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THE CORNERSTONE EAGLE May 2018 Edition Pride means

... In a good sense it means having a feeling of

People can be satisfied with their achievements.

They can be proud of (or take pride in) their work.

It can connote both a negative and a positive meaning

you have. So, when does Pride becomes a bad thing?

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with our clients, candidates and partners locally.

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1 THE CORNERSTONE EAGLE May 2018 Edition Pride means having a feeling of being good and worthy.... In a good sense it means having a feeling of selfrespect. People can be satisfied with their achievements. They can be proud of something good that they have done. They can be proud of (or take pride in) their work. Pride is quite a complicated word. It can connote both a negative and a positive meaning depending largely on how it is used and how much of it you have. So, when does Pride becomes a bad thing? Let s find out more together in this edition of The Eagle. Cornerstone International Group s MISSION is to be the best executive recruiting group worldwide, but our VISION is to be a true mentor and coach, one-on-one, with our clients, candidates and partners locally. The Cornerstone Eagle newsletter is not a sales letter to promote activities of our 60 offices globally, but a tool to inspire you to maximize your personal and professional potential to be a Better Leader and a Better Person both at home and at business. We shall be your Faithful Companion / Coach / Mentor on your life and career journey, supporting you to discover yourself and offering good advice for Healthier Business and Life. Best Wishes,

Simon Wan Chief Executive Cornerstone International Group Phone No.: +86 21 6474 7064 Email: simon-wan@cornerstone-group.

obviously her fault. Well, she just told me that there was never a time she was at fault so I guess I have to accept that explanation or I won t be sleeping in our bedroom tonight.

2 Simon Wan Chief Executive Cornerstone International Group Phone No.: Pride A story Ever since we were dating and even until now, one of the traits I saw in my wife (which she doesn t deny because I asked her before) was her refusal to say sorry even when it s obviously her fault. Well, she just told me that there was never a time she was at fault so I guess I have to accept that explanation or I won t be sleeping in our bedroom tonight. Kidding aside, I know my wife so well and know that even if she doesn t actually say it, there have been times in the past where her actions told me otherwise. She s not as prideful in other things anyway. It s amazing what pride can make us do. After all, it wouldn t be considered the most serious of the seven deadly sins if it wasn t a big deal. It was even said that it is the source of the other sins. The best example would have to be the story of Lucifer whose pride and desire to compete with God was what caused his fall from Heaven. Unfortunately, some people gives pride permission to take over their lives which they don t realize can cause so much damage not only to themselves, but also to their relationships and happiness. 1. You find it difficult to admit your mistakes When Pride Becomes Negative When will we ever learn that too much of anything or a lack of it, is always bad for us? If you are not aware, below are 6 signs you should look out for to know if you are letting pride take over: 2 P a g e

You find it difficult to say sorry even when you know you re wrong There are people who don t speak to their parents for years or their siblings.

3 When we know we are wrong but we re too embarrassed to admit that we are. At the back of our minds, we would always know that we were wrong. It won t go away regardless of what kind of excuse or alibi we come up with. 2. You find it difficult to say sorry even when you know you re wrong There are people who don t speak to their parents for years or their siblings. They have been at odds with each other for the longest time because they had a disagreement, and none of them had the humility to take the first move towards reconciliation. 3. You refuse to back off an argument even if you know you ve lost Ever heard of the saying it s better to be happy than to be right? This is one of the best examples of how pride can be blinding. You get into an argument, you lay out all your points, you realize your points are weak and that you lost the argument but you continue to impose what you believe, not because you are right but because you don t want the other person to win. CLASSIC! 4. You always compare According to Dave Ramsey s book, The Total Money Makeover, one of the reasons people get into debt is because of our tendency to compare ourselves to others. If neighbor A buys a new car, we feel obliged to buy one too even if it s not in our plans and even if we don t have the budget. We just feel like we need to buy one of our own so as not to be left behind. Run your own race and stop competing with others. 5. You re afraid to ask questions As a manager, I prefer people who ask a lot of questions if they re not certain about a particular subject than act on their own without resolving their confusion. Pride seems to give us this idea that when we ask questions, we tend to look weak and not knowledgeable enough. You must remember that even if you are the CEO of a company, there are still things that others know better than you and that it s not a sign of ignorance or weakness to ask questions when the situation calls for it. 3 P a g e

6. You re afraid to say I don t know Pride can make us pretend to be someone we are not especially when it comes to admitting our lack of knowledge of a particular subject.

4 6. You re afraid to say I don t know Pride can make us pretend to be someone we are not especially when it comes to admitting our lack of knowledge of a particular subject. As above, you cannot know everything and that there will be subjects that other people will know more of compared to you and this is not bad at all! It doesn t make you less of a person to admit that you don t know something. The Takeaway You can t be happy if you let pride run your life because it will eventually eat at you and drive the people you love away from you. Stop being selfcentered and let other people have their moment from time-to-time and give credit where credit is due. Reading excerpts from Noel Rosos coach and author Thoughtful quotes Pride will always be the longest distance between two people. For pride is spiritual cancer: it eats up the very possibility of love, or contentment, or even common sense. C.S. Lewis Pride must die in you, or nothing of heaven can live in you. Andrew Murray Pride is concerned with who is right. Humility is concerned with what is right. Making mistakes is better than faking perfections. The Bible on Pride Proverbs 11:2 - When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom. 4 P a g e

Romans 12:16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Our Editor, Nancy Chu at nancy-chu@cornerstone-group.

About Cornerstone International Group Cornerstone International Group is a Global Talent Consultancy Group founded in 1989 with some 60 offices worldwide and headquarters in Shanghai, China and

5 Romans 12:16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Our Editor, Nancy Chu at would love to hear from you if you have special thoughts to share. About Cornerstone International Group Cornerstone International Group is a Global Talent Consultancy Group founded in 1989 with some 60 offices worldwide and headquarters in Shanghai, China and Atlanta, USA. Our mission is to accelerate the success of our clients by providing top-quality consulting services in the field of talent recruitment and coaching solutions that are faster, better and at a value that serves our clients locally and globally. We provide a proven approach to Executive Search, Coaching Solutions, Interim Management, Talent Mapping and Board Solutions in China, Asia and across Europe and Americas. Cornerstone is a global member of AESC ( which accepts only the best of the best as members. Cornerstone is ranked by Forbes as one of the Best Management Consulting Firms in Executive Search for 2016 and P a g e

THE CORNERSTONE EAGLE

THE CORNERSTONE EAGLE November 2016 Edition Cornerstone International Group s MISSION is to be the best executive recruiting group worldwide, but our VISION is to be a true mentor and coach, one-on-one,