object focsed) He is late again! 3 25 Therefore, laying aside falsehood, speak trth, each one of yo, with his neighbor, for we are members of one another. 26 Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sn go down on yor, 27 and do not give the devil an opportnity. 28 Let him who steals steal no longer; bt rather let him labor, performing with his own hands what is good, in order that he may have something to share with him who has need. 29 Let no nwholesome word proceed from yor moth, bt only sch a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom yo were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness and wrath and and clamor and slander be pt away from yo, along with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, jst as God in Christ also has forgiven yo. 5

2 Two areas where we can bless the Spirit and rob the devil. 26 Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sn go down on yor, 27 and do not give the devil an opportnity And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom yo were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness and wrath and and clamor and slander be pt away from yo, along with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, jst as God in Christ also has forgiven yo. This week Let or lead s to be (a blessing for orselves) Next week Let or lead s to be (a blessing for others) We give the devil an opportnity and grieve the Holy Spirit when we: 1. Let simmer withot closre. 2. Fail to forgive & forebear with others. 6 James 1:19 Forgiveness 7 The devil wants or Bt everyone mst be qick to hear, slow to speak and slow to ; to simmer into sin do not let the sn go down on yor, 27 and do not give the devil an opportnity. may not be avoidable, bt it can be managed. One of the worst things we can do in managing is: to let it energize or behavior before it enlightens or sol. We mst resolve or and learn from it pfront (before we act). 8 9 Psalm 4:4 Frank Sonnenberg Tremble (with ) bt do not sin. Meditate in yor heart pon yor bed and be still. It s better to have problems at the beginning than at the end. Good management comes by resisting the temptation to respond withot giving time to meditate and gain valable insights. athor & small bsiness expert 10 11

3 Don t go to bed angry. Stay p and fight. conflict is inevitable, bt combat is not. Phyllis Diller 12 Don t go to bed angry. Stay p, listen & learn. 13 can lead to dos Anxiety is a negative adit of the ftre. Something awfl might happen. is a negative adit of the past. Something awfl has happened. Shame - Blame I blew it. Someone else blew it. Anxiety and share three thing in common false expectations, narrow perspective, confsed priorities. I had Goals. It didn t happen! 14 can lead to dos Blame I needed... I conted on... I expected can lead to dos Shame Blame My Goals were blocked. 16 Yo are a bad person and case my problem. Shame I am a bad person & worthless failre. 17

4 A hatred volcano becomes a Tornado crse I make those I hate sffer! slander I m destroying yor reptation! malice I m defaming yo! clamer I m exploding! wrath I m going to get yo for this! I woldn t have to manage my, if people wold manage their stpidity. bitterness I m brooding over this! I Mistakes were made bt not by me. crse m rd er I make those I hate sffer! slander I m destroying yor reptation! malice clamer I m exploding! wrath bitterness Needs of others for ministry may be seen. 20 Opportnity to model Christian faith, hope, & love may be revealed. 1. Resist - Pt off the old natre with its temptation to let simmer. 4. Priorities - What wold the devil like yo to do? DON T DO IT! I m brooding over this! My misplaced goals may be exposed. Getting off the path of that leads to d. 3. Perspective - Contemplate where this can lead depending on yor response. I m going to get yo for this! can lead to valable insights Expectations - Anticipate trigger isses and plan ahead as to how to respond. I m defaming yo! Blocked Goals 21 blessing I will bless yo! forbearance I will be patient with yo! forgiveness can become a fontain of Living Water for or personal lives. I forgive yo! It can increase my empathy. repentance Grace becomes destrctive if left to simmer. 18 Blocked Goals I am changing! insight I get it! Isse in my life that needs attention may come to light. 22 self adit I am listening! 23

5 Starting on the path of learning throgh. Psalm 30:11 1. Resist - Stop and give yorself a chance to listen and think. 2. Expectations - Ask yorself WHY am I angry (really)? What goals have been blocked? 3. Perspective - What is God doing in the lives of all who are involved? 4. Priorities - How is the Spirit of Christ to be displayed (throgh me) in this? Yo have trned for me my morning into dancing; Yo have loosed my sackcloth and girded me with gladness, 24 Managing has a lot to do with: Lke 10 (Mary and Martha) 38 Now as they were traveling along, He entered a certain village; and a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her home. 39 And she had a sister called Mary, who moreover was listening to Expectations, Perspective, Priorities the Lord s word, seated at His feet. 40 Bt Martha was distracted with all her preparations; and she came p to Him, and said, Lord, do Yo not care that my sister has left me to do all the serving alone? Then tell her to help me. 41 Bt the Lord answered and said to her, Martha, Martha, yo are worried and bothered abot so many things; 42 bt only a few things are necessary, really only one, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her. 1) the wisdom of or expectations 2) the breadth of or perspective. 3) the ordering of or priorities. 25 ANGER Anxiety God s post-its This is no big d eal. to His angry children Don Trning morning into dancing 1. Martha and Mary. 2. Pal s thorn in the flesh. 3. Joseph s captivity in Egypt. 4. Jess crcifixion and resrrection. 28 o ob y re y j A r M? IN te t Worry af GA A e I ve got it ht w g covered. is ho I t ad th. h led t ot n s set s i. i h Yo T ven hea a le re mis mo arnin sing My Son came to me g nt. save yor sol not yor plans. 29