7 Reasons. Why Talented, Spiritual Women Make Little Money and Minimum Impact This has to change.this CAN change.

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1 7 Reasons Why Talented, Spiritual Women Make Little Money and Minimum Impact This has to change.this CAN change. By Rachael Jayne Groover Creator of Art of Feminine Presence Author of the best-selling books Powerful and Feminine and Divine Breadcrumbs: The Search for True Love and Enlightenment.

2 An Introduction... Spiritual women are always talking about how much they want to make an impact, but few actually do. All my work is with women who ve been on a personal and spiritual development path for quite some time and who really want to awaken their impact, inspire change and create wealth doing meaningful work. It s heart-breaking to see some of the most loving, creative, conscious, beautiful women you could ever meet find it very hard to make the impact they want to make, as well as keep a passionate love relationship alive, and keep their health and happiness intact. If you are tired of seeing less conscious, less in integrity, and less talented people making more of an impact than you If you feel you are sitting on a goldmine of love and wisdom, but too scared to put it out there If you spend a lot of time on self development but your primary relationship or health are suffering I can relate. I ve been there. For those of you that don t know me that well, I ve been broke, overweight, overwhelmed, not making the impact that I wanted and now me and my husband have a multi-million dollar a year company teaching spirituality, psychology, leadership and conscious entrepreneurship. I have been dedicated to my spiritual growth for decades, I have studied everything there is to study and that did not make a big difference in my impact or my bank account. I know what it takes to make that change from envious and fearful and confused to living my career and life dreams.

3 How to Use this Report for Maximum Growth and Awareness This special report was written with the intention to help you look at what keeps you playing smaller than necessary. Talented spiritual women often fall into these 7 traps and have specific blind spots that keep them in a place where they say I want to make some big changes, and step up and make a difference, but not a significant amount of change actually occurs. As you read each of the 7 reasons, notice if you have an immediate sense that you fall into any of these traps, or if you quickly dismiss a trap by saying no that s not me, or have a strong emotional reaction. We call them blind spots for a reason. I am predicting that there will be at least one of these points that you dismiss as not you - but it really is you. I recommend you share this report with a friend and ask them for candid feedback about whether they see you demonstrating any of these in your life. The Shadow You ll see me use the term Shadow or Shadow Parts in this report, and if you are unfamiliar with these terms here is a brief definition: There are certain parts of us that we accept and comfortably express and other parts we reject and suppress. We suppress certain parts of ourselves because at one time or another we received the message that they were not ok, or they were 'bad.' These parts are referred to as our Shadow Parts. We are ALL of it! We are independent and dependent; love and fear; aggressive and passive; defensive and open; patient and impatient. We all have access to both ends of this spectrum. If we don't acknowledge all parts of us, then those parts we have hidden away in dark corners will create a sense that the handbrake is on in our life. Connect with me My team and I would love to hear your thoughts, feelings, and a-ha s once you have read through this report. You can send an any time at Support@GrooverSeminars.com.

4 Reason #1 Spiritual women defend against being seen as superior, arrogant, bossy, or authoritative. They feel it s not okay to be that type of person, after all: We are all one, We are all equal, I don t know more than you, I m just here as a guide. For many women I have worked with, it s practically impossible for them to own and declare that I am the most important person in the room right now. Deep in their psyche, it's not okay for them to assert their confidence as the authority. The problem is when these Shadow parts are not integrated, other people don t trust you as a leader, or someone they can follow. We all want strong leadership whether we admit it or not, because leadership allows us to relax and be guided by someone who is more expert in a particular field. Spiritual women need to make peace with saying, I m in charge. I know more. I have something important to share, now listen up. To determine whether these are shadow parts for you, imagine if someone called you any of these things-superior, arrogant, bossy, or authoritative. Would that give you an emotional charge of anger, or shame, or embarrassment, or complete denial? If so, there is work to be done.

5 Reason #2 Spiritual women think their focus on balance and harmony is serving them and that maintaining that balance is the sign of spiritual evolution. That is a very slippery slope. Many women mistake and substitute ease, balance and comfort for the deeper fulfillment and doing meaningful work that asks for a lot of inspired action. You must watch whether you are falling into the trap of rationalizing with yourself that you are content with what is, because deep down you are terrified of losing a sense of balance and being uncomfortable. Therein lies the problem. Making an impact, putting yourself out there is uncomfortable. People will judge you, people will create conflict with you, people might not like you. An example of this that I see a lot with the women I work with is they are scared they will be overwhelmed by others, or things will be too hard, and so when they try to focus on their priorities and the things that are significant to them, all of a sudden they find themselves wanting to go for a walk in nature, or organize the house, or take a bath in order to get back to a harmonious place. It s a great escape. Not that taking a bath at the end of the day is not a good thing, I love it. Just don t mistake balance and a kind of Pseudo-Harmony for the true self-worth and fulfillment that comes when you are working diligently towards something you love and that you are good at, and you are consistently growing outside your comfort zone. The Shadow Part in this instance that should be integrated is I am lazy. Ask yourself: How hard do I push myself to take action on the things that I want to accomplish and stay with it even when it gets hard? If you have been experiencing depression recently, Reason #2 could be one of the factors that has made it easy for you to slip into that state. It is time to step even further out of your comfort zone, for the sake of your health and happiness.

6 Reason #3 Many spiritual women over-give. Why? I believe there are different reasons for this. Why is it that you over-give? Sometimes it s driven by wanting to be seen as a giver, and/or genuinely want to be a generous giver, not a taker. Sometimes it comes from a low self-worth which stems from how much unconditional love, and safe attention that we got when we were children. Attention is like food and water for the feminine, so if you feel this dynamic you need to put yourself in situations that feed you with loving attention by others. Our Art of Feminine Presence intensives are all built on this premise and are extremely healing for women. Sometimes it comes from a belief that if I just give enough, I will finally receive something back. This can happen when the spiritual principle of Give and you will receive has not been taken in the right context. You can give and give and give and bleed yourself dry. The only way you can give without the need to get something in return is when you are in an abundant state a state where your cup is overflowing. Sometimes it s the belief that I absolutely need to give if someone is in need, I have to give and help, no matter what the consequences are for me. For the conscious business owners I work with this creates huge challenges, because business is built on helping others who are in need of something, but somewhere inside they feel they should give it all away if someone is truly in need, without them getting financially compensated for it. If over-giving is an issue for you the Shadow Parts to work with are: I am selfish. I am a taker. I am insecure.

7 Reason #4 Spiritual women often say we shouldn t be competitive, instead let s be collaborative. That is great on one hand, given the world has had a fixation with competition that has been unhealthy. On the other hand many women have disowned the power of being competitive. They shy away from the limelight, or their drive to be the best at something, or their desire to win, and the yang energy that propels them forward. The belief has been implanted that It s not feminine or spiritual to be competitive. It s the patriarchal way of doing things. Why is it good and helpful for a woman to be competitive? This has been a hard question for me in the past to wrestle with because being competitive was a huge 'Shadow. I said I wasn t competitive, but then I would secretly want to do better than everyone else in the room. I said I wasn t competitive, but I would constantly compare myself to other women. Firstly, we can agree that this is a waste of time, but secondly think of all the people that are amazing at something those that are playing at the top of their game. There is a big part of them that is competitive, primarily they are competitive with themselves and how much they can improve. If it s being harnessed in a healthy way being competitive is great. If you want to be a woman that makes an impact, there is a lot of competition in your way. It s a noisy world, so you need to do your Shadow Work around being a competitive woman.

8 Reason #5 Many spiritual women that have their own business or are looking to move up the ladder in their workplace don t understand the mechanics and psychology of marketing and sales. In some cases they don t see the importance of it, in others its judgment or fear of it. I often hear from my business coaching clients that in some way they feel like they are taking from someone if I sell to them, or I feel like I m trying to push something on to them. I see many spiritual women invest more in spiritual workshops versus trainings on finance, sales, marketing, and business success. They get stuck in the personal development trap, and play toward their strength versus realize that all the women that are making a huge impact in a positive, spiritual way have been great marketers and sales women (Oprah, Marianne Williamson, Adrianna Huffington, even Mother Teresa among many others). The year that I finally crossed over the 6-figure mark in business was the year that I quadrupled my focus on being a great marketer. I was able to come up with ideas of how I could stay authentic with the way I communicated my value, so people would easily pay me for my coaching and workshops. Our company crossed over the multi-7 figure mark a few years ago because of many reasons, but at the top of the list is this focus on business as well as doing work to integrate my Shadow. How many times have you judged someone else for being all about selling or all about marketing? The Shadow parts that you need to work on if this trap is resonating with you are I am pushy and I am manipulative.

9 Reason #6 Many spiritually centered women hold the belief that Money is not spiritual. It s material, so it should not be high on the priority list. Sometimes it goes so far as the belief that money is the root of all evil. Receiving money should be high on the priority list, because money is what allows you to live your values in a grander way. If you want to make an impact through philanthropy you can make a bigger one. If you want to make an impact through volunteering in a third world country, money allows you to take the time off. If you want to make an impact through your own business, the more money you have the more people you can reach. It s plain and simple - the more money you make the more impact you can have. I am clear now that the only reason my husband and I can impact people at a time is because we have the money to put on these powerful trainings we run, and have a team that supports us with the administration. Sticking with our theme of Shadow Work I want you to ask yourself this question: What would happen if you were the wealthiest person you knew? Some spiritual women are worried about the judgment people will have if they are rich. They don t want to be seen as someone who lives life like it s all about the money. The Shadows to work on for this trap are I am Greedy and I am Ruthless.

10 Reason #7 This final reason is not something that I actually hear from the women I work with, but I can feel it running underneath the surface. It s an internal, or maybe subconscious conversation that says, I ve done so much spiritual work. I m doing the right thing, in the right way, and given that it, success should come to me. Money or impact doesn t choose good people. It doesn t choose evil people. It chooses people that focus on it and take consistent action to make it happen. In my work I see a lot of spiritual women doing a Spiritual By-pass that looks like positive thinking. I m great, and everything is going to happen, it s just a matter of time. Often I am coaching them around their business and I can clearly see they are not doing the specific actions needed to create that thing they are wanting. They stay positive and excited and knowing that it will happen (in their head) and it never does. Entitlement is a word that has been thrown around a lot relating to the younger generations. They think everything will just come to them. I believe talented, spiritual women need to watch this too. It s keeping them in a place of making little money and minimum impact.

11 This report is not meant to swing you completely the other way. It s not meant to make you a materially focused, workaholic, competitive control freak. It s about integrating those Shadow Parts and allowing more diversity of thoughts and more inspired action towards things that will get you tangible results. Some critical pieces are out of alignment if your financial, relationship, and fulfillment results do not equal the knowledge and wisdom you have accumulated. I hope we can continue to work together in order to change that. It s time to get honest about your skeletons in the closet or personal pitfalls that keep you from being the woman you want to be. I have a unique viewpoint on feminine leadership or creating wealth through doing something you really love. It s not about being salesy, or inauthentic, or out of integrity or pushy. It s about staying true to your values, your consciousness work, and working with those dynamics that keep most spiritual women making little money and minimum impact. I am proud to have helped tens of thousands of women all over the world step up and into the spotlight in a grander way. Welcome to our community. There will be more free resources coming your way soon. Much love,