SMALL GROUP LEADER GENERAL INFO

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1 SMALL GROUP LEADER GENERAL INFO Following is information on Starting a Small Group, Frequently Asked Questions about leading a group, and suggestions on How to Move Group Members One Step closer to Christ, as well as expectations for our leaders including the Honor Code, Leadership Commitment, and Abuse Policy Acknowledgment. STARTING A SMALL GROUP All Small Group Leaders complete the following steps before starting to lead: 1. Become a member of Love of Christ Church and complete the Growth Track. 2. Participate in Small Group Leadership Training and complete the Leadership Application. 3. Sign the Small Group Leadership Commitment and Honor Code. How to Start Your Small Group 1. Ask God for direction about what group to lead and who to invite. 2. Once you decide on a topic or activity for your group, choose a place and time to meet. 3. Register your group in the online Small Group Directory at LoveOfChristChurch.org so people can find it and contact you to attend. 4. Invite people you know or meet to come check out your group. 5. Pray for God to do great things through your Small Group. Preparing For Your Group Meetings Send a message to group members reminding them about the first meeting. Arrive early to set up a welcoming environment. Consider having nametags available to help everyone learn names for the first few weeks. Provide a snack. Nothing promotes fellowship like food! Proposed Itinerary for Your First Small Group Meeting Allow people to arrive, talk and snack 15 minutes. Pray 1 minute. Have everyone introduce themselves and share what they do, where they are from and why they decided to join the group. Pass around the Small Group Contact Form to collect contact information. 10 minutes. Introductory game. Have everyone tell 3 things about themselves (2 being true and 1 being false). Have everyone else try to guess which one is false. (For other conversation starters, see below.) 10 minutes. Briefly introduce study topic. Answer any questions. 15 minutes.

2 Explain and ask for volunteers to serve in different roles within the group: Prayer Coordinator, Play Coordinator, Food Coordinator and Fun Coordinator. 5 minutes. Share prayer requests and pray together. Prayer Coordinator jots down the prayer requests and s to the group next day. 10 minutes. Talk and eat. 15 minutes. Conversation Starters Here are a couple conversation starters to help get people talking as your group gets to know each other: How did you learn about our group? What are your hobbies? What are you looking forward to this year? What brought you here? What are you hoping to get out of this Small Group? Search the Internet for other good icebreaker questions and use one each week, if your schedule permits.

3 FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS 1. How can I recruit people to come to my group? Start with people who are already in your sphere of influence (co-workers, friends, and neighbors). Find people around you who are new to the church, are new believers, or have shown interest in getting involved. Look for people you think you can help realize their potential. Ask God to send the right people to your group. 2. Where can I hold my Small Group? We encourage Small Groups to meet outside the church building in the places where you like to spend your time. Some of the most common meeting places are homes, restaurants, parks, coffee shops, and office buildings. 3. Where can I find Small Group curriculum? We have a variety of curriculum suggestions available to you. Visit LoveOfChristChurch.org/Small- Groups/Leader-Resources to check out our approved DVD Resource List. 4. Does my group have to meet weekly? We encourage meeting weekly each semester in order to build genuine relationships. 5. Does Love of Christ Church offer childcare for people who would like to attend Small Group meetings? We do not want anyone to miss the chance to be in a Small Group for financial reasons. Love of Christ Church offers childcare reimbursement for individuals who would like to attend a Small Group, but do not have the resources to pay for a babysitter at their home each week. Reimbursement is for Love of Christ Church members or attendees who would not otherwise be able to attend a Small Group, and it applies to childcare costs that occur during a Small Group. This is for individuals to obtain childcare and does not apply to an entire group hiring a babysitter for their meetings. Please refer to the Childcare Reimbursement Request Form for complete guidelines, which is available at the Info Center at any campus. For more information, contact Love of Christ Church at or Info@LoveOfChristChurch.org. 6. What should I do if someone asks a question I can t answer? It s okay to not have all the answers. Thankfully, we can find guidance through prayer, God s Word, and the Holy Spirit. Encourage them to spend time reading the Bible and praying. Also let them know you will do your best to find out information and get back with them at your next Small Group meeting. Do some personal research and call your coach to get advice.

4 7. How can I deal with someone who dominates conversation? Don t let any one person control the conversation. The role of the leader is to encourage everyone to participate and share. If an individual starts to dominate the discussion, redirect the conversation to another person by saying, Let s hear from someone else., what do you think? Likewise, avoid letting the discussion go off topic, unless there is value in what is being said for the whole group. If problems persist, contact your Coach for further advice. 8. What should I do if someone in my group shares something with me (or the group) that requires attention beyond what I (or we) can provide? If you encounter a difficult situation within your Small Group, please know that you are not alone. If a member is going through a crisis, you can rally the group around them to provide prayer, encouragement, and support. Use wisdom and be sensitive to the situation. If you are unsure of what to do, don t hesitate to ask your Coach. Also, you and/or the group member can call the church office directory at , if needed. 9. How can I share stories of life-change from the Small Group semester? We love hearing about lives that are changed through Small Groups. You can share your stories with your Coach or submit them at LoveOfChristChurch.org/More/Share-Your-Story.

5 HOW TO MOVE GROUP MEMBERS ONE STEP How do I measure if group members are moving one step? Ask! Make it part of your discussion whether in a group setting or individually. Also, encourage everyone in your group to complete the Next Step Survey sometime during the semester. Here are some great questions to guide your conversation: Have you ever been part of a Small Group before? How did you get connected to this Small Group? What are you most looking forward to in the group? Do you attend Love of Christ Church? What brought you to Love of Christ Church? Are you regularly attending our worship services? If so, which campus/service do you attend? Tell me about your relationship with Jesus. How does He take priority in your life? What do you feel like God has been doing in your life lately? Have you been water baptized since you became a believer? Do you read the Bible daily? What areas of your faith are you hoping to grow in the coming months? What are you focused on in your life right now? Have you been through the Growth Track? Do you remember what your personality type is or what your spiritual gifts are? Have you ever served on the Dream Team? Tell me about your prayer life. Do you have a time, place and plan to pray daily? Are you familiar with 21 Days of Prayer? How can I pray for you? Everyone in your group will be at different places spiritually. The vision of helping them move one step is not to get them to do everything at once, it s to help identify where they currently are spiritually and offer a practical next step to help them grow. Here are some examples of next steps you can share depending where a group member is spiritually: Invite them to attend a Sunday service with you. Share your personal story and what God has been teaching you.

6 Share how the Growth Track can help them discover their purpose and invite them to attend. Share how you find time regularly to pray, worship and read God s Word, and encourage them to make their own plan for time with God. If they do not have a regular Bible reading plan, direct them to the YouVersion Bible App and suggest they use one of their plans. Tell them about the Love of Christ Church DE app and suggest they download it to access resources. Encourage them to learn more about areas like tithing, the Holy Spirit, prayer, and spiritual warfare by watching past messages at LoveOfChristChurch.org. If they are ready to receive Christ, offer to pray with them. If they have not been baptized by immersion since they became a believer, encourage them to participate in our next Water Baptism Celebration, and direct them to the Water Baptism page on our website for more information and a specific date. Invite your Small Group to attend and celebrate with anyone getting baptized. Share how you became a Small Group Leader and the blessings you have experienced, as a result. Encourage those who are interested to take this Small Group Leadership Training to become a Small Group Leader.

7 HONOR CODE As an essential part of the Love of Christ Church Leadership family, you have a responsibility to develop and exhibit mature Christian behavior, and to serve as an example to those you lead. The basic premise of your participation as a servant-leader here at Love of Christ Church should be to represent and glorify Christ. While serving the Body of Christ as a servant-leader at Love of Christ Church, you pledge to present a good appearance at all times. In both attire and behavior, you should strive to demonstrate Biblical standards in all situations, and at all times. As Christians, the way we present ourselves to others is of vital importance because it impacts the way they perceive Christ. Our conduct should never be an embarrassment to Christ, but should exemplify the best qualities of a mature believer and servant-leader. As mature believers, Love of Christ Church s leaders are to maintain a disciplined life of Bible reading, prayer, and fasting. They should demonstrate the fruit of the spirit and strive to be a Godly example in every area of their lives. You also agree to refrain from such things as: profanity gossip/slander dishonest gain illegal drugs pornography sexual immorality indulging in much wine or other alcoholic beverages all behaviors which might cause Christ to grieve and others to stumble By providing an example in speech and action, we encourage others to grow in Christ and become servant-leaders themselves. This way of life should be the outward expression of the heart and commitment of each leader in the Love of Christ Church family, and a natural and essential part of our development, as believer.

8 LEADERSHIP COMMITMENT The same goes for those who want to be servants in the church: serious, not deceitful, not too free with the bottle, not in it for what they can get out of it. They must be reverent before the mystery of the faith, not using their position to try to run things. Let them prove themselves first. If they show they can do it, take them on. No exceptions are to be made for women same qualifications: serious, dependable, not sharp-tongued, not over fond of wine. Servants in the church are to be committed to their spouses, attentive to their own children, and diligent in looking after their own affairs. Those who do this servant work will come to be highly respected, a real credit to this Jesus-faith. (1 Timothy 3:8-10, Msg.) Qualifications Sincere, worthy of respect, and of a good reputation. Give regularly to Love of Christ Church. Have a genuine desire to serve and minister to other people. Able to lead, motivate, and teach other people. Able to create positive group dynamics, and deal with conflict resolution within the group.

9 ABUSE POLICY ACKNOWLEDGEMENT I understand that Love of Christ Church is a safe place for children and vulnerable adults and that we comply with all Federal and State laws regarding reporting suspected child abuse. As a Small Group Leader, I understand that suspected abuse is to be reported to the staff member who oversees the area in which I serve. I also understand the four types of abuse defined below: Physical: A physical act directed at a child or vulnerable adult that causes injury. Sexual: Contact or interactions between a child and an adult, or another child, when the child is being used for sexual stimulation of the perpetrator or another person. This includes exploitation through photographs, videos, or other communication methods. Emotional: Acts or omissions by the parent or other caregivers that have caused, or could cause, serious behavioral, cognitive, emotional, or mental disorders. Neglect: Failure to provide for the child or vulnerable adult s basic needs. This includes adequate adult supervision, medical attention, housing, food, and clothing. Most cases of physical neglect involve inadequate adult supervision that has caused harm to the child or vulnerable adult, or places them in danger of such harm. I understand it is not my responsibility to investigate and in no instance will I confront a parent or care giver if abuse is suspected. As a Small Group Leader, I agree to comply with this policy and report any suspected abuse to the staff person who oversees the area in which I serve.