Overview. 3-Essential keys to Radiant Self-Care with Dr. Bobbi Spur

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1 Overview 3-Essential keys to Radiant Self-Care with Dr. Bobbi Spur These three keys are the heart and soul of my 6-step system to helping you to discover your own unique, divinely intelligent, self-care pathway that will empower you to have a deeper, more consistent connection to the present moment and Divine Love. Everything starts with Presence. And here s the good news, these keys are simple to remember and bring this deep level of self-care into the present moment. The three keys are HERE. LOVE. NOW. Learn them first and then they can be done on the inhale (HERE), hold (expand inside LOVE) and exhale (NOW). 1. H.E.R.E. HEART S EXPERIENCE RESONATES EASE 2. L.O.V.E. - LOVING (LISTENING) OPENS VALUE EVERYWHERE 3. N.O.W. NON-OPPOSITION WINS When you stay connected to Presence, to the source of experience and aliveness, you are connected to LIFE, aliveness, energy and the truth of existence. Coherency with LIFE wins. It wins because it is more efficient and effective because there is no energy drain with resistance to life. Resistance is an impediment to life flow, becomes separation, and takes critical life force energy to maintain. Let s explore H.E.R.E., which is the first KEY. L.O.V.E. HEART S EXPEREINCE RESONATES EASE. This reminds us that when we breathe in to HERE we connect to Presence. Awakening is about connecting to Presence. Aliveness comes from connecting to the Presence of our wholeness, which is what we truly are. This conscious presence is our spiritual essence and it is always there listening to our thoughts. Like the ancient East Indian poet Tagore says, "This is just a remembering." This wise poet reminds us how the remembering comes not by going outside, but by going inside. It is by doing our inner work, by going inside, by remembering Presence. It comes by remembering this Silent Witness that is always with us. This is the awareness within you that was there with you when you were born, always with you when you were a child. Witness with you when you were an 2013 Radiant Self-Care 1

2 adolescent and it is always here right now listen. It is our spiritual essence independent of our experiences, and what Tagore calls, our silent witness inside. In a wonderful poem Tagore says, "I was not aware of the moment when I first crossed the threshold of this life. What was that power that brought me into this world in the middle of the night like a little bud that opens up in the forest at midnight. And yet in the morning when I looked upon the light, I felt that I was no stranger in this world. That the inscrutable without name and form had taken me in its own arms like my mother. Even so, in the moment of death I will step into the same unknown that has been ever known to me." "Because l love this life I know I can never fear death. The child cries out when it's mother takes it from the left breast only to find in the very next moment consolation in the right one. Space, time, matter, energy are similarly engendered by frequencies of self interaction. Curving back within myself, I create again and again. Ultimately I'm not all of this, I'm the field itself." When we tune into Presence we connect directly with aliveness, which is beyond our minds. Aliveness diminishes when we put our attention on what we are Not. Remembering that our energy flows where our attention goes, the more we tune into Presence the greater the sense of aliveness that arises. It is through this awareness of Presence that we put our attention on our deeper self. The involuntary thinking then thins and peace, joy and more energy arise. Now let s explore L.O.V.E., which is the second KEY. L.O.V.E. LOVIING OPENS VALUE EVERYWHERE This brings us to our second key for Radiant Self-Care which is L.O.V.E. Aloha means love and the syllables tell us how. Alo- means to stand in the Presence of, Ha which is Spirit, to stand in the Presence of Breath is to live consciously. Here is an opportunity for each of us to open to new possibilities that through Living in Love, connected through gratitude and Alo-Ha to life. Allow. Allow. Allow. Here. <Inhale>. Love. <Hold>. Now. <Exhale>. This goes on throughout my day. A simple way to stay in my heart and it takes me home if I go too far out. This second key to Self-Care we have named L.O.V.E. The acronym we are using reminds us, Loving Opens Value Everywhere. Love simplifies everything. Love is always the way because its nature is to unite and opens us to even more Love and true divine life guidance. And what every you need if you give it out, it comes back to you 100 fold. Love is the greatest secret I know. And I must say that my dearest Mother modeled it so well throughout my life. And even now since her stroke when her brain is not clear, and the clock appears to be going back wards and confusion 2013 Radiant Self-Care 2

3 arises, she more often than not relaxes and tunes into pure love and a force of grace up wells and brims through her eyes. It does not matter what her mind is doing, it is just the love that is real. And she relaxes as she feels it and all her worries dissolve in its resonance. This second key to Radiant Self-Care is a powerful way we realize that we are the Truth that we seek. And that truth is pure life, the primordial unborn ground of Being. Presence is our lens and Love is the way and the Power. Love is the most powerful motivator of free choice and it transforms everything into connection. It opens the doors where we are draining ourselves through resistance. A pure moment of love can heal something that has caused pain and anguish for generations. The wellspring of true love is what all healing is about. Your body is your own truth meter listen through your heart Love is the life-giving act and when we are troubled to give or receive it, simply feeling gratitude unlocks it. Love is the way and the Truth sets us Free, INQUIRE WITHIN to Truth, engages us to get right with ourselves and with life. No peace or joy is comparable to the standing upon the vantage-ground of truth. The second key to radiant Self-Care is about clearing the dramas and going under them to resonate with what is really True. Use INQUIRY to navigate to your deepest yes. Choose ease and trust not anxiety or fear. Chose truth not drama. When we forgive and forgive we reconnect to the divine flow and the steps that we need appear one at a time. We use openhearted questions through inquiry and receive the flow of body mind responses and navigate through the information to the deepest needs that are arising. Your body is your truth meter. LISTEN through your heart as the central receiver. Connecting to our own unique Wisdom Channel through Spiritual Practice Connecting to our hearts where we move from what is out there to connection with our heart intelligence and a rewiring of our emotions and response about how we have the choice of interpreting it our experiences. I call this connecting to the Wisdom Channel of awareness and the flow of intuition and who we truly are as a divine spacious Being. This is where a Spiritual Practice becomes foundational. How quickly and how often, how deeply do we connect inwardly? Can we develop this inner connection like the muscle of gratitude as a reflex of self-care? With the amazing event density of our lives so dramatically increasing, it is time to uncover this connection that is hard wired as a reflex, it is firmament in the universal intelligence of our species. The more we use it the easier, quicker and deeper we go and the more we contribute it to the universal flow Radiant Self-Care 3

4 A friend of mine told me of some research where they took some people who were in jail. They were reactive and hostile and the scientists wired them up with EEGs and trained them in a program of meditation for their mornings. Well after just 2 months with 15 minutes a day of meditation, it changed how their brains functioned dramatically. Their brains began functioning like the calm Zen monks with the same specific areas of the brain activated as through they had been meditating for years. And their behaviors and emotions changed accordingly. So a morning practice of meditation can help ground these 3 Essential Keys to Self-care remembering to bring the connection in every breath. To sink into the stillness and peace of the hearts spacious wisdom and to realize that it is not out there in time or space that is real. But right here and now in our heart s it is connected. Anchoring it to our tireless companion of the breath, 23,000 times a day we have the opportunity. Practice what arises naturally and be in touch with your needs, keep your connection to aliveness through these simple keys. Now let s explore N.O.W. which is the third KEY. N.O.W., NON-OPOSITION WINS We named our third key N.O.W. According to the Hawaiian Huna wisdom, now is the moment of power. When you stay connected to NOW, to the source of experience and aliveness, you are connected to LIFE, energy and the truth of existence. Coherency with LIFE wins. It wins because it is more efficient and effective because there is no energy drain created through resistance to what is arising as life. Resistance is impedance to life flow and become separation and takes energy to maintain. In the body resistance creates inflammation and it is how all aging occurs. And the moment where the breath is held out between cycles, is the deepening of that surrender. I allow, I allow, I allow Anchoring these three insights is so useful because what do we do most? We breathe. Remember (alo-ha), Rhythm, Consistency and unconditional follow through. Consistency and deepening of our self-care practice is so helped by anchoring these steps to our breath. We breathe about 23,000 times a day. Just imagine if you remember these steps of self-care for 100 of those breaths? What about 1,000? Consistency of intention helps us to really connect and then we are thriving. SHOW UP for yourself chose to be accountable.all you need is 2013 Radiant Self-Care 4

5 Love and forgiveness so that your return if you separate. Our third Key to Radiant Self-Care is important to understand. Non-Opposition Wins. This is the secret to staying connected and aware. When we do not separate into opposition we can follow consciousness and move with life or the Tao. It does not mean we do not uphold a needed perspective or action, but it simply means that the guidance to do, say or speak comes from the guidance of wholeness and not our separated, past-oriented and fortified identity. This means we do not expend the energy to maintain our separated position that is inherently requiring more energy to manifest its opposition to what is. This step let s us stay in the field of awareness where as the poet Rumi says, Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing there is a field. I'll meet you there." H.E.R.E. - HEARTS EXPERIENCE RESONATES EASE <Inhale> L.O.V.E. LOVING OPENS VALUE EVERYWHERE <Hold Breathe> N.O.W. NON-OPPOSITION WINS <Exhale> I believe that Radiant Self-Care is the most important thing we can be doing right now. We must become the change that we seek or we will not create change in this most fertile of times in human history. We need this holistic awakened scientific approach to nourish our vitality and create balance within our selves, our communities and our world. This is a natural step for the maturing of our species and ourselves and through the wisdom of our planetary health systems and the insights of the new physics we will create an inspiring container to shepherd our journey Radiant Self-Care 5